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30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Not all of these will apply to everyone or every circumstance, but I think that most of these are fair.

1. Asking a guy out or asking a guy to marry you. It's seen as pushy or impatient and frowned upon.

2. Going hiking alone. People don't tend to raise their eyebrows at a man roughing it in the wilderness, but it's seen as reckless or dangerous if a girl does it.

3. Being assertive, standing up for yourself, and being confrontational. A lot of times it's seen as rude when it's seriously just somebody standing up for themselves.

4. Eating large portions of food. If a woman (even a skinny and fit one) is at an event she enjoys and fills a plate with junk food, it tends to raise a few eyebrows. It's considered unladylike. When a guy does it, it's viewed as normal and healthy appetite.

5. Dealing with grief. When a guy doesn't cry, it's stoic. When a woman doesn't cry, it's cold and unhealthy.

6. Caring little about appearance. If a guy goes a few days without shaving and has some stubble, it isn't frowned upon very much. If a girl goes without shaving her legs it's disgusting.

7. Masculime interests. A guy can like cars and video games and sports without question. But if a girl likes those things, it's "because she wants a guy" or "she's faking it" and she has to prove her worth and knowledge.

8. I know it's been said a lot, but sleeping around. It really is a very high double standard. It seems like the pressure is usually placed on women to be the defenders of sexuality. But sometimes we want to get down and dirty too. And I don't think anyone should be shamed for that -- male or female.

That said, I do think that men face a lot of backlash and hardships as well, especially for doing things that normal women do like being alone with children, having open emotions, caring about appearance a lot, etc. I do think women face backlash, even sometimes for behaving like a stereotypical woman (having strong emotions, wearing makeup, wanting to show some skin...) At the end of the day, a little bit of understanding goes a long way. :) Let's all be kind to everyone around us! :)

CC_Sierra , Brady Knoll Report

Final score:

206points

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Stacey Rae 2 years ago

What a great well rounded post.

92points

Dry-Discussion-6004 , Karolina Grabowska Report

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Having body hair

Final score:

190points

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WindySwede 2 years ago

Get over it! It's not your body!

71points

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Calling it "babysitting" when watching their own children

koreamax , Lisa Fotios Report

Final score:

190points

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StrangeOne 2 years ago

I've always corrected people on this whenever they tried saying my kid's dad was "babysitting". Her Dad even called it "babysitting". Parenting would've been a lot easier to cope with if I didn't feel like a single parent in a 2 parent family.

12points

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Walk around and be treated fairly in Iran.

frogjockie , Photo RNW.org Report

Final score:

172points

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kitten levels tokyo 2 years ago

Boy I hear my women friends complain about this one every day.

45points

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Age, gain weight, fart, be sexually active, raise her voice, don't tolerate being interrupted,...

Dooshbaguette , Mike Finn Report

Final score:

161points

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Brendan 2 years ago

Last night, I farted in front of my wife. She then did a louder fart, and said, "I see yours, and raise you mine". Farts are, and always will be, hilarious!

88points

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Not wanting kids.

When a man is good with kids and/or wants kids some day, he is called "a catch" (you know, in combination with other good traits), meaning that the opposite (not being good with kids and/or not wanting kids some day) is common and normal, but not great.

A woman who does not want kids or is awkward with kids is seen with an unkind eye.

ChibiSailorMercury , Eric Lewis Report

Final score:

141points

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zak 2 years ago

I don't want kids, and a woman who doesn't want kids is "a catch" to me 🙂

85points

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Keep their last name after marriage.

imnotyourproblemyet , Chris Report

Final score:

141points

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Amy Taylor 2 years ago

My friend took his wife's name because he had a Lon, complicated last name that people were constantly butchering. His wife had an easy last name, lol

58points

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Not being you child’s primary care giver. Normal for a dad. Failure for a mum.

Ellie_A_K , Rulo Davila Report

Final score:

138points

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Justin Smith 2 years ago

How about failure for either.

32points

StrangeOne 2 years ago

Why should it be a failure? Not being a primary parent doesn't mean not acting as a parent at all. Some parents take of their kids equally and there is no primary parent. Besides, all it means being a "primary caregiver" is the first to be contacted in emergencies and being called upon for other things involving the kid. It doesn't mean one parent is doing less parenting and not spending time with the kids.

31points

RP 2 years ago

For some, it might be the responsible choice. The world is complicated and so are people. Not everyone who has kids wanted them or is equipped to parent them. This will only get worse with abortions being outlawed in many countries *looking at you USA* *looking at you Poland*

9points

Livingroom Panda 2 years ago

not necessarily failure, the parents may not have enough time to take care of their children.

8points

Brendan 2 years ago

Leave working mums alone. It's hard enough juggling work and parenting, without people casting judgement!

5points

Tammy Moos 2 years ago (edited)

My husband was retired medically. When we had our son I was working and came off on maternity leave. Went back to work when our son was 1 and my husband was praised as a an amazing dad. Now I'm not arguing he was amazing, but I worked a min of 8hrs a day at a stressful job and came home to take over for him so he could sleep. Then I was told I should work less, stay at home more and give my husband a break!!!!!

4points

Martina Moreau 2 years ago

I so feel this one. My ex-husband is the primary caregiver for our now 17 year old daughter and always has been. He stayed home with her while I worked, until we had our second child, who had special needs. I was his primary caregiver. I've always felt "less than" because I am not the typical mother figure to her like her dad is. It's not a failure, she has a "mother", he just happens to have a penis. Because I chose to work and support my family doesn't make me any less. So infuriated that people treat others this way

2points

Catpawsarethebest 2 years ago

Maybe this one is not so much about the "bad woman" vibe... From the babys perspektive the mother biologically us the one who can keep it alive. They are biologically connected both in the sense of breastfeeding and the skin-to-skin contact which is a very important factor in surveival and always has been.

1point

Kostas Tsen 2 years ago

I don't understand what "primary care giver" means exactly. Where i come from, a mother is the person that by definition represents child care and love, and this reflects on all aspects of law and society. The father on the other hand is demanded to compensate for his - unfairly attributed and often unrealistic - second place in loving his childer with financial support. And no matter the effort or result in any aspect, financial or personal, he will never be granted an equal status because he is "not the mama".

1point

StrangeOne 2 years ago

It's the parent, or person who's has the main responsibility for the child, and the person who deals with the schools and family doctor appts, and traditionally, has the kids living either all or most of the time with them. Schools and doctors normally automatically assume it's the mother, or female caregiver, who is deemed primary. Some Dads, who have equal or full custody of their kids will get told to relay messages to the Mother, or ask to speak with the Mother, totally ignoring the Dad.

4points

R. McTavish 1 year ago

Single dad, here. I take issue with this.

0points

#10

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Shave your hair off.

Regular_Estimate_511 , Tim Gouw Report

Final score:

128points

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Deborah Harris2 2 years ago

I've had a lot of friends shave their heads for 'Stand up to Cancer' , none had any comeback because of it xx

35points

#11

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online driving an 18 wheeler.... they s**t when i get out.....it is just a truck.....i can drive a semi, too

Queenofhackenwack , Gheysen86 Report

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115points

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TheAquarius1978 2 years ago

S**t lol, i remember a few decades a go, when a bus company here got its 2 first female bus drivers, those busses where full to capacity for 2 or 3 weeks, just by idiots that wanted to see a woman drive a bus.

55points

#12

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online a) having sex
b) not having sex
c) smiling and laughing a lot
d) not smiling and laughing “enough”
e) not knowing how to cook
f) not doing house chores
g) having kids and having a career at the same time

0_0moon0_0 , dreamponderCreate Report

Final score:

115points

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Stacey Rae 2 years ago

We just can't seem to win

65points

#13

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Being old

DDJello , Edu Carvalho Report

Final score:

110points

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Stacey Rae 2 years ago

Please correct me if I'm wrong but as an aging women I feel older women are the least respected/ revered (?) / unaccepted (?)... Would appreciate others insights.

65points

kanyesweenie , history-art-photos Report

#14

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Normal bodily functions

Final score:

94points

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Tabitha Frost 2 years ago

Wait, are you saying women urinate??? OH THE HUMANITY!! /s

58points

Drdreonthemicrophone , joey zanotti Report

#15

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Make reasonable complaints

Final score:

94points

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GirlFriday 2 years ago

SO MUCH THIS!

30points

#16

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Not wanting marriage

GoldenGlitter9 , wetwebwork Report

Final score:

92points

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Bored Retsuko 2 years ago

Ab-so-lutely

25points

theVastlycreative , SuckTheButton Report

#17

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Being assertive. Assertive women seen as ‘dominating’ and ‘intimidating,’ but assertive men are seen as ‘having incredible leadership skill’ and ‘confident and self-assured’ (Know this by comparing my teacher’s commentary on my leadership skills versus my male friend who did the exactly the same)

Final score:

81points

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ShaZam Beaubien 2 years ago

Assertive women are given the term pushy. It's not the same for guys.

40points

CrispSandwichMuncher , Tony Alter Report

#18

30 Things That Nobody Bats An Eye About If It’s A Guy Doing It, But Loses Their Wits If It’s A Woman Doing It, As Listed By Folks Online Be fat/chubby. Fat men= the funny friend. Fat woman= the ugly friend. Not fair tbh

Final score:

81points

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TheAquarius1978 2 years ago (edited)

Really? I had a female friend that weighed 120kg and She was 1.60m tall, i weigh 120kg but i'm a male ( denser boné and muscle structures ) and i'm 1.85m tall, and She was BY FAR the sexyest women i ever talked to, personality counts a lot, and She had that in spades, its a shame She was married.

32points

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Rider 2 years ago (edited)

Being accused of sleeping their way to the top.

16points

Jack S 2 years ago

I don't see a problem with women doing any of these. Is this mainly America? Cos in the UK it seems we don't judge as much. Or maybe we do but we're too polite to actually say anything lol.

8points

Carrie Laughs 2 years ago

Can't say it fits my experience in most instances, to be honest. The only one that does is being asked about having children. Though it was being asked, I didn't actually feel judged. Though that might be me not caring that much about what others think... hard to know really!

5points

Jessica butts 1 year ago

I'm American but spent Time in the UK and Ireland and men seemed more openly sexist but less hateful about it.

0points

Klara Lorinczi 2 years ago

I think the Brits are too polite to say but you guys think and feel all the same things Americans do. We’re just more open about it.

0points

Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

I think in the UK as in mnay nations, it depends on local subculture, family background, etc. In my hubby's fam (UK) it'd be a disgrace. but to the US branch of the family, no big deal if gender roles aren't "fit". Generation, too, plays a part.

0points

Jiji The Cat 2 years ago

liking the same gender. being gay is more often frowned upon no matter male or female, but sometimes lesbian relationships get sexualised. why? we just love the same gender

2points

Jessica butts 1 year ago

That's because men think women only exist for their pleasure.

0points

Stargazer66 1 year ago

Sleeping with casual hook ups. When a guy does it, he's a 'player' and admired. When a woman does it, she's a s**t.

1point

M Kawai 2 years ago

These are nothing people haven't heard before. Now if you flip it, that would have been more interesting.

1point

Alexandra Prytkova 1 year ago (edited)

Living in Russia and if a man reacts angrily to something it is viewed very poorly. Specially in a working environment. Like, the only time I saw a guy yell in at work here, everyone reacted very judgmentaly about it and said he was acting childish and that it shows that he lacks respect in the company and is throwing tantrums to try to prove something but it is backfiring. Nobody finds it acceptable here. Had a PhD student yell at our group of students in class, cause he couldn't make them behave. Didn't have any more classes after that...

0points

ItsJess 2 years ago

Date or marry a younger man. When men date or marry a younger woman, people don't seem bothered at all, but my husband is 13 years younger than I am and people seem to think it's weird (I had one "friend" tell me to my face that it was creepy even though we are and have always been consenting adults).

0points

SilverSkyCloud 2 years ago

everytime i see men dating younger women they get called pedos even if both people were consenting adults when the relationship started

0points

AlecBarley 2 years ago

Scratching their crotch while watching the telly

-1point

Kostas Tsen 2 years ago (edited)

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Stacey Rae 2 years ago

You are either oblivious or really ignorant. And your arguments are very poor. Please educate yourself.

4points

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Rider 2 years ago (edited)

Being accused of sleeping their way to the top.

16points

Jack S 2 years ago

I don't see a problem with women doing any of these. Is this mainly America? Cos in the UK it seems we don't judge as much. Or maybe we do but we're too polite to actually say anything lol.

8points

Carrie Laughs 2 years ago

5points

Jessica butts 1 year ago

I'm American but spent Time in the UK and Ireland and men seemed more openly sexist but less hateful about it.

0points

Klara Lorinczi 2 years ago

I think the Brits are too polite to say but you guys think and feel all the same things Americans do. We’re just more open about it.

0points

Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

0points

Jiji The Cat 2 years ago

liking the same gender. being gay is more often frowned upon no matter male or female, but sometimes lesbian relationships get sexualised. why? we just love the same gender

2points

Jessica butts 1 year ago

That's because men think women only exist for their pleasure.

0points

Stargazer66 1 year ago

Sleeping with casual hook ups. When a guy does it, he's a 'player' and admired. When a woman does it, she's a s**t.

1point

M Kawai 2 years ago

These are nothing people haven't heard before. Now if you flip it, that would have been more interesting.

1point

Alexandra Prytkova 1 year ago (edited)

0points

ItsJess 2 years ago

0points

SilverSkyCloud 2 years ago

everytime i see men dating younger women they get called pedos even if both people were consenting adults when the relationship started

0points

AlecBarley 2 years ago

Scratching their crotch while watching the telly

-1point

Kostas Tsen 2 years ago (edited)

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Stacey Rae 2 years ago

You are either oblivious or really ignorant. And your arguments are very poor. Please educate yourself.

4points