30 People Share Social Norms That They Find Weird, Make A Lot Of Hilariously Valid Points
Social norms are informal rules that govern behavior in groups and societies. They touch almost every aspect of our lives.
Academics like to use this comparison to explain the concept: just as grammar is a set of regulations that governs the structure and organization of language, social norms regulate the structure and organization of people, and, again, just as grammar shapes how we communicate and understand language, social norms shape how we behave and interact with others.
Sociologists talk about social norms motivating people to act, economists explore how they influence market behavior, and legal scholars view them as alternatives to laws, and while their words make sense, if we deconstruct these systems enough, they can begin to look silly.
Recently, Reddit user Irish-Springs made a post on the platform, asking people to share what social norm they find pretty weird when they think about it, and it has already received over 5,300 comments, many of which raise some hilariously valid points.
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People's absolute horror about women breastfeeding in public.
Oh, I am sorry, Karen. I am giving my baby substance, not trying to attract your 12 year old son.
Paying tens of thousands of dollars to bury corpses in the ground.
My wife knows my wishes: dig a hole, toss me in, bury me with a young oak tree on top. Done.
People expect you to get along with family (parents, siblings) even if they treat you like s**t.
The expectation of tipping for certain jobs, as a substitute for paying employees a higher wage.
When I was a kid tipping was meant only for for waiters/waitresses and petrol attendants (we don't 'pump our own gas' - now it's drivers, delivery peers, shop assistants, hair dressing assistants, literally any assistant, any service provider, and their mom. It's crazy. I can't afford to tip everyone damn.
Showing excessive gratuitous violence is fine, and will get you at most a PG-13 rating, which most people will think is too strict anyways. But show even one uncovered booby and people will lose their minds.
Circumcision is pretty wild. Cosmetic surgery on the genitals of a baby is pretty weird.
Women’s pants don’t have pockets.
i wear men’s jeans for that reason. and that my legs are really long and they’re comfortable for me sooooo
I actually really like women's jeans for some reason, but the pockets are ridiculous. My mini pocket goes deeper than normal women's pockets.
Load More Replies...No s**t. I vary from 8 - 14. What in the cubic non pocket is this s**t?
Load More Replies...Most women's clothing that comes without adequate pockets were/are both designed and created by....women. This depends entirely on where you get your clothes, though. All of my jeans, pants, shorts, even some skirts, have pockets (and not tiny ones). People buy the clothing without adequate pockets, then complain about not having pockets, lol. Well, buy stuff that has them, stop buying the stuff that doesn't and the people who make and design that c**p will stop. Excluding expensive designers who don't care one iota about function or how many people buy their stuff, lol. They go for the whole idea of "less purchases equals exclusivity equals higher cost equals more popular equals we're the best"...it's weird.
There's not always a lot of options... which is why I learned how to add pockets to whatever I want! 😃
Load More Replies...I bought a denim jacket, and all the pockets were sewn up! I undid them all. Why have pockets if you can't use them?
i would have messed up so bad on that lol. good job getting those pockets open! it’s so stupid that they were even sewn up in the first place
Load More Replies...My dad asked me why I never put my phone in my pocket and I told him I couldn't even fit half my hand in them, much less a cell phone.
How can this be explained by anything but women not choosing to buy clothing with pockets? It would stand to reason that if women really chose function over form, the clothing items that had pockets would always be sold out, and the industry would respond, no?
I fit in kids stuff so I get kids pants that have pockets but then I ask myself - what is so important that a child has pockets over an adult female
i find it too uncomfortable to put everything that i would carry in my purse into pockets, and i am a minimalist when it comes to what i carry in my purse. too many weird and uncomfortable bulges in my jeans. purses just make more sense to me.
. . . the result, women put down men who wear cargo shorts. I don't design the pants, lady.
Don't they have a special vacuum that sucks all the air out of their pants so that are tight and show off their figure? It is not about function, it is about maintaining the "image".
Ladies stop buying ladies pants. I promise you will look just as good in mens jeans and they have pockets.
Like why the palm tree why?! What are we supposed to do? Hold our phone in our hand?!
Women's clothing generally doesn't have proper functioning pockets because otherwise, we would buy handbags if we had pockets?
What I meant was if we had functioning pockets we wouldn't buy handbags...
Load More Replies...Again, and again, and again, and again, women complaining that women's clothes don't have pockets. But I am 100% certain that if I create women clothes with pockets, no woman will ever buy them.
That's on you women. Bad fashion designs are on the designer but bad fashion designs continuing to be a popular thing is because consumers purchase them. I guarantee you if women went one year not buying anything without pockets, fashion designers would be "INSPIRED" to create DARING new designs with pockets.
Nonsense. So that would be one year without buying any clothing at all. Not going to happpen
Load More Replies...Yup. Women don't need car keys, since their husband drives. They don't need à wallet, since their husband pays for anything they need. They don't need à phone since their husband has one. They don't need ID, since they're only an extension of their husband.../s
Load More Replies...The absurd obsession the US has with the flag and the "reverence" surrounding it. It's a godsdammed piece of fabric. Actually, US patriotism as a whole.
Grand gesture marriage proposals in public are embarrassing and weird.
It can be quite romantic and memorable. But if you're going to go big, you DEFINITELY need to know how your partner will respond beforehand to save yourself from being shot down on the spot because of embarassment.
Working your a*s off for 65 years to then live for 10 years.
Sending hungry kids to school and not feeding them for free.
The topic of sex being generally taboo despite the fact that it is the reason we’re all here and that a majority of people love it.
It is quite acceptable to see pple getting gunned down or stabbed to death, but show one female nipple and the movie is for 16 years and older cause apperantly kids minds are too frail to deal with that.
Bikinis vs bras. If you bra is made out of swimwear fabric, suddenly new social rules apply.
It's about intent and consent. In a bikini you're intending to be outside and consenting to be seen in that manner of dress. Bras, besides sports bras, are generally worn with the intent of not being seen, and unless the wearer reveals it themselves, they are not consenting to be seen in that article of clothing.
Forcing people in their teens to decide on a career with the implication that they'll do it for the rest of their life and sealing the deal by putting them into so much debt studying for said career that they're pretty much enslaved to it.
Working 40 hours a week. It’s actually insane that we all put up with it.
Education should be fully free across the board. It makes 0 sense that a country would impoverish their own people rather than invest in a strong, educated and healthy population.
The ONLY reason that university costs money is to perpetuate social stratification. You could probably take 5% of the military budget and it would more than cover it.
Also, isn’t that what “free market” people always b***h about? That once people are rich they will give back and trickle down? Tax the 1% sell slightly more and you would have it paid for.
Germany has free education. It works just fine.
If you are smart and ambitious enough to attend a university, it should be fully state sponsored. The only reason people are against this, is that some kids who grew up rich and didn’t have to take out a mortgage to enter the rat race are jealous they don’t get to keep their advantage.
Women can show their whole breast just not the nipples.
Women can't show nippels, because MEN could get "inpure thoughts", according to fundamentalist "Christian" leaders. They like to spout their disapproval all over the internet, which is full of pørn. And the most watched pørn in the US is GAY pørn...
Encouraging people to drink more alcohol. I'm guilty of it myself, 'go on, just one more!' Or I've bought shots for people who have said no, which then pressures them to drink it.
I didn't see a problem with it until I saw a guy taking the p**s out of another guy for drinking alcohol free beer. Imagine being ok with being pressured to take drugs? It's madness when I think about it.
Forcing or encouraging a child to hug a family member that has known them since their birth but the child doesn't have any sort of bond with said family member.
Asking a grown woman's father for her hand in marriage. What?
Everybody hates being sung happy birthday and everybody hates singing happy birthday, so what the hell are we doing here?
I like it, it's sweet. I moved to another country by myself and the people I thought were friends never visited or anything. My best friend (not nearby at all) facetimes me with her kid and sing me happy birthday, then her husband pops his head in and says happy birthday. I truly felt love when they did that and I haven't felt that in a long while. To respond to other commenters: it's not always about being the center of attention.
Fireworks on the 4th of July. We celebrate independence by showering our land with expensive toxic chemicals from China.
You can't use swear words on TV, radio, or in movies under PG-13; but you learn most of the swear words that exist by middle school. What's the point?
Caring what another person wears or what they look like.
I have a medical condition called lipoedema, which means that although I'm not overweight going by BMI, my legs are disproportionately large compared to the rest of me. I can guarantee that a total stranger will comment on it about 50% of the time I'm out and about. Its usually in the supermarket, and its usually some ignorant old woman telling me my ankles are swollen, or asking me directly about it, or making a rude comment about me needing to lose weight so my legs aren't so fat. What makes people think a rude comment about someone's appearance will be welcome? Do they think before opening their ignorant mouths? The next old biddy who comments is getting shoved in the freezer with the fish fingers.
Not going to a restaurant by yourself.
I am on a business trip, I want to eat somewhere nice, drink some wine, dine nice since the company is paying for that stuff, I didn't bring anyone because its my arrival night or I just want to have a moment for myself.
And then I get treated like I have a leprosy, or the waiter tries to strong-arm me to go to the communal area or patio to eat because then I would have some company from the random patrons.
Ex Hotelier and Michelin Chef here ; If any of my staff (or me, when I was training) treated a lone diner with anything less than the utmost courtesy and kindness, they would have (and have) been taken to one side and told the error of their ways. For example, I used to have a delightful chap used to come in probably once a month with his wife for a couple of years, then started coming in by himself as his Wife had died of Cancer ; one of my new waiters made a comment along the lines of 'what a sad old git, coming in by himself ...etc'. My Sous Chef made him see the error of his ways (basically gave him a light thumping) and he left the next day. The elderly gentleman ate there regularly for the next 3 years before succumbing to Alzheimers.
Asking people how they're doing as a matter of courtesy when you truly don't care and are hoping they just say "good hbu" in response.
If I took everything I read on this website seriously I'd lock myself in the house and never come out.
That's very unhealthy for you. Better to run away to a hut in the forest and never turn back, building a community of fairies and forest animals. /s
Load More Replies...Lol!! Call it what is BP. Another America bashing page. I could at least have a modicum of respect if you owned it.
Is this considered social media? Yea, a lot of useless content on here as well :)
European countries claiming they have free education, why can’t the US? “It’s just not that hard!” Texas alone is twice the size of Germany. How should the US do that, Germany? How do you do it Germany? Oh, and how did Great Britain and Europeans rebuild after WWI and WWII? Oh, the US did it? Loans? Or what? Ever pay it back? Y’all BPs so ready to bash the US, but have no clue how you got to where you are and we got to where we are.
Best thread. These are all different, not rehashes, all correct, and not anti-American despite claims to the contrary.
If I took everything I read on this website seriously I'd lock myself in the house and never come out.
That's very unhealthy for you. Better to run away to a hut in the forest and never turn back, building a community of fairies and forest animals. /s
Load More Replies...Lol!! Call it what is BP. Another America bashing page. I could at least have a modicum of respect if you owned it.
Is this considered social media? Yea, a lot of useless content on here as well :)
European countries claiming they have free education, why can’t the US? “It’s just not that hard!” Texas alone is twice the size of Germany. How should the US do that, Germany? How do you do it Germany? Oh, and how did Great Britain and Europeans rebuild after WWI and WWII? Oh, the US did it? Loans? Or what? Ever pay it back? Y’all BPs so ready to bash the US, but have no clue how you got to where you are and we got to where we are.
Best thread. These are all different, not rehashes, all correct, and not anti-American despite claims to the contrary.