If CEO and president weren't in contact, that company was going to be dissolved anyway. Nor was it wrong at this point to get someone else involved. They did reach out and try to support their friend, but their efforts were taken advantage of, lied about, and shat on. Probably could have been handled better, but that was no friend.

This person didn’t allow the OP any possibility of helping. She effectively tied everyone’s hands and expected miracles. She made OP the villain of the situation.

Sounds like you lost someone who was not your friend at all.

Did not lose a friend because of screenshot, they lost a friend to mental health problems OR there never was actual friend, just someone who took advantage.

I'm sorry, did I just read a story about actual adults in a work place, or some childish drama in middle school? It doesn't sound like any of these people are fit to lead a company and the board made the right decision in dissolving the organization. ESH - op tried to help, but next time I think all of you need to take a few lessons and separate professional relationships from personal relationships.

Just because you may be having a mental health crisis, don’t mean you give your whole company a mental health crisis.

I find it strange that exposure is wrong. She was embarrassed of her behavior and chose to vilify. She exposed in the meeting her health crisis which she used as an excuse. Imagine your kid is in need of the hospital and you go on and on about your health crisis. She used it as an excuse it seems to me. And you thinking you were protecting her is a common mistake. You let it fester. People will lie to kids thinking they are protecting then only for the kid to grow up not trusting you because you lied. I don't lie to my kids.

No! This was not your fault. The only fault you have is not saying something right away and blaming yourself. First of all if I read this correctly and this was run like a real company not like a Fisher Price play company that this is your boss should have taken FMLA leave. If you have a mental breakdown or have kids what the f**k you can't just say I'm not working and expect to get paid. In most places in the world if you don't do your job you don't have a job anymore. You covering for her was your mistake. That's why work and friends don't mix someone will get burned. So your lesson you learned is don't be friends with your boss will bite you in the a*s and cover your own a*s. You should have let the real corporate know what she did right away no it's not telling on your boss she broke rules therefore she has to accountable for her actions. Grow the f up. She is like a 5 year old. Mental health is a real thing but how she handled it she acted like an entitled brat. B please.

The OP didn't screw up at all, if anything that screenshot was proof that they'd been trying to help their BF the entire time and could be used to get the BF the professional help they need. The OP tried to help even to the detriment of their own mental health, that's a real friend. If the BF doesn't understand that someday, the heck with her.

Wow. This poor person taking on all this guilt and responsibility for a s**t show that was going to end this way whether or not that screen shot went out. It sounds like there's nothing they could have done differently that would have changed that outcome, and I'm sorry about their friend's mental health crisis, but that doesn't make it okay to unfairly heap all the blame for what happened on the poster

Nta you did everything you could try to do even more. The company was dissolving because of her actions and decisions, even in a mental health crisis -- you were only offering to take the weight off of her shoulders. At some level, she had already decided that she was giving up, and that the company was going with her

More than anything else, my heart breaks for this person. 😔💔

I have mental health issues, and the doc thinks I maybe on the spectrum. I also work in a pharmaceutical environment. Coming from that background, the CEO could handled that better. The screenshot gave away no personal health info, then it didn't break HIPPA, that would prove your actions not to be the reason for the dissolve. There should have been an acting CEO in her absence, which should have been decided upon before the CEO took that break. The CEO mistreated and took advantage of a friend. Honestly the friend, bf and whomever else personally connected probably shouldn't be working together either, so business/personal lines are not blurred

There's no way this was in the US cause she'd have been fired after like 3 days since we don't take mental health issues seriously... hence why we have mass shootings everyday & 98% of our government should either be in a retirement home or a mental health facility.... yeah she was wrong to send the screenshot... but also... the CEO was being a vile person & sending inappropriate & disrespectful texts. The fact that the CEO literally took down an entire company & a handful of peoples jobs & potentially their homes all because she failed to do her job by assigning someone to take over for her is the worst thing anyone did in this story. Was a selfish a*****e. Imagine expecting an entire company that you're in charge of to just wait for you to get your s**t together when you didn't even do the smallest bit of work you were supposed to by finding a stand in.. then turning into a child when your words were shared w/ everyone else. Maybe don't be a s****y person?

I don't think she knows what mandated reporter means.

I am actually getting sick of people misusing HIPPA. The laws only apply to people who agree to them (a HIPPA agreement contract), and even then it only applies to information you've learned as a result of your job. Like when I worked hospital security. It wouldn't apply to information about your friend that you learned from your friend directly, nor would it apply to sharing how vile your "friend" treated you with their coworkers. Lastly, and not relevant to this, but relevant to the current COVID - HIPPA does *NOT* bar people from asking. I can ask anyone anything, and they can choose to answer or not. But HIPPA doesn't ban anyone from asking about your medical history. It bans medical staff from sharing it.

I'm surprised there was no proceeduralized line of succession. Usually it's the vice president that would step in as temporary CEO, unless the CEO had locked accounts or documents only she could access and she never passed that info on. Still, I think the screenshots from OP are the least of the crimes here. I'm not sure what exactly the CEO had, but the way she scapegoated her supposed friend is pretty unforgivable. Yes the screenshots were wrong, but the fall of the company is on the CEO's shoulders. I hope OP one day realizes all of this isn't her fault.

This person is really bad at letting personal details slip. The CEO begged her not to tell anyone because the OP was a mandated reporter. Mandated reporters only have to report something when it pertains to the abuse of a child.

Whatever your mental health it’s still possible to do limited damage control with a few phone calls. That the CEO couldn’t even be arsed to do this shows how completely unsuitable for the role she was in the first place. You can be ill, you can be sad, but you don’t have to be a asshat.

*Eyeroll* the CEO lady is gaslighting this poor person and dumping all blame on her so she can escape unscathed and start over. I doubt she was having a "severe mental health crisis". It's more likely she was pocketing a salary while faffing off and having fun.

what type of mickey-mouse company is this? CEO and President goes missing ?

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I wish the OP could read this. This is not your fault. You did more then what could be expected as an employee. And you did as much as can be expected of a friend. As someone who is autistic with my own mental health problems, I do understand the need for self care, but what your friend did was not the way to do it. 2 months with no end in sight is too much time to take off, without setting something up for their extended absence. And pushing people away is not the way to help yourself get through a mental health crisis. What your friend did was terrible and nothing that you did, including sharing that screen shot was the wrong thing to do. I would be forever grateful to have a friend like you who cares so deeply.

Unless this was a group of friends running an Etsy store or something like that, I have a hard time believing this story. A CEO would submit a leave of absence to the board members (doesn't have to disclose why) and appoint a temporary stand in. This person would usually have to be voted on. Also, the CFO can apply for grants or appoint a grant writer. This doesn't seem real to me

Follow this chain of feelings down the rabbit hole that 8t is, and you will realize that is a grand chain of nothingness all the way downnnnnn.

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Y'all westerners need to chill with the whole mental crisis thing. If someone is stalking you, that's not mental problem, that's criminal problem, you don't need psychiatrist, you need the dam cops. Also your BFF has been sitting in his/her home for months. What's he/she doing? Eating ice cream everyday? Weeping his/herself to sleep everyday? That doesn't sound like a crisis, that's just avoiding problems. Y'all need to get professional helps. I'm sorry that OP lost everything, but please let this be a lesson for everyone reading this: GET HELP. Trying to suppress everything inside is what causes it in the first place, why do you think you can solve it alone. Talk to someone, if they can help you getting professional help, it's even better.