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As Andrea F. Polard, Psy.D., wonderfully put it, arrogance is weaponized pride. Unlike healthy pride — which is an appropriate celebration of personal or communal accomplishment — it pushes people away.

The subreddit r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls is an excellent example of this. The online community is dedicated to shaming people who are trying to be unique by defining themselves outside of "the norm." Instead of proving how unique they are, these folks simply make a fool of themselves, earning ridicule instead of respect.

We've covered r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls before here and here, but with 785K members, the subreddit constantly offers new content, so it's about time we release an update. Continue scrolling and check out its most popular recent posts.

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The Whole Package

The Whole Package

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Moms Are More Important

Moms Are More Important

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Of all of the things that diminish the quality of interpersonal relationships, few, if any, are as damaging as arrogance.

To be arrogant is to appropriate for yourself, presumptuously; to claim without right and to be overly convinced of your own importance.

One of the unfortunate consequences of arrogance is that people who have this trait often have no awareness of it and when confronted by feedback that suggests that they may be grabbing more ground than they are entitled to, often become highly defensive and even combative, which ironically demonstrates that they probably are.

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The Post Was: What’s Something People Find Hot Or Attractive That You Don’t?

The Post Was: What’s Something People Find Hot Or Attractive That You Don’t?

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Thanks For That Totally Necessary Information

Thanks For That Totally Necessary Information

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The Only Correct ‘Not Like Other Girls’

The Only Correct ‘Not Like Other Girls’

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So in an attempt to learn how to deal with these people, let's take a look at what the before mentioned doctor of psychology, Andrea Polard, suggests doing to stay calm and collected while still standing strong and confidently against arrogance in your life.

"Be compassionate, but don't try to fix the person," Polard wrote. "The need for superiority is deeply rooted and ranges from low self-esteem to an unquenchable thirst for praise to a lack of empathy for those who are or appear to be less accomplished. Only the arrogant person can confront such a problem with sustained effort. On the other hand, and as always, it brings peace to your heart and potentially to the situation if you can have compassion for the unhappiness of others."

#6

I’m Not Like Other Moms, I’m An Idiot 🌎

I’m Not Like Other Moms, I’m An Idiot 🌎

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Unique Girl

Unique Girl

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Old But Gold As Always

Old But Gold As Always

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#9

By Now I‘D Be A Millionaire If I Had A Penny For Each Time I Heard A Girl Say „i Mostly Hang Out With Guys“

By Now I‘D Be A Millionaire If I Had A Penny For Each Time I Heard A Girl Say „i Mostly Hang Out With Guys“

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Next, accept the fact that the other indeed feels superior. Try to realize that there is nothing you can do in the future or have done in the past to make them arrogant.

"He or she suffers from a problem that goes far beyond you. Most importantly, understand that accepting feelings of superiority in another person does not mean that you must feel inferior in turn. Look at it as a game that you can refuse to play."

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Topical Not Like Other Girls Cartoon

Topical Not Like Other Girls Cartoon

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#11

I’m Sure This Happens All The Time

I’m Sure This Happens All The Time

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#12

I Don't Need Feminism So Nobody Does

I Don't Need Feminism So Nobody Does

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Remeber Galls! Only Follow One Thing Ever, And Make It Your Personality

Remeber Galls! Only Follow One Thing Ever, And Make It Your Personality

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"Communicate directly," Polard added. "Sometimes it is advisable to tell the other person how she/he came across. It is good to remind an arrogant person that no one knows that much, considering life’s mysteries, and that no one can claim absolute truth. As long as it does not harm you later, do not suppress yourself."

You can use disarming sentences such as, "Forgive me for interrupting, but...", or "Maybe you did not mean to sound arrogant/hurt my feelings/come across as if you are 100 percent right, but..."

If arrogance is an aberration, you can also ask if anything negative happened to them that day.

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Found This Gem On Facebook

Found This Gem On Facebook

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#15

Am I The Only One Who’s Concerned About The Knife..?

Am I The Only One Who’s Concerned About The Knife..?

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#16

My Tumblr Bio In 2012. Back When I Thought Putting Other Women Down Was Edgy

My Tumblr Bio In 2012. Back When I Thought Putting Other Women Down Was Edgy

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#17

Bahahaha. Found One In The Wild

Bahahaha. Found One In The Wild

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"Involve a mediator or a greater number of people," Polard said. "Sometimes direct communication backfires, which is why you might want to include a third party to help diffuse the situation."

"Without being vindictive, stand up for yourself under the guidance of someone else. Seek the support you need. Sometimes you might have to find allies and stand together against a particularly harmful arrogant person or persons."

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Ig Is Just Flooded With This S**t

Ig Is Just Flooded With This S**t

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April Caron
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is it just me or all these posts about “guys talking to other girls” cringy because if you’re concerned your partner is speaking to someone of the opposite sex in an inappropriate way… then why are you with them? If there’s no trust… it’s a huge red flag! Leave! My partner has guy friends and girl friends (as in girls that are friends). He can talk to whoever he wants. I don’t need to be “different” to keep him. I’m not concerned about having to compete with any other woman in his life. I simply trust him. If he has a conversation with a woman… it’s just that… a conversation.

Marlowe Fitzpatrik
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Manic pixie dreamgirl? (I just learned that this is a trope and I think she fits right in... ;-) )

RainWingRoyal
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like: I'm irreplaceable, but you're not. Not that I would have any reason to say that, though.

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DancingPanda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, because i trust him, there are girls who are prettier and funnier than me, good for them, but I trust him to be honest, and just cause we’re dating doesn’t mean he lost his ability to spot attractive people and think they’re attractive

AmAndA_Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ya know, sometimes "boring" (sane) is a nice change from "weird" (bat c**p crazy).

Pittsburgh rare
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sure, hun. You're in for a surprise. He's not only gonna talk to other people but (hear me out) he won't find them boring.

Ghostsauce
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like I'd begin actively seeking boring people if I had to be around that energy. Like, let's eat crackers and listen to NPR, I need this now.

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Samira Peri
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2 years ago

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Stephanie Paich
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think any guys are bored when they're sleeping with another girl......

Kezza
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't tell her the boyfriend leaving her coz she weird af and prob a bit cray cray

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And then there's me that just confused about how those jean actually up. Just me?🤷🏾‍♀️

Cpt. Robert Christian
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay... So what is she doing that is weird? What I do find weird is how the waist area of her jeans is fastened. Somehow it is does not look like gig line is straight.

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She’s Handy

She’s Handy

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She Reads The Books Guys !

She Reads The Books Guys !

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So Cool

So Cool

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You can also reduce the harm by setting limits. "We cannot always choose with whom we work and must deal with, but we can set limits," the psychologist highlighted.

"Before meeting with an arrogant person, decide how much time you will spend together and what subjects you will or will not speak about. Be disciplined and resist biting any hooks that would prolong the allotted time or cover more territory. If you cannot keep your distance despite great effort, maybe it is time to plan to sever the ties. Nobody should remain silent and endure abuse, whether in a personal or professional relationship."

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Found On Instagram

Found On Instagram

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Found On The Aita Sub

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Excuse The Bad Handwriting, But I Was Looking Through My Old Diary And Found This Gem From When I Was In 7th Grade. I Think What’s Funnier Is That No One Ever Called Me Emo In School And I Just Made That Part Up

Excuse The Bad Handwriting, But I Was Looking Through My Old Diary And Found This Gem From When I Was In 7th Grade. I Think What’s Funnier Is That No One Ever Called Me Emo In School And I Just Made That Part Up

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#25

Truly Not Like The Other Girls, Or The Other Posters

Truly Not Like The Other Girls, Or The Other Posters

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The important thing to remember is to stay mindful. Whatever you decide to do, attempt it deliberately, thoughtfully, and with as much love as possible.

"Arrogant people cause others to lose their temper and become their worst self. Observe your reactions with self-compassion and your long-term interest in mind. Play the game of your life instead of trying to fit into someone else's," Polard said.

So always stay true to yourself and... don't forget to shame them on r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls.

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Lol Love Her Music But

Lol Love Her Music But

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#27

Omg She Is So Weird And Quirky She Is Sooo Not Like Other Girls!!!

Omg She Is So Weird And Quirky She Is Sooo Not Like Other Girls!!!

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Not Like Those $9 Coffee Girls

Not Like Those $9 Coffee Girls

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Not Sure If This Counts But Found This On Instagram

Not Sure If This Counts But Found This On Instagram

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#30

Ofc The Godly Tradwife Has A Baby And Is Blonde

Ofc The Godly Tradwife Has A Baby And Is Blonde

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#31

‘Ugh ... I Hate My Own Gender, They Are Trash, Please Pick Me!!!’

‘Ugh ... I Hate My Own Gender, They Are Trash, Please Pick Me!!!’

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#32

So Quirky And Unique 🧘‍♀️

So Quirky And Unique 🧘‍♀️

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#33

Guys Have You Seen The New God Child? There's Nothing Wrong With Her At All!

Guys Have You Seen The New God Child? There's Nothing Wrong With Her At All!

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Does This Count?

Does This Count?

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#35

Does Anyone Else Like To Listen To Mozart In Reverse? /S

Does Anyone Else Like To Listen To Mozart In Reverse? /S

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#36

Not Like The Other Triplets

Not Like The Other Triplets

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Does This Count?

Does This Count?

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#38

I'm Not Like You, I'm Rich

I'm Not Like You, I'm Rich

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#39

I Don't Understand Why Their Husbands Are On Golf Weekends They Only Look About 20

I Don't Understand Why Their Husbands Are On Golf Weekends They Only Look About 20

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#40

Op Disrespects Boundaries By Sending Inappropriate Memes To Her "Bestie's" Boyfriend

Op Disrespects Boundaries By Sending Inappropriate Memes To Her "Bestie's" Boyfriend

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#41

Found This Out In The Wild:

Found This Out In The Wild:

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#42

Internalized Misogyny Is Truly A Trip

Internalized Misogyny Is Truly A Trip

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#43

Saw This And Thought Of This Sub

Saw This And Thought Of This Sub

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#44

This One Deserves To Be Here

This One Deserves To Be Here

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#45

Does This Belong In This Sub? Apparently Being Bi-Curious Isnt A Thing Anymore

Does This Belong In This Sub? Apparently Being Bi-Curious Isnt A Thing Anymore

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#46

I'm Not Like Other Girls I Step On Legos

I'm Not Like Other Girls I Step On Legos

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#47

Kinda Depressing How Old This Mentality Goes, Way Before Britney And Avril

Kinda Depressing How Old This Mentality Goes, Way Before Britney And Avril

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The Amount Of Likes This Has 🥴

The Amount Of Likes This Has 🥴

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#49

We Aren’t Like U We Like To Spy On Each Other

We Aren’t Like U We Like To Spy On Each Other

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#50

I Think Oop Made This About Herself

I Think Oop Made This About Herself

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#51

On A Facebook Group For "Boys Only"

On A Facebook Group For "Boys Only"

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#52

She Could Tell It’s Acting

She Could Tell It’s Acting

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#53

She’s Right. She Does Sound Lame

She’s Right. She Does Sound Lame

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#54

Didn’t Think That Stuff Was Normalised But Ok

Didn’t Think That Stuff Was Normalised But Ok

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#55

She Thinks She’s So Cute

She Thinks She’s So Cute

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#56

Spotted In The Wild Today

Spotted In The Wild Today

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#57

She’s A Weird One, Folks

She’s A Weird One, Folks

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#58

*dk Khalid Voice* Another One

*dk Khalid Voice* Another One

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#59

High School Friend Posted This On Instagram

High School Friend Posted This On Instagram

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#60

She Wears Oversized Tshirts Y'all!

She Wears Oversized Tshirts Y'all!

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I Mean, No One Needs These Things, But It’s Not Inherently Wrong To Want It

I Mean, No One Needs These Things, But It’s Not Inherently Wrong To Want It

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#62

Not Like The Other Girls

Not Like The Other Girls

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#63

Apparently This Is What I Get For Liking Valorant And Being In The Community In The Presence Of This Girl.. Yikes

Apparently This Is What I Get For Liking Valorant And Being In The Community In The Presence Of This Girl.. Yikes

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#64

Why Do Women Think Consenting To Sex Has To Be On Their Terms?

Why Do Women Think Consenting To Sex Has To Be On Their Terms?

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#65

Well I Mean, You Do You

Well I Mean, You Do You

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#66

Catcalling Is Not A Compliment

Catcalling Is Not A Compliment

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#67

Strangest Pick Me Stance I’ve Ever Seen On Tiktok

Strangest Pick Me Stance I’ve Ever Seen On Tiktok

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#68

I’m Not Like Other Girls, I’m Immune To Assault

I’m Not Like Other Girls, I’m Immune To Assault

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#69

Not Like Other Unicorns 🦄

Not Like Other Unicorns 🦄

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#70

Yeah This One Definitely Deserves A Place Here

Yeah This One Definitely Deserves A Place Here

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#71

Who Is This Person Policing The Money You Spend On Pre Workout?

Who Is This Person Policing The Money You Spend On Pre Workout?

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#72

Boys Are Dirty

Boys Are Dirty

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#73

Other Girls Are W**res. I’m Nlog, I Get No Game !!

Other Girls Are W**res. I’m Nlog, I Get No Game !!

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A Girl I Have On Snap Posted This On Her Story. Not Sure If This Fits Here But She Spends The Whole Post Tearing Down Other Women

A Girl I Have On Snap Posted This On Her Story. Not Sure If This Fits Here But She Spends The Whole Post Tearing Down Other Women

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A 6.5-7.5 (Scientifically Proven)

A 6.5-7.5 (Scientifically Proven)

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We Aint The Same

We Aint The Same

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#77

Saw This One Out In The Wild Today

Saw This One Out In The Wild Today

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#78

I’m Not Like Other Girls, I Don’t Need Expensive Things To Make Me Happy☺️

I’m Not Like Other Girls, I Don’t Need Expensive Things To Make Me Happy☺️

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Not Like Other Girls

Not Like Other Girls

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Yet Another In Aita; “She’s One Of Those Annoying Women Who Seem To Attract Male’s Attention Without Even Trying…”

Yet Another In Aita; “She’s One Of Those Annoying Women Who Seem To Attract Male’s Attention Without Even Trying…”

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Facebook Scares Me Sometimes

Facebook Scares Me Sometimes

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Other People Say Yolo

Other People Say Yolo

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“Quirky” Girl

“Quirky” Girl

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Just Saw That Post About This Unique And Different Girl In R/Thathappened

Just Saw That Post About This Unique And Different Girl In R/Thathappened

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She’s The 1%

She’s The 1%

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#86

Hugging Your Friends Is Weird?

Hugging Your Friends Is Weird?

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Because It's Not Normal Apparently

Because It's Not Normal Apparently

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Get It Right Sweaty 💅🏽

Get It Right Sweaty 💅🏽

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Not Sure Who Allowed 12-Year-Old Me To Have A Facebook, But I’m Cursed With All My Facebook Memories

Not Sure Who Allowed 12-Year-Old Me To Have A Facebook, But I’m Cursed With All My Facebook Memories

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Does This Count? Found On Pintrest

Does This Count? Found On Pintrest

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Proceeds To Play Some Of The Most Popular And Well-Known Video Games

Proceeds To Play Some Of The Most Popular And Well-Known Video Games

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#92

Sorry I Like Guns Not Animals

Sorry I Like Guns Not Animals

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#93

I Came Across This On Fb.. What's Wrong With Hamburgers?!

I Came Across This On Fb.. What's Wrong With Hamburgers?!

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Yikes

Yikes

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#95

Because Other Girls Are Not Funny

Because Other Girls Are Not Funny

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#96

Not Like Other Bisexuals

Not Like Other Bisexuals

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Idk If It Has Already Been Posted

Idk If It Has Already Been Posted

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#98

I'm Confused?

I'm Confused?

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We Do Not Care !!!

We Do Not Care !!!

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#100

I Am The Only Girl On Earth Who Likes Peanut Butter

I Am The Only Girl On Earth Who Likes Peanut Butter

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#101

"Reality TV? Not This Girl, I Like Sports!"

"Reality TV? Not This Girl, I Like Sports!"

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#102

Other Girls Don’t Like Tea

Other Girls Don’t Like Tea

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Coulda Just Said "Is This A Nice Dress For Clubbing?" But She Had To Make It Clear She Was Nltog

Coulda Just Said "Is This A Nice Dress For Clubbing?" But She Had To Make It Clear She Was Nltog

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#104

Rise Up I Guess…

Rise Up I Guess…

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#105

Why Is Hockeygirl All One Word?

Why Is Hockeygirl All One Word?

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Was Mindlessly Scrolling Through The Wasteland That Is Pinterest Memes And Found A Danganronpa Flavoured Nltog

Was Mindlessly Scrolling Through The Wasteland That Is Pinterest Memes And Found A Danganronpa Flavoured Nltog

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This Seems Like The. Opposite Of Nlog But Isn't It Harsh? Some Girls Can Be Non-Feminine Without Being Pick-Mes Or Nlog. What Does The Sub Think?

This Seems Like The. Opposite Of Nlog But Isn't It Harsh? Some Girls Can Be Non-Feminine Without Being Pick-Mes Or Nlog. What Does The Sub Think?

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The Comments Were Even Worse

The Comments Were Even Worse

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