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24 Y.O. Woman Blamed Of “Hiding” Her Actual Job As She Told Folks She’s A Software Engineer
Once I overheard someone get called a s#$%ty liar. And, to be honest, that’s not really a bad thing. I’d take it as a compliment any day cause it just means I’m honest. Sure, my skills at verbal deception are lacking, but I think being brutally honest is a finer and more useful skill in life.
Most folks don’t really have a reason to lie, especially if they’re proud of something. But that doesn’t stop other people from assuming someone is lying, in spectacularly crazy ways sometimes.
One Redditor has recently gotten accused of lying when they really weren’t, and it stirred quite a bit of drama in a circle of people that seems like they enjoy drama all too much. Also, racism, stereotypes and hatred.
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Apparently, assuming someone is lying can lead to equally spectacular drama if you really try hard—maybe too hard, like this bride-to-be did
Image credits: Sunny (not the actual image)
A 24-year-old woman by the nickname of u/sailorangelxo turned to the r/AmITheA-Hole community on Reddit with a conflict she got into at a friend’s engagement party.
The story goes that OP and her fiance, both POC (Pakistani and Indian-Afghan respectively), but both brought up in Canada, went to an engagement party hosted by the fiance’s best friend Alex and his wife-to-be Nell.
A Redditor shared a story of how she was accused of lying, when she wasn’t, and that spiraled wildly out of control
Image Credits: u/sailorangelxo
All was fine and dandy until OP sat down for a chat with Alex’s aunt. She, turns out, is too an engineer—the iron rings they both had are given to engineers upon graduation, you see, so that was the start of their bonding.
During their conversation, the bride-to-be approached and just straight up asked her why she was lying about her being an engineer. That seemingly threw OP off because she wasn’t lying, and the sudden abruptness of it all was just out of the blue.
Image Credits: u/sailorangelxo
The back-and-forth escalated quickly, with the bride-to-be starting to berate her and developing into a full-on scene at the party. At first they speculated she was drunk, but nope, just disrespectful. She started saying OP was ruining her party, which led to OP and her fiance simply leaving early.
This whole situation already seems wild, but it got crazier. The bride-to-be’s friends started calling and texting OP, calling her names and accusing her of being stand-offish. Her fiance also got a call from the groom-to-be, which didn’t go anywhere, and now nobody’s talking any more. This was the original point of the post.
OP also provided an extensive update that solidified the fallout of the two couples and provided more context for the story
Image credits: WOCinTech Chat (not the actual image)
Image Credits: u/sailorangelxo
But, soon after, OP provided an extensive update, which, in short, didn’t lead to a reunion, but did put some things into perspective.
OP explained her and her fiance’s backgrounds, how they were raised in Canada, but are actually ethnically Pakistani and Hindi-Afghan, how she’s a software engineer who worked hard to get to where she is, and what happened after the party.
The two got another call from Alex, surprisingly asking for an apology. What for? Well, apparently OP made the bride-to-be look bad in front of her in-laws because she didn’t know OP had actually graduated. OK, off to “a good start.”
Image Credits: u/sailorangelxo
Image credits: holycalamity (not the actual image)
One thing led to another and OP realized that the bride-to-be was being straight up racist. She had assumed OP had dropped out of college, never finishing her degree, because she “seemed like the type.” That conversation didn’t end well as it only escalated into insults and an eventual hang-up, and blocking.
After all this, folks online were supportive of OP, saying that she is not the jerk here. According to them, OP did absolutely nothing wrong. It was all the bride. Folks started speculating that she might be insecure, jealous of her, and, if anything, the in-laws probably needed to see just how what the heck?! she can be.
Well, at least OP won’t have to buy them a wedding gift now.
Folks online were having none of it, saying OP’s NTA and the bride (and her fiance by proxy) has issues
You can check out the post and the update on your own terms and in context, but before you do that, stay a while and tell us your thoughts in the comment section below! Or check out the other AITA articles you might have missed, because it’s the summer and that tan ain’t gonna get itself.
What do you think ?
- 2 years ago (edited)
"You don't look the type" - oh for f#ck's sake! Does this idiot think that every woman needs light-coloured skin and a penis to program??
Contented potato. 2 years ago
If you are a woman in programming, then you must have a penis. /s
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James G. Currie 2 years ago
"You don't look the type..." Neither did my mother, and she has a degree in Chemical Engineering. Her last job (for 10+ years) before retirement had more to do with MECHANICAL Engineering than Chemical. That I can remember, none of her jobs had anything to do explicitly with her degree, but she was successful in all of them.
- 2 years ago
Years back, I worked with engineers from Romania. One woman had been surprised at the chauvinism against women in North America. Whatever problems there were under Communism (dictatorship, of course), sexism in STEM wasn't one of them.
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- 2 years ago (edited)
"You don't look the type" - oh for f#ck's sake! Does this idiot think that every woman needs light-coloured skin and a penis to program??
Contented potato. 2 years ago
If you are a woman in programming, then you must have a penis. /s
Load More Replies... James G. Currie 2 years ago
"You don't look the type..." Neither did my mother, and she has a degree in Chemical Engineering. Her last job (for 10+ years) before retirement had more to do with MECHANICAL Engineering than Chemical. That I can remember, none of her jobs had anything to do explicitly with her degree, but she was successful in all of them.
- 2 years ago
Years back, I worked with engineers from Romania. One woman had been surprised at the chauvinism against women in North America. Whatever problems there were under Communism (dictatorship, of course), sexism in STEM wasn't one of them.
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