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30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame "Hey, there's room in my tent if you want to join me"
"Thanks, but I brought my own tent!"
And that's the story of why my friends think I'm socially retarded

Jetstream-Sam , Hari Nandakumar Report

Final score:

235points

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Tassenküchlein168 3 years ago (edited)

"And this, kids, is how I didn’t meet your mother."

141points

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame A girl once burned me a mix CD of almost nothing but love songs. My guy friends and I held a small conference where we listened to the CD in full and tried to see if there was some hidden message there. We came up with a solid maybe. There were 6 of us debating this.

justaspacecowboy , Chris Yates Report

Final score:

233points

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Adam C 3 years ago

I do want to see the whole debate on youtube.

127points

Love is a tricky game. No wonder there are volumes upon volumes of books, TV shows, podcasts, and even courses created to help us navigate its rocky terrain. Sometimes it pays off, but often our romantic hopes get shattered and time is the only power that’s able to heal that wound.

So in order to find out how to really determine whether your romantic interest is into you, we spoke with James Preece, a leading Dating Expert in the UK who has helped 1000s of single people. No wonder people often describe him as the UK’s version of Hitch.

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame Me posting on Facebook: “anyone wanna go hiking this weekend?”

Cute girl: “I’ll go.”

After a long hike and dinner, I still didn’t know I was on a date until I was dropping her off. Seriously thought we were just hiking. We’re married now.

72scott72 , Christopher Burns Report

Final score:

232points

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Andy Acceber 3 years ago

It's okay. My second date with my wife was a booty call. At least, I thought she booty called me. She hadn't. She had given up on us. I had misunderstood. Well, all's well that ends well.

56points

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame A girl literally confessed her feelings directly to me and I didn't hear it cause I zoned out looking at a squirrel

burningfreedom4 , Julian Report

Final score:

227points

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Auntriarch 3 years ago

You mean she wasn't looking at the squirrel? No loss

95points

Picture this: teenage me in bed with my girlfriend, sans clothes and doing some heavy petting. I had a condom in my wallet, like a sauve motherf*cker. She asked to see it. I told her “I only want to take it out of the package if I’m going to use it.” She replied “Okay, take it out.” Me: “Nah, I only want to take it out if I’m going to use it.” Her: “Let’s take it out.” Me: “No, don’t want to waste it.” Her: “...”

Fast forward 15 years to me sitting thinking while in the dentists chair and being like “Holy f*ck, I’m a moron...”

Throwaway7219017 Report

Final score:

217points

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Andy Acceber 3 years ago

Ouch, and all this poor girl heard was that you'd consider sex with her a waste. Absolute communication failure. Lol. Live and learn.

99points

So first off, we wanted to figure out what you should do if your romantic interest is not getting your subtle hints, no matter what you do. “If you've tried being subtle and it didn't get noticed, then it's time to change tact,” the dating expert said. “It's worth noting that they might already be aware of your interest, but they aren't sure how to react. If they aren't keen, then they will pretend they've not noticed to avoid embarrassment.”

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame Her: Do you have a girlfriend?

Me: No...no one would date me anyway.

Her: I’d date you.

Me: Thanks, but you don’t need to pity me.

Her: I would date you

Me: Thanks but...

Her: Are you free on Saturday?

Me: Surprised Pikachu face

And we’re going on two years in October

FlaxinWaxin , Mark Decile Report

Final score:

195points

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Andy Acceber 3 years ago

I admire her persistence in this conversation.

133points

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame Early interaction with my boyfriend-
Me: "That suit looks great on you. It would look better on the floor."
Him: "That would wrinkle the suit."

Truffleshuffled , Ben Rosett Report

Final score:

185points

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~hUmMuS vIbEs~ 3 years ago

The floor would totally rock a suit!

60points

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame Watching TV in my living room at roughly 2am, in the dark
Her: applying strawberry lip gloss.
Me: why are you putting on lip gloss?
Her: strawberry lip gloss tastes so nice.
Me: haha youre weird
Her: want to taste?
Me: nah I already know what it tastes like
Commence several years of late night self loathing and regret

LordCande , Youssef Labib Report

Final score:

172points

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Grumble O'Pug 3 years ago

Silver platter refused

52points

Eternally_Curious , The Creative Exchange Report

Having said that, James explained that “if they like you then they need it spelled out clearly just in case they've got it wrong.” What he suggests is “rather than an over-the-top romantic gesture, just ask them if they'd like to go out on a date one evening.” James assured us that it doesn't need to be more complicated than that and they might be curious about just one meeting.

#10

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame I was living with my then-boyfriend a few years ago. Feeling a little flirtatious, I suggested we could take a shower together, you know, to save water, wink wink.
His response? "Why? We don't pay for water."
Shut. Down.

Final score:

171points

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James016 3 years ago (edited)

Hints don't work on us men.

75points

#11

In high school, a girl invited me to her house after school, and brought me up to her room. Once we were there, she excused herself to go change in the bathroom. She was in there about 10 minutes.

Then her mom came home and immediately started yelling at her for having a boy over, and I had to leave. She (the daughter) walked me outside and said, "I'm not sure why you didn't try anything when I was naked in the bathroom..."

So she thought that was a huge hint.

Meanwhile, I'm thinking, "She seemed 100% into me and it seemed like we were about to hook up, but why the [hell] would I barge into the bathroom to watch her change? Maybe that's what she wanted, but with someone else, I could have ended up labeled as a sexual predator."

There was another time that I was alone at a beach at night with a girl in my class, and she suggested that we go skinny dipping. When we were both naked and dripping wet, I tried to make a move, and she shut me down immediately saying that she didn't mean to send me signals.

Anyway, my advice for people is not to take/give hints. Be mature and talk about it.

Lovebot_AI Report

Final score:

167points

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Nugua Nugua 3 years ago (edited)

The first one is just really strange. This has nothing to do with women or men, it's just a really bad “hint“.

108points

#12

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame Girl kisses me in the dark in her bedroom at her birthday party. "You should leave before we do something stupid," she whispers. I nod and leave.

reddit , Jonathan Borba Report

Final score:

162points

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Andy Acceber 3 years ago

Don't worry. That was sweet. You proved you understand consent and hopefully she learned about your need for clearer communication. Lol.

217points

However, at some point, it may become evident that unfortunately, your interest is not romantically interested in you. James said that if you've tried a few different techniques, then it's probably a good idea to accept it's not going to work. “This can often be because you've already established a friendship or working relationship. Once you get categorized then it's very difficult to get them to change that.”

#13

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame Can I say one I was oblivious to?
I was out of town, chatting to a girl at a bar. We figured out I was 13 inches taller than her. She said, "That's funny, I'm going on a date with a guy who is 13 inches taller than me tomorrow. And I'll probably f*ck him after."
My response? "Well, that's a weird coincidence!"
I didn't figure it out until I was on a plane home.

[deleted] , Alex Voulgaris Report

Final score:

156points

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Grumble O'Pug 3 years ago

Trying to find the parachute to get back to the one sure thing

47points

#14

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame She learned to say I love you in my parents native language. And I still missed the hint.

littlebubulle , Patrik Velich Report

Final score:

143points

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~hUmMuS vIbEs~ 3 years ago

That's actually really thoughtful.

88points

#15

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame I was living overseas in a place where it was difficult to find CDs (this was pre-streaming). A girl I knew had started chatted to me on Facebook. I thought nothing much of it, figured she was out of my league, it was nice to chat. But, you know, I chatted to lots of people.

A few weeks into this chatting, I get a package in the mail. In it is Radiohead's "In Rainbows", with a note that says, "Hope you enjoy. My favorite track is 8. x"

I message her, I say thanks and that I really dug track 5.

"What about track 8?"

"Oh, yeah, it's okay."

"I really think you should listen to track 8 again."

Track 8 was "House of Cards", which opens: "I don't want to be your friend / I just want to be your lover / No matter how it ends / No matter how it starts"

Still kicking myself.

freddieface , Bru-nO Report

Final score:

133points

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SentimentAndBadJokes 3 years ago

Ngl, if a dude sent me this, I'd probably miss it too

46points

Moreover, “if they are constantly talking about the dates they are going on or asking your opinion on partners then that's a clear sign you aren't their target,” the dating expert said and added that in this case, it’s best to “just carry on enjoying their company the way it is and look to date other people instead.”

#16

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame When I was drunkenly flirting with a girl (I never flirt and I'm horrible with girls in general so didn't think I was getting anywhere) and asked her where the bathroom was. She said 'I'll show you' then came in with me and asked what I wanted to do.

Awfully confused I says 'well I want to have a piss, you'll have to leave'.

She said 'oh' and left

Took me about 6 months before I figured that one out

[deleted] , Markel Hall Report

Final score:

128points

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anarkzie 3 years ago

She was probably drunk also but that was not a good move on her part either, unless you said it in a way that gave the impression that you did not really need the bathroom then trying to do stuff with someone that really needs to either pee or crap is doomed to fail.

44points

#17

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame Via text
Girl: Are you going to that party?
Me: Yeah for a little bit. Probably gonna be boring.
Girl: Yeah...was thinking of just staying in.
Me: Probably a good plan.
Girl: So yeah...I'll just be here tonight. Roommates are gone.
Me: Sounds nice; my roommates never leave.
Girl: Ok. So. I'll be here all alone in my apartment. If the party sucks.
Me: Very good.

duh_metrius , Clique Images Report

Final score:

120points

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Hotdogking 3 years ago

“Very good”, I’m DYING 🤣

112points

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#18

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame A girl literally asked me to help her change. We were alone in her house. I respectfully declined for her privacy.

LordPassionFruit , Sofy Marquez Report

Final score:

115points

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Brendan 3 years ago

Good for you, man. You may have missed an opportunity, but there's nothing wrong with being respectful.

14points

When it comes to dating in general, James confirmed that the pandemic has really changed the way people are dating. “They've been forced to slow things down, which is actually a great thing. They've had a great chance to reflect on what they do and don't want.”

The dating coach also said that he firmly believes that people are now much more serious about finding a long-term partner and they aren't willing to settle anymore. “So they are less likely to be messing around on dating apps and more likely to look to meet people in the real world,” James concluded.

#19

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame She invited me to go swimming with her in college, but before we went to the pool, we'd need to stop at her room so I could tell her which bikini looked the best on her. My stupid ass said, "I'm sure they all look great, just pick one and meet me at the pool."

downsouthcountry , Haley Phelps Report

Final score:

111points

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Andy Acceber 3 years ago

Yeah, you definitely missed that one, bud.

56points

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#20

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame She asked if I was interested in dating. Thought she meant in general and said no because I didn't really have an interest in dating anyone but her.

She got pretty distant after that. Didn't realize she was talking about the two of us dating until later.

broganisms , Andriyko Podilnyk Report

Final score:

104points

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Grumble O'Pug 3 years ago (edited)

Yeah, the “thick as a plank, disembark to your left” sign went on in her head

46points

#21

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame A few years ago I was working at my elementary school's annual spring fling. That day I volunteered to be the school mascot(a big-ass bear costume) for the morning shift. It was a boring job of feeling like a pedophile the whole time because little kids would hug you constantly and be all over you. They were at just the perfect height for every kid's face to be just in your crotch. It was nearing noon and my shift was soon to be over when a girl my age, 17, stole the bear head right from my own head and ran away with it. I wasn't gonna pay for a damn bear head if she didn't return it, so I ran after her and followed her into an empty classroom with the lights off and the shudders shut tightly. She said something like "oh looky here, mr papa bear, I'm holding your head, I'm a bad girl" I was pissed she took it and wasn't thinking so I, being oblivious to her remark, took the head yelled "THE CHILDREN NEED ME" and stormed out.

P4TTYCAKES , Josh Grenier Report

Final score:

101points

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Otter 3 years ago

She was a jerk and underage in some areas, so well done!

65points

Frisinator 3 years ago

They were both 17.

19points

BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 3 years ago

"THE CHILDREN NEED ME" XXXD

34points

Shayda 3 years ago

I knooooowww!! That needs to be in a movie somewhere lol XD

4points

Chloe *Leah* Pheonix 3 years ago

Well that was a good one to miss

12points

Nashira 3 years ago

The children need me!!.....boyy, i'm dying 😂😂😂😂😂😂

6points

Mark Kelly 3 years ago

So she was going to do sexual acts in a classroom where kids could walk in?

3points

anarkzie 3 years ago

"THE CHILDREN NEED ME", I'm reading this in an old time theatre voice and lolling.

3points

Sans 3 years ago

this was not a hint,it was a stupid female dog being annoying

2points

Mark Kelly 3 years ago

Looks like you needed some head

2points

Mark Kelly 2 years ago

Okay so she was going to make you miss work and whisk getting fired to do her what the hell?

1point

Janet Graham 2 years ago

Good Job! No regrets on that one, she's an Amber Heard

1point

Luka Verheijen 3 years ago

The morale: creepy girls do exist

1point

Joe Palffy 3 years ago

pissing a guy off that has been sweating his ass of in a suit all day is not a good hint, also did you even know her? how did she know who was in the suit ? would she have done that with any guy ? very weird.

1point

Kantami Blossom 3 years ago

"The Children Need Me" He must have looked like the dumbest superhero ever😂

1point

Little Phoenix 3 years ago

Should have told her to give you head

1point

El muerto 3 years ago

or, it could be just be called creepy

1point

Orion C. 3 years ago

"Well, we tried"

1point

Maria Schneider 3 years ago

Headlessly acting

1point

Anonymous 3 years ago

lol

1point

Swastik Kanwar 3 years ago

At what point is it not getting hints and just plain stupid

-1point

Ryan Deschanel 3 years ago

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A B C 3 years ago

WTF? It's a sad world if this prank is considered theft. Also, I have no idea where you find a pervert in this story. I think you might want to look up the meaning of that word.

2points

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#22

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame She invited me in "for coffee" after a date. I don't drink coffee, and it was 11pm. I politely declined and went home. Had no clue coffee meant sex.

Washjockey , Averyanovphoto Report

Final score:

73points

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Daria Z 3 years ago

it was the opposite for me once. I was 100% sure it was an invitation for sex but when I came he had cake and tea ready on the table, and his parents were at home lol

99points

wheat-empress , Mathilde Langevin Report

#23

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame One time I was texting my bf and told him that I bought a vibrator for the nights he was away at work or something rather. his exact response was, "oh cool, what colour?" I sent him a pic of it and he replied with "can you put it up your butt too?". I sent him a text replying, "come over and find out" and he replied two minutes later, "nevermind, I just Googled it"

Final score:

71points

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Andy Acceber 3 years ago

Um, darling, I'm afraid that's a "he's just not that into you" moment. (At least at that exact moment.) There's no chance he didn't understand that.

52points

#24

Girl smiled at me while I was at work at my store, I smiled back. Considered asking her out cause she was really f*ckin pretty.

On break, I bought some pizza rolls and hoped she would be in my line. Low and behold, she is in the 14 or less line. We exchange some more smiles, and my heart was goin nuts cause I was gonna actually ask, but the back of my head kept thinking "she's too good, she's just smiling out of respect". So I didn't. She gets to the register and asks to use her rewards account. The cashier asks her name and she gives it. Nothing comes up, so he asks her for her number. She gives it very slowly and on the last four digits, turns around and looks me dead in the eyes. The guy says there's no account and she doesn't even acknowledge it, just pays and leaves. I get into the break room, and it hits me that she may have been trying to hint something.

[Screw] me.

[deleted] Report

Final score:

66points

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Vicky Z 3 years ago

Maybe maybe not really sure😅😅😅

24points

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#25

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame In 8th grade there was this blonde girl about as tall as I was. Everyday she asked for a hug from Me and I thought it was like how girls hug eachother in a friend way and that she didnt exactly see me as masculine. Her friend told me on the last day that the girl really liked me the whole time and I just let out a loud "Ohhhhhhhhhhh" in the quiet classroom. I feel a little dumb now but now their conversation in the background made way more sense

Planktillimdank , Niki Sanders Report

Final score:

63points

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Devil's Advocate 3 years ago

But if you assumed she liked you when she was just being friendly, you'd have been a creep. Guys need clear signals, especially nowadays!

49points

#26

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame Her: " do you have a girlfriend" me: "no" (just typing this hurts me she was super cute) her: "lol really that's so suprising, I don't have a boyfriend" me: "lol"

MyHeadHurtsRn , Jonas Leupe Report

Final score:

58points

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~hUmMuS vIbEs~ 3 years ago

lol.

40points

#27

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame This was probably in 8th grade. A girl got off at my bus stop and asked if she could see my house. So I showed her around the house, and we ended up in my room. She asked if I knew any good games.

So I loaded Age of Empires 2 on my computer and showed her how to play. She left shortly thereafter.

Apparently that wasn't the kind of game she wanted to play

BagelDesk , Kelly Sikkema Report

Final score:

58points

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Brendan 3 years ago

Dude, you got it all wrong! You should've put on Mortal Kombat.

65points

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#28

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame Like 2 years ago I was staying at my aunts house because my parents were away. My cousin had some friends over. They were in the pool and I was watching TV inside. One of the girls came upstairs and said “I’m going to get changed, can you come with me?” I politely said no and she walked away. Five minutes later I think about what just happened and thought “wait.... Sh*t”

CJM_310 , Brett Chalupa Report

Final score:

56points

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Cherry Lane 3 years ago

Polite dude.

11points

#29

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame I’ve had multiple women ask me why I didn’t make a move (once it’s too late of course) and I still don’t know what hints I’ve missed

mister-fancypants- , LexScope Report

Final score:

54points

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Steve Barnett 3 years ago

Same here: Being aspergic means people need to be explicit, if you imply anything to me, I will not get it, ever.

40points

#30

30 Times Guys Failed To Notice The Most Obvious Signals From Girls And Had Only Themselves To Blame On her birthday she asked for me to have lunch with her at a restaurant, i said yes, when i got to the restaurant it was only me and her, and 16 years old me tought

" so this is a lunch with only us two in a restaurant at her birthday... yeah nothing weird going on"

then a few months later she says she likes me and i'm like "what the hell, where did that came from???"

Also after the whole thing happened i reviwed the hole year in my head one day and just went "sh*t i am dumb as a brick" like everyday this girl flirted with me and i just tought it was a normal thing, i am so dumb.

EDIT: Also after that lunch she insisted in going to my house, after a lot of trying she got me to say

"Yeah ok we can go"

When we arrived she asked to see my bedroom, and so i showed her, she then saw my guitar and asked to play a song for her to what i replied

"what no stop being weird"

Brafma96 , Nate Johnston Report

Final score:

51points

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Steph Harrison 3 years ago

After all of the stories you see of women having to police how friendly they are to people because it gets misunderstood as flirting, these kinds of stories are really refreshing.

50points

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What do you think ?

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More Thinking Needed 3 years ago

In a world where there is such a fine line between flirting and sexual assault, it's always best to err on the side of caution.

33points

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Tiny Dynamine 3 years ago

Totally right. I'm at a point in life where I think it's just best to make it crystal clear. I've had a rejection recently from someone who seemed to be interested but said she didn't mean it like that. At least I know for sure now.

11points

Elmie Pumpkinbush 3 years ago

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0points

Vicky Z 3 years ago

I believe that the line is very clear... flirting is flirting and assault is assault!

-3points

Daria B 3 years ago

No, not that clear, really. Way too many times being polite is confused for flirting and, just an accidental smile gets interpreted as "leading on". Better to be safe than sorry. If you missed it, guess you weren't meant to be.

7points

Brendan 3 years ago

Some of these guys were gentlemen, who were simply respecting the girls' privacy/assumed boundaries. Better to remain cautious than carry out sexual asault.

26points

Steve Barnett 3 years ago

At the end of a gig a woman asked if I'd like to have breakfast with her. What at 11pm at night? D'oh.

19points

Troux 3 years ago

My immediate reaction would be to excitedly go home and try to get an early rest so I can be ready to meet for breakfast tomorrow.

11points

Yoga Kitty 3 years ago

I would say most of these people did perfectly fine and reasonable! If you think you are mature enough to flirt, have a relationship or just sex, you should also be mature enough to speak about it. Don't expect anybody to pick up your obscure hints! On the other hand, do not act on anything that might or might not have been a hint - ask for clarification before it gets you in trouble or causes some kind of drama.

18points

Yoga Kitty 3 years ago

On an additional note - for heaven's sake, forget about all this "20 sure signs she is into you" nonsense! It is a very unpleasant situation if somebody assumes you had been flirting with them when, in fact, you just tried to make polite conversation. "But you touched your hair all the time, this means you think I'm hot!" No, it means I have psoriasis and my scalp itches like helI...?

16points

AnnaBanana 3 years ago

This article is proof positive that the majority of men are sweet, kind and respectful. I hate reading all this "toxic masculinity" bullshit these days that constantly puts men down and probably makes them feel terrible about themselves, when I know that the majority of guys that I've met in my life have been as sweet and wonderfully clueless as the men in this article. I loved reading it!

11points

Chloe *Leah* Pheonix 3 years ago

Most of these guys are just trying to be polite, and so I agree

6points

Burs 3 years ago

Talking about toxic masculinity is not harmful towards men. It shows the issues that sexism causes to men and how it harms them. Ignoring the issue is harmful.

5points

ToGo 3 years ago

I'm actually very happy to read that a lot of these happened because the guy was being respectful. Sex isn't something we should "hint" about when you don't know each other that well yet. People confuse being flirtatious with being polite all of the time and just imagine how bad it can turn out if misinterpreted. Better just to alluringly say exactly what you mean - for everyone's sake.

10points

April Stephens 3 years ago

I totally agree with this and would give it a hundred upvotes. The interesting thing is, we don't know whether these women and girls were hinting at sex! For example, the girls might have wanted their first kiss. The ones giving mix tapes might have wanted to be asked out on a short date to a coffee shop. Etc.

5points

anarkzie 3 years ago

Questions to any gay people out there, is this stuff easier for you guys or do you run into the exact same problems? I feel communication between the sexes is the issue here but I could be majorly wrong.

6points

Shine Caramia 3 years ago

I was donating blood (fem, because the Red Cross is still f****d up about homosexuality), and one of the volunteers pointed out a pin on her lanyard. She said, "It's for Pride," and I said that it was cool. I'm constantly covered in rainbows, so I suspect she was inviting flirtation.

1point

Burs 3 years ago

According to a friend of mine it is quite difficult (unless you are in a gay space) because a lot of hetero men get very angry if a gay man hits on them so gay men need to be extremely careful about it.

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Ryan Deschanel 3 years ago

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Kai Scadden 3 years ago

When my crush told me she had broken up with her girlfriend I said "I would date you" like seven times before she realized I was being serious.wearing her hoodie right now on my way to our school (we are in eight grade)

5points

Vicky Z 3 years ago

And now i wonder how many hints I've missed in my life and didn't even realised them later! At least these people found out eventually!!

5points

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

I actually sat down and figured out the missed hints. And turned red. And my husband laughed his a** off.

2points

S. 3 years ago

As an aroace girl, this was interesting to read. But honestly, I applaud how respectful most of these guys were! While social cues are important in flirting, respect and consent is a greater priority.

5points

S. 3 years ago

Minecraft Achievement Unlocked: Got Ryan to troll and reply to my comment!

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Clinton Csmith 3 years ago

I think most of the times I was just oblivious, thinking they weren't interested in me that way or just being friendly!

2points

Sam Yobado 3 years ago

First serious girlfriend, I was 16 she was 18. I was picking her up at her house, her parents were out. When I got there, she was just getting out of the shower. I was waiting at the door. She calls down "I might need some help drying off." I call back "I'm pretty sure you're able to do that yourself."

2points

Tara Raay 3 years ago

I love that most of these are just guys taking no for an answer or over assuming s**t!

2points

Ryan Deschanel 3 years ago

At last! It is reassuring to meet another not-total-overthinking-idiot on this post!

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Adrian Ceroni 3 years ago

Once again proving open communication is the best for all involved. Guys don't take hints! Plus, as other people have pointed out, the over-emphasis (not the concept itself) on consent and respect means flirting and innuendo can't do the job of direct requests anymore.

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Troux 3 years ago (edited)

[Me in high school hanging out with two friends] (Me): *says something funny* (Her): *laughs uncontrollably* (Him): Hahah OMG she's cracking up! (Me): Oh yeah, she just laughs at everything though. [Her and me, several hours later] (Her): That was so mean! You made me sound like a lunatic! (Me): Well you DO laugh at everything. (Her): I laugh at everything YOU say because I like you! (Me): 😬😐😶 (Me, awake at 2AM for the next 30 years imagining how many signs I've missed that nobody bothered to tell me about): x_______________x

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Carol Emory 3 years ago

Several examples of the fact that guys DON'T think about sex 24/7...otherwise....

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François Carré 3 years ago

I don't know if I should feel comforted by so many stories showing that most guys are as dumb and oblivious as me. Or if I should feel desperate at the idea I would have missed the hint too in each and everyone of these stories.

1point

Alex K 3 years ago

a woman i knew was passing by my place of work and asked me a couple of times to fix the channels on her tv. in the end i gave in , went to her house and the tv was fine. ...so i left! i still facepalm myself

1point

Ryan Deschanel 3 years ago

I don't get it.

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Zeta Gundam 3 years ago

My crush of 4 years suddenly told me when and where she works part time on the last day of high school, I didn't even know she knew I existed, and I didn't clue in until a year later!

1point

Randolph Croft 3 years ago

As a high-function Autistic, I seem normal in social circumstances, but then click!-boom! something I say reveals a 'tic' of some kind. I went through this sort of thing many, many times. Now that I'm nearing 60 and having been diagnosed with the above, I just tell my friends vis-a-vis romance: 'I don't get it, I never got it and I will never get it.' It doesn't even bother me anymore.

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Colin Matthews 3 years ago

Oh yes.my version goes like this. A very attractive and funny girl i got on well with was working late shift with me. We all went out afterwards for a quiet beer to chill. Freezing winter night. Im on a motorbike. She says to me, oh i cant let you ride that, ill drop you home, who knows what kind of ride you might get on a cold winter night. Far to cold to be out on your own" Me: thanks but im a pretty safe driver... Next day..Argh im an idiot.

1point

Shine Caramia 3 years ago

It's likely that she was worried about your safety. Because people worry.

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Gabriel Sbárbaro 2 years ago

Women don't realize how oblivious us guys really are... one time, I was actually flirting with a girl in my house and I was insisting her to stay for the night... she said she'll stay "only if I kept her awake all night"... a friend of mine was with us at the moment and he then went to his house, just around the corner from mine, and call me to ask if I needed condoms... I said "no, it's not like that"... Obviously it was like that but I didn't realize until years later... she did stay the night but we just talked... Yeah, I know, I'm a moron...

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Thomas 3 years ago

I have so many of these stories :sigh

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The Cute Cat 3 years ago

One when I am a very young dude, a grownup lady that just divorce tell me that it sex is awesome.. I am speechless.. I am lucky not to take the bait.. Lol.. That nice lady then married it a good guy few years later.. Nothing bad on her.. She may be just try to hook up with a good guy anyway..

0points

The Cute Cat 3 years ago

And I never told anyone about it.. I don't want to ruin her.. That is why she still can get a good guy

1point

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

Glad to see the guys were nice and respectful... even if a wee bit dim.

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Clinton Csmith 3 years ago

So many of these are relatable. I was travelling for work long ago and found out an old family friend was living in the city I was visiting. We arranged to get together for drinks, she introduced me to her friends and had a great night. Afterwards we went back to here place and chatted for a few hours, as I had work the next day, I told her I needed to go, she walked me to the door and gave me a long hug and was stroking my back. When I got back to the hotel I texted to thank her for the great evening. That's when when she told me it could have gotten better! Apparently her stroking my back was a hint. Kicked myself! Mic

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BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 3 years ago (edited)

So I'm a girl, but I've missed countless signs myself. One of my friends literally made me look at a chart to see if our personality types were compatible, then comes the time where he confesses and I'm completely caught off guard.

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michael dill 3 years ago

I had two girls confess to me at the same time when they said that the guy they liked was really close to me. i was the only guy there. took me five f%$#king minutes to figure it out

0points

PixieVonBehr 3 years ago

As funny and heartwarming as some of these are, it does exasperate me that women can't be seen to be too forthright or "pushy" for fear of being seen as loose by men...when in fact it seems men would benefit from more straight talking lol

0points

Al Christensen 3 years ago

Coworker I liked a lot: Wanna go get coffee or something Saturday? Clueless me: Nah, I don't like coffee.

0points

iblowsheep 3 years ago

Her: "Want to come over tonight and watch a movie?" Me: "No thanks. Nothing good to watch."

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Tiny Dynamine 3 years ago

I can't remember having had ones like these but a woman I used to hang out with (and who was engaged but she still slept with guys she met in pubs) was someone who I would have slept with. In my mind she never gave me any sign at all but I found out months later that she regretted us not having sex. I doubt I would have though as I'd met her fiance and he looked as hard as nails. Not worth the risk.

0points

Yugan Talovich 3 years ago

Every one of these sounds like either something I would do or have done, boohoooop you don't want to watch a grown man cry, do you?

0points

BasedWang 3 years ago

Im preeeeeettyyyyy sure this list gave me PTSD

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Brendan 3 years ago

My wife and I were putting away groceries. She flirtatiously held a strawberry up to my mouth, like we used to do in our sexy blind-fold game. I swiped it out of her hand, took a bite, and continued putting away the shopping. A few seconds later, I realised what she was doing. Of course, by that stage, it was too late.

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Sky Render 3 years ago

I think my weirdest experience with this sort of thing was back in 8th grade, when a girl pretended to be mentally handicapped and tried to get me to be her "friend". I think she was hoping I'd try to take advantage of her? Whatever it was, she kept that act up for the entire year and slipped up pretty bad on it the last day of school. I didn't want to tell her that I knew all along (apparently she thought I never noticed her going about her business the rest of the time) because it seemed like she was having fun with it. Most embarrassing was definitely the time that, during our graduating class videos where we'd say what we'd miss most about high school, one girl named me directly. At the time I thought she meant she'd miss how weird I was. I think I figured that one out about three months later, long after I'd missed my chance. Of course, knowing what I do now about myself, it probably wouldn't have ended well anyway...

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Shine Caramia 3 years ago

That first girl had major issues and you were right to keep your distance.

3points

Glirpy 3 years ago

Wanna come over for dinner? I’m making Hot Pockets.

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Ryan Deschanel 3 years ago (edited)

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Pezor Zass 3 years ago

Ryan, you go too far sometimes. Unless you are purposely trolling, your sarcasm makes the point and then keeps plowing away until you alienate even the people who are with you. The secret is knowing when to stop.

8points

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More Thinking Needed 3 years ago

In a world where there is such a fine line between flirting and sexual assault, it's always best to err on the side of caution.

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Tiny Dynamine 3 years ago

11points

Elmie Pumpkinbush 3 years ago

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Vicky Z 3 years ago

I believe that the line is very clear... flirting is flirting and assault is assault!

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Daria B 3 years ago

7points

Brendan 3 years ago

Some of these guys were gentlemen, who were simply respecting the girls' privacy/assumed boundaries. Better to remain cautious than carry out sexual asault.

26points

Steve Barnett 3 years ago

At the end of a gig a woman asked if I'd like to have breakfast with her. What at 11pm at night? D'oh.

19points

Troux 3 years ago

My immediate reaction would be to excitedly go home and try to get an early rest so I can be ready to meet for breakfast tomorrow.

11points

Yoga Kitty 3 years ago

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Yoga Kitty 3 years ago

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AnnaBanana 3 years ago

11points

Chloe *Leah* Pheonix 3 years ago

Most of these guys are just trying to be polite, and so I agree

6points

Burs 3 years ago

Talking about toxic masculinity is not harmful towards men. It shows the issues that sexism causes to men and how it harms them. Ignoring the issue is harmful.

5points

ToGo 3 years ago

10points

April Stephens 3 years ago

5points

anarkzie 3 years ago

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Shine Caramia 3 years ago

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Burs 3 years ago

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Ryan Deschanel 3 years ago

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Kai Scadden 3 years ago

5points

Vicky Z 3 years ago

And now i wonder how many hints I've missed in my life and didn't even realised them later! At least these people found out eventually!!

5points

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

I actually sat down and figured out the missed hints. And turned red. And my husband laughed his a** off.

2points

S. 3 years ago

5points

S. 3 years ago

Minecraft Achievement Unlocked: Got Ryan to troll and reply to my comment!

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Clinton Csmith 3 years ago

I think most of the times I was just oblivious, thinking they weren't interested in me that way or just being friendly!

2points

Sam Yobado 3 years ago

2points

Tara Raay 3 years ago

I love that most of these are just guys taking no for an answer or over assuming s**t!

2points

Ryan Deschanel 3 years ago

At last! It is reassuring to meet another not-total-overthinking-idiot on this post!

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Adrian Ceroni 3 years ago

1point

Troux 3 years ago (edited)

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Carol Emory 3 years ago

Several examples of the fact that guys DON'T think about sex 24/7...otherwise....

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François Carré 3 years ago

1point

Alex K 3 years ago

1point

Ryan Deschanel 3 years ago

I don't get it.

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Zeta Gundam 3 years ago

My crush of 4 years suddenly told me when and where she works part time on the last day of high school, I didn't even know she knew I existed, and I didn't clue in until a year later!

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Randolph Croft 3 years ago

1point

Colin Matthews 3 years ago

1point

Shine Caramia 3 years ago

It's likely that she was worried about your safety. Because people worry.

5points

Gabriel Sbárbaro 2 years ago

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Thomas 3 years ago

I have so many of these stories :sigh

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The Cute Cat 3 years ago

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The Cute Cat 3 years ago

And I never told anyone about it.. I don't want to ruin her.. That is why she still can get a good guy

1point

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

Glad to see the guys were nice and respectful... even if a wee bit dim.

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Clinton Csmith 3 years ago

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BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 3 years ago (edited)

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michael dill 3 years ago

I had two girls confess to me at the same time when they said that the guy they liked was really close to me. i was the only guy there. took me five f%$#king minutes to figure it out

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PixieVonBehr 3 years ago

0points

Al Christensen 3 years ago

Coworker I liked a lot: Wanna go get coffee or something Saturday? Clueless me: Nah, I don't like coffee.

0points

iblowsheep 3 years ago

Her: "Want to come over tonight and watch a movie?" Me: "No thanks. Nothing good to watch."

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Tiny Dynamine 3 years ago

0points

Yugan Talovich 3 years ago

Every one of these sounds like either something I would do or have done, boohoooop you don't want to watch a grown man cry, do you?

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BasedWang 3 years ago

Im preeeeeettyyyyy sure this list gave me PTSD

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Brendan 3 years ago

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Sky Render 3 years ago

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Shine Caramia 3 years ago

That first girl had major issues and you were right to keep your distance.

3points

Glirpy 3 years ago

Wanna come over for dinner? I’m making Hot Pockets.

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Ryan Deschanel 3 years ago (edited)

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Pezor Zass 3 years ago

8points