Trust me, Im young unattractive woman and people have no desire to talk to me either. Hoped that with age Im gonna care less but even though Im not thinking about it as often, it still hurts. Always being overlooked, ignored, the one which doesn´t get invited anywhere...

Finally someone with perspective instead of rose coloured glasses. I am average and middle aged. The pretty women get the attention

Men won't even Look at me. In a normal, everyday setting. I'm a very open, friendly person. I talk to people just because they're there because I enjoy talking to people, listening to them. But I've noticed (and it gets worse the older I get) Men won't even Look at me. If I try to be friendly, at work, in a line, in a store, in a social setting...the moment I look at them, they look away-as if they're terrified if they make eye contact, I'll turn into some crazy who will jump them. It's both weird, disconcerting and depressing. Men are the most shallow creatures on the planet. If they don't think you're pretty or they don't have a Use for you (as in sex) they want to pretend you don't exist. I am not overweight, I'm in good shape, have an interesting life, well traveled and educated. I don't think about this all the time, or let it ruin my life, but some days, I just with I had some one to share my life with. And unless I get a fortune in plastic surgery I don't see it happening

That's what I always say too. Personality only matters after you're pretty enough to at least get people interested in the first place. Sure, nobody likes an a*****e, no matter how beautiful... but it doesn't matter how fun and nice one might be if nobody even looks their way either. Not to mention it's obviously easier to be fun and outgoing when you're pretty - getting praised and accepted everywhere definitely makes it easier to be easygoing than to be constantly dismissed, ignored and rejected.

So right - when you're "plain" (a nice, old-fashioned way of saying ugly), nobody is interested in noticing you. I'm ugly and middle-aged, having been plain all my life. When I was younger, sex in the dark was a lure for some guys - they didn't hang around in the morning, for sure. I managed to fluke a relationship with a nice guy who gave me a lift home (a four hour drive) after the person I had travelled to a party with found someone better-looking and took off, leaving me stranded. Over the drive, this nice fella and I talked and laughed a lot. We started a relationship a few weeks later after many phone calls and laughter. He and I married two years later, my physical attraction was not an issue for him. Flash forward 31 years of happy marriage, he died. I have not been spoken to in a personal way by a man in the past six years since - it appears I have become invisible again.

Ugh, same. It makes me sad.

I'm reading your comment Jo and those replying to you and I see so many women disheartened and it breaks my heart. There are so many amazing people out there in the world who want to get to know people just like you - and I hate that the bad ones have gotten to you first. Part of the problem is that being treated like that over and over again means that our confidence takes a dive. Take some time to rebuild your confidence, learn who you are, learn to love yourself (yes I know how cliche that sounds) and then you will be able to dismiss those unworthy of your time much easier. I'm speaking from experience.

What works with most people is to first let them talk. That not only gives them a positive impression of you, it helps you get to know them.

This. What this guy said was lovely and all, but it only applies if there's an initial attraction.

I was a lovely young woman, some even said beautiful. Then I became middle aged and now am pushing my 70th decade. I spent hundreds of dollars on beauty concoctions, potions to stop aging, etc. I still look damn good for my age. Years younger. I have kept up with the world, know my tech, and am a 'cool' person. But men look right through me. Years ago they would look and linger and try to engage in conversation. No more. They see my smiling face but look away or look thru me as if I were invisible. There is no opportunity to 'get to know' anyone ... just doesn't happen. No matter what the age of the man, I don't exist. My age has made me invisible.

I'm a guy in my early 30s and I have no interest in talking to beautiful women, in fact the more beautiful the more extreme my reaction. I actually try to avoid them. Due to some heart breaks that happened to me during my teen years. Now if I see a good looking woman, I immediately presume that she has a crappy attitude and will avoid her. I think alot of guys feel that way. That's why average looking women get the majority of men who hit on them or pursue them. When the average man sees a gorgeous woman he immediately presumes A) She has no interest in talking to him, B) She has a boyfriend or C) A combination of both and will be extremely uptight and rude about the interaction. The sad thing is that men are almost always correct about all 3 of those points.

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Sadly, there is a good reason why men often won't talk to you, attractive or otherwise. We live in a society that now equates saying hello to a woman as "Cat calling". Don't believe me, review some of the walking around videos they did regarding unwanted attention and you'll see guys that did little more than say hi being lumped in with the guys who say inappropriate things. You have movie stars terrified of being one of "those" guys ffs. The only safe thing to do is to not talk to anyone unless there is a specific reason to do so. And no, you can't just drop a "sign" and expect men to pick up on it because they have been trained that a sign from some means nothing from another. You need to use your words and be clear ... and be ready for rejection just as men have endured for the last century of so of dating. Sorry ladies, the ball is now in your court because some ladies that oft as not don't even like men have picked it up and you have to deal with the consequences.

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If you don't have looks you have to have game.