NTA. The yta crew needs help. Three times a week is BAD, and the doctors aren't "bullying you," they're trying to stop you from EAYING YOURSELF TO DEATH

Food addiction is real. I've battled obesity my whole life. I had no idea how to control portions or feel fullness or what was healthy until I was an adult, and by then I was so addicted I never lost the weight. Well, I'm losing now in my 40s. That father is trying to spare his kids from bad health and suffering. The mother is being manipulative because, like many addicts, she does not want to change. Fine if she wants to live that way, but she's attempting to normalize her addiction by recruiting her grandchildren, probably to punish her son for choosing a different path and making her feel bad about her addiction. Maybe the dad is too obsessive over healthy food for his kids, but the mother is causing the kids problems by acting like the junk is so important, and it will cause them confusion. And the claims of bullying... UGH. Nursing home it is.

Food addiction and Binge Eating Disorder (BED) are real and it appears this woman has both. She desperately needs help and it sounds as though the only way she'll get it is in a nursing home or other facility. Food addiction is horrific, because eating is not something you can quit - you need it to stay alive. Imagine if alcoholics had to keep drinking to survive. How high would the sobriety rate be? I hope this woman gets the help she needs.

Yes, I am bullying when I take way their car-keys after they were caught driving way over the speed limit and endangering themselves and others. Yes, I am a bully when I send them to rehab after they nearly overdosed. Yes, I am a bully when I give them house-arrest when they hang out with the wrong kind of people that one may later find in jail. Yes, if you call that being a bully, I am one.

Setting boundaries and holding people responsible for their actions is not bullying.

Just a thought you might not have considered - if she goes into a nursing facility, a lot of her income will go into paying for it. It might be the saving of her as she won't have as much money to buy junk food! I find it odd that someone claiming poverty is wilfully buying takeout for multiple people multiple times a week.

When I moved to a new house in a very new place 30 years ago with my parents, we found that the old stove in the house barely worked. For over a week we had to eat fast food until we could get a new stove. I couldn't wait until I could get something green inside of me! I wanted some broccoli so damned bad! Spinach, peas... Anything! When we got that new stove (I did a lot of the cooking... I loved to!) And I made a healthy meal... Our bodies didn't know how to act! It was wonderful!!

Junk food is addictive.

She can't afford rent but she can afford to buy take-out everyday, all day?! Yet she can afford rents-worth of quadruple priced diarrhea-food throughout the month?! That tooootally makes sense. 🙄🤨

I think they both have food issues and need therapy as the OP may have swung too far the other way and seems to want to punish mother. She seems like a self pitying depressive.

The ones saying he has an uunhealthy relationship with food, lol, what's he supposed to do with a mother that insists they eat McD's all the time? I used to stop by once or twice a week at a fast food place on the way home from work. I'm not overweight, and cooked for myself most of the time. Couldn't figure out why I was putting on weight suddenly. Yeah, the twice-a-week pit stops. That's all it took. Processed food will do that every time. Once in a long while is ok. Weekly? No.

Verdict: NTA. Notes from OP: They try to have conversations about healthy food with their kids. Mom is on disability but it doesn't cover all expenses. 10 yo thinks she's a bully because it's mean to bully people over weight.

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NTA but a bit harsh taking food away from kids and binning it. Talk to the Grandmother and make a compromise. Fast food say once a fortnight or even a month. Turns it into a treat for the kids, time off from the kitchen for the parents and grandma gets to treat the kids but also give her a warning of the consequences if she slips into old habits again

NTA, on the other hand a a kid I was in and out of children's homes, and my parents very, very rarely had the time or money for junk-food so I rarely ate it, and I still became a rather large size 22 by 16, its not so much the type of food you eat, but the amount you eat, its also down to genetics, my grandma was a beached whale, my mum was eventually a big woman, my sister turned into an overweight creature too. I got into healthy portion controlled eating and sensible exercise and dropped to a vastly more healthy weight, and most of mum's family eek accused me of being anorexic. Something I never was. I'm now a size sixteen and have been for years and I do NOT ever over eat, but I don't get obsessed with all healthy eating/no junk food either. its NOT bullying to try teach a person to eat healthy, and ask them what they'd prefer to attend grandma's funeral in a short space of time or have her around for longer?

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Yes she should absolutely respect the rules of the house. But does dad actually think his kids will never set eyes on a McDonald's?

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