I haven't done it to any of my family members since they are awesome and thoughtful people, but I have done it to some old close friends because of their toxicity.

The experience of OP sounds particularly awful. But I've regularly heard kids getting talked down to and generally being made to feel as though their parents are somehow doing them a favour by giving them food or a roof over their head.

Ok, but let's use a "Kyle" in a while

Yep, put on tons of makeup. Dance studios too. I was grossed out watching adolescents dancing all slutty. Then when they get pregnant at an early age or the parents say, oh I don't know where they learning that from... Yea, right. That's what happens when you start sexualizing your kids at an early age. Let the hating on me begin...

Full saying in my language states that "the young must respect the old and the old must be kind to the young". So if the eldar wants respect then he or she needs to show kindness first

It happens in teaching too. I once worked at a school where they announced a pay freeze for all teachers because they couldn't afford teacher salaries. Then the same people gave out big bonuses to all of the administration plus raises.

I have a s**t ton of video games console that I never got as a kid that I have to save up, find great deals, and collect. Some people shamed me for it like "You're already working/22, why do you need more consoles?". "Uh, because I like them? I have to spend time and money that I earned for it so why are you giving me a hard time bruh?"

And then the parents scream at them for not giving an A to their precious little monster

my mom does this when she offers me fruit 💀

This has happened to me. I was on a field trip to some park (can't remember the name) and before we left, we got to make a craft. A few minutes after my craft was done, I got up and walked passed another student, Steve, (real name) who was sitting on the ground and as I walked passed him, I accidentally stepped on his foot. I apologized but Steve's response was to jump on my back and start punching me in the eye. The teachers got him off me and I was given ice for my eye. The next day, we were both given in-school suspension for fighting even though he did all of the hitting and I didn't hit him at all.

People call this 'passionate', when it is in fact just violent, aggressive behavior.

And gives you unrealistic expectations of when a plumber will arrive

I don't understand jealousy in a relationship. It's a deal-breaker. I told you I'd be faithful, so if that isn't good enough for you, why should I then spend/waste my time with you? You can trust me or be gone.

Don't know them, and I'm not going to up their stats by searching.

I've had these thoughts. Well said

This relates to a lack of flexibility/control over the finances of the people involved. Parent sends sick child to school because they cannot afford to take the day off work to look after the child (because they are hourly paid, or have no PTO or whatever). They are not sending their mini plague carrier to infect a school because they just can't be bothered. (Obvious caveat, there are arsehole parents who absolutely *cannot* be bothered, but Id say they are in the minority)

I was told that when I was FIVE YEARS OLD. FIVE. Oh that boy who keeps stealing your hat and running away with it is just doing it because he *likes* you! ...in PRESCHOOL. Said kid continued to bully me all the way through to Year Four, which was when I transferred to a different school. And for a good chunk of that time I just put up with it.

The excuses people make when a girl speaks up and asks for help and protection is unacceptable. Take a look at the post I made about being cornered by two adult men, and the number of "They were probably trying to be nice and help!" excuses, even when it was obvious they weren't. Even when I pointed out that I didn't need help and was afraid. We are CONSTANTLY told that our feelings are wrong and we need to instead foreground the feelings of the people hurting us.

I was bullied by a boy in my fifth grade class, and then the whole class piled on. They called me a dog and would put dog treats on my desk, etc. My teachers daughter had leukemia, so there were tons of subs who didn’t catch the behavior. I was first told “boys always tease girls they like.” When I complained about the dog treats to my mom, she called the school. Apparently bully boy’s parents were going through a divorce. My mom said “his problems are bigger than yours” so put up with it. Being told that screwed me up right into my 30s, considering I had untreated bipolar depression I was ashamed to get help for because other peoples problems are bigger than mine and I should get over myself. I’m in a great place now. BTW my parents are very loving and supportive. This took place in the 80s, and I think my parents thought it was just school yard stuff that would go away on its own. They would be horrified to learn their words hurt me so badly.

My daughters the mean one, were working on it, lol

I was raised by my grandparents who were born in 1940. When I was in kindergarten, 1981, I had a boy chase me for weeks telling me he was going to kiss me when he caught me. Luckily, I was quicker. Until I sprained my ankle. The boy had been warned that I would hit himif he kissed me. He kissed me. So I punched him square in the mouth. Growing up with 5 brothers was definitely a bonus. Anyway, cue the principal's office...The principal wanted to give ME a week's worth of detention and didn't even bother to call the boys parents. My grandfather had a fit! He was livid that the boy had been allowed to sexually assault me and been sent back to class after the nurse patched him up. After he let the principal have it, he took me out for ice cream for defending myself. My grandmother called the Superintendent the next day. And they both picked me up at the regular school dismissal time every day when I was supposed to have detention. That was unheard of back then, bcuz the boy "liked" me.

The thing is, is that it's true. Little boys don't know another way to get attention from someone they like, and parents/adults don't try and change that because they're kids. So by the time anyone DOES try to get them to stop, it's generally too late.

There was a phase where boys tried to make the girls they 'liked' trip or pulled on our hair etc... "It's because they like you!" Well, I did not like nor accept this behaviour, and having three brothers, I knew how to retaliate - and hard. Once usually was enough to be left alone afterwards. I do not use violence anymore, but back then it was the best way to get (physical) bullying (even the 'loving one' from a boy who 'likes you') to stop. Sorry for the rant.

OH MY GOSH I HAAAAAAAATE WHEN PEOPLE AY THIS ITS SO FREAKIN STUPID!! UUUUUUUUGGGGGGHHHHH LIKE NO HES JUST BEING A LITTLE BUTT!

So does that apply to overweight/obese adults?

Looks like an American problem. I've started my vacation of four weeks and told everyone I will only answer a WhatsApp message when it really really urgent. All other ways of communication will be declined.

Well prices go up except for the wages.

F**k this gatekeeping. I've been told I wasn't "really" abused because I wasn't hit with a non-belt foreign object. I wasn't "really" sexually abused because I wasn't penetrated with a penis. I wasn't "really" poor because we never lived in our car, only slept in it overnight once. My depression is "white fragility" or "white woman's tears." I've been in therapy for years just to acknowledge that my experiences and pains actually matter, too.

The whole idea that you can't have fun, if you aren't drunk.

Not me. I love being married. I'm more stable, emotionally and physically. She taught me how to love and love myself again.

I'm tired of it. I'll call out anyone I see mistreating staff, as long as they aren't getting aggressive. If they are I'll call the police. I've seen it too often. Enough is enough.

I'm still trying to readjust my self-views. There was always something on me to fix: my teeth, my hairstyle, my skin, and always my weight. People always complained that I never smiled (showed my teeth) and wore my hair in my face. I'm like, "Um, cause you always pointed out how wrong I looked, why do you think?" I'm hoping to break the cycle with my kids.

And even more, oftentimes when women are virgins, they're seen as "pure" but when a man is a virgin, he's suddenly a "loser"??

I'm reminded of one I read about where the family had a cross-country move for the husband's job--she was a SAHM. In their old neighborhood, she'd been involved in a couple of "mothers day out" groups, like big playdates where the moms would bring their kids and all the moms would look after all the kids while they played. So anyway, family has a cross-country move, and SAHM thinks she's found a group where she can bring her kids. She shows up, and it's very clear all the mothers had been drinking for a while. All the mothers are inside, all the kids are outside. SAHM asks who's watching the kids. They look at her like she's stupid. "They're in the backyard!" "Yes, but who's watching them?" "We know where they are. Come, have a drink!" She stuck it out for maybe two hours before she just didn't feel comfortable anymore. Took her kid(s) and went home. Next thing she knows, word has spread that she's a "stuck up b*tch." No great loss...

Funny, I belittle myself cause I have no self esteem.....

Remember, we're often told that it's not abuse if he's not hitting you or cheating on you. We "have no reason to complain" if he works/pays bills. "He just took you out to dinner!" "He's so sweet to you!" "Every couple fights." "This is just the way marriage is." No. If your partner hurts you or is cruel to you or doesn't treat you like they love or like you? You have every reason to leave. I'll help you pack.

Not just crying but showing emotion in general. Or liking kittens instead of big dogs. Or ordering margaritas instead of whiskey.

i missed the train home and my male friend gave me his couch, i was 22, my parents who i lived with blanked me for months as thought we had gotten busy, theyre a fine pair to talk, teenage pregnancy much

The whole purpose of most of our organs is to detox our body.

Uh...nope. When my wife is off, her phone would ring. Her boss. I just so happened to say when you're off, you're OFF. If they call you and keep you on the phone 10,15 minutes about work, they need to start paying you for that. Well her phone calls from work drastically dropped.

Facebook is like watching an elderly person yell at an empty road, and then congratulate themselves for doing it.