I haven't done it to any of my family members since they are awesome and thoughtful people, but I have done it to some old close friends because of their toxicity.

The experience of OP sounds particularly awful. But I've regularly heard kids getting talked down to and generally being made to feel as though their parents are somehow doing them a favour by giving them food or a roof over their head.

Ok, but let's use a "Kyle" in a while

Yep, put on tons of makeup. Dance studios too. I was grossed out watching adolescents dancing all slutty. Then when they get pregnant at an early age or the parents say, oh I don't know where they learning that from... Yea, right. That's what happens when you start sexualizing your kids at an early age. Let the hating on me begin...

Full saying in my language states that "the young must respect the old and the old must be kind to the young". So if the eldar wants respect then he or she needs to show kindness first

It happens in teaching too. I once worked at a school where they announced a pay freeze for all teachers because they couldn't afford teacher salaries. Then the same people gave out big bonuses to all of the administration plus raises.

I have a s**t ton of video games console that I never got as a kid that I have to save up, find great deals, and collect. Some people shamed me for it like "You're already working/22, why do you need more consoles?". "Uh, because I like them? I have to spend time and money that I earned for it so why are you giving me a hard time bruh?"

And then the parents scream at them for not giving an A to their precious little monster

my mom does this when she offers me fruit 💀

This has happened to me. I was on a field trip to some park (can't remember the name) and before we left, we got to make a craft. A few minutes after my craft was done, I got up and walked passed another student, Steve, (real name) who was sitting on the ground and as I walked passed him, I accidentally stepped on his foot. I apologized but Steve's response was to jump on my back and start punching me in the eye. The teachers got him off me and I was given ice for my eye. The next day, we were both given in-school suspension for fighting even though he did all of the hitting and I didn't hit him at all.

People call this 'passionate', when it is in fact just violent, aggressive behavior.

And gives you unrealistic expectations of when a plumber will arrive

I don't understand jealousy in a relationship. It's a deal-breaker. I told you I'd be faithful, so if that isn't good enough for you, why should I then spend/waste my time with you? You can trust me or be gone.

Don't know them, and I'm not going to up their stats by searching.

I've had these thoughts. Well said

This relates to a lack of flexibility/control over the finances of the people involved. Parent sends sick child to school because they cannot afford to take the day off work to look after the child (because they are hourly paid, or have no PTO or whatever). They are not sending their mini plague carrier to infect a school because they just can't be bothered. (Obvious caveat, there are arsehole parents who absolutely *cannot* be bothered, but Id say they are in the minority)

I was told that when I was FIVE YEARS OLD. FIVE. Oh that boy who keeps stealing your hat and running away with it is just doing it because he *likes* you! ...in PRESCHOOL. Said kid continued to bully me all the way through to Year Four, which was when I transferred to a different school. And for a good chunk of that time I just put up with it.

So does that apply to overweight/obese adults?

Looks like an American problem. I've started my vacation of four weeks and told everyone I will only answer a WhatsApp message when it really really urgent. All other ways of communication will be declined.

Well prices go up except for the wages.

F**k this gatekeeping. I've been told I wasn't "really" abused because I wasn't hit with a non-belt foreign object. I wasn't "really" sexually abused because I wasn't penetrated with a penis. I wasn't "really" poor because we never lived in our car, only slept in it overnight once. My depression is "white fragility" or "white woman's tears." I've been in therapy for years just to acknowledge that my experiences and pains actually matter, too.

MY PARENTS NEED TO READ THIS. I have been told this my entire life. Sometimes I am sad or angry or (FSM FORBID) just need a minute or two to process my emotions! The amount of flak I have taken from my parents for feeling anything they don't feel is unreal.

I have really bad seasonal depression and my sister can't accept that I have problems so she says that in making it up for attention or something 😒

Seems everyone else can express their feelings and have emotions except me. I'm always getting shushed, told to be positive, don't get upset, don't complain about work/that smoker smoking in the non-smoking bus shack/ or whatever. Yet, I get to hear the AM Radio people gab non-stop about how much they hate their job, listen to their road rage, and lament about everyone and their ill-mannered dogs.

My husband is incredibly bad about this. He tries to fix every negative emotion I have then says it is in my head and I just need to think positively. He does it to himself too. Avoids negative thoughts and feelings to much he can never fix the issues in him life. Can't seem to get him to stop doing it because he can't see the negative impact it has on both of us. The worse things are the more he does it. It is his self defense mechanism and it is super unhealthy.

Did...did I write this?

I hate it when people tell me, "I know how you feel." No, no you don't

and always remember that you do not nessesarily have a complete picture of what is going on in people's lives or inside their heads, and act accordingly. This is especially true for depression, which is often stigmatised, and hence something that people try to hide. The signals they send, will therefore often not be in alignment with what the think and feel, and the question "how is it going" will often be answered with a short "fine" despite their world falling apart, and the sadness will be hidden under fake smiles, as no one want to be around a sad or angry face. So if people have the currage to tell you that they are depressed, you better believe them, and it is probably worse than you think.Being curious and inquisitive is often a better aproach than being judgemental. If it does not make sense to you, it is often because you have missed out on some important detail. So you better figure out what is going on, before you make your conclusion and tell someone how to behave.

Same. My parents also told my 9 yo self you shouldn't cry unless you're injured. Thanks guys... cuz that didn't f**k me up.

I experienced that psychiatrist basically told me that I just should get job as hostess, ignoring that I complained that no one wants to hire me anywhere (in jobs which don't even require contact with customers) to "JUST LEARN HOW TO NOT TO BE AUTISTIC."

After some stuff and then partner died, "friend" came and got me. So...it seems so she could tell me how I don't smile enough, I'm a terrible person, she supported me so much and I don't appreciate her and on and on. Then threw a screaming fit when I left.

The whole idea that you can't have fun, if you aren't drunk.

Not me. I love being married. I'm more stable, emotionally and physically. She taught me how to love and love myself again.

I'm tired of it. I'll call out anyone I see mistreating staff, as long as they aren't getting aggressive. If they are I'll call the police. I've seen it too often. Enough is enough.

I'm still trying to readjust my self-views. There was always something on me to fix: my teeth, my hairstyle, my skin, and always my weight. People always complained that I never smiled (showed my teeth) and wore my hair in my face. I'm like, "Um, cause you always pointed out how wrong I looked, why do you think?" I'm hoping to break the cycle with my kids.

And even more, oftentimes when women are virgins, they're seen as "pure" but when a man is a virgin, he's suddenly a "loser"??

I'm reminded of one I read about where the family had a cross-country move for the husband's job--she was a SAHM. In their old neighborhood, she'd been involved in a couple of "mothers day out" groups, like big playdates where the moms would bring their kids and all the moms would look after all the kids while they played. So anyway, family has a cross-country move, and SAHM thinks she's found a group where she can bring her kids. She shows up, and it's very clear all the mothers had been drinking for a while. All the mothers are inside, all the kids are outside. SAHM asks who's watching the kids. They look at her like she's stupid. "They're in the backyard!" "Yes, but who's watching them?" "We know where they are. Come, have a drink!" She stuck it out for maybe two hours before she just didn't feel comfortable anymore. Took her kid(s) and went home. Next thing she knows, word has spread that she's a "stuck up b*tch." No great loss...

Funny, I belittle myself cause I have no self esteem.....

Remember, we're often told that it's not abuse if he's not hitting you or cheating on you. We "have no reason to complain" if he works/pays bills. "He just took you out to dinner!" "He's so sweet to you!" "Every couple fights." "This is just the way marriage is." No. If your partner hurts you or is cruel to you or doesn't treat you like they love or like you? You have every reason to leave. I'll help you pack.

Not just crying but showing emotion in general. Or liking kittens instead of big dogs. Or ordering margaritas instead of whiskey.

i missed the train home and my male friend gave me his couch, i was 22, my parents who i lived with blanked me for months as thought we had gotten busy, theyre a fine pair to talk, teenage pregnancy much

The whole purpose of most of our organs is to detox our body.

Uh...nope. When my wife is off, her phone would ring. Her boss. I just so happened to say when you're off, you're OFF. If they call you and keep you on the phone 10,15 minutes about work, they need to start paying you for that. Well her phone calls from work drastically dropped.

Facebook is like watching an elderly person yell at an empty road, and then congratulate themselves for doing it.