Nobody’s an island—we need other people not only to survive but also to thrive. On top of that, loneliness and isolation have thoroughly negative impacts on our health. So it makes sense that we want and need active social lives and the respect of our peers. That’s why many people copy what others do in order to conform with the crowd and create relationships with others.
However, just because everyone’s doing something doesn’t mean that it’s right for you or even the ethically right thing to do. Reddit user u/avaspark started up an interesting conversation when they asked everyone to share the things that society normalizes, but that they absolutely refuse to do. Scroll down to see what these internet users had to say.
We reached out to the author of the thread, redditor u/avaspark, and they were kind enough to share their thoughts on the topic. You'll find Bored Panda's interview with them below.
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Influencers. I have a hard time articulating the depth of their collective uselesness.
I'm Gen X and really struggle with these "Influencers". Maybe it's my age? (apologies if that offends anyone. I know how sensitive some folk are these days and would be mortified to cause any offense).
I'm a Millennial and think that most Influencers are just vapid and entitled.
Load More Replies...Companies realised instead of dpending tons on real ad campaigns, they could throw some freebies toward some random wanna be and they could get their products marketed. Bonus, because all the pesky " paid endorsement" rules dont apply, so most people dont resluse the brand they are pushing has paid them. On the flip side, influencers think, oh i prmote you, you give me free stuff, right ?
Load More Replies...They are destructive and disruptive beyond anything that can be believed.
Yup, give some entitled, selfish brat some of your merch and get free "word of mouth" advertising
Load More Replies...Exactly my thoughts. Who exactly are they "influencing"?
Load More Replies...Social media influencers are the same thing as an advertisement model you’d see in commercials or printed/online ads. The difference is they decide to promote themselves much more rather than relying on an agent to get them work.
According to the author of the thread, what made them ask the question on Reddit was how out of place they felt in society as a whole. "The thing that inspired me to create the thread was due to how much I feel left out from the society," they told Bored Panda.
The redditor explained their position that even though society has created a "way of living" that's commonly accepted by most people, there will always be some aspects of it that individuals refuse.
"So I began to think if there would be anybody who felt as much left out as I did," they said.
Child beauty pagents
Ironically the Christian hypocrites have no problem with this. And guess who's judging these?! Old men mainly Christians who tend to be pedophile
"Hi we are here to take your child into care, because you signed up her for pagents"
The destroyer of children's self-esteem, nothing says you are only worthy if you are pretty - and artificially so.
Going to work while sick. If I’m sick with something contagious I’m staying home period.
Fully paid sick days should be the norm. They should also be mandatory for contagious illnesses.
At my old job, we had plenty of paid sick days. The issue was a nasty boss who would give you so much c**p, literally, for not working. I remember one time, I and a few others called out of a stomach virus. She was pissed off because she worked the day before while sick with diarrhea, so why can't us younger women still work. So, she obviously gave it to all of us. Plus. We worked with ELDERLY patients, while she sat in the back in an office and could come and go to the bathroom as she pleased.
Yes. Many companies have changed vacation and sick time to one standard call paid time off (PTO). So, if you use your PTO for being sick, you are cutting into your vacation time or holidays you want off. Had a manager who showed his dedication by coming in sick. Next month most of the management staff had to call in.
Load More Replies...Some can't afford to, I knew people that went to work with covid because of no sick pay and wouldn't keep up with bills if they were off work.
Wich is absolutely b******t. One shouldn't be forced to go to work when sick
Load More Replies...USA needs to change that mentality! Do better, USA, give people liberal sick time. If you don't trust them to use it properly then why are you employing them?
US here. Companies tend to be too short sighted, only focusing on the lost productivity for that day or week. It seems like they only rarely think long term.
Load More Replies...It took me literal years to train my employees to call out when they were contagious. If they did come in and were obviously sick, I would send them straight home. Apparently, no boss had ever told them to call out before. (We had unlimited paid sick days, so sending them home did not impact their paycheck.)
I admire you sir . All the ppl Mut be think like that . I really admire you
Load More Replies...I had a job in quick serve where I was forced to run an entire shift from the bathroom. I gave my keys to my top employee and told her to call me if she needed anything. I ended up at urgent care after my shift with an IV for dehydration. I sent a picture to my boss... they didn't care.
I worked a job with an hour commute both ways. I had a bad case of diarrhea, but my boss doubted me and said I "needed" to come in no matter what. I informed him that I would have to get some adult diapers to make it in and I would happily leave the used ones on his desk as proof. For some reason, he didn't "need" me to come in after all. Put in my two week notice the next day.
Load More Replies...Pandemic brought a significant improvement here. Before that you were expected to come to work no matter. A flu what was considered a "minor" inconvenient (regardless of the cough, fever, headache etc.) and not an excuse to get a day off.
Sitting here with COVID. It took 5 days to show a positive test from first having flu symptoms. I didn't go to work this week.
In the author's opinion, it's precisely because there are some individuals who don't conform to social norms that they're pressured to do so. The more they don't conform, the greater this pressure will probably be.
Meanwhile, Bored Panda was curious to get the OP's thoughts on marriage, something that they mentioned in their post they refuse to accept, even though it's normalized in society.
"From my perspective, some people frown on others who don't want to get married because of the differences in personal opinion and preferences. Some people might think marriage is beneficial, some might not," they said.
Going into debt for a wedding. I do like marriage even if the benefits are next to nothing these days but the normalization of a $20-$30k wedding in America is ridiculous. We just went to the court house and had a small party afterwards. No need to spend all that cash just to start your life together in debt
Our backyard potluck wedding with compostable plates/cutlery was beautiful and perfect, right down to our bare feet :) And no gifts please! We already had/have everything we want/need.
I officiated a wedding where the entire wedding walked down the street until we found a small park. Ten minutes later we were headed to the reception - even though it was being interpreted (one of the grooms was Deaf - I was signing).
Load More Replies...I don't get this. Like, you spend months planning to have one lavish party that will cost fortune and you probably won't enjoy it because you're going to be nervous that something might go wrong.
Got married on a sidewalk outside a coffee shop by a friend who got ordained online. 100% free wedding. No regrets.
My wife and I spent maybe $100-$200 on our wedding. The most expensive thing was her dress at around $800 but her mother paid for that. Granted, not everyone has that option, but, like my wife has said numerous times, it's only a day. What you do with the days, weeks, years and decades after is what counts.
One of the best weddings I ever went to was a small registry office ceremony followed by going back to the brides mothers house, beautiful sunny day, all told to bring drinks not gifts and the food was typical Brit buffet, sandwiches, sausage rolls etc and a silent disco so the neighbours weren’t disturbed too much, I can’t remember have laughed so much that my face hurt, wonderful day
My wedding cost maybe $5k. Rings, dresses, tuxes, venue, DJ, catering, and booze included. Took a while to save the cash for it but it was worth it.
Once I heard that wedding should be expansive and huge hustle, just to make you not wanting to do it again :)
Ideally, your spouse should fulfill that role. You either love 'em so much that you truly don't ever need to get married again... or you get so jaded that you run from the prospect at warp speed.
Load More Replies...I rented a pavilion at a state park near the playground. That way, the kids could play, we got an outdoor wedding and it was all very lovely. Hired a justice of the peace, too. The more you spend, the higher rate of divorce. That’s what statistics say. Well duh. Who wants to start married life at that price when you could’ve had a down payment on something longer lasting than a single day of luxury?
I got married in my 40s. I was an established professional and a home-owner. I paid for our wedding; we had a nice formal ceremony. Since we needed nothing, we put out the word that $ would be the best present. After totaling all costs of the wedding, against the presents we received, we CAME OUT AHEAD about $300 on our wedding.
Plastering your life on social media
Especially your kids. I had a friend of a friend posting daily updates what her kids was wearing that day. Put them up against a wall for a photo and explaining what different brands the clothes were. It was weird.
I'd say, more like "Plastering your life all over social media and then complaining when it turns out the companies that own it collect (and leak or even deliberately sell) your data"
Or use that information or pictures directly against you. Posting location in realtime and wondering how the burglars knew you weren't home. Posting NSFW pictures over the weekend and wondering why HR wants to talk to you on Monday.
Load More Replies...While I love being able to see my friends’ families, because they’re just trying to share their lives with people they may not see in person often, I’ve seen enough videos of how easy it is to be able to manipulate videos and photos to be exploited in porňographic material. It’s absolutely disgusting that people have turned something innocent into a dangerous online hellscape.
Teens seem to believe bad things only happen to other people. They put so much information out there it is scary. Parents of teens are bloody lazy and don't monitor their children, which makes the kids easy pickings for sick freaks.
You are so very correct sadly...I see this too all the time.
Load More Replies...Agree. Again I feel it's a generational thing. It's not something I would want to do.
“Life” is the word here. Mostly it is not their actual life. Those exotic vacation pics are shot in a friends backyard with a pool and a palm tree in the suburbs of Tallahassee
There comes a point in your life where you crave privacy. Where there are parts of your life you just want to keep for yourself, or yourself and your SO. Know what I mean? It’s easier to do if you didn’t always over share—-to people who really don’t give a fat rat’s a*s what you do anyway.
Hustle 26 hours a day, grind to be successful, etc.
I just wanna do my job I enjoy, come home for dinner, play with my dogs, listen to music and sleep.
YOU can be the billionaire. I'm good where I am brah.
My nana always said “work to live, don’t live to work” and she was right, follow me for more nanna tips
Stop glorifying this - it is NOT good work ethic, You are donating your life to a company that will replace you in 5-7 days if you die.
I'm semi retired, so I have quite a bit of free time. I do a lot of craft-embroidery, cross stitch, needle felting and wet felting. As soon as I mention hobbies, the reaction from so many people is 'you should sell it!" and then tell me about renting stalls at craft fairs and farmers markets, or selling online. I do it because I enjoy it and its relaxing. I'm pretty good (except wet felting, that's a relatively new one so I'm still learning), so I've given things away as presents or donated items for charity auctions, but I'm not in it to make money, I don't want to sell it. I don't want to hustle at a market stall, I just want to play in my craft room and see what appears.
You should sell it! Away from friends and family though! I am 60 now...back in my early 20's I was into painting the backs of jean jackets, doing glass etching on car windows, and doing 4x4 foot recreations of album covers with oil paint. Oh yea my friends loved my work...did it for free for them, then friends of friends came along, and of course did it almost for free (expenses for paint I'd charge) BUT then friend of friends of friends.....and I started charging...and my work stopped. BUT my stuff was on request, not just me doing my own thing. Hated when people thought I would put hours of work into something for FREE. Collect up your stash of artwork, then post it on EBAY or something. Cross stitch never had the patience to learn, but there is some beautiful cross stich out there selling for a nice $. Best of luck to you! :)
Load More Replies...I don't want to be a billionaire but a millionaire would be cool. I would have my car and house paid off. I could actually afford a hoilday. I am not greedy. Not like 100m. Just 1-2 would be fine. (USD).
Almost nobody becomes a millionaire by working hard.
Load More Replies...I think this is largely influenced by the media. In older days, rich people were portrayed as eccentric and a bit odd and sometimes greedy, but nowadays, being rich is portrayed as the norm and idealized.
None of the billionaires got there by hard work alone. They were either old money or had very well connected millionaire parents. So if you don't have that you can work yourself to death and never be one
This is wildly false. It took most of them a lot of hard work, but they generally have had ingenious ideas or the intelligence to make something work when others couldn't. This is especially the case in tech (Gates, Zuckerberg, Jobs, Musk, etc.). Feel free to hate the rich for having more than you, but at least do so honestly.
Load More Replies...So true. I used to think of schedules as stressful and prefer to just go with the flow, and then I realized you can put relaxing on your schedule too, and a well-rounded schedule creates predictability and actually minimizes stress.
Load More Replies...Interesting fact: according to Forbes.com, 30% of billionaires work 60 hrs/wk, and 30% work more than 60 hrs/wk. Obviously, not all are like Musk, working 85-100 hrs/wk, but most are working far more than the average American. People want to work less hours, be employed by someone else, not climb the ladder but stay on the bottom rung, and still be wealthy. That's just not how it works.
"The numbers of opinion also play a part in this. The opinion with the majority of votes will influence what it is that the society defines as a norm/acceptable. Meanwhile, opinions with a minority of votes will be defined otherwise by society," u/avaspark said that it's this contradiction in opinions that will cause friction and judgment of people's choices.
"In addition, not every norm is acceptable and not everything acceptable is a norm. If anyone out there feel like they are missing out or being left out or not belong to the society, at least they know it's not a must," they said.
Social disconnection is as bad for your health as smoking 15 cigarettes per day, and many are now worried that there is an epidemic of loneliness in the United States. However, it’s not just people’s physical and mental health that suffers—this social isolation has economic impacts, too.
Worshipping people, I don't really get the concept of looking up at actors, politicians religious figures or "influencers", just feels wrong, and 99.9% of the times, this "figures" end up being s**t
What I don't get is why people like Andrew Tate are always in the trending. Like, he's a bad guy, let's not pay him attention, let's move on.
He appeals to the worst instincts of certain stupid, useless people by telling them it's not their fault they're stupid and useless; it's the fault of everyone *except* them. Same tactic the far right always uses.
Load More Replies...Dolly Parton is an international treasure and I will hear no arguments to the contrary. (Seriously, she's an incredibly charitable lady, look up Dolly Parton's Imagination Library, which has gone international.)
Worship, no,... BUT admire and respect - yes
Load More Replies...Worshipping sportspeople too. It's been around for millennia, but I've never understood it.
I think this should have some limits. One thing is liking an actor, painter, comedian, scientist, sportsman,... basically anybody with some skill and wanting to see what this person will do next. But when you get obsessed with this person to the point where you watch their every move, you know where they live, do they live with and what is their shoesize is crazy.
Load More Replies...The politician thing is mind blowing to me. They are public servants. Presidents have a huge reach so to some extent I kind of understand, but senators and congressmen? WTF? I don't get all giddy because I have county recorder Gary doing the city books. Personally I think the only reason I know most of these folks names is they are acting despicably. They are famous because they deserve to be publicly horsewhipped.
Worship is a word that is not part of my vocabulary, along with sin. Invalid concepts.
I like certain celebrities and singers, but I don't get the whole religiously following and worshipping them, and even defending them when they do something wrong.
Filming and photographing everything I do or experience and putting it online for attention from family and strangers.
"Today I hav a lovely unique breakfast, handcrafted in the Swiss alps...." /s
Load More Replies...Why do you care what other people do and who are you to judge their self-esteem because they post on social media? Lots of holier than thou people on this thread. And no, I don't post my entire life on social media, but I don't give AF if others do.
Exactly. If you don’t give AF (which I don’t blame you bc I don’t give AF) then just don’t be on social. I’m not. And this is exactly why. I don’t want to see your pics. They are for you, really. Not for me. I don’t care. If you text me them I have to pretend to care. Maybe I actually truly like a pic you send me once in a blue moon. But I don’t need to see your meals your animals. Your kids. Yourself. Frequently without anything of importance in it. If you shaved half your head off, yes send it to me. If your dog just did a triple flip in the air, sure I wanna see it (once).
Load More Replies...My wife went through the photographing food phase, i had no problem with her doing it to her food, but she would try to photograph mine, I stopped this by instantly eating it once it hit the table.
To quote the song "STFU" by neck deep: "all the self-gratification's more like public masturbation swear to God you'd cut you face off for an ounce of validation"
nothing makes me more happy than to see a pretty and yummy meal picture pass by on my FB.Oh and i LOOOOVE sharing my travel adventures and pictures on FB. Its the same as showing your holiday pictures to friends and families before social media. And also I LOOOOOOVE seeing my friends and families pictures of their holiday. One will only post pictures of bars and beers and others will only post pictures of beaches and i love everything.
Totally normal. And if you want to post it. That’s fine too. Your content is your content. No one else sound care about your content. But this also mean that you can’t care when no one else cares about your food. I take pics of my food too. Bc I like to. I keep it. On my Phone. It pretty much goes no where bc I’m not on social. If I made a dish someone told me to make, I may send it to them and say look I made it. Thank you. People can do Whatever they want. Take the pics they like To take. Share what they wanna share. But if you’re someone that doesn’t wanna look at it constantly then that’s when you don’t go On social media then.
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Tiktok
TikTok has been proven, time and time again, to collect data and send it to the state-controlled companies in China. Hundreds of millions of people use the app and it’s just an ever-growing resource of potential espionage material for the government. But then again, it’s likely that almost all social media does the same thing.
They just got hit with a 345 million Euro fine for not adhering to the EU privacy laws.
Load More Replies...Ugh I tried to hate it, but honestly it nice to turn the brain off sometimes and just go into a tiktok hole.
Because it exists for China’s version of the CIA to collect data on foreign citizens. This is why both of the last two presidential administrations have had the US government look into it. Had TikTok been a British creation, SIS & GCHQ would have directed the UK government to ban or heavily limit it. It’s in direct violation of several articles of the EU charter. But as a narcissistic social distraction, it has more value to society than personal protections. https://www.vox.com/open-sourced/2019/12/16/21013048/tiktok-china-national-security-investigation
Exactly. It is a highly intrusive data gathering tool, operated by a part of the Chinese Communist Party. By using TikTok you've agreed to send all your unencrypted data to China. Including data from other apps and from your device even if you're not using TikTok
Load More Replies...there actually is a lot of good content on tiktok.....recipes, places recommended by locals, dance groups, etc
There's some generally interesting content on TikTok if you know where to look.
“🎵He sees you when you’re sleeping, he knows when you’re awake. He’s president Xi Jiangping of China and he’s seen you twerk to Drake🎵”
For example, Forbes points out that disconnection costs businesses $154 billion per year due to productivity loss. So there are both humanitarian and utilitarian reasons to encourage people to connect with others and develop deep, meaningful relationships.
However, it’s important to find balance in your connections with others. If you simply copy everything that your social circle does—from values and attitudes to style, body language, and life choices—you might feel like you’re losing your sense of self.
Religion/teaching my kids to be religious. I live in the Bible Belt so when I tell people I'm not religious nor plan to teach my children to be religious they always look at me like I told them I beat my kids with a metal bar.
Meanwhile, they probably beat their own kids just the same. Indoctrination just leads to mental health problems later in life, and anyway, kids naturally develop an aversion to anything pushed upon them against their will. If they will be religious, let it happen naturally. It is a personal choice, and your kids should not have to think and live exactly like you do. Leave them be.
Exactly. That’s how my family is. My mom wasn’t raised religious, and now can’t imagine her life without it. I was, and didn’t really accept it until a few years ago and now can’t imagine my life without it. My brother is too little to really know yet, and my dad was raised religious and isn’t anymore
Load More Replies...This depends a lot on where you live but religion is never a simple matter. In the US bible belt, they may see atheists as ignorant people who are too stupid to accept big Jeepers as their Lord and saviour. In Northern Europe, we see religious people as fools who believe in fairy tales. I pity the fools.
@Adam Silvernail, Santa and God are different. Children do believe in fairytales, however they eventually gain the knowledge (hopefully) to be able to discern from stories and reality
Load More Replies...Did you know that I was raised in a cult? It`s called the catholic church
Load More Replies...They are the worst of all humans it's disgusting how evil hypocrites they are. Churches get away with so much pedophilia and the fuking idiots who go e them $$$$$$ and these cults don't pay property taxes!!!!! Pro birthers trash!!
There is a big case here in Poland right now involving a priest who was hosting orgies. He claims it's not a big deal, and media is blowing this out of proportion because he's a priest. It's kind of sad to see he doesn't see how and why he's in the wrong...
Load More Replies...I’m mildly religious at best, but attend church regularly because I love the community. It’s a chance to get an hour of peace every week and see people I wouldn’t see otherwise. I’ve told my daughters that I’ll never force them to go (and never have) and I want them to make up their own minds about what they believe, if anything.
If you wouldn't see them otherwise, that kinda says something about the people you go to see.
Load More Replies...Gods were never representations of the best of humanity. It's actually a fairly new concept. Just take a look at zeus and Apollo . Did I mention Poseidon had sex with horse or sheep ( can't remember) and somehow made a child with them?
Load More Replies...Use to have a really religious person live near by. When my daughter was born she asked if when we were getting her baptized. Me and my wife are not religious and said we were not. She was shocked and said "But how will God know her name." She looked even more shocked when I replied "If God is so powerful he should already know her name."
My parents forced their religion upon me, which made me believe in it even less... I'm only 13 so I cannot give the best parenting advice, but I'd say being open about both religion and atheism and letting your child choose which one suits them is the best way to go.
I just give them verses from the dark bible website and ask them which verse they agree with. I like this one: Deuteronomy 21:18-21 -problem child? just stone him to death.
Using punctuation and proper spelling on text messages or chat applications. I don't care if you don't do it, I will still write my text properly.
Edit: I meant to say, it is now normalized to NOT using punctuation and proper spelling.
I’m petty enough to refuse to answer people if they don’t use reasonable grammar and punctuation. I can understand trying to use abbreviations like lol and stuff, but the amount of run-on sentences and misspellings (their, they’re, there) drives me mad.
I abbreviate things, but I still use commas and I spell things correctly. I don’t use periods though
Load More Replies...Seriously, we don't pay by the character anymore. Spell and punctuate what you are typing. Everyone will be grateful.
Whaddyamean., never,,, have I used bad grammar? Punctuation is: "everything' . Me fail english? That's unpossible.
Some are so poorly written its almost impossible to understand what they're saying.
A person once asked me "Why are you being so formal?" due to my usage of proper spelling and punctuation in chat :D
Guilty as charged, but I still try to use proper punctuation when I am feeling particularly un-lazy. 😂
😁 I only use proper spelling and punctuation. I'm just too lazy for for the capital letters except for the first in a sentence (and for names) bc my phone does that on its own 😅🙈 the rest 😝 we just have too many "capital" words in German 🤣😇 Edit: nevertheless I also make mistakes. Like pointed out in this case it's its not it's 😅😇
Load More Replies...It was drilled into me in 8th grade to always proof read before turning something in. I just can't break that habit. It's been a long time since school but, I always try to get the commas correct. Anymore, I just put them in where I think they should go. I can't stand those run on sentences, they can change the whole meaning sometimes. At least use periods people. Trying to read something with no periods just drives me nuts.
The only time I really use improper spelling, or shortened word/phrases (like NGL, LOL, or SMH) is when communicating with my friends and family, and sometimes texting my co-workers. I have this force of habit where I try to type things out with proper punctuation or spelling in general discussions, probably because I reply to emails most of the day.
Sketched on eyebrows and bee sting lips... ugh.
I only hear half of what women with airbrushed eyebrows say. To me those things are even more distracting than spinach between teeth.
One of my colleagues has tattoo eyebrows and they look fantastic. Very natural. Her eyebrows fell out about 2 years ago, possibly stress.
This is completely understandable and acceptable, I would respect them for this.
Load More Replies...Always makes me think they've performed a crude act on a vacuum cleaner
Load More Replies...I'm mixed race and when I was at primary and secondary school in the 80s and 90s, I would get bullied relentlessly for having big lips and for not having eyebrows that had been tweezed to within an inch of their lives, I was only one of three brown people at my school. Now it seems that big lips are a thing and some women pay a lot of money to have lip fillers. I wish I knew that would be the case when I was a child, it might've helped to make me feel less s****y about it. Maybe not though, I don't know.
I was never bullied for my big lips growing up in the 70-80s. So sorry to hear you were. But, yep I have had many say they are envious of them (started near the end of the 90s).
Load More Replies...OMG. There's a woman in her 70s, Russian ancestry, who sketches her eyebrows a full half inch higher up the forehead than her actual eyebrows.
In my day we tweezed the heck out of our eyebrows and that wasn’t a great look, but… I’d take that over the ‘dead hairy caterpillars’ eyebrows that have been the norm for the past decade. People who favour that look now are going to be soooooo embarrassed years down the track, just like we were/are. 🙂
Lmao I look back at my 90's pictures as a teen like where are my eyebrows?!? : D
Load More Replies...You can tell the ones who like the look they shoot for, and accept them. I mean the ones who are overly competitive socially, and trying to leverage their appearance rather than being a better friend or romantic partner. They end up with someone who mistakes them for who they pretended to be, since a fake personality often gets involved too.
Load More Replies...Being an individual with your own particular set of values, opinions, dreams, and ambitions is nothing to sneer at. It’s pleasant to be part of a collective and we strive for this. But at the same time, every human being is more than just the community they belong to.
You should live with the courage to stand up for what you truly believe in, instead of fearing that you might become an outcast if you go against the grain. You shouldn’t find yourself in a position where you shut off your critical thinking just because it’s easier to follow everyone else’s expectations.
Getting extremely long eyelashes or nails
Not against personal taste, but what I wanna know is how my long-nailed sisters text, wipe their bums and pick their nose. 😂 Seems impossible. Ouch.
I don't get how they don't poke there eyes or smth in there sleep, I know I would
Load More Replies...I have to trim my nails down every so often just to type and use the T.V. remote comfortably.
I saw a young woman with ridiculously long eyelashes. Every time she blinked, I could feel a breeze.
I tried really long nails once in the sixth grade because it was "popular". Let's just say, I'm glad they were the press-on kind because I wanted to get rid of them immediately haha.
I see these as potentially dangerous. Long nails can hurt others and yourself by being in your way or getting cut on things. And long eyelashes is almost asking for something to scratch or infect your eyes.
Endless consumption
The people who pushed planned obsolescence into our economy should be tried for crimes against humanity
*is the American way. *Is how you obtain happiness in America. *You and your family deserve it... take your pick
Buying things can be fun, as long as it is not putting you in debt, crack on
There's a difference between buying something you need, that serves a legitimate purpose in your life, and buying stuff that you don't need, just because you want a shiny new PoS with no regard to the consequences of your short sighted entitled actions. Like all the people that prop up the "fast fashion" trashtailers, the people that upgrade their gadgets every 6-12 months, the people who replace easily repairable or cosmetically imperfect items with new ones and toss the old thing in the trash. The planet is in such dire straights, because no one can acknowledge the fact that, as they blame everything on "corporations", those corporations can only do their damage because of the $hitty, thoughtless actions of the masses.
Load More Replies...Even worst than endless consumption are vaporware add-ons. Paying for a software switch to enable a special state. All the coding is already in your free app.
cheating/infidelity while in a monogamous relationship. Also social media.
I will never understand cheaters, unless the partner is abusive. How can you betray the one you love, your best friend? Totally alien concept to me.
Difficult question if you ask me. There are plenty of reasons why one could cheat on their partner and some are even understandable (yet still the wrong thing to do)
Load More Replies...I don't get cheating, I told my wife, if you even want to cheat, be honest, and we will just end it. It was during a discussion on cheating. My opinion is if you cheat on me, we are done, I will just move on.
Hot take: there is never an acceptable reason to cheat on someone. If you want to be with someone else, leave your current partner. We need to stop justifying or glorifying this kind of behavior.
Maybe not a norm, but certainly more abundant than it used to be.
Load More Replies...I don't cheat on my wife for all the morally admirable reasons. But also among my less admirable reasons is that cheating is just too much damn work. I can barely keep up on a schedule with one person.
When my husband and I discussed for 5 hours what we wanted from the relationship (prior to starting one), my husband said I needed to let him know one week in advance if I felt like cheating on him. I said the same about wanting to smack me. We both came from those behaviors from partners and didn't want a repeat. Neither of us ever used the advanced notice. We've been together 32+ years and started as almost strangers.
So, the question is, does that make it acceptable to you? There have always been people who don't accept cheating, too.
Load More Replies...Hate cheating. Jusr break up wirh the person I know it’s hurtful but it’s truthful
As Psychology Today explains, conformity can be seen as negative when it’s done out of fear, or concern for a person’s social standing, or has dangerous consequences.
On the flip side, conformity is also what can help communities thrive and succeed because everyone’s on the same page in terms of rules and norms.
Crypto
Still thinking about the guy who asked if he could pay for his purchase at Home Depot in Bitcoin. Lord, I wish I'd had the wit at the time to say we don't accept Monopoly money.
I made enough profit on Bitcoin to cover a $35,000 septic field... Imma disagree...
I doubled my money a few times back in the day. But now it's been ruined.
no different to normalising the stock market. It's also just psychology. Here's an example. This is Raytheon stock. None of the events shown actually caused a change in their manufacturing because they were not contracted to supply. But their stock changed value. Screen-Sho...db-png.jpg
Eh. There's like two cryptocurrencies that hold some legitimacy. Bitcoin is one. The other I'm thinking of is Ethereum. Bitcoin still isn't widely accepted. Ethereum users face even more obstacles, even for online consumerism. The rest? Likely not stable, never going to be stable and never going to rise to anything substantial. Or worse... a straight con.
Its not money if you can't use it to buy anything you want with it.
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Hating on the person your partner is cheating on you with. I see so many girls hate "the other girl" when yk, your bf/husband should care more about your relationship/marriage than some random girl they decided to f**k. Make it make sense.
Well, if the person knew that a married person was having an affair with them and they still let it happen, that is kind of s****y.
Imagine, Steve is married to Toni, and Steve has an affair with Jamie. Jamie has made no promises or commitment to Toni. It's only Steve who has done this. It's down to Steve to honour those promises, not any other person. I wouldn't think highly of Jamie, but it's Steve the focus should be on.
Load More Replies...When my ex got someone else pregnant while we were together, I was not mad at her, I felt bad for her because now she had to deal wirh his s**t. Don't worry, he cheated on her too. But generally, I understand being mad at the affair partner, as long as you are mad at the cheater too. Especially if you know them.
"If they cheat with you they'll cheat on you" has proven to be true through centuries
Load More Replies...Um, if that other person knows that they are the “other” in cheating then hate the pain away! No sympathy for either.
Exactly! If they KNOW, they deserve every bit of it. But most people don't bother to find out whether or not they knew. Just assume, go after them and leave the cheater alone or "forgive" them
Load More Replies...This happened to me! Some girl was blatantly ignoring her gf to go talk to me all the time and the girlfriend confronted me and said “keep your hands off my girlfriend!” And I was like girl keep your girlfriend off of me lol I’m not doing anything
I watch the show "Cheaters" and laugh when the "other woman" or "other man" defends the cheater like they were the actual slighted spouse, not like they are the side piece. I agree, unless the "other" knows the cheaters relationship they have been lied to also. Why attack them, they are also a victim too.
Hook up culture
To each their own, I guess, but personally I highly appreciate the security and closeness of monogamy.
Nothing. It sucks when it’s not forthright. And one is clear they are dating for a potential relationship and the other is just looking for hookups but won’t say it bc they don’t want to ruin their chances of getting laid and will just be done with this other person once they get the prize. That’s when hookup culture is a problem. Just be honest there are plenty of people that want to just hookup. You don’t need to trick people looking for a relationship.
Load More Replies...Booooo, discouraging people to explore their sexuality with other adult/s who give informed consent and practice safe sex shouldn't be considered a bad thing. Sex shaming is cringe.
You like hookups, OP doesn't. Disparaging people who don't want it, and that's ALL OP said, is "cringe", too.
Load More Replies...As one Victorian lady said "I really don’t mind what people do, so long as they don’t do it In the street and frighten the horses"
People act like this is a new thing. It's not. If casual works best for someone, it doesn't affect me at all and I don't care.
This is a person's choice, and I think its good that it is being normalized.
I'm all for polygamy, monogamy or whatever gamy people have. The only rule is that nobody should get hurt physically or emotionally. If you wouldn't treat a friend in a certain way, don't do it to your partner.
You do you, but only if it feels good before during, and after. Otherwise go se a psychiatrist, if it's a self-harm behavior?
One day i'll uninstall Grindr, and find a husban, but as Aragorn said "But it is not this day"
Amazon. Jeff does not need more money. I go straight to the company sites.
I don't buy from here mostly because of either crappy quality, crappy working conditions, lack of union, or just don't need to sponsor giant clocks in mountains nor huge space penis.
Same, also the buying isn't the whole experience I like to physically browse and shop. I realise that's not for everyone but it's my stress relief.
Load More Replies...Obviously, Jeff does not need more money. However, and I am prepared for downvotes, Amazon does offer free shipping and returns on many products, whereas the company sites usually do not. I try to use it as little as possible, though.
No shipping is free. The cost of shipping is built into the price of every item. Another reason for our insane inflation.
Load More Replies...My husband is a google ninja and actually found the author of a music book for music school. Guy was so touched that children are till using his book to learn music (1st grade/6YO initiation to music class) that he offered to give us a discount if other parents were interested too. I call that a win againt amazon ! (local bookstores told us to try our luck "online")
Friend sends a link: "I found this cool thing on Amazon!" Me: Follows link, copies exact product name, goolges it, buys it elsewhere
Load More Replies...I think it's personalized preference. I work 2 jobs and don't have a vehicle due to a foot injury I had years ago so I can't physically drive. So getting around isn't always easy. SO for me, it's easier to order most things online. I have not had any issues ordering from Amazon. I look at what I want, pick which of those items is best price, quality, user rating, purchase then use. Mostly I'll buy things like cologne, clothes, or various household items. It's a means to getting what I need so I use it.
I’d rather sue Bezos, so to you I’ll just say that I will continue to complain about Amazon.
Load More Replies...Depends. I'm a once or twice a year Amazon user. It's for things I can't find and/or don't have time to look for and absolutely need without delay. That said, I much prefer going to the store. And, there will forever and always be a list of items I refuse to buy online: * vehicles * shoes (because of different fits) * clothes (one company's medium isn't going to fit the same as another company) * perishable food or canned food
I bought several big ticket items from there, same quality and price as anywhere else, then 5% back with my card. Saved hundreds. No worse for society than the alternatives of WalMart or Best Buy. I agree a lot of the little cheap c**p is not worth it.
Cancelled my amazon prime nearly a year ago and havent even thought about amazon. When i had amazon prime i spent more money thinking i better use it since im paying monthly for it.
Working over 40+ hours in a week without getting paid for it. F**k that….
That's called wage theft and the Department of Labor is waiting for your call so you can get back OT wages in a lump sum check.
As much as I hear more than 40 hrs is something to be avoided, I supported the family (wife stayed home) by working 7 day weeks (2x Sunday). Sucks, but it worked. Thankfully I had enough seniority to catch most sporting events daughters were in.
If you're an hourly worker, that's illegal. Hourly workers are being paid for their labor. If you're a salaried employee, you're being paid to achieve a goal, to meet a deadline, provide a service. Sometimes, that will work in your favor, sometimes it won't.
Wearing makeup to work, I used to because I felt like I had to. The transition got me comments that I look tired and/or sick, but now I throw on mascara only when I want to 😊 I'm not good at make up and am lazy so I'm glad that women aren't expected to as much anymore 👍
On one morning preparing for work, I remember thinking, "Oh, my under eyes are dark again. I look tired, I should use more concealer." And it hit me. I AM tired. I am working six days a week and I do not get enough sleep and I AM TIRED! Who am I hiding it from? My co-workers who are in the same condition? My boss who should know that we are not getting enough rest?! I started putting on less make up from then on, especially in the eye area. If I am tired and it shows, it shows! I don't have an obligation of pretending I am well and energetic and all chipper when I am not. Live with it.
Good for you! I do wear a little make-up most days but it's just so that, if I catch a glimpse of myself in a mirror in passing, I can trick my brain into believing I'm actually wide awake and ready to play with my kids instead of collapse in a heap!
Load More Replies...This should be a personal preference. If you want to wear it then do so, if not, then go bare face.
I've never liked makeup and never worn it regularly - special occasions only. I've never understood (but am not trying to judge) people who won't leave the house without a full face of makeup. It just seems like so much work, and then to spend the whole day feeling like I can't touch my face and having to touch it up repeatedly? Blech. No thanks.
I was the "can't leave the house" girl for years since I was a young teen up until probably 4 years ago. I just got tired of it tbh I decided to concentrate on taking care of my skin instead. It took a while to really be comfortable facing the world "naked" but I love it now. I just wear mascara and chap stick.
Load More Replies...Me, too. My made up face is who I am because it is how I choose to look. My face unadorned is just happenstance. I like looking polished.
Load More Replies...I mean some people really like wearing makeup it’s something they do for fun and they use it as a way to express themselves
Oh, that’s completely different. You enjoy makeup for any reason? Wear it, have fun. It can be a great creative outlet. I’m just glad I started to question the oh-so-common thought that I needed to wear makeup to be seen as acceptable and appropriately dressed for work. Now it’s west when I want to but don’t feel obligated to.
Load More Replies...I come from the heels and hose generation. We wore low heels ( you would be sent home of they were too high ) and panty hose. God, panty hose in humid weather is torture. Done with all that nonsense.
Ditto, the heels and hose, power suits, etc. Covid hit and I stopped all that including makeup. Now I wear long-ish dresses and sandals most of the year. Much more comfortable than jeans. I still do my hair if I go out.
Load More Replies...I do this! I normally don’t wear makeup so that when I do I look stunning (well I’m stunning all the time but I get a bunch of compliments when I wear makeup) :D
I stopped wearing make up in my 20s. I always wore it to interviews, and then after, I would never wear it again.
The death of privacy
It depends. It is a lot safer if cameras are in public places like parking garages and used to catch criminals, rapists, et cetera. Obviously, there needs to be a balance.
As a woman, I agree. I sometimes choose my path according to the safety of the place and cameras make evil doers think twice. Example: choosing between the stairs and the lift. No cameras in the stairs? I'll get the lift, thank you.
Load More Replies...In some ways, but you should have no expectation of privacy when out in public. Public is literally the opposite of private.
I agree but only with security cameras. I have a real problem with random people filming strangers - if I "hilariously" Fall down some stairs in public I accept that people will see it but I absolutely don't accept that there's a chance it gets filmed and goes viral online.
Load More Replies...You say that now, but wait until a CC camera provides evidence that could exonerate you or a loved one.
I don’t think this person is talking about CCTV, it’s just the picture that BP found. It’s probably more about how a lot of people use apps that are known to sell your personal data (like Facebook)
Load More Replies...People complaint about privacy until a security cam saves their butt.
My parents threatened to put baby cameras in both my bedroom AND WASHROOM because they wanted to "see what I was doing". I'm 13 years, not 13 weeks. I don't need my every move to be watched. And cameras in the WASHROOM? I'm sorry, but I don't want people recording me whilst i pee, thank you very much. (thank god they never got around to doing it though)
People want privacy and they don't want cameras everywhere but then they complain about the police not knowing about a certain situation. Pick a voice! You can't have safety and security without a compromise on your privacy.
You have explained people quite well. There’s no pleasing people. Certain people. Most people. Unfortunately. Unfortunately most people want to complain that you’re not anticipating what they wish you were doing in the exact moment they wish you were doing it. Their expectations are a swinging door and you’re supposed to know which way the wind is blowing to suffice them.
Load More Replies...This is the first one I actually like. Privacy leads to secrecy and secrecy leads to corruption.
Call the drinks at Starbucks anything other than small, medium, or large.
I don't go to Starbucks, but I assume Too Many Dollars, Entirely Too Many Dollars and A Ridiculous Amount of Dollars
Load More Replies...Because some people are afraid to step out of their comfort zones and try different things.
Load More Replies...or going to starbucks. If you want to drink sugar and milk make it at home. If you want coffee, starbucks has the worst, absolute garbage coffee ever. burnt paper in a cup with water. its trash.
I have a working coffee machine at home, and it produces better, and cheaper, coffee than most fast food/grab and go places. At most, I'm probably spending under $20 per month/two months for coffee and filters.
Load More Replies...Especially when your terms make zero sense. Small is called tall, which means large. Medium is called grande, which also means large. And large is called venti, which means 20. So my choices are large, large, and 20?! Make it make sense.
Why do you even go there. Their coffee is mediocre at best of times... And so overpriced...
burger king has the best iced coffee! and the one i get is $1.89
Load More Replies...If I want a coffe, no milk, no sugar, I am an oddball at SB. I don't think I should further explain.
SO pretentious! In almost any town, there are locally-owned coffee shops. Those businesses are the ones I patronise. ESPECIALLY on the UK. When I am overseas, I absolutely refuse to buy anything from the US bully shops like Starbucks, McDonalds, Walmart. They add nothing to any.historic town!!
I went into Starbuck once to try and order a coffee. I wanted a medium coffee. They said, "Grande?" I said, "I don't know. Give me your middle size." That earned me a look. You know the one. Then they asked if I wanted light, medium or dark roast. I just want a medium coffee!!!! Why is this so difficult!?! Have never gone back. I don't need to start my morning with that level of frustration lol.
Monetize all my hobbies and produce "content" for social media.
I find a ot of sewing and craft Reels very helpful. We love to share, and the money probably just helps support hobbies.
yes, social media is how I got into all of the hobbies I love, and I learn more about them and get inspiration via social media so it is very helpful
Load More Replies...The only reason I understand this is because Corporate America sucks. If you can monetize a hobby that you enjoy doing, as the saying goes, it'll never feel like work and you work for yourself instead of some rich fat cat corporation. The problem is the grind one has to go through in order to make a hobby into a steady stream of income, I imagine, could make one lose interest in the hobby.
"Get a job doing something you love and you'll never work another day in your life" - Harold Shipman
Load More Replies...I follow maby science content creators on yt. Or more like science communicators?
Certainly not producing content, but I am happy that my online store makes enough to afford the tools I really want without taking up all my spare time.
I personally have learned a lot from YouTube videos for crafts I am interested in. I see nothing wrong with monetizing a hobby especially if it is a craft you enjoy and people find what you produce useful. Have you never been to a craft fair? They are awesome!!
Or turning it into a side hustle. Why do we all have to have "side hustles" in order to b able to afford to live
I learned some recipes and cooking advice from YouTube. Not so much a hobby of mine, but helpful nonetheless.
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subscription services
Context is key. I'm personally am subscribed to PlayStation Network (to get monthly free games, and better discounts during any sales), and Retro Crush (to watch older anime without adds).
Load More Replies...This is stupid. Subscription services are awesome for people with mobility issues.
For goods, yes, it's awesome. For software, that's a hard "no" from me.
Load More Replies...I think a lot of them are awesome, honestly. It's not just clothes 'n stuff - my kiddos get monthly boxes that are science themed - they get to do experiments and whatnot. :) It's pretty cool.
Everything is a subscription now. I hate it. I don’t know when I am going to need more shampoo or makeup. And I shouldn’t have to pay monthly to use an app that I used to use after a one-time fee.
What's wrong with a subscription? I get dry dog food for less-per-pound than what it costs at the supermarket, and fat quarters (fabric cut into 18" x 22" pieces) that can't be found at JoAnn or Walmart. Better quality, too.
Normalizing obesity
People are enormously cruel to overweight people and it's just unnecessary. The number of people I've talked to who think bullying overweight people is "good for them" because it'll motivate them to lose weight... JFC. I totally understand why there's a body positivity movement. I don't think it's normalizing obesity; I think it's saying people deserve love and respect regardless of their weight.
I think normalizing obesity and bullying the obese are two very different things.
Load More Replies...Not "normalizing," but accepting and respecting. Some people have health conditions and naturally cannot/have a very hard time losing weight, and they shouldn't be considered "ugly" or have less clothing options or be stereotyped as lazy. They should be treated just as normal as any other human beings. Normalizing would be telling your kids that they can eat however many hamburgers they like because it is okay to be fat. As far as I am concerned, nobody is doing that.
I think the post is referring to the general hostility towards people who innocently suggest that someone should lose some weight and instantly get accused of "fat-shaming." If I advise someone to lose weight, it's because of a sincere concern for their health, not due to a desire to hurt or humiliate them.
Load More Replies...Thinking that more than one third of the society being overweight is normal is normalizing obesity. I have amazing + sized friends, love them to bits and never once shamed them. I have a couple of friend who lost a person worth of weight. And they sure as hell are the first ones to consider obesity should not be normalized. Their health vaslty improved, and their self esteem as well.
By calling it "Plus sized" or "Thicc" you are normalizing it. It's overweight. But I completely agree not to shame people who are overweight. That is cruel. Just call it what it is.
Load More Replies...This one should be MUCH higher in my opinion. There are far too many people who are delusional in thinking that being obese is okay because of “body positivity.” It’s perfectly fine if you want to feel comfortable and choose to live your life however you want. But don’t you dare try to lie to people and say that it’s healthy. It’s not. It never was and never will be.
I have to put my 2 cents in on this. Yes, it is out of control. On my Late husband's death certificate, it was NUMBER ONE cause of death. Never shamed him, but tried over and over to help him (food, walking, etc) It was always my Christmas/Birthday wish, just to start walking to the corner and back. It can be done. The result of NOT controlling it is devastating!
How about just not butting into someone else's health issues, whatever they may be? There used to be a time when plump was beautiful and skinny meant sickly. Standards of beauty change every century or so. So maybe stop concerning yourselves with other people's bodies and mind your own business.
If you live in a country with public healthcare it is our business. Obesity is directly contributing to the overtaxing of our public healthcare systems
Load More Replies...FFS, this dogwhistle again? Obese people just want to be treated with the same dignity and respect as non-obese people, that's what the fat acceptance movement is about.
While I agree that we should not "normalize" obesity, I also think that it is insanely cruel to bully and shame people who are overweight or obese. Obesity and overweight can be compounded by a number of factors from depression to some medications (antidepressants, steroids, and some anti-rejections medications can cause significant weight fluctuations in some people), and I don't think it is fair to bully people when you don't know what they are dealing with.
In the sence of not shaming, treating with same respect in healthcare, online and in ordinary life? Then absolutely!
Let's see.. when I stopped taking my medication I lost so much weight, "looked good" and had people complimenting me. Then I was in the icu and nearly died because, although I knew what I was doing was bad for me, I was more acceptable looking. When I'm fat I'm taking care of myself, but I'm also treated poorly. I guess it's better than being dead, right? Mind your business about people's weight, you have no idea what the situation is.
Replying all to work emails just to say congratulations to someone.
I would add just "reply all" in general. There are days that 90% of my work email is being stuck in a reply all chain that I don't care about.
This! I work part time and so many times I log on to an inbox full of 'Happy birthdays' to someone I then spend 10 minutes deleting. 🤯
I hate that. It annoys me when I'm trying to concentrate, and I keep getting notifications in the email chain. I only reply to the person I'm congratulating.
Yes don’t start a group text to say one thing, we don’t all need to get 30 acknowledgments meant only for you. Start a group text for a conversation we’re all part of.
Vaping - it’s so disgusting 🤮
Cigarettes are more disgusting, vaping helped me stop. Now I need to stop vaping.
So vaping hasn't really helped you stop, it's just replaced one bad habit with another.
Load More Replies...I feel like people don't realize that vaping IS the same as smoking. it's just flavored. both are inhaling nicotine, and both are bad for you. this is coming from someone who has gotten over a nic addiction from both vaping + smoking cigs. obviously, it's very difficult to quit, but I feel like people need to know that they are just as bad for you.
Vapes don't have formaldehyde in them, or any of the LEGAL toxins that cigarettes do.
Load More Replies...Inhaling smoke or other chemicals directly into your lungs is damaging. Cigarettes, cigars, vapes, all of it..just don’t do it.
You don't inhale cigars into your lungs. It's not great for your mouth, though.
Load More Replies...Google, 'popcorn lung'--- if that doesn't make vapers quit, not thing will.
Social media. I'm on reddit, but I don't see that as social media, it's more an online forum.
Discussions and keeping in touch, good. Self-promotion for no other reason than feeling like you have to because of the awareness that you truly do not matter any more than the rest of the 8 billion people on the planet...not so good. 😔
Load More Replies...I really hate Reddit, it’s full of haters, morons, and creeps
Load More Replies...I don't agree with your comparison, reddit is online and has people communicating and commenting to each other ...social media is online and has people communicating and commenting to each other
Except for the fact that online forums, and reddit by extension, are absolutely social media. Hop off your high horse, the fact that you only use a website known for being a hate-filled cesspool does not make you superior to anyone.
they only say this because they like reddit. Then they can rationalize using it. you're 100% correct.
Load More Replies...Oh, okay, it's not social media - just a digitally mediated social forum.
Alcohol
This! Never understood why drugs are frowned upon, but it's okay to drink yourself into a stupor.
Or when you are looked at as a three headed monster if you say you don't want a drink of alcohol
Load More Replies...As with most things, moderation is the key. Having few beers with friends from time to time is fine, getting wasted 5 days in a week is not. And you need to know how to drink, so you don't vomit or fight.
That's not the point. The point is the expectation that you have to drink at social gatherings
Load More Replies...As always, there must be a balance. Drinking is not wrong, it can even be healthy depending on what and how much you drink. Just know your limits.
That's not the point. The point is the expectation that you have to drink at social gatherings
Load More Replies...I'm a recovering A. I hate alcohol because it's literally destroying everything you have. Relationships, sanity, your body, everything
Firstly congratulations on your sobriety! That's awesome! Second you are not wrong! I lost half my family to generational alcoholism. It never stuck with me as I'm as my family would say a lightweight I get a buzz from 1 or 2 but 3 I'll vomit. I have maybe 4 drinks a year. I don't think we're really missing out though! No hangovers or memory gaps for us :)
Load More Replies...I personally enjoy drinking. I know my limit and other people may think I have a problem and I don't really care. (Come on downvote fairy!)
I gave up alcohol 18 years ago - I lost many friends and I miss neither.
I'm tired of so many people trying to normalize teens dressing like grown women
I agree with you. A 13 year old wearing super revealing and s3xual clothes is just... well, not good because of the amount of p3dophiles and child r@pists out there. But a 13 year old just looking mature and well-dressed? Nothing wrong with that.
Load More Replies...Not your clothing, not yours to judge. Let people dress how they want
Tähtikarhu (he/him) came to say the same. For teens, how they dress is between them and their parents.
Load More Replies...This! I wear jeans and a t shirt and am a grown woman, so teens can't. Are we gatekeeping denim now?
Load More Replies...As a mother of an almost teen girl, I can't agree with this. I will admit, I don't love that it is hard to find cute tops that aren't cropped, but that's more because my child has no interest in wearing them. Otherwise, she often dresses in "adult" clothes. Which may mean a band tee and shorts. Or a flannel hoodie and leggings. Gasp!
Speaking as an aging Gen Xer, can we just leave teens alone? They're in the one time in their life when they're free to express themselves through fashion without business dress codes and such. Please don't stifle their creativity at a time when they're struggling to figure out who they are. Let them be.
Yes!! As a Gen X mom to a teen who is testing out so many styles...as did I as a teen...leave them alone!! This is the most experimental time of their lives! My daughter goes from dressy casual to band shirt and hoodies in the span of a day sometimes lol
Load More Replies...serious? TEENS?? Let them choose how they dress. And a 19 year old is more a grown woman than a child.
Teenage girls never dressed as anything but grown women before the 'invention' of the teenager in the 1950s - prior to that you went straight from childhood to young adulthood, with girls dressing like mum & boys like dad, it sounds quite grim. If you mean teenage girls dressing in a sexually provocative way, teens don't see it that way, they're experimenting with their identity, copying celebs, and trying desperately to shock parents & other grown-ups. Most of us did it & we all grew out of it.
Eh, depends on the person. I know grown women who dress in jeans and t-shirt. That's okay for teens too.
Going out in pyjamas.
This shouldn't really bother people. I used to be like, "oh, now they dress like slobs and in the 50s I would have put on my pearls just to serve my family dinner" but in the end, I realized it's their choice and they are not hurting anyone by going out in pajamas. We should leave them be.
It used to annoy me a bit, then I realized if their pants were khaki instead of flannel, no one would bat an eye. Who decided that flannel is OK for shirts but not for pants? It's a stupid rule.
Load More Replies...Why does it matter? It's clothing, at least you're wearing clothing, right?
Because people like to make up or follow existing arbitrary rules about things that don't affect anyone in any sort of meaningful way and judge people based on these made up rules.
Load More Replies...God forbid people be comfortable. I'm not going out in public because I'm putting on a fashion show; I'm doing it because I have to, to survive. Y'all can deal with how I look.
I'd love to go out in Old British pyjamas, like a long robe with a nightcap hanging down to my waist. Complete with a candle in a brass thingy.
Halloween costume? People would probably think you dressed up like Ebenezer Scrooge though..
Load More Replies...Why would you care? Unless it's a location or event that customarily involves decorum and a level of formality, like a court appearance or a wedding, why does it matter? (And no, I don't wear pajamas in public. I just don't care if others do because, and this part is important, what others are wearing has absolutely no effect on me. None.)
I must admit I am a bit shocked by the reactions on this one, but I think this might be a cultural difference. If I went shopping in my pyjamas here (Germany), someone would probably call the police to bring me back to the asylum I obviously just escaped from... Just because this is a thing people outside of America simply do not do. There is a lot of controversial discussion at the moment whether sweatpants can be worn in public, but never once have pyjamas entered this discussion.
My pajamas are really lounge wear. I never went out in them until I asked for a few minutes to change and they said I looked fine.
I have never seen this. Sweatpants are everywhere as normal clothing, yes.
Go work an overnight shift at Wal-Mart. You'll see it within a day or two.
Load More Replies...It depends on the situation. Dropping kids off to school in their pjs, who cares. Work, please dress. In my own situation, I am sick more often than not so in PJs more often at home. I dress in day clothes if shopping or have regular doctor appointments. But, if I have a short window of feeling well enough to pick up a carryout order, knowing I will be back in bed 15 minutes later, I don't bother. Same if I am going to have a procedure done at the doctors that I will be sedated for. With so many pjs that can pass as day clothes these days, I tend to get those so it's not as noticable.
Buying Jordans or Yeezys. Both are overpriced
Or even elementary school age. Kids I work with come in wearing $200 shoes. Even if they aren't torn up they'll be too small in 6 months. Why?
Load More Replies...Buying anything with a logo slapped on the outside is usually overpriced, especially if an "influencer" endorses them.
I think some people buy these, especially the Jordans, for investment purposes.
I've only worn one pair of Jordans and that was in the early 2000s when I played basketball. Look at me saying early 2000s like it was 20 years ago...Oh hell..
Consumer debt. Don't care if it's electronics, vehicles, or anything else - if I don't have the money to buy it outright, I won't buy it.
Edit: to exclude a mortgage
Edit 2: the comments have been interesting to see the 2 different schools of thought on the matter.
1 hand is the people who take a similar approach and mention how much of a relief it is to not have debt and the freedom it awards. On the other is people telling me how I'm missing out, foolish, "good luck getting a loan" (which is funny because that's the whole point is to *not* get one), or how I must be privileged because I don't have debt (even though I have a very modest income, I just choose to approach purchases differently and delay them so i can and pay myself the interest over several years to pay cash at the time of purchase vs getting that item now and paying someone else later).
It definitely takes a different mindset than society pushes and a lot of financial discipline to maintain that lifestyle, but to me it's worth it. I don't have to stress over small hiccups life throws at me because I'm not burdened by monthly payments.
Again, you do you. But no loan for car? I can get electronics and unessesary luxury items. But to have a car is often a means to get to work?
Yes, I need a car to get to work, but I'm perfectly happy buying a used one that I can pay for without a loan.
Load More Replies...Why dealing in absolutes? There is a reasonable amount of consumer debt that could make your life much better. While waiting to get the money to buy cash something (a car, a computer, whatever) you’re not enjoying it. You’re not using it to work, to do something else.. The opportunity to use it one year earlier may definitely justify the interests cost. OP obviously doesn’t have a rational educated economic mindset.
Like yours this is just my opinion, but not buying something you don't actually need is not irrational. That goes for unneeded cars, computers, whatevers, too. Consumerism is anything but rational, let alone a "rational educated economic mindset".
Load More Replies...There's a middle ground to be had in this. Loans can be necessary for necessities. However, for 'wants', rather than 'needs', save up half of the cost. Then you know you want it enough to spend actual money on it rather than swiping a card. You also know you are able to afford it!
Agreed. I look at it as a cashflow and opportunity perspective. That being said, financial strategy is my very boring forte.
Load More Replies...Except you won't be able to get a mortgage without a credit history of three different types of credit, such as car loan, credit cards, and perhaps a small loan for something like a signature loan. If you apply for mortgage with no other credit lines (both open and closed) on your credit bureau they'll laugh you out of the bank.
Load More Replies...Not going to lie, getting into house buying i'm just flabberghasted that we have a system that makes you pay over 100% of the cost of something, in interest, simply because you can't afford to drop hundreds of thousands of dollars cash on a house. How is that an expectation??? How is this a thing?
I can't improve my credit score because I don't have a mortgage I don't have an unsecured loan and I don't have any debt, it's insane.
Is that the "american system"? If I understand all these posts right you only get good conditions on a new credit if you can prove that you, so far, always pay back your credits timely?
Load More Replies...I admire you. We have to replace vehicles every decade or so(Michigan winter rust). $300/mo sucks, but we DO need 1 good vehicle. My 08 is 170k miles of rust, but it runs well and everything on it works.
Ghosting
Sometimes needed? Say a women experiences many red flags from "nice guy" and realised ge will not stop the nagging or worse. Block and go on with something healthy.
I think it's still common courtesy to tell them you're not interested. If they continue pestering you then yeah, block them, but that's not really what ghosting means, is it?
Load More Replies...This would probably happen less often if men took 'no' for an answer from women.
Goes both ways, I've had women get very nasty about it. If someone doesn't want to see me, I don't argue, its pointless.
Load More Replies...I absolutely hate ghosting. Just common courtesy to say you are not interested anymore or you don't want to continue the relationship anymore. has happened with romantic interest as well as friends. Hurts way too much, just a bit of respect towards the other person and say something.
When someone has repeatedly ignored the boundaries I've set and thoroughly communicated, I'm left with no choice. I'm not going to bother with a person who kicks a hole in my fence, acts surprised when I object, apologizes, then does it again...multiple times. That person clearly does not respect me, therefore I feel no obligation to respect them.
This happened to me with someone I regarded as a friend. She invited my child away with her and her family (the kids were pals) and a couple of weeks before they were due to leave, she stopped all communication. My child was asking if they were still going so I messaged to ask if it was still going ahead (all I needed was a yes or no so that I could tell my child) and nothing. Not a single response. I didn't care so much for me but was angry she let my kid down. To this day, no explanation, no apology, no nothing. Nowt as weird as folk.
I ghosted my biological "father" for 2 years, going on 3. I've got 0 reason to talk to him, and frankly, it's worked out for the better. He's probably one of, if not, the most toxic person I know.
I ghosted my ex-best friend who was giving me daily death threats and physically abusing when I would see her in person. I'm sorry, but what was I supposed to do, keep talking to her and let it happen? She knew exactly what she was doing to me.
Ghosting isn't the same as just cutting communication even if effectively it is the same imo. Ghosting is when you are just dropping communication because you just don't care enough to respond or you're gutless coward who doesn't want to feel bad themself for hurting someone. Cutting communication to protect yourself from verbal and/or physical abuse is not ghosting. If it's something like after meeting someone and afterwards either one doesn't feel motivation to keep in contact it's not ghosting. If you just stop replying without explaining you are not into having follow ups, it's ghosting. If you do explain and the other one continues to send messages and you don't reply after that it's not ghosting. That's how it works in my vocabulary.
Guys take honest, non-aggressive rejection SO badly. I am allowed to not like you or not be attracted to you without you going psycho on me, calling me names, or stalking me.
Using AI
For practical things, I get it. But my sisters and I have a rollicking good time putting in complicated prompts and getting the wildest pictures. AI can be a very fun toy.
I can understand it being a fun toy however a BBC News story came out about several boys in a Spanish town used ai to create nude pics of their female classmates.
Load More Replies...Nothing against AI art, but I absolutely HATE it when people creating it pretend to be "artists" and expect to be treated as such. Unless you drew it with your own fleshy hands, you are not an artist.
@Corvus As a songwriter/visual artist I feel this on such a deep level. AI pictures and song lyrics can be beautiful, but at least for me, they will NEVER replace the real art. Art is made where the heart and mind connect, not computer keys and the internet. There was even a story where a picture won an art contest and then it was found to be AI. The reports said there were "mixed responses," but ultimately, they kept first place. I was like, how can you do that? you literally just typed a few words, not to mention being deceptive that it was AI, and still won? That is something I cannot wrap my head around. AI is not art, AI is a tool.
Load More Replies...AI is a great tool, just like a hammer or screwdriver. Just need to make sure it doesn’t become a crutch where people stop using their own brains.
Yes. That's the big problem is that right now too many people think it's infallible and never wrong. Plenty have found out otherwise with great embarrassment.
Load More Replies...I hate the thought of AI so much... You could create pictures of people doing whatever and sow so much unrest and chaos. It creeps me out. All this AI Bullsh*t should be shut down.
Hah - this is just beginning. The real hell will begin when AI *is* normalized!
We've already sacrificed our privacy to big business and government without being asked. This just takes our manipulation to the next level. AI is going to be dangerous.
I'm probably one of AI's staunchest critics on this website, so I'm going to say this. If you use AI for fun, then that's something I find to be okay. If you are using it to try and get clout or for easy money (as I've seen some people use AI for profit), then that is morally wrong. It's a lazy crutch, and those people who do it and proclaim things like "I made *insert subject here* with AI" and proclaim yourself to be an "artist", or are egotistical about it... just know that a computer program did all of this "hard work" for you, and you aren't a true artist. AI is a subject that gets me heated like crazy.
One thing? 😂 Theres so many. But probably the biggest is having kids.
I want kids, had one, then felt I was one and done. It's personal choice, I wanted a kid, so did my wife, but I have friends who don't. Enjoy what you got, I hate the people who use phrases like "you don't know love until you have a kid" etc, but I also hate people who brag about not having kids. You do you, and leave it at that.
Um. Having kids *is* totally normal. It's literally in our biology. That said, I maintain that whether *you* have kids is and should be entirely your choice.
Ha. Exactly. We are built to reproduce. That’s the point of any species. But we are of higher intelligence and get to decide if we want to do so or not. No one should be putting societal pressure on anyone to have children. Plenty of people will have kids. We are not at a point where people need to be convinced of their requirement to have children to keep society going.
Load More Replies...The absolute best thing you can do to save the planet is not have kids. To quote Sir David Attenborough: “All our environmental problems become easier to solve with fewer people, and harder – and ultimately impossible – to solve with ever more people.”. The only true solution to a problem is to resolve the root cause of the problem.
That's fine. The problem is the toxicity from the childless against those who have kids. Yes, I know the reverse also exists, but I've seen way more people flexing the D**K life like they're superior to people who have children. Edit: I don't know why the acronym for "double income no kids" was censored.
Ok, my two cents. I do believe in "you do you" BUT I do hate subsidizing people that continue to procreate without the ability to support said children. I also support healthcare WITH free bc. Everyone does not have the ability to pay for hxcare and family planning services due to the cost.
There are good times and difficult times to both choices. Its a choice. I'd say that choice is influenced most by how we ourselves were raised. I can totally understand that if you came from a cold, broken, or disconnected family, the drive to create your own won't be great. Wife and I are on opposite sides of the fence. I had a great childhood, she didn't. I wanted kids, she didn't. We did have two and she had some resentment for "making her have kids" (I didn't, she just didn't say no). Today, no resentment and she couldn't love the kids more than she does. Her brother, no kids and is doing just fine without them. Its a choice!
As long as you’re not dipping into some anti-natalism hate speech, it’s all good.
Well humans are disgusting evil little maggots who are overpopulating the world destroying it like a tumor. Humans are evil hypocrite abusive cruel sadistic self entitled parasites
Load More Replies...I think this is the most important one on the list. The human population on this planet is probably twice the size it should be. And there are so many children in need of loving adoptive parents already. People who want to raise children should give priority to those children who are already alive in the world, but who are parentless.
Food delivery services. Unless im too wasted to drive ill pick it up myself thanks
We don't know the context of OP. Maybe they just get them from their way home. I live in a city center and have a dozen take-away at less than 5 minutes walk.
Load More Replies...How is a service you can choose to use a "societal norm"? This is not exactly something foisted on you. Don't like it? Don't use it.
Okay but due to my eyesight I can't drive. I still want takeout, though. We don't have DoorDash here - Mr Delivery is pretty decent but I won't touch Uber Eats. Tried to order from then a few times and never once got my food.
I share your vision problems, T'Mar! Food, grocery and medication deliveries are a life saver for me.
Load More Replies...Nah, I'm disabled and I don't drive. I get most of my groceries delivered, and any take aways, too. I live in a major metropolitan city, and this is the norm for me and most of my neighbors. When I get a take away delivered, the person delivering is usually riding a bike. There's no reason to be snarky and say you'll pick it up yourself, especially if you are driving to pick it up.
For someone like me with chronic illness, delivery services are a godsend. It means I can eat more healthy than what the limited amount of cooking I'm able to do would provide.
Food delivery services that insert a poorly paid third party into the process, taking revenue from restaurants and making somebody who did nothing but write some code rich in transaction fees. Deliveries direct from restaurants are fine. Tip well.
Must be nice to have the time, energy and resources to pick things up yourself.
Ok so then you use other means lol no need to hate bro
Load More Replies...Not everyone is privy to owning a vehicle. So for some, food delivery is a good thing.
I bet the person that made this post only walks to places and makes their own butter and shampoo and both taste the same.
Working 5x8h. Do I remotely earn enough? I really don’t. Would I be happier with more work + money? No way in hell!
Definitely. I would rather be poorer and still be able to relax and enjoy life. What is the point of money when you can't even stop to appreciate what it buys for you?
Although it's hard to enjoy life when you're poor because you're worried about keeping a roof over your head, whether or not you can afford gas to get to your crappy minimum-wage job, and whether you'll have to eat ramen noodles for dinner again.
Load More Replies...I'm confused by the post. You work a normal work week and say you don't earn enough but you don't want to work more? Maybe upgrade your skills and make more for your 40 hours or settle for what you have.
Not being forthcoming on the prenup part of Marriage.
If I ever get married I am going to be honest and straightforward with doing a prenup way early before any marriage proposals will be made.
Even if I am much more poorer than my SO.
I've always felt that when/if I fall in love, I will be with that person for the rest of my life. That said, a prenup goes against my vision of love and romance. Perhaps that's why I'm still single at 42. 🙃
Wanting to be with someone for the rest of your life is the entire point of marriage. But having a prenup is just being realistic. People change. Things happen. Divorce is a thing for a reason. Not at all romantic and neither is banking but one should always be financially responsible lol
Load More Replies...A prenup is not "part of marriage". Only about 10% of marriages have prenups. When my wife and I were married, neither of us had any money or property. A prenup would not have made any sense!
100%. My boyfriend and I agreed if we ever get married we'll have a prenup stating anything we had coming into the relationship (money, assets, debt) we take out of the relationship.
So that means that for all your married life you're keeping account of who earned what, what belongs to whom, etc.? Doesn't sound very healthy to me.
Load More Replies...Prenuptual agreement. Like a "if we get divorced you don't get any of my money" thing.
Load More Replies...Because of thousands of horror stories about divorces that end in financial disaster for one of the parties, or both. I would never get married without a prenup, and l'm poor as poor gets, lol.
Load More Replies...Prenups should be by default. The only things that should be split during a divorce are what we're attained together during the marriage. Anyone who disagrees is either out for money from the jump or is entitled.
Consumerism. I will on off be a binge consumerist sometimes, but for the most part I strongly prefer to be a minimalist! The idea of it really helps me find what I really enjoy in life, i find groups of “my people” easily, and I love being connected to my identity significantly more than random things.
I vicariously shop. Wish and Temu - I have 100 items in each cart that I delete once a week and start over.
Oh I do that too but sometimes it makes me sad. I feel I waste my time.
Load More Replies...Porn. Come on, think how bizarre the whole concept is.
There can be feminist pọrn, and there can be abusive pọrn. I'm guessing most is not with good conditions? But was little confused this was so low. And violence in movies is more accepted than consensual porn between well treated participants?
"Oh my god, there was a nipple. All sports broadcasting must be on a 5 minute delay. Think of the children! Whilst we stay outraged about that, let's go to the news where I hear we have live coverage of a school shooting followed by a war. Lovely lovely violence". /s
Load More Replies...Is it though? Some years ago an Australian university wanted to study the effects of porn usage on young adult males, but on order to do so they had to find a control group of non-porn users. The study had to be abandoned because they couldn't find any. True (ish).
mainstream pron is so silly, even stupid. Unrealistic and everything. No one sounds and looks like that when they're having segsy time! :-D
No one keeps their high heels on the whole time either 🧐
Load More Replies...I don't see anything wrong with porn as long as it is consensual, it may create unrealistic ideas in the younger generation, but all that is needed is better sex education at school.
Porn would be ok if it showed what sex really is like. But, because of most of the mainstream stuff these days, men think they have to have gigantic schlongs to get a woman and some women think they can't be satisfied unless a man has a gigantic s*****g and can go for hours on end. Yes, better sex ed would help, if not for the parents out there who are ashamed to admit to their kids that sex exists, an no, not all of those parents are religious.
🤣🤣 what was censored? 🙈 I'm sometimes bad with fill in texts 😅😇
Load More Replies...I don't think porn is any more or less normal than it used to be. But, I will say that movies and TV have upped their game. Honestly, I often feel the only difference between a sex scene and porn is the actual act didn't take place (and of course all the pasties and tuckies for privacy sake of actors). They still look the same.
So are eating and defecating. And yet, here we are.
Load More Replies...No tattoos for me, thanks
I personally hate tattoos, they are everywhere, and I find them generally unattractive. I am not the one with them so I don't care enough to get annoyed by them.
Again, this is a personal choice, and I think its great tattoos are being normalized!
Tattoos used to be an act of radical rebellion against social norms. Now, it's NOT having tattoos.
Depending on the culture/region, tattoos can be considered a form of tradition/social norm. I know that Polynesian cultures, like the Samoans or Maori, have tattoos as a big form of their culture. Same thing with Inuit women, or Vikings when they still roamed around. That said, certain tattoo styles in certain parts of the world do have negative connotations, like big Japanese traditional pieces in Japan are usually indicators of people who are members of the yakuza (the Japanese mafia).
Load More Replies...I love my tattoos I don't judge anybody who has them or anybody who doesn't have any. What you do with your body is your personal choice and your own business, not mine.
Well said. That's honestly how I, and likely a lot of tattooed people, feel.
Load More Replies...Years ago I met a man who was in his 80s. He showed me his tattoo from when he was in the navy. It was gross looking. Skin starts to sag and there is no magic to make the tattoos look decent.
I got mine at 55 so it won't have time to go bad.
Load More Replies...Tattoos are a personal choice, and not something for everyone. The stance on tattoos have lightened quite heavily in recent years compared to a few decades ago, and now they are socially more accepted in today's society. As someone with 7 tattoos now, with his most recent one barely a week old, I am glad that they are more accepted, but I'm not gonna shame someone for choosing not to get one.
But some people get tattoos in honour of a dead or sick relative... personally I think that's ok? Even if it's not for that reason, people can do what they want to... I'm not opposed to people getting tattoos, it's a very personal decision that other people shouldn't dictate for you.
There are definitely some people who get them for remembrance of a deceased friend/family member, but there are some people who get tattoos for personal reasons, or that have deeper meanings to them. I have 2 that have deeper meanings to me. A Daruma Doll with one eye coloured in (meaning that no matter how many times I fall, I get back up until I've achieved a dream of mine), and a Ram's head (as my Zodiac sign, and as a symbol of strength and willpower). The rest I got are from some of my favourite series: Fire Emblem, Attack on Titan, God Eater, Mobile Suit Gundam, and just recently, Spider-Man.
Load More Replies...Antisocial behavior.
Antisocial like the personality disorder, or like introverted? Because let introverts be introverts, people. There is nothing wrong with loving your quiet.
Anti social in the sense of vandalism, harassment, noise pollution, preventing people enjoying their home and neighborhood, borderline criminal behavior. It seems that be a British usage.
Load More Replies...Not sure what that entails. In the sense of anti-society? Or in the sense of anti-fads? Or in the sense of anti-friendly?
On the long list of words which have become functionally useless because lazy people can't be bothered to use them correctly, "antisocial" is right near the top. "Antisocial" and "asocial" mean completely different things, and people who use them interchangeably are contributing to the ongoing diminishing of accurate communication. And "introverted" does not means asocial or shy. It describes a person who needs time alone to mentally and emotionally recharge.
I only interact with other humans because I have to. If anything, extroversion is normalized and I want nothing to do with it.
This whole article isn't about societal "norms". It's maybe about several problems that exist in society, but I've seen a lot of things that are far from the norm. Child pageants anyone?
The Christian hypocrite pedophiles won't allow that they need their child pageants the disgusting old Christian men to enjoy. And the dumb bitches allow their husbands to list after little girls. Stupid rednecks trash
Load More Replies...Is this sarcasm by any chance, cause you do a good job at it if it is sarcasm :)
Load More Replies...I think praying may give spiritual easiness to some people BUT praying instead of doing something about your problems, nope.
Load More Replies...Normal? Seem to me to be a bunch of first world problems.... But what would I know, I'm an antisocial freak.... So very few of these have any relevance to me....
"Live and let live" should be #1 on the list by a long shot. So many people upset by total strangers they'll never meet doing or being things without their express permission...
Load More Replies...I mean the site is called Bored Panda...what are you looking for?
Load More Replies...I couldn't finish this list so much of it doesn't effect anything so y care
kids being expected to care for their parents in old age. you do not owe your parents your home or money for their retirement. they wanted you, they had you, they raised you. the end. their reward is seeing you become a fully functioning adult, not being their live in caregiver
So you actively provide financial support for people and causes you don't agree with. How noble.
Load More Replies...This whole article isn't about societal "norms". It's maybe about several problems that exist in society, but I've seen a lot of things that are far from the norm. Child pageants anyone?
The Christian hypocrite pedophiles won't allow that they need their child pageants the disgusting old Christian men to enjoy. And the dumb bitches allow their husbands to list after little girls. Stupid rednecks trash
Load More Replies...Is this sarcasm by any chance, cause you do a good job at it if it is sarcasm :)
Load More Replies...I think praying may give spiritual easiness to some people BUT praying instead of doing something about your problems, nope.
Load More Replies...Normal? Seem to me to be a bunch of first world problems.... But what would I know, I'm an antisocial freak.... So very few of these have any relevance to me....
"Live and let live" should be #1 on the list by a long shot. So many people upset by total strangers they'll never meet doing or being things without their express permission...
Load More Replies...I mean the site is called Bored Panda...what are you looking for?
Load More Replies...I couldn't finish this list so much of it doesn't effect anything so y care
kids being expected to care for their parents in old age. you do not owe your parents your home or money for their retirement. they wanted you, they had you, they raised you. the end. their reward is seeing you become a fully functioning adult, not being their live in caregiver
So you actively provide financial support for people and causes you don't agree with. How noble.
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