Sister Is At Furious With This Bride For Only Letting 3 Of Her 10 Kids Come To The Wedding

It's valid because it's the reason for having ten kids. They probably belong to one of those "quiver full" sects. Honestly, who else in a first world country would have ten children in this day and age?

Because… OP’s sister brought it up? Because she said that not inviting ALL of her TEN children was disrespecting her and her religion? For those of us not trapped by religious beliefs, and only seeing situations from a practical and realistic context, hosting a family of 12 *anywhere* is a challenge. The ages of all the kids, and the setting, most likely played a part in OP’s decision, too. How could her sister have possibly been present- much less enjoyed- the ceremony and the festivities afterwards? Wrangling that many young children while you’re a wedding guest would have been impossible.

The sister had 10 kids because she believes having lots of kids is God's will.

Your siblings are not the same as your nephews and nieces. Of course you would want your siblings at your wedding, but it is not your responsibility top take care of 10(!!) additional guests, which are most likely in an age range from toddler to 15 if the mother and bride are close in age. You can do this if you celebrate a family dinner or something, but you can NOT expect someone to pay all the expenses if they already explained that it's too much. Having that many children is the parent's choice and nobody elses.

Um, the OP mentioned the fact that her sister and husband are religious kooks who felt god wanted them to breed out of control. It's in the story, did you read it?

That was my thought exactly. I went back and looked at the ages of the kids- there’s a 1-YO and 3-YO twins. You just know that OP’s sister would have been physically incapable of wrangling just those three during the ceremony- trying to get them to sit still and be quiet. Then later at the reception, the toddlers, the 5-YO and the other younger ones would have been running around wildly, yelling, bothering the other guests while they were trying to eat, and sticking their fingers in the wedding cake. Then OP’s parents and other siblings would have felt duty-bound to keep watch over the kids, and let me tell you- I’m a grandmother of a toddler and an infant… the toddler is well-behaved and listens when you tell her not to climb on things, not to run off, etc BUT she does require constant supervision when we’re out in public because… she’s a toddler. Those poor grandparents and aunts and uncles would have totally missed out on the wedding and the festivities afterwards.

You sound most reasonable. Kudos.

Exactly, weird how so many people seemed to miss that...

Why didn't her sister offer to pay for her own pack of mouths since I'm sure she knew the bride and groom had a budget.

Literally says she DID talk to the sister about budget and why this invite, and sister blew a gasket anyway, and DIDN'T offer to contribute.

But... she DID talk to her sister about budget problems, it says so right in the article. Sister got angry and confrontational.

Helena, sounds like you need to go back an re read the article, cuz you sure missed a whole lot of it...

She did invite her nieces and nephews, just not the whole religious circus.

...yeah, no. Your ridiculous suppositions are what don't make sense. Other guests DIDN'T have so many children, so the bride WASN'T forced to make determinations like that. Sister was expecting at LEAST twice the expenditure on her as on any other guest. That's entitled AF. If you have a family so much larger than the norm, it's YOUR responsibility to accommodate, not anyone else's.

You're not talking about an extra one plate though. Even if we are very generous and say 3 and under cost little or no extra that's still 4 more plates to pay for. You'd have to uninvite 4 others you wanted at your wedding to cover that cost. You can't have that many children and expect others to eat the cost. She explained it was financial not personal, Dawn could have offered to cover the cost, or atleast split it. Instead she got angry her sister didn't cover it.