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40 “That’s Not How Women Work” Moments Shared In This Online Group (New Pics)
Confidence and ignorance are a dangerous mix, and it can be especially potent when it comes to men who feel that they have the right to tell women what to do. On the /r/NotHowGirlsWork subreddit, moderators and contributors catalog the craziest cases of men (and, in odd cases, even women) sharing their most head-scratching takes on women’s minds, bodies and rights.
In the very best-case scenario, some of these might be ignorant but well-wishing ignorant men who are open to learning from their mistakes. In many cases, however, these may be representatives of darker online communities whose members can be affected by mental health issues and a downward spiral of hate against women.
We’ll break down what some of these communities are and the real-world dangers they may present to women below.
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#1
An Oldie But Goodie
#2
“Instagram Wisdom”
Incels (involuntary celibate) are one of the more hateful misogynistic communities online. Some members have even been involved in real-world violence against women. Unfortunately, they aren’t the only misogynistic online community. Other toxic communities in the broader “manosphere” - a coalition of sites online oriented towards men’s issues - include:
- MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way): Men advocating their separation into a woman-less society;
- The red-pill community: A broader online community that idolizes what it sees as traditional gender roles and masculine ideals. Many men in this community hold misogynistic beliefs about women’s familial responsibilities and roles.
- MRA (Men’s Rights Activists): The men’s rights movement is a broader movement advocating a focus on numerous issues affecting men. Some members of this movement see women as adversaries in solving men’s issues, while others embrace feminism.
- Pick-up artists: This is a community of men who see women primarily as objects of desire and believe that the use of specific algorithms or formulas - collectively called “game” - will help them attract women.
Read on for one professor’s insights into the problem of online misogyny.
#3
Pants Are Evil
The Doom Song 1 year ago
No pants huh? Guess I'll just walk around in my undies then since I don't wear skirts or dresses
#4
Sure You Did And The Roast Xd
#5
What A Piece Of S***t!
Take me to dinner first 1 year ago
Sweetie, guess he doesn't understand how human beings work, he's a psycho
#6
Why Aren't Women More Superficial?
Bored Panda reached out to Professor Chuka Nestor Emezue, Ph.D., MPH, MPA, CHES at Rush University for additional insights into the problem of misogynistic hate online. As an expert on children’s, women’s, and family health, Professor Emezue has conducted research into these hateful online communities and potential de-radicalization interventions.
For many of us, it seems like comments like these might be products of ignorance. Professor Emezue explained, however, that it’s not that simple: “I believe that ignorance is not the root cause of the issue at hand. It is too easy to just blame a lack of awareness of what is moral and sensible today. The current global climate surrounding masculinity has created a perfect storm - contributing to this rise in global misogyny. Factors such as unattended mental health problems, hopelessness, progress made by women in various fields, extremist political beliefs that reinforce male dominance, and poverty contribute to this phenomenon.”
#7
Another Alpha Male
Awesome At Being Autistic 1 year ago
Hard pass. First he's getting rid of your guy friends, next it's your girl friends, next it's your family. Learned that one the hard way.
#8
Sir That Is Not How This Works
#9
What The F**k Does That Mean 😭
#10
Finally Found One In The Wild
#11
The Ever-Confusing Hymen
Stardust she/her 1 year ago
The hymen is not like one of those freshness seals! It may not even tear even after having sex many times. It can tear from running, stretching etc. Why can’t people just understand this?
Leading social media platforms and online communities have taken steps to de-platform incels and other misogynistic communities, but they are certain to find places to congregate elsewhere. And even so, many of the comments mocked by the /r/NotHowGirlsWork subreddit are found on mainstream platforms like Twitter.
Professor Emezue helped understand the importance of these communities to incels and others, who see them as a respite from what they perceive as unfair treatment by women or society at large: “I believe that these online channels provide a sense of belonging and companionship to many incels who may not have these connections in their daily lives. Young incels on these social media platforms egg each other on. You should expect many will double down on their beliefs and efforts to subjugate women.”
“It's quite uncomplicated really,” Professor Emezue continued. “Nobody wants to lose. And when you allow yourself to be so convinced that others are to blame for your misplacement in society, anything that presents itself as a way out will suffice. In this case, as many boys and men grow hopeless, or feel like they cannot compete in the home, in the workplace, and elsewhere, they must find someone to blame. In this case, incels believe that females, feminism, and 'wokeness' are the culprits.”
#13
Don't Miss Out Your Biology Classes!
#14
Apparently We’re Bonded To Everyone
#15
Yes, Stick It Into My Urethra 😩
#16
Not How Abortions Work
#17
Womens Bodies Aren’t Actually Theirs
#18
I Don’t Think Any Of These People Ever Go Outside
Take me to dinner first 1 year ago
I guess this proves the point that it's not about the clothes
#19
I Need .. I Need... A Mother
#20
"5min Of Continuons Sex"
#21
Women In Their 20’s-30’s = Old Chunky Milk
#22
Attractive Girlfriends Have Literally Thousands Of Other Options And Therefore Won't Stay Faithful Apparently
#23
Of Course Some Men Think They Can Do This Better
#24
This Is Why We Need Sex Ed
#25
Wow, And I Had No Idea
Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger 1 year ago
It's true! I am bisexual and we bisexuals always wear a purse and a backpack at the same time... 🙄
#26
Saw This Gem On Fb Today
#27
Found In The Wild
#28
Vito Barbieri Thinks The Vagina Can Be Accessed By The Mouth? An Old But Good One
#29
Oh Yeah Women Are Only Here To Be The Beautiful Wifes Of Men
#30
Somehow I Just *know* This Boy Needs All Women To Get 2 Or 3 Stitches 😬😆
#31
Women Don't Use Computers
#32
A Groundbreaking Discovery Of Gspot By This Bozo
#33
I Just Don’t Think There’s Any Research Backing That Up
#34
Bro What 😐
Take me to dinner first 1 year ago (edited)
In that case we should give it to the real real gamers, who spend no time streaming anything because they have better things to do
#35
I Have No Words
#36
Women Can’t Be Software Engineers, Apparently
SkyBlueandBlack 1 year ago
Insecurity. Competent women mean more competition for them.
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Natalie Cilla 1 year ago
Slightly off-topic, but Chang-Rae Lee’s Native Speaker is a great book. You go, well-read software engineer 💪
Nadine Bamberger 1 year ago
I'm sorry you weren't smart enough to get that job, now go and find something that better fits your abilities and shut up.
Devil'sAdvocate 1 year ago
sweet... tits.... that's like saying sorry to break it to you baby balls
ferocious freshwater fish 1 year ago
Mr stinky balls must be bitter about the fact, that inferior (/s) women are better at their job than he is
LynzCatastrophe 1 year ago
Try not to insult coders either, you'd be surprised how easy it is to wreck your life. My own skills don't measure up to the people I know but with a few clicks, your life can be completely wrecked. I'd watch who you insult just because you're threatened.
David Shaw 1 year ago
*Clearly* this imbecile has never heard of the ENIAC Six - Betty Holberton, Jean Jennings Bartik, Kay McNulty, Marlyn Wescoff Meltzer, Ruth Lichterman, and Frances Bilas Spence - who basically invented computer programming; or Margaret Hamilton, who led the Software Engineering Division of the MIT Instrumentation Laboratory - you know, the group that wrote all the software for the Apollo programme; or Radia Perlman, who invented the STP protocol, without which the internet would not exist; or Lois Haibt, one of the ten person group at IBM that created FORTRAN - she also, single-handedly, designed and created the world's first syntactic analyser for arithmetical expressions; or Karen Spärck Jones who laid the foundations for modern search engines; or... I could go on and on and on, but I don't want to crash the servers with the amount of data involved.
Elise Steinauer 10 months ago
god so many "not all mens" . . . three things: 1) no sh!t we know that, but good job buddy, im so proud of you for pointing that out! 2) if you aren't doing anything to solve the problem, you are both part of the problem and cannot say "not all men", and 3) well not all sharks will bite you, why do you swim away from every shark you see????
Natalie Holverson 1 year ago
As a female studying to be an electrical engineer, this angers me, lol She's probably smarter than he is 😂
Fiddlediddle2.0 1 year ago
Not the point but that is definitely not a hotel room. Who take several books and storage bins in the closet.
Junebugjump! 1 year ago
And this ladies and gents is why I'm retiring at 62. I cannot take working with douchey tech dudes anymore. I might have to go earlier than that. If they'd just have let us continue to work from home. I struggle to not lose my GD mind.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
Someone's balls are receding right into his body cavern, aren't they?
#37
Another Guy Trying To Downplay Childbirth And Lying Horribly About It
#38
I Love Being A Woman
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Crazy Meerkat Lady 1 year ago
I stopped at number 10. I can't. This is just too cringe and infuriating.
Adam Belaire 1 year ago
I got to 28 before I felt too many brain cells dying.
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Speedgoat 1 year ago
While I agree with that, I don't know if it would save some of these troglodytes.
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Nikki Sevven 1 year ago
"Not all men..." Dude, there should be ANY men like the ones in this article. If you are tolerating them instead of actively weeding them out, you can't say "not all men..." because you're complicit in allowing this subset of men to exist and promulgate their idiocy. Tolerating evil is just as evil as actually being evil.
OmMarol 1 year ago
I agree there shouldn't be any. But then THOSE men that show their idiocy like this are the ones that should be called out. No need to drag us all with them, as if this kind of idiocy was inherent to being male, or as if every other man agreed with the idiots from this list. What I mean is, if a man says a stupid thing, he should be called out for the stupid thing he said, not because of his gender. We could have an article about women saying dumb things too, and we're not gonna label all women as dumb because of 40 examples.
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censorshipsucks 1 year ago
Congratulate me, I made it to 14 before the urge to barf was overwhelmed by me bashing my head against the wall whilst simultaneously facepalming. What f*****g morons.
Daria 1 year ago
How do these people appear in the first place? I mean, they're obviously literate and have access to the Internet and all our knowledge. HOW did they manage to stay so criminally uninformed? 🙈
censorshipsucks 1 year ago
media bubble; they stay in the same FB/reddit group and discuss theories with equally moronic morons.
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XenoMurph 1 year ago
Thanks for putting "misogynist" at the top, and not "men", which sometimes happens. It means a lot that the majority of us are not lumped in with these ignorant a******s.
TMoxraaar 1 year ago
B******t. If the majority of you weren't like this you'd call the others out and they would cut it out in a heartbeat. You just don't want to call out other guys.
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Lana Lana Banana 1 year ago
No lucky stars. Sounds like you're smart and know what's good for you.
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Justine Palvadeau Merceron 1 year ago
Reading that on an already s****y Monday morning was not the smartest move. Made it to 42 and had to stop or I wouldn't be able to write this
censorshipsucks 1 year ago
WOW ... HOW?!? That's incredible. You must be SUPER tolerant , seriously.
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Wysteria_Rose 1 year ago
Ohhh, lord. These people are just walking about free with as much voting power as I have. Ohhh, god...
Bonnie Buttons 1 year ago
I'm thinking of sharing this with my kids when they get older, so we can discuss why all the writers of the original posts are sociopaths.
Pan Narrans 1 year ago
Every time this subject pops up it's 99 percent (lack of) Education Education Education influenced by Religion Religion Religion.
allie 1 year ago
Good god, there are truly some misinformed unfortunately souls out there yeesh
P.A. Yearsley 1 year ago
I keep seeing them say imprint. In my head this dude is dating baby ducks and if he doesn't swoop in early the duck won't imprint him as it's mommy and the relationship will be ruined before it ever begins.
digitalin 1 year ago
I'm curious how common this mindset is. Like, does this level of ignorance and misogyny represent 20% of men, or a vocal .01%?
censorshipsucks 1 year ago
I've met several, sadly. I'd guess about half, based on a small sample size. You can tell in advance by whether they have a harley, a leather jacket, or a copy of anything by Jordan Peterson in their book collection.
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Ivy at Eve 1 year ago
I cling to the hope that these posters are unable to find a partner and thus are removed from the gene pool. What really disgusted me, was that at least one was by a woman... sigh...
SirWriteALot 1 year ago
Oh man, this is bad. Dear girls: you rule the world. If you team up and prevent apes like these to procreate, you'll have saved this planet within a generation. Seriously. This needs to stop.
Laughing Orc 1 year ago
I just can't with these people. Female-identifying pandas, I can't imagine how bloody terrible it must be too be on the receipt of this kind of ideology every single day.
D. Pitbull 1 year ago
... now that I feel rather nauseated... I realize... aaaall these individuals (if this is serious... I"m still finding it hard to believe this is real) - are up for a Darwin Award - we should give each of them one. Please. BIiiiiig ol' Darwin award...
sofacushionfort 1 year ago
These guys could get reincarnated millions of years from now into a world where preying mantises have evolved into the dominant species, and post how unfair it is they get eaten after sex. Some female preying mantis Jordan Petersen will reply how stupid they are not to understand the natural logic of the status quo
total1ty 1 year ago (edited)
As an actual man and not a whiny loser like the 110 or so guys posting up there, I have a few things to say. These boys don't represent all Men. Most of them have probably never had sex. The hatred they direct at all women is probably towards just 1 woman they found attractive and turned them down. They only seem to care about themselves and most of them apparently have never made a woman orgasm, probably because they thought doing what felt good to them should automatically make the women climax too. Lovely ladies, you have options. This is a great list of early warning signs. Boys think with their penises, Men have self control and care about the women they are with. And to the moron who can't find the clit, maybe you're secretly gay, because it's right there on every woman and they enjoy when you touch it gently, just not directly, stay on the hood. Also, there sure were a lot of pedos. I still don't get the shaved vagina intrigue, I prefer a lady with hair down there.
Lana Lana Banana 1 year ago (edited)
As an actual woman this comment doesn't reassure me of much, and for many reasons makes me feel rather uncomfortable...
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censorshipsucks 1 year ago (edited)
You'll be excited to know that I find that many men here in SA are like this. IE stupid misogyny is not specifically a USA disease.
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Catastrophisticate 1 year ago
NO YOU CAN'T and women like you, voting for men with opinions on WOMBS THEY DON'T HAVE, are the reason countries are led by misogynistic, sexist, chauvinistic bigots.
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Crazy Meerkat Lady 1 year ago
I stopped at number 10. I can't. This is just too cringe and infuriating.
Adam Belaire 1 year ago
I got to 28 before I felt too many brain cells dying.
Load More Replies... Speedgoat 1 year ago
While I agree with that, I don't know if it would save some of these troglodytes.
Load More Replies... Nikki Sevven 1 year ago
"Not all men..." Dude, there should be ANY men like the ones in this article. If you are tolerating them instead of actively weeding them out, you can't say "not all men..." because you're complicit in allowing this subset of men to exist and promulgate their idiocy. Tolerating evil is just as evil as actually being evil.
OmMarol 1 year ago
I agree there shouldn't be any. But then THOSE men that show their idiocy like this are the ones that should be called out. No need to drag us all with them, as if this kind of idiocy was inherent to being male, or as if every other man agreed with the idiots from this list. What I mean is, if a man says a stupid thing, he should be called out for the stupid thing he said, not because of his gender. We could have an article about women saying dumb things too, and we're not gonna label all women as dumb because of 40 examples.
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 1 year ago
Congratulate me, I made it to 14 before the urge to barf was overwhelmed by me bashing my head against the wall whilst simultaneously facepalming. What f*****g morons.
Daria 1 year ago
How do these people appear in the first place? I mean, they're obviously literate and have access to the Internet and all our knowledge. HOW did they manage to stay so criminally uninformed? 🙈
censorshipsucks 1 year ago
media bubble; they stay in the same FB/reddit group and discuss theories with equally moronic morons.
Load More Replies... XenoMurph 1 year ago
Thanks for putting "misogynist" at the top, and not "men", which sometimes happens. It means a lot that the majority of us are not lumped in with these ignorant a******s.
TMoxraaar 1 year ago
B******t. If the majority of you weren't like this you'd call the others out and they would cut it out in a heartbeat. You just don't want to call out other guys.
Load More Replies... Lana Lana Banana 1 year ago
No lucky stars. Sounds like you're smart and know what's good for you.
Load More Replies... Justine Palvadeau Merceron 1 year ago
Reading that on an already s****y Monday morning was not the smartest move. Made it to 42 and had to stop or I wouldn't be able to write this
censorshipsucks 1 year ago
WOW ... HOW?!? That's incredible. You must be SUPER tolerant , seriously.
Load More Replies... Wysteria_Rose 1 year ago
Ohhh, lord. These people are just walking about free with as much voting power as I have. Ohhh, god...
Bonnie Buttons 1 year ago
I'm thinking of sharing this with my kids when they get older, so we can discuss why all the writers of the original posts are sociopaths.
Pan Narrans 1 year ago
Every time this subject pops up it's 99 percent (lack of) Education Education Education influenced by Religion Religion Religion.
allie 1 year ago
Good god, there are truly some misinformed unfortunately souls out there yeesh
P.A. Yearsley 1 year ago
I keep seeing them say imprint. In my head this dude is dating baby ducks and if he doesn't swoop in early the duck won't imprint him as it's mommy and the relationship will be ruined before it ever begins.
digitalin 1 year ago
I'm curious how common this mindset is. Like, does this level of ignorance and misogyny represent 20% of men, or a vocal .01%?
censorshipsucks 1 year ago
I've met several, sadly. I'd guess about half, based on a small sample size. You can tell in advance by whether they have a harley, a leather jacket, or a copy of anything by Jordan Peterson in their book collection.
Load More Replies... Ivy at Eve 1 year ago
I cling to the hope that these posters are unable to find a partner and thus are removed from the gene pool. What really disgusted me, was that at least one was by a woman... sigh...
SirWriteALot 1 year ago
Oh man, this is bad. Dear girls: you rule the world. If you team up and prevent apes like these to procreate, you'll have saved this planet within a generation. Seriously. This needs to stop.
Laughing Orc 1 year ago
I just can't with these people. Female-identifying pandas, I can't imagine how bloody terrible it must be too be on the receipt of this kind of ideology every single day.
D. Pitbull 1 year ago
... now that I feel rather nauseated... I realize... aaaall these individuals (if this is serious... I"m still finding it hard to believe this is real) - are up for a Darwin Award - we should give each of them one. Please. BIiiiiig ol' Darwin award...
sofacushionfort 1 year ago
These guys could get reincarnated millions of years from now into a world where preying mantises have evolved into the dominant species, and post how unfair it is they get eaten after sex. Some female preying mantis Jordan Petersen will reply how stupid they are not to understand the natural logic of the status quo
total1ty 1 year ago (edited)
As an actual man and not a whiny loser like the 110 or so guys posting up there, I have a few things to say. These boys don't represent all Men. Most of them have probably never had sex. The hatred they direct at all women is probably towards just 1 woman they found attractive and turned them down. They only seem to care about themselves and most of them apparently have never made a woman orgasm, probably because they thought doing what felt good to them should automatically make the women climax too. Lovely ladies, you have options. This is a great list of early warning signs. Boys think with their penises, Men have self control and care about the women they are with. And to the moron who can't find the clit, maybe you're secretly gay, because it's right there on every woman and they enjoy when you touch it gently, just not directly, stay on the hood. Also, there sure were a lot of pedos. I still don't get the shaved vagina intrigue, I prefer a lady with hair down there.
Lana Lana Banana 1 year ago (edited)
As an actual woman this comment doesn't reassure me of much, and for many reasons makes me feel rather uncomfortable...
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 1 year ago (edited)
You'll be excited to know that I find that many men here in SA are like this. IE stupid misogyny is not specifically a USA disease.
Load More Replies... Catastrophisticate 1 year ago
NO YOU CAN'T and women like you, voting for men with opinions on WOMBS THEY DON'T HAVE, are the reason countries are led by misogynistic, sexist, chauvinistic bigots.
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