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40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment Probably the most disgusting would be stuff similar to "i can't wait until you're legal".

attrium , Roberto Nickson Report

Final score:

199points

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Rahul Pawa 7 months ago

🤮

84points

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment I was 8 months pregnant at a Flea Market in Florida. Walked by a dude with my ex and he looked at us and said “Both white, done right” “Keeping the white breed alive”, “beautiful”. My ex immediately said “Oh I’m not the dad, he’s black.” The look on the dudes once confident face….

Tunecanoe3000 Report

Final score:

193points

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robecca leyden 7 months ago

What a disgusting thing to say

144points

So, a Redditor asked ladies of Reddit to share things that were absolutely offensive to them despite the guy genuinely (seemingly) thinking it’s a compliment. Otherwise they wouldn’t have said it, right?

The post reached 7,000 upvotes and generated a conversation of 4,400 comments.

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment Basically everything that's followed by "for a woman".

chips_n_cookies , Patrick Hendry Report

Final score:

186points

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Julia Mckinney 7 months ago

Or "for a girl".

88points

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment I didn't know he was behind me until I heard him next to my ear. "You smell so good I could kidnap you." The tone froze my blood. He was a truck driver and older than dirt. I hope he drove off a cliff into a frozen lake.

ATinyChaosGoblin , Zetong Li Report

Final score:

165points

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Moë 7 months ago

Kick him in the crotch and run

80points

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment When I was 14 I sat at a bus stop, a man sat down next to me and said "you know, I'm 68 now but I'm still into young pretty girls like you".

Made the hair at the back of my neck stand up and I immediately took off. Since then I could never view an old man as just a cute grandpa.

WinterAea , Amel Majanovic Report

Final score:

156points

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me myself and i READ BIO AGAIN 7 months ago

pedophile 🚩

132points

Pamela Blue 7 months ago

Nope - just a pervert. Pedophiles go for pre-pubescent children.

5points

Panda Kicki 7 months ago

So many of us share the same experience. They somehow acr like their old age gives them the right to say icky things to young girls.

23points

Glen Ellyn Premium 7 months ago

And they seem to think it's some kind of compliment. 🙄 🤮

6points

LaTasha Strahan 7 months ago

There's no pig like an old pig.

12points

Insomniac 7 months ago

He should be on a registry.

11points

Moë 7 months ago

🤢🤢🤮🤮

9points

ZuriLovesYou 7 months ago

Hello, police?

8points

nobody lol 7 months ago

ohhhhh noooo

8points

Savage Susan 7 months ago

When I was 19 I went for a job interview as a junior secretary (1973). At the end of the interview I thanked the man for his time and said something like how much I would enjoy working there. He replied "with those legs you don’t have anything to worry about. I just know we’ll be very good friends." When he called to offer me the job, I told him I had accepted a job elsewhere. I lied.

4points

Spooky Demon Bat (she/they) 7 months ago

Ugh. I've always been distrustful of old men, no matter how nice they could be. I've had similar experiences, and it just totally changes how you see a certain type of person.

3points

Marie Bozarth 7 months ago

In all fairness, I have heard some old ladies/women saying some really inappropriate things to boys/young men. I don't think they get a pass either.

3points

C.O. Shea 7 months ago

I'm very glad you honored your instincts and ran! I can't reinforce it enough... trust your gut!

3points

Rosie 7 months ago

We freeze when something like that happens. I wish we would just punch or kick.

2points

justanotherweirdo 7 months ago

Pervert!

1point

L. Murphy 7 months ago

Men are just the worst. Especially old ones.

1point

Sande Knight 5 months ago

Sad, isn't it? We all seem to have similar stories. You've been christened!

0points

LovePsychos 7 months ago

I hate the stupid confidence old people have, believing that they ca attract young women.

0points

Al Rino 7 months ago

Bear spray.

0points

kath morgan 7 months ago

It’s mostly a power thing; it makes them feel big to feel able to say whatever they like to a person who is vulnerable and won’t fight them on it.

0points

yuri Snyder 7 months ago

Pedofile

0points

Dread Pirate Roberts 7 months ago

🤢

0points

Becky Samuel 7 months ago

It's important to realise that older people don't magically stop being sexual beings. Elder homes are full of STIs. That's no excuse for being a creep, but assuming that an older person is just a "cute grandpa" or a "cute grandma" is to erase the sexuality of a huge number of people. Sexually active seniors vastly outnumber sexually active LGBTQ people.

0points

Tamra 7 months ago

Everything you said is true, however, in this specific case, I see no reason why a 14 year old would need to worry about "erasing the sexuality of an elder".

3points

If we were to consider this from a psychological perspective, there are three kinds of people: those who think before they speak, those who speak before they think, and those who can do both at an equal speed.

The rarest breed of folks is definitely that last one, and you might not have met any such individual, but they exist, rest assured.

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment I will literally never forget it:

"You're not conventionally like, a hot girl. But you're still like, pretty. Which is so much better."

The sprint I spranted.

NotGreatBob Report

Final score:

134points

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me myself and i READ BIO AGAIN 7 months ago

The sprint I spranted lmaooo

156points

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment “You look less fat today”.

WisdomWangle , RF._.studio Report

Final score:

123points

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Mad Dragon 7 months ago

WTF???

78points

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment Not me but I heard a colleague say "I bet you were a stunner when you were younger" to our COO at a staff party.
I knew he meant it as a compliment but ouch.....

Gr1ml0ck1981 , Lee Myungseong Report

Final score:

122points

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Vishy 7 months ago

My boss is a woman and I would never say such things to her. I do appreciate her sense of style but I express it in a appropriate manner

26points

It all boils down to how one’s brain and tongue are wired. Human nature expert Andrea Kihlstedt exemplified this with her husband. He’s a thinker before a talker—so much so, in fact, that sometimes whenever Andrea engages him in a conversation and asks him a question, he takes so much time to come back with an answer that she thinks he might not have heard her.

#10

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment That he wishes he could fuse my head on my best friend's body. I'm more conventionally attractive, but she's petite and I'm sturdier, like my strong fisherman ancestors lol. Dude genuinely thought he was complimenting us both. 🤣.

Softbombsalad , kevin laminto Report

Final score:

116points

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Cooking Panda 7 months ago

Dude thought he's frankenstein

84points

#11

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment A bloke came up to my wife and said” you’re too pretty to be in a wheelchair”.

fatheadsflathead Report

Final score:

115points

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Chickens are fluffy 7 months ago

"you're too handsome to be as stupid as a nail"

123points

TheSpasticSarcastic , Lexi Anderson Report

#12

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment One time a cab driver told me I looked “kidnapable”.

Final score:

112points

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Moosy Girl 7 months ago

Perfect, cuz you look “arrestable”!

190points

petta_reddast , Nastuh Abootalebi Report

Well, he did—he was just considering his words before answering carefully. Thoroughly.

Conversely, Andrea also has a friend who speaks before she thinks. Sometimes her speech gets so fast that she begins answering a question that her brain registered halfway through the conversation, but that wasn’t the actual one.

#13

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment «How do you not have a boyfriend? You’re so pretty!» Five min later: «You’re very pretty.» Said to me when I was 21, by my 50m psychologist.

Final score:

105points

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Bonesko 7 months ago

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56points

OhTheHueManatee , Diana Măceşanu Report

#14

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment Not a woman but recently heard a guy (customer) say to a woman (clerk) "You're so pretty if knew where you lived I'd totally watch you with my drone".

Final score:

103points

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me myself and i READ BIO AGAIN 7 months ago

stalker 🚨

71points

#15

A customer saw me sweeping the floor. Looked at me with hungry wolf eyes, nearly salivating, and said “You’re sure gonna make a great wife one day”.

P R I C K.

snailslit Report

Final score:

100points

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similarly 7 months ago

Lmao. My Grandma said that to me when I was about 10 or 12. I was cleaning house, and she said "You're going to make someone a good wife one day." I'm a guy.

105points

Those sound like two extremes, but they signify one’s thinking patterns and the way their brain processes information. The easier approach to this is to adapt to it. By that, she means that you can train yourself not to jump in immediately with your response to a response. Which, when you think about it, is a good thing—patience, and not cutting off someone mid-way.

#16

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment 'You're pretty! For an Indian' 💀.

Cuddle_Cloud , Belle Maluf Report

Final score:

86points

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nobody lol 7 months ago

raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaacism

75points

#17

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment "You have a face that would do well in trafficking."...by this random guy walking past my car while I was sitting in a parking lot, waiting for my daughter.. I rolled up my window.

Laursb0rn Report

Final score:

85points

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Bonesko 7 months ago

How come no one tells me they want to kidnap me and sell me into slavery as a prostitute 🙄

57points

Katebeagle , https://unsplash.com/photos/person-locking-gym-plates-on-barbell-KIzBvHNe7hY Report

#18

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment “I feel like we are already in a relationship but if you promise to lose weight we can make it official”.

Final score:

84points

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Rahul Pawa 7 months ago

What part of this is supposed to be a compliment?

90points

Morbid_Explorerrrr , Helena Lopes Report

Some people process their thoughts as they speak while others need to think what to say before they say it. And understanding that in yourself will help you identify the same thing in others.

Ask yourself, do you respond quickly while your mind is still thinking about it? Or do you wait to muster a thought and then execute it with your noise-hole?

#19

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment “You have horse legs”

(Guy intended to compliment my leg musculature but instead left me envisioning myself as a literal centaur).

Final score:

82points

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me myself and i READ BIO AGAIN 7 months ago

I mean… this one is quite nice, a little bit confused, but not too bad compared to the other ones on this list

99points

#20

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment "I've always wanted to have sex with a black woman".

BergenHoney , Clem Onojeghuo Report

Final score:

82points

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Alexia 7 months ago

"But I've never wanted to have sex with a moron"

117points

#21

"Bill Clinton would have loved for you to be his intern" - said to me back in the late 90s and still disgusted by this comment to this day.

natasha_c Report

Final score:

80points

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Dread Pirate Roberts 7 months ago

🤢🤮

38points

The rule of thumb, however, is to always try to think before you speak. While the other approach is definitely an option—you need to hear yourself think and whatnot—but not everyone is ready to hear your wild thoughts. The world is ripe with people looking to misinterpret and misunderstand things. So, train yourself to think first, and speak later. We’ll wait.

#22

"just so you know I really like brown women, I can handle the heat" - some random dude

Like what are you even talking about ☠️ go home ☠️.

shining-lotus Report

Final score:

79points

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Violet1854 7 months ago

“I can handle the heat” Bet you can handle a broken nose as well. Your face is the exact thing I have been training to punch all these years

45points

RachelTheKitten , National Cancer Institute Report

#23

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment For a girl, you really seem to understand Science.

Final score:

78points

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HI, I'M A SHOUTY MAN 7 months ago (edited)

My (majority female) chemistry class, (female) science teachers and all of the literal (all female) scientists I work with would have something to say to this bloke. I just want to speak to him. (like mate in high school I was in an advanced biomedicine workshop at the hospital labs for high school students, like the best of the best... out of 30 odd students, two boys. And all of the other extracurricular science things I did in high school, once you got to the really advanced things, it was mainly girls.)

58points

aphilosopherofsex , Ruthson Zimmerman Report

#24

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment “It’s pretty impressive how hard you’re working to become a philosopher when youre pretty enough to just go find some rich guy and live off him for the rest of your life.”.

Final score:

78points

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Moosy Girl 7 months ago

“Ya I know, this is just my side hustle” :p

60points

Justworkinglife , Daniella Garcia Report

It helps to evaluate your answer in terms of whether what you’re about to say is true, helpful, important, necessary and kind. Incidentally, that spells think. You’re welcome.

But it is true—telling someone lies might hurt them, let alone ruin your reputation. Telling someone something helpful will actually bring good to them.

#25

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment "You're too pretty to be in pain" ... Thanks pal I'll put in a complaint for incorrect punishment.

Final score:

71points

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Bonesko 7 months ago

"But you ugly folk..." 🙄What sort of response are they expecting from this!!?

40points

imyourdiamondqueen , Helena Lopes Report

#26

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment I think the worst thing was a question: '*How much are you*?' This was quickly followed by a sneering laugh, his mates joining in.

Final score:

70points

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Courtney Christelle 7 months ago

That’s when you act confused and make him explain that he wants to purchase another human being. If he has any shame AT ALL he’ll hear himself and be embarrassed.

60points

Zucchinisoups , Farhad Ibrahimzade Report

#27

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment I was talking about dieting with a coworker and he said “don’t lose any weight, girls your size are the most fun to eat out” 🤢.

Final score:

66points

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Bonesko 7 months ago

Cool? Thanks? 🤨

27points

Same goes for whether it’s important and necessary—especially in this day and age where we filter out the information based on how important and necessary it is to us.

If a person speaks the opposite, however, that will immediately put you on that Reddit list as someone who is hateful, hurtful or plain old dumb.

#28

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment "Your eyes are pretty and big for an Asian".

Moon_Jewel90 , Lau keith Report

Final score:

65points

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CP 7 months ago

NGL I am so confused about where the racist slant eye c**p came from. They are no different from any other ethnic group in my experience.

21points

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#39

That 90 percent of men “would” sleep with me.

Pentaxian_Sorciere Report

Final score:

37points

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CrunChewy McSandybutt 7 months ago

90 percent of men would f*ck a tree if you lubricated it enough.

131points

vicemagnet , LinkedIn Sales Solutions Report

#40

40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment I see you drinking 1%. Is that cause you think you're fat? Because you're not. You could be drinking whole if you wanted to.

Final score:

4points

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Rahul Pawa 7 months ago

This is from a movie. Had to Google it to make sure I was right. It's from Napoleon Dynamite.

83points

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Moose0690 7 months ago

An ex informed me that he had cheated on me and had gotten the other girl pregnant. A few months later he called and if I wanted to get back together because she had lost the baby. He was shocked when I declined. I guess I was supposed to feel blessed that he had come back to me. So so sick...

22points

Bored Retsuko 7 months ago

WTF, that's vile:-(

8points

tresgatos72 7 months ago

When I was in college, one drunk guy at a party told me that I looked like "an ugly version of Sheryl Crow". Another time a drunk lesbian told me that I "looked like Alanis Morissette, but not as pretty." I took the Sheryl Crow comment as a compliment, but laughed at both of them. 😆

14points

Sweet Fanny Adams 7 months ago

I hope you said, "Isn't it ironic, don't you think?" and "All I wanna' do is have some fun!" 😄

21points

Ms Magoo 7 months ago

Worked at a mfg plant 10 years out of high school. QA. 5 years in, sitting in my office checking parts. Janitor stands in doorway (had worked with him 5 years at this point) said "I could come in and rape you right now". Early 1980s. Reported him to plant manager. Talked to, advised to stay away from me, but kept his job. 😵 😲

12points

Bored Retsuko 7 months ago

Awful. :-(

6points

A. HAM 7 months ago

I was fresh out of high school when my boss, a man in his 50’s, said to me, “What’s the name of the perfume you’re wearing? I want my wife to smell like you.”

12points

Ken Beattie 7 months ago

Hmm, that one doesn't sound as bad. Or rather, it sounds bad, but maybe wasn't intended to be. That just sounds like he was hamfisted when it came to asking the question.

-1point

Fembot 7 months ago (edited)

Another glimpse into the horrible side of mankind here on BP. Usually I can confidently say: “thank god this doesn’t happen (as much) where I live”, but tbh, this does. I’ve heard more than a few of them myself. At any age

11points

Rai 7 months ago

Standing at a bus stop with no shelter, in the rain, a gentleman in his 50s-ish came up to me GENUINELY trying to by nice/compliment me: Here, share my umbrella.... SH*T! Unless you're working (pr*stituting)... You're pretty enough, you could be working. I don't assume." First of all, ya kinda just assumed. Second of all, AYFKM?!

11points

Bec 7 months ago

When my sister lived in a big city, she was waiting for a bus and had come from the gym (probably in tights and a big T-shirt or sweatshirt) and a guy ask her if she was working, she was just very confused for a second before realizing what he meant 🤢

5points

Queeqec 7 months ago

Every compliment refering to looks. I am a pretty smart, but not very pretty woman and I am perfectly aware of that and fine with it. Just stop thinking lying in my face with a fake compliment would make me feel better. Beauty is not what's making my personality, all of the rest is.

9points

Gourdeous 7 months ago

I am a youngish woman, started as senior at new job. My junior, older man, was showing me round. One of the nurses said 'oh, is this your new little helper?'. No. I'm not.

9points

K_Tx 7 months ago

These are all horrible. First time in a long time that I couldn't "like" even one post. I don't know whether to like the list or not. 🤢🤮

9points

JoNo 7 months ago

A few of us were chatting after a meal. I was complaining about the severity of my period pain. A male said "Well, having a baby could help". Great advice, from a doctor, except I was 15 and he was my brother-in-law. Years later I wanted to say to him "I've had the baby and my periods are still bad".

7points

Guess Undheit 7 months ago

Most "doctors" are quacks and mengeles. Don't take no for an answer if you still have pain and haven't been diagnosed. Constant pain is not "normal".

0points

Flora Porter 7 months ago

'You should smile more', especially from the (male) global head of HR, though heard plenty of variations on it over the years. Not that long ago; this century, anyway.

6points

Mari 7 months ago

Why aren't you a porn star? You will make big money. Men think it is a compliment. One thought it was a compliment to invite me for a threesome with his wife. I was so scared.

3points

Wendy Me 7 months ago

Again! Captions are cut off so there's no explanation for the picture!

2points

Little king trash mouth 7 months ago

Same. It's so annoying. I could go to the website but the point of the app is supposed to be an easier experience. It never is with this awfully run app.

1point

Jess Allen 7 months ago

I was in the ER with my mom who was having having heart issues. The doctor looked over her file and noticed she had bariatric surgery. He turned to me and said, "You'd be gorgeous if you had baratric surgery."

2points

Marnie 7 months ago (edited)

Two things by two different guys and about 10 years apart: 1) "You used to be so beautiful! What happened?" He was looking at my college graduation picture from three years earlier when I was 15 pounds lighter. 2) "I can really tell that you used to be in good shape!"

2points

athornedrose 7 months ago

10 year old me on vacation with my extended family at a pool. college guy keeps trying to get me to leave the pool and go to his room. kept it up until my big cousin walked over shouting "WHAT DO YOU WANT WITH A LITTLE GIRL?!" drawing all the adults attention. he then said i was speaking so intelligently and with a rack like mine, he figured i had to be at least 16. that's still underage ya 22yo creep. gross

1point

Guess Undheit 7 months ago

head-bang-...d8e752.gif

1point

TruthoftheHeart 7 months ago

I had a guy compliment me on the whites of my eyes and how bright they were..

1point

KillerKiwi 7 months ago

i am afraid

1point

marius mako 7 months ago

Does someone told you that most of this article doesn't show properly?

0points

Steve Hall 7 months ago

OK guys, no more complements!

-2points

A girl 7 months ago

I and three of my coworkers (all 5'11" or taller women) were standing outside our work lunch area discussing a client issue. The CEO walks by and asked if we were forming a woman's basketball team. Our eye rolls were incredibly painful. I guess I can see the humor but, dude, you're literally the boss. Apparently class has nothing to do with privilege.

-3points

Comfortably Numb 7 months ago

That's nothing like the story. That's a normal sense of humor, don try to be offended. Eye roll...

2points

Sweet Fanny Adams 7 months ago

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Scrappychick 7 months ago

Women aren't great fans of being seen as objects, especially sex objects and by strangers

9points

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Moose0690 7 months ago

22points

Bored Retsuko 7 months ago

WTF, that's vile:-(

8points

tresgatos72 7 months ago

14points

Sweet Fanny Adams 7 months ago

I hope you said, "Isn't it ironic, don't you think?" and "All I wanna' do is have some fun!" 😄

21points

Ms Magoo 7 months ago

12points

Bored Retsuko 7 months ago

Awful. :-(

6points

A. HAM 7 months ago

I was fresh out of high school when my boss, a man in his 50’s, said to me, “What’s the name of the perfume you’re wearing? I want my wife to smell like you.”

12points

Ken Beattie 7 months ago

Hmm, that one doesn't sound as bad. Or rather, it sounds bad, but maybe wasn't intended to be. That just sounds like he was hamfisted when it came to asking the question.

-1point

Fembot 7 months ago (edited)

11points

Rai 7 months ago

11points

Bec 7 months ago

5points

Queeqec 7 months ago

9points

Gourdeous 7 months ago

I am a youngish woman, started as senior at new job. My junior, older man, was showing me round. One of the nurses said 'oh, is this your new little helper?'. No. I'm not.

9points

K_Tx 7 months ago

These are all horrible. First time in a long time that I couldn't "like" even one post. I don't know whether to like the list or not. 🤢🤮

9points

JoNo 7 months ago

7points

Guess Undheit 7 months ago

Most "doctors" are quacks and mengeles. Don't take no for an answer if you still have pain and haven't been diagnosed. Constant pain is not "normal".

0points

Flora Porter 7 months ago

'You should smile more', especially from the (male) global head of HR, though heard plenty of variations on it over the years. Not that long ago; this century, anyway.

6points

Mari 7 months ago

Why aren't you a porn star? You will make big money. Men think it is a compliment. One thought it was a compliment to invite me for a threesome with his wife. I was so scared.

3points

Wendy Me 7 months ago

Again! Captions are cut off so there's no explanation for the picture!

2points

Little king trash mouth 7 months ago

Same. It's so annoying. I could go to the website but the point of the app is supposed to be an easier experience. It never is with this awfully run app.

1point