All the YTA are self serving types. There is no polite way to ask someone to give you their jewellery, none. The DIL and son have been together for 2 years, not even close to long enough to know future MIL enough to even be looking lying longingly at anything she owns much less make a demand for anything. Future MIL has a daughter she has been raising for 18 years (?), the FDIL is basically encroaching on the daughters future inheritance and she is neither chosen by MIL to join the family (the son chose her) nor is she even in the family yet.

"THE RING IS MINE" when i read that part it came out in Frodo's voice in my head. And she is right. Literal gold digger vibes that has clutches on her son. Asking for an heirloom is so creepy... vulturey... The concept of it is to be a gift if you ask for it it cant be an heirloom.

It's my birthday, and I wants it!

Lol. Hard no, I'm still alive, and even when I'm dead, it's still not yours, golddigga.

Honestly, why include YTA if it's stupid. come on BP. That little money grubber would probably shock anyone. Damn.

First of all DIL demanded? She is no position whatsoever to demand anything! Tell her to take a flying leap. And the ones saying YTA are the AH themselves. I seriously doubt they would react any different if this situation happened to them.!

Beyond rude; I can't imagine asking someone else to give me one of their possessions. What culture is this? This would not fly in mine.

Who just demands someone else's property? You can ask (I would di‍e first, but you can ask), but don't have a hissy fit if the answer is no.

NTA, it is NOT your job to provide jewelery its your son's and it sounds like HE ALREADY DID. it shows a lack of class and gold digging tendencies to do what she did. She hasn't even provided you with a grand daughter yet to prove the ring would pass down as a family heirloom yet.

My grandmother let me wear a family heirloom necklace - her grandmother's. It was a gold plated necklace, very unusual and was my old thing. Her husband (my dad's step-father) said she should keep it and leave it to me when she passed on. That marriage (of mine) went down the tubes. Several years after my grandmother passed, he was very ill. We went to visit and he gave me the necklace, saying my grandmother had wanted me to have it. I still have it. My aunt and none of her daughters ever asked about it. If they did, my grandmother must've said it was for me.

NTA. If she had asked nicely if you would be willing to part with the ring and had been gracious when you said no that would be one thing. To demand the ring is a bit over the top. I also wonder if the son put her up to it. She has a ring, and demanding one from future MIL is insulting.

100% that girl is picking through your wardrobe before you die. i agree with every recommendation to get a safe or locking cabinet, or lock your room when she visits. unacceptable to just ask for people's possessions

My mom's siblings were vultures when my grandmother passed away. She had nice jewelry. My mom took care of her when none of her other children would even visit. Then they had the audacity to accuse my mom of stealing my grandmother's things. So when the time came to divide the jewelry, my mom put each item in a paper bag, put a # on them, and had her siblings draw #s. Afterwards, they could trade if they wanted to. My mom took nothing. I was so upset. A year or so later, we were going through old photo albums that no one wanted, just to make sure that there weren't any pics that we'd want to keep. Out fell a little pouch. It had 2 things in it that my grandmother said she wanted me to have long ago before she got dementia. One was a platinum heart necklace with diamonds that all the women in our family are supposed to wear at their wedding. The other was a chipped yellow topaz from a ring she wanted me to have since it's my birthstone. (1/2)

What is with the YTA responses? Geez. The future DIL is an entitled brat. I mean all the c**p she wants for tje wedding too and then has the gall to ask for a ring from the OP? A very expensive ring too. Honestly OP is NTA but future DIl sounds like a gold digger.

OP mentioned a daughter, I would think all jewelry would go to her, not DIL.

I'd literally lock up the valuables if future-DIL actually becomes family and comes for a visit! Yeesh

Edit your will NOW ... make sure to bequeath your emerald ring SPECIFICALLY to some distant cousin. Give it to anyone who who know will keep it out of your DIL's reach!

All of it is crazy, but the none more than the justification of you let your daughter borrow your jewellery occasionally, so obviously you have to give your DIL a ring to own.

There is only one side to the story here and I'm betting a lot was left out. The OP seems to have an unhealthy obsession with jewelry and is overly dramatic when she could have just said no.