They actually do.

The right guy looks like we could bake muffins together dressed in funny pyjamas. I'll date him.

Looks do matter but not everyone is attracted to the same thing.

I've dated both "looks", the personality is what makes a difference.

Well I'm in my 40s so dude on the left looks way too young. Guy on the right is probably stable and can DM a killer D&D sesh. Definitely guy on the right.

I can imagine the one on the right to be a man that, while not being perfect, strives to have a happy home life. Would not mind spending a date night just lounging in pajama's in front of the tv with pizza. The one on the left looks like he will spend all his free time just rushing to the gym and wanting everybody to look perfect at all times. Putting the bar higher and higher.

if we use the variable of "these two men have passed kindergarten and are not stupid @55h0l35", then yea basically (then again identical isn't the word cuz of things like interests and differing personalities)

And your point is???? If you can't have a decent conversation or enjoy the same experiences, looking like a model won't help. Who wants a man who will spend the rest of his life trying to look like he's still in his 20's? Chances are one who does will ACT like he's still 20.

I don't understand that virtue-signalling thing.

Somebody's mom needs to stop telling them they have a good personality.

I would choose the second man for the first one is a pretty boy who is probably vain. Not always but more likely than not.. I was married to my 6'4 large bearlike husband for 37 years. He was and always will be the love of my life.. I lost him in January of 2024. He was kind loving generous and very fun

Of course! If the man on the left has horrible personality, he'll have a long list of First dates, but never get to second base. If the man on the right has a lovely personality, he'll be on many dates with the same person, and soon getting married to a lovely woman. The guy on the left looks like people on Bachelor, unable to find The One, and the guy on the right looks like many I know who are happily married to lovely, charming wives. You might call it "settling", while I call it "happily ever after".

Dude on the right doesn't need to post half naked frat boy pictures. That's a plus.

I‘d rather have the right one, if his personality is like, say, Jack Black for instance. And if the left one is like Andrew Tate, then hell no

We can't help who we find attractive and good looking. Just like we can't help who we find unattractive and not good looking. Everyone is allowed to think another person is ugly or pretty. I do not think the man on the right is attractive and there's nothing wrong with that.

Facts.

Virtue signaling = "I've totally lost the argument, so you must go hide yourself."

This sh*t drives me crazy. If the guy on the right is clean, has a job, isn't living with his mommy and he's kind-- all of which are completely reasonable requests of a romantic partner, male or female-- he probably has an even better shot because there are more options open to him. It's highly doubtful that the guy on the left will never be seen with a woman who is over 150-200 pounds or isn't as attractive. He's statistically looking for models or other attractive women. And that's fine. He works hard on how he looks and he wants someone who does, too. It's totally fine to want that out of a partner if you're also bringing that to the table. You aren't required to be attracted to anyone. But I love that many men-- who judge women based on looks literally all the time-- say that women only go for good looking guys while simultaneously being a guy who only goes for attractive women is irony in its worst form.

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It depends how much they earn.