“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers)

Agreed, especially if someone famous with a lot of influence does it, it can raise awareness and inspire others to help. But then there’s those who do it to get popular and seem like a good person

The different intentions are usually very obvious based on whether the focus is on the celebrity or the people being helped. 'Look how great I am while I put on makeup and designer clothes to come be an inspiration, and now let me give you life advice because I'm so wonderful' vs 'I had the humble pleasure of working with this great organization ___, led by ____, and their mission is ____ and every day they ____ and you can help them by visiting ____ and donating to ____.'

It doesn't though really, and posting this kind of thing to social media is always an instance of "LOOK HOW AMAZING I AM"

There are ways to do that that DON'T end up being a massive brag

I'm always so torn with this, but in the end even if it does devalue the act, if it gets other people to help (even for cheapened reasons) those people are still getting help. Still hate humble baggers though lol.

Personally, I feel it defeats the purpose cuz all you are really doing is going "hey look at me!! I'm better than everyone cuz I'm helping thee less fortunate today. Praise me". When you advertise your good deed, you aren't doing it to help anyone but yourself.

I think that's how people always rationalize it to themselves, but I bet there's almost always a bit of "hope people think I'm a great person" mixed in there too.

True.... but most the time it's for there own personal recognition

I also feel like publicly broadcasting that you only do charity privately is a lesser form of doing charity publicly

It really doesn't. It might inspire some people to look like they're helping. But mostly in similarly exploitative ways. Charity itself is already a scam that does very little for actually fixing the issues (especially when compared to administrative pay and lifestyles), it's always been a way for privileged wealthy people to look like they're doing something nice for the people they every motivation to keep in poverty and as dependent on the pr and money laundering campaigns as possible. Mutual aid and community projects (such as community gardens, co op housing, and information/skill trading programs etc) are far more effecient at not upholding the people helping as better (or even just different people) from the ones who benefit. Plus you know, the need to make large scale policial and cultural changes to end things like poverty, houselessness, hunger, and wars of corporate greed and worldwide capitalist domination.. Anyway I don't do any charity at all. I do food not bombs, and trading personal favors on an individual level.

Exactly that's why I always have a dilemma here.

With children it is definitely different - you're setting an example you hope they will follow. It's shouting about it to all and sundry which is off! Keeping quiet about is also another good example! 👍👍👍

If people only tell you about the terrible things people do, life seems full of terrible thiings. But if we hear about the good things too, we realise we are not alone in wanting a better world.

Great comment. I agree with you.

What you’re describing is sharing publicly for awareness/fundraising, which isn’t the issue here. The problem is people exploiting the vulnerable by sharing publicly for personal benefit rather than the benefit of whoever they’re helping. In these cases the help given may not even be useful and is provided without respect or dignity. Basically, the issue is hollow gestures for personal gain that don’t really help much at all.

Shouldn't be on the list though. It's not normal. Never met anyone who bans their man from hanging out with women, whether friends or workmates.

It depends. Rules of conduct and boundaries are necessary for healthy relationships and any kind of security.

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I agree with this to a point. I don't believe exes should still be in contact with each other only exception is if they have children together

I routinely leave my phone at home. It annoys some people when I don't take my phone with me but I enjoy some free time where I don't want to be contacted.

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I don't think the majority of people consider it normal though.

Well said.

What if you had an accident 40 years ago when no one carried cellphones all the time? What if you were in an area with no cell coverage? It could happen, and thems the breaks. There no need, NO need, for one to carry a cell phone 100% unless you are in a job where being available 24/7 is a requirement. You can live without the little black.box for more than five minutes. I know because I do.it every day.

Same here. I might enjoy someone's music or acting but that doesn't make me interested in anything about their life.

But how do you even function without knowing exactly how many times Rihanna went to the bathroom today?? /s

With you 100% Bill! And those reality shows like the Kardashians, etc? What's wrong with ALL of them that they need attention 24 hours a day? Something definitely wrong with those people and the ones who watch.

110%. It's a sad world because we know who the kar-crash-ians are. I'd give anything to go back 20 years when we didn't need to know them

Well, I do like to see the pretty/crazy dresses hehe

I feel you on that one

I agree. I love music and I will read certain articles about an artist I like if it's interesting but I could care less about their personal views. I don't need a celebrity to tell me how to think.

Right! And if you burn out to the point you cannot work, well don't think your employer is going to cut you a break! They'll dump you and find someone else to use.

It's not your fault they are understaffed! It's their choices playing out.

Where do you work? I need a job lol

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 Yes. People forget how replaceable they are

I'm burning myself out right now because I'm planning to leave to country soon. Lol! Be mindful of the overachievers because sometimes they're just pushing into that final sprint before they reach the finish line.

Good for you!