“I’m Scared To Tell My American Friends”: 11 Things That Are Normal In Denmark But Not In America

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With 33 hour work weeks, a $20 minimum wage, free university, free medical care and free child care, Denmark has been one of the happiest countries in the world for the last decade or more. Home of Hans Christian Andersen and hygge, many people around the globe have an idealized view of what it’s like to live in Denmark. But according to one mother from the US who actually lives there, there are certain cultural differences that might shock the average American.

In her series “Things That Are Normal In Denmark That I’m Scared To Tell My American Friends”, TikToker Annie In Eventyrland shares all of the culture shocks she has experienced since she moved to Denmark. Below, you’ll find many of Annie’s observations about how Danish children are treated, as well as an interview with her and some of the reactions her videos have received.

We would love to hear your thoughts in the comments about how normal these things would be in your home country, whether you’re American, Danish or from somewhere else completely! Then if you’re interested in reading another Bored Panda article featuring cultural differences from around the world, look no further than right here.

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"I'm Scared To Tell My American Friends": 11 Things That Are Normal In Denmark But Not In America It seems like age 7-8 is completely normal for a kid to walk to and from school by themselves, not really any later than 10, depending on where you live and where the kid's school is.

annieineventyrland , Daiga Ellaby Report

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"I'm Scared To Tell My American Friends": 11 Things That Are Normal In Denmark But Not In America People leave their babies outside in their strollers to sleep. To me, it's a sign of safety and trust in the community.

annieineventyrland , Tamara Govedarov Report

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Pink Aesthetic 2 years ago

Same in Finland

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Anna Ekberg 2 years ago

Same in Sweden.

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John Marr 2 years ago

That's a fast track way to have your kids taken away in America.

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Rosy Maple Moth 2 years ago

This reminds me of Danish actress Anette Sørensen who went to jail for leaving her baby in a pram outside a New York restaurant over twenty years ago. https://nypost.com/2017/11/25/i-went-to-jail-for-leaving-my-baby-outside-a-restaurant/amp/

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idrow1 2 years ago

The benefits of living in a civilized country.

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Franklin Flowers 2 years ago

Ohhhh man, the best part of this story is the judgy moms in the comments 😂

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Bored Phoenix (he/they) 2 years ago

i see how that makes sense like in a safe community but do they mean OUTSIDE outside, like even in the heat or smth? sorry i dont have much experience w babies anyway and i live in the us so im a bit confused

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Rosy Maple Moth 2 years ago (edited)

Denmark usually doesn’t get that hot. We had a maximum of 31°C this summer and that was only for a few days. July is the warmest month of the year, with an average temperature of up to 21.7°C. Babies sleep in their prams all year round just like people of all ages take a dip in the sea all year round. Both are known to be very healthy.

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Arthur Waite 2 years ago

What! No mosquitoes in your country?

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Charlie 2 years ago

Mosquito nets are obtainable in Denmark, if need be..

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sarah edwards 2 years ago

Used to be the same in Britain

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Panda Kicki 2 years ago

I dont. You have absolutely no heads up if the kid get to hot, to cold, wakes up crying, attacked by mosquitoes or a cat squashes them with love. I dont fear kidnap (Sweden) although wr actually had some cases of that to, but other risks.

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NoPandashere 2 years ago (edited)

Baby monitors are a thing you know

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Brooklyn 2 years ago

You should be able to do this anywhere. It is a shame you can't😔

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T. Unnamable 2 years ago

Same in San Diego, California in the 1950s.

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Tamara Arden 2 years ago

Used to be normal in my little hometown to leave the baby outside to pop into the shops for five minutes.

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Amy Taylor 2 years ago

I grew up in the 70's and at the grocery store, every single car in the parking lot was filled with kids hanging out in their cars while mom or dad shopped, lol

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Mária Dusová 2 years ago

And even at home we let our kid sleep on the balcony in a stroller. And baby slept...well, like a baby :-) I´m in Czechia.

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Rosy Maple Moth 2 years ago

Unfortunately, they also leave their babies outside to cry it out while having their latte inside the cafe. Cannot count anymore how often I walked by a cafe or daycare center with tiny babies screaming their lungs out outside and noone giving a damn.

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Melene Majlovic 2 years ago

So not true

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Rosy Maple Moth 2 years ago (edited)

Why would you say that this is not true if that‘s exactly what I have experienced throughout the years? Everyone in my mothers group (all Danes) put their newborns down, covered them with a cloth and let them cry to sleep. Even my sundhedsplejerske told me to not pick my child up but let it cry it out! Do you even live in Denmark?

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Michael Vitale 2 years ago

Same in the US in the '50s. I was the baby, although mom left me with Orlon, a retired German police dog, as dogs weren't allowed in the store.

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Mrs Irish Mom 2 years ago

Alot of tourists around, wouldnt trust my child to b safe outside anywer even my garden alone

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Becky Samuel 2 years ago

Why? What are they going to do with it? Who goes on vacation to mess with babies in a suburban neighbourhood?

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El Dee 2 years ago

This is another thing that was normal in my country too until maybe 15 or 20 years ago..

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Mer☕️🧭☕️ 2 years ago

...which is why we don't do that in the US. You think I'm going to trust these rancid jackwipes with MY kid??? ***pfft***

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Florence Hastings 2 years ago

And the fresh air is good for the baby.

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Catpawsarethebest 2 years ago

Surprising how many in the comments think its dangerous? Like you prepare for the heat and the Cold. My kid slept outside both in summer and winter. Couldnt sleep inside during the day. It would wake him.up. He's never been bitten by bugs, animals or whatever crazy thing people thinks will happen. Actually I think its much more difficult to keep a good temperature inside. It gets Hot easily but unexpected. And just use a baby monitor. So you can hear them at all times!

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Nope 2 years ago

Here in the Netherlands that's illegal

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James Linen 2 years ago

Yall crazy. A dog would snatch that baby up just about anywhere else.

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Catpawsarethebest 2 years ago

I think its the dog thats more crazy... 🙃 why do dogs snatch babies?

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RedPanda897 2 years ago

I’d be worried about the baby getting stolen or something. Couldn’t do this where I live.

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Thea Bøwadt 2 years ago (edited)

Which i truly just find sad! Baby's should be safe anywhere. In Denmark if a child is de-stress, crying and don't see anyone coming they will go ind to the café or store, there the stroller is parked, to find the parent and kindly inform them. Denmark is generally a safe place for children, where everyone help if needed.

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Omiyaru 2 years ago

Wait what? Really?

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SPARKIZE 2 years ago

every culture has traditions, I'm sure the danger factor is always considered .

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Thea Bøwadt 2 years ago

The danger factor on this is very very low in Denmark.

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Christian Maas 2 years ago

To me it's the sign of a bad parent. Things like the times change. Don't leave your children alone, outside...

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Catpawsarethebest 2 years ago

Well, they are not far away and in a stroller with some kind of harness so they dont fall out, with baby monitors and you can get to them easily. When my kid slept outside he was actually closer to me (as the living room door went out to the garden). Had he been inside he would be ik another room ALONE and it would take me longer to get to him. Also, we do check on the babies and maje sure they have the right clothes on etc.

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To hear more about Annie’s thoughts on Danish parenting and how she ended up in Denmark in the first place, we reached out to her via email. She told Bored Panda that her family relocated to Copenhagen about three and a half years ago because the design company her husband works for opened an office there.

We asked Annie how she would compare living in Denmark to living in the US, and she told us, “Considering just the sheer difference in population, it's really hard to compare. But I am really thankful that Denmark is so safe. Copenhagen is listed as the safest city in the world, and I'm extremely grateful to be able to raise my children here. For that, I do prefer Denmark, but I would be lying if I said I didn't miss the occasional Target run from time to time.”

"I'm Scared To Tell My American Friends": 11 Things That Are Normal In Denmark But Not In America In Denmark, you can't name your baby whatever you want. In fact, there's a preapproved list that you can choose from. And if the name that you wanna choose for your baby isn't on there, it has to be approved. So we can't name our kids something like Malibu Barbie here, but there are even more common-seeming names that have been blacklisted as well.

annieineventyrland , CHUTTERSNAP Report

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"I'm Scared To Tell My American Friends": 11 Things That Are Normal In Denmark But Not In America In the US, there's this perception that Denmark is just this extremely healthy country and everyone eats super clean and just eats whole foods, fruit, vegetables all the time.

And in the US, at least where I had my kids, which was in New York and then Portland, Oregon, there was a lot of stigma around giving your kids sugar or any kind of junk food.

Honestly, something that I really love about Denmark is how normalized treats are.
Doctors will literally recommend it if your kid is sick, they will say, "Well, have you tried giving them ice cream yet?"
Another food that's kind of demonized again, at least where I'm from in the US, is anything with bread, any carbs of any kind. Here in Denmark, you might have a pastry every day. You might have a pastry several times a day, and then pasta with some bread. You'd probably wash that down with a coke or a glass of wine, or several beers.
I do love how normalized fun foods are, and I think it actually sets people up for really healthy eating habits.

annieineventyrland , JÉSHOOTS Report

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We also asked Annie if it took a while to acclimate to all of the cultural differences, and she shared, “I honestly feel like I am still adjusting to the cultural differences here. I wasn't expecting it, but it feels like literally everything is different from what I'm used to in some way, for reasons big and small.”

“Learning to grocery shop in a foreign country took me a couple years to get down, and I still have room for improvement,” Annie admitted. “The hardest thing for me to get used to was, considering maternity leave and work life balance is so healthy here, there really isn't such a thing as a stay at home parent, which was my role for five years before making the move. It's been a lot having my entire identity change, but for the better.”

"I'm Scared To Tell My American Friends": 11 Things That Are Normal In Denmark But Not In America Something that seems to be very normalized here are afflictions of old, in particular, lice. I grew up in Texas and I never had lice in my entire childhood or early adult life. If somebody were to get it, it's kind of a big deal. But I will never forget, a few months after we moved here, as we were leaving my son's kindergarten, he was complaining that his head was itching, and sure enough, I looked at his scalp and there just was like the perfect pattern of lice eggs.
I ran back into the classroom and was like, "Oh my gosh, I just noticed my son has lice." And the teacher was like, "Okay, well, I'll send out an email and let everybody know." They were just so calm about it. Whereas I feel like in the US, people would be freaking out.

annieineventyrland , Silvana Carlos Report

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"I'm Scared To Tell My American Friends": 11 Things That Are Normal In Denmark But Not In America The legal drinking age here is 16, you're allowed to buy alcohol of certain levels. In case you don't know, the legal drinking age in the US is 21.

annieineventyrland , Tembela Bohle Report

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We then asked Annie if she thinks many American parents could learn a thing or two from Danish parents. “One of the biggest differences between American and Danish parents is how relaxed they are, and with nearly a year of maternity leave, paid vacation and sick days, living in such a safe country, affordable childcare and no medical costs, why wouldn't they be?”

“For that reason, I think it would be pretty difficult for American parents to be as relaxed as their Danish counterparts,” Annie told Bored Panda. “But I do think American culture could stand to step back from helicopter parenting, having their kids in so many activities and having so many educational expectations for them at such young ages. Denmark is really good at letting kids be kids.”

"I'm Scared To Tell My American Friends": 11 Things That Are Normal In Denmark But Not In America If you drop your kid off at daycare, kindergarten, elementary school, any institution, they could leave at any point and you might not know where they are.

I honestly don't know how many times I picked up my kid from school and they were like, "Hey, we went to the theater today," and I had absolutely no clue that they were even gonna be going anywhere.
There's also been times that I've been out, like walking through the park and ran into my own kids with their school, not even knowing that they would be there.

annieineventyrland , BBC Creative Report

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Many viewers weighed in with their thoughts on these cultural differences in the comments as well

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FloC 2 years ago

Surprise, surprise, different country, different culture...

27points

E2U&U2 2 years ago (edited)

I'm 70 and in the US. I remember the freedom of summer for kids. Yes, we walked to school too, but in the summer, we weren't allowed to play in the house and mess it up. We were on our own from after breakfast until the street lights came on or it was time for dinner. Did we stay in our yards? Heck no. One kid would light out for a neighboring kid, and they would pick up others until a gaggle of us would converge at some meeting place with other kids. For me, it was the cooling landscape of a swampy marsh that ran through town or a local park. I mourn the sense of safety and independence the younger generations will never know. We learned to take care of ourselves, resolve petty differences and make decisions without the intervention of adults.

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Kevin Hickey 2 years ago

Staying inside was a punishment.

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Furious George 2 years ago

My wife and I were just in southern Europe and the most shocking and wonderful thing for me was seeing a full playground at 10 at night with no supervision. The parents were all obviously at restaurants down the street (but completely out of sight) and it was just so clear that there was nothing to worry about.

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maswartz 2 years ago

If you're "scared" to tell your friends something than that's the bigger issue!

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Richard Anderson 2 years ago

If you're scared to tell your friends something I guess you just post it on the internet for them and everyone else to see.

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Robert T 2 years ago

One of the biggest differences is how the roads are set up for cyclists, with separate cycle tracks and even traffic lights for bicycles. There are even cycle carriages on the trains. Also, there is a 100% tax on new cars, so the vast majority of cars are all super-minis.

3points

spookymyo 2 years ago (edited)

Letting boys and girls get in a shower together naked? Uh... No!

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Kimmie Lyderik 2 years ago

No, that is misunderstood. Boys and girls have separate locker rooms and showers. Always! And any child or parent expressing discomfort with showering or changing in a group (either boys or girls) is allowed to change and shower privately.

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Pink Aesthetic 2 years ago

Northern countries in Europe are safe. They are Finland, Denmark, Norway, Sweden and Iceland. Sweden has a bit of criminal activity but Finland is really safe even though its next to Russia! You can see kids walking alone at 10 pm because there's no fear of crimes or shootings: you cant carry guns freely.

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Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

Sweden just had its far-right party become the 2nd most powerful. Sorry if I decline to put it on a list of "safe" places. When the far-right has any power politically, a country becomes very prone to sh*tstorms. See: US, UK, Brazil, Russia, Hungary, Italy, etc etc etc

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Leilah Steyn 2 years ago

In my country i won't let my 9yeaar old walk alone. Love my country but no way i am ready to take chance, Kidnappings / abductions happens so fast and you would even know where to start looking. SA is a beautiful country, not worth to be neglected me just every person is not a criminal bit i won't risk it.

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Atomicwoman07 2 years ago

I wonder how long this 'Anne from Eventyrland' has being living in Denmark. Lot of the things here are not accurate and some are downright false!

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enstrompia 2 years ago

Please tell me which ones are false? I'm born in Denmark and been living here all my life. Please enlighten me.

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Milan 2 years ago

Wasnt here on BP for two weeks and still this type of c**p posts? I am tired of this sh*t 😀 See you in 2 weeks

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LilaNadja Apfel 1 year ago

The f-bomb. 😄 We're from Germany and here it is also quite common, to drop the "f-bomb". We use the "No risk, no fun" phrase, without translating it. My daughter is so familiar with the f-bomb, that she thinks, it's "No risk, no f**k." 🤣 I never correct her, because I think it's hilarious! 😂🤗

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Den Ver 2 years ago

Copied from FloC: I'm 70 and in the US. I remember the freedom of summer for kids. Yes, we walked to school too, but in the summer, we weren't allowed to play in the house and mess it up. We were on our own from after breakfast until the street lights came on or it was time for dinner. Did we stay in our yards? Heck no. One kid would light out for a neighboring kid, and they would pick up others until a gaggle of us would converge at some meeting place with other kids. For me, it was the cooling landscape of a swampy marsh that ran through town or a local park. I mourn the sense of safety and independence the younger generations will never know. We learned to take care of ourselves, resolve petty differences and make decisions without the intervention of adults.

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Leilah Steyn 2 years ago

Please ignore all the grammar mistakes etc.. thanks.

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BasedWang12.3 2 years ago

I'm with the last person (and im in the US). My house was the party house for yearrrrrs

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Debbie Rosenloev 2 years ago

I have been living in Denmark for25 years now. I came from California and married a Dane. My husband and I are now Guardians if our grandson who was born in California and now lives with us in Denmark. Raising children here us so different. I find that there are not any real consequences for children and the foul language here is tolerated which we find appealing. We live in a small town and because the way kids are raised here I find a total lack of respect for other people's property and people here take it in stride. Bikes especially are routinely taken by children, teens and adults and dumped when they are done riding the stolen bicycle. The children are spoiled and disrespectful and it shows in the classrooms. The liberties given to children here are not just from the way this society functions but also from the laws put on place to protect children's rights. In eight months from now, children at the age of ten can tell the authorities they no longer want to see their parents.

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PinkPeppered Squid 2 years ago

I find your little anecdote incredibly hard to believe, some would say its completely made up

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enstrompia 2 years ago

Well, according to your Facebook, you don't live in Denmark (nor does it seems, you ever have), and all off this is just rubbish. You just don't like freedpm, do you?

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Catpawsarethebest 2 years ago

Where exactly do you live? If its Albertslund its your own fault 😂

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FloC 2 years ago

Surprise, surprise, different country, different culture...

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E2U&U2 2 years ago (edited)

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Kevin Hickey 2 years ago

Staying inside was a punishment.

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Furious George 2 years ago

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maswartz 2 years ago

If you're "scared" to tell your friends something than that's the bigger issue!

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Richard Anderson 2 years ago

If you're scared to tell your friends something I guess you just post it on the internet for them and everyone else to see.

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Robert T 2 years ago

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spookymyo 2 years ago (edited)

Letting boys and girls get in a shower together naked? Uh... No!

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Kimmie Lyderik 2 years ago

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Pink Aesthetic 2 years ago

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Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

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Leilah Steyn 2 years ago

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Atomicwoman07 2 years ago

I wonder how long this 'Anne from Eventyrland' has being living in Denmark. Lot of the things here are not accurate and some are downright false!

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enstrompia 2 years ago

Please tell me which ones are false? I'm born in Denmark and been living here all my life. Please enlighten me.

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Milan 2 years ago

Wasnt here on BP for two weeks and still this type of c**p posts? I am tired of this sh*t 😀 See you in 2 weeks

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LilaNadja Apfel 1 year ago

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Den Ver 2 years ago

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Leilah Steyn 2 years ago

Please ignore all the grammar mistakes etc.. thanks.

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BasedWang12.3 2 years ago

I'm with the last person (and im in the US). My house was the party house for yearrrrrs

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Debbie Rosenloev 2 years ago

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PinkPeppered Squid 2 years ago

I find your little anecdote incredibly hard to believe, some would say its completely made up

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enstrompia 2 years ago

Well, according to your Facebook, you don't live in Denmark (nor does it seems, you ever have), and all off this is just rubbish. You just don't like freedpm, do you?

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Catpawsarethebest 2 years ago

Where exactly do you live? If its Albertslund its your own fault 😂

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