Is this even worth a comment? I hope he's her ex-fiance and still alive, because he isn't worth going to prison over.

All I can say is "Dump him". That's all anyone can say.

This is close, but I'm still waiting for "AITA for bleeding on the floor after my vicious boyfriend stabbed me multiple times?"

Please, don't marry this jerk he's showing you who he really is. Good luck.

This relationship needs to be ended right now. This guy is insane and it's only going to get worse. She needs to change the locks, throw out his stuff, and file for a restraining order. She also needs to tell her employer what happened and if necessary get law enforcement involved.

We had a case similar to this. The author of the work ended up suing for damages, which was awarded.

He's a garbage human, has no respect or consideration for her whatsoever. He's destructive, abusive, and gaslighting her already, trying to convince her that she deserved to have her hard work taken away because she didn't perform as he demanded. There's nothing that excuses his behavior. He's completely irrational. I saw her one comment to a person about his family's level of social expectations and that doesn't make it any less his responsibility for his own behavior. I'm not sure she's at her breaking point but she needs to GTFO ASAP, he's a sad man who thinks of her as nothing but property and less than a equal human being sharing a life with him. His negative behavior will only escalate if she lets him come back.

Wow. He is so insecure he can't just go, and say "yeah, she couldn't come she had a work deadline" and enjoy the party? I get missing your SO and wishing they were there to enjoy the party, but that is SO different then going on about how it made you look bad. And no, you don't "get even" like he tried to.

Reset is good. Delete that fiancé immediately. Worst kind of spam.

All I can say is VULNERABLE NARCISSISM HOLY none of these comments seem to mention that his behavior is literally that of a covert narcissist.

Whenever you get the "you made me do this" justification, it's time to _run_. At some point this will escalate to him physically assaulting her and blaming her for "making" him do it. I would also speak to company to see if they can bring charges against him. Or she to seek legal counsel over a personal civil suit against him for lost time and potential wages from promotion depending on how strong the case for promo would be had the project been done/presented/accepted. Depending on the time and how long the notebook was idle, the company may have auto backup software and it may have backed up _some_ version of the project.

Oh girl get out NOW.

He is eventually going to lock her up or hit her while saying "Now look what you made me do".

This sounds like an example of red flag behaviour from the subject of a true crime documentary. End the relationship, now. Just staying with him, let alone marrying him, is extremely dangerous and will destroy your life.

This relationship ended when this child gave her grief for not going to a party. OP is not just arm candy. She's obviously intelligent and motivated. Child's destruction of her work was a tantrum and was unacceptable.

Anna, I'm 69 and have been through hell due to picking the wrong man. I'm a fixer and the queen of denial. YOU MUST GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP NOW!! You are lucky he showed his true colors now and not after the IDo's. He will sabotage you at every turn. Then it will get really ugly. I don't care if he's a gazillionaire, GET OUT. You have a career that seems to inspire you, or you wouldn't put so much of yourself into it, so get your promotion and reap YOUR rewards. There's a ton of fish in the sea sweetie.

How does she not understand what the actual problem is? Someone who deliberately destroys your personal property/intellectual output, and is unapologetic about doing so, because you didn't go to a party with them... run. Run faster than running. While they are in the hotel, pack your things and leave. But it's probably not going to happen in this case.

If you have to ask, you probably shouldn't be in that relationship, to begin with.

OMG get out Now!! This guy is borderline dangerously psychotic. Please please heed everyone's warnings and save yourself! GET AS FAR AWAY FROM HIM AS POSSIBLE. You're def NOT the ah. He is narcissistic, immature and WAAAY too controlling anyone who would do something that malicious needs to be in therapy. Omg

I hope she ended this abusive relationship . It will only get worse!

NTA Besides all of the good advice your getting from everyone, also make sure he doesn't have any code, pins, or passwords to any of your accounts and not just the ones on line either. If he does change them immediately. After what he did to all your hard work to get ahead, it wouldn't be beyond him to take money to pay for the motel. His weird reasoning would be you started all of it with the birthday party and the mean hurtful things you said made him move to the motel. If it gets bad get a protect order against him.

Don’t forget the restraining order after changing all the locks. Good idea contacting the IT department.

Wow hope she dumps him. That guy is a class A loser

Do NOT marry this man. There is more of this BS in store for you if you do.

I'm always glad when these say fiancé and not husband/wife, much easier to run for the hills.

Lol I frickin love the first comment. "You spelled ex-fiance incorrectly". Yes she did. I really hope she's safe and that she broke up with him. That's abusive behavior and tons of red flags from him. She is SO NTA.

Why is she still his fiance? Dump that guy pronto! This isn't a one-off. If he does this crap now he'll do it again every time he doesn't get his way.

If she stops for a moment and reflects on their relationship she will see many many red flags already flying furiously warning her that this episode was coming.

If this story is accurate I say, What a d**k, and a terrible person, the fiancé is. As other have written I hope that the guy is the ex-fiancé.

Show him your back and run as fast as your legs will carry you. He's not merely an a*****e, he's sociopath - very dangerous.

Run. Do not walk. Get this guy in your tail lights ASAP. Your fiance has come to believe he's entitled to harm people ( you) when it suits him. This WON'T change. Personality disorders of this type are rarely fixable. He'll eventually abuse your family, your friendships, your children if you stay in this. Secure your personal finances immediately- YES, he WILL take your $$ if he sees fit. I'm not smarter, more spiritual, stronger than you Kid. I'm simply old & I've lived this sh*t. There are worse things than being alone.

Move on asap! He is a narcissistic abusive human and this is clear message. DO NOT let him gaslight you. This is not a*****e behavior, this is abuse and should not be tolerated. Change the locks and get a restraining order if needed. Honestly, this is like watching a train wreck! You may need to get some counseling to try to determine why you are willing to be engaged to a person like this exclamation?!! I should know I’ve been there and done that, 23 years of my life, three children with damage to them. Many years of counseling for myself, but I know that leaving was the best thing that I ever did! It’s too easy to get sucked in by a narcissistic abusive person. Trust your instincts and do not let this go any further. good luck!

Research narcissism

Please tell me you called it off! Anyone who does a move like that then blames you for HIS actions is not worth it. Also agree with other commenters. Sounds like he just sees you as a trophy to show off

You cannot marry this person. Period. Done.

I would tell all those " friends" just what he did, how good of an image will he have when it's that of a 3 year old child