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Woman Finds Out Her Friends Hated Her Birthday Parties From Accidental Texts
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Woman Finds Out Her Friends Hated Her Birthday Parties From Accidental Texts

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Regardless of whether you’re turning 12 or 29, your birthday should be an exciting day. It’s an excuse to indulge in your favorite sweets, invite loved ones over to celebrate and spend a day doing something special that you enjoy!

And one woman recently decided to take full advantage of her birthday by throwing a unique, culinary-themed party. However, she soon found out that her friends didn’t enjoy the day quite as much as she did. Below, you’ll find the full story that she recently shared on Reddit, as well as some of the replies readers left her.

This woman decided to throw a unique birthday party this year

Image credits: Kelsey Chance (not the actual photo)

But after thinking the party was a success, she learned that her friends didn’t enjoy the event as much as she did

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Image credits: Fausto Sandoval (not the actual photo)

Later, the woman provided readers with a few more details about the situation

You’re never too old to celebrate your birthday

Birthdays might not be quite as exciting for adults as they are for children, but that doesn’t mean that there’s any less reason to celebrate. In fact, one 2015 study found that 89% of Americans believe it is important to celebrate becoming a year older, and 62% even make a wish when they blow out their birthday candles.

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As far as how Americans choose to celebrate their birthdays, 50% say they spend time with their families nearly every year, and 40% enjoy having a special meal almost every year as well, YouGov reports. 60% say they’ll throw a party or have a get-together at least some years, and 82% enjoy a delicious slice of cake some or most years as well.

Compared to the major holidays celebrated in the US, 58% of Americans prefer Christmas to their birthday, and 48% enjoy Thanksgiving more than their special day as well. But aside from those two, birthdays trump every other holiday. We tend to make children’s birthdays a much bigger deal than our own though, as a third of parents admit that they probably put too much effort into celebrating their little ones’ special days.

Image credits: Jon Tyson (not the actual photo)

Many adults today feel pressure to throw extravagant birthday parties

But according to a recent article from Vox, lots of adults are now opting to spend a weekend or even a whole week throwing a huge birthday bash. And one of the reasons why people might be feeling pressured to have more extravagant celebrations is, you guessed it, social media. 

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Similarly to how lavish weddings plastered all over Instagram and TikTok make brides and grooms-to-be want to do even more for their big days, birthdays are beginning to transform in the same way. “When social feeds are populated with images and videos of birthday vacations and ornate balloon backdrops, people begin to take these over-the-top gestures as commonplace,” Allie Volpe at Vox explains.

Unsurprisingly, these events are often extremely expensive as well. In fact, Credit Karma shared with Vox that nearly a third of Gen X cite birthday parties as one of the reasons they overspend, and 36% of Gen Z and Millennials say they have a friend who encourages them to live beyond their financial means.

Image credits: Angelina Yan (not the actual photo)

There’s never a valid reason for bad-mouthing a friend behind their back

In the case of this particular story on Reddit, one would think that the birthday girl made a wise choice by celebrating at home, where her friends didn’t have to pay for an expensive meal or drinks out at a bar. Unfortunately, however, she found out that her friends didn’t appreciate all of the effort she put into her big day.

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And as hard as it can be to find out that those who you considered close have been talking about you behind your back, it’s better to know this information and be able to end the friendships than get hurt even later down the line. According to Barrie Davenport at Live Bold and Bloom, there are a few reasons why people might be talking about you behind your back.

They might be used to gossiping and continue to take part in this bad habit; they might be upset with you but not ready to confront you about it yet; they might be jealous or insecure and feel superior when saying rude things about you; or they might be unwilling to self-reflect and project their issues onto others. Regardless of the reasoning behind it, it’s never acceptable to treat your friends with disrespect or say cruel things about them. 

We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Then, if you’re interested in reading another Bored Panda article discussing birthday drama, look no further than right here!   

Readers assured the birthday girl that she did nothing wrong, noting that she deserves better friends

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Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about two years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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Adelaide Ross

Adelaide Ross

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Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about two years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. Looking at pets and memes is the best part of my work. I love to travel and want to see the world. Still looking and exploring stuff I like and want to do so thats exciting... and sometimes not

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Vėja Elkimavičiūtė

Vėja Elkimavičiūtė

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I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. Looking at pets and memes is the best part of my work. I love to travel and want to see the world. Still looking and exploring stuff I like and want to do so thats exciting... and sometimes not

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Bowtechie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel so bad for her. From what she's described doing in the past and this party I feel like she'd be a friend I'd really look forward to partying with! She needs better friends

PolymathNecromancer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed 100%. She sounds like someone I would gladly have as a friend and would greatly enjoy sharing fun out-of-the-ordinary stuff with. INSTANT NC IS NECESSARY

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Nice Beast Ludo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wtf! It's HER f*****g birthday! How dare they?? These parties sound fuc king awesome and I would LOVE to have a friend like her. Drop these vapid, superficial a******s and find some real friends who have more interests than just going out and drinking. F**k them. Seriously. op sounds awesome and they sound dreadful

JayWantsACat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her parties over the years sound great! I like a regular bar and restaurant or just a home dinner party just fine. Those are great because the point is to be with friends and celebrate someone's bday. But those 'odd' bdays also sound really fun. I could see where some people would like to just sit down, have a meal, and just relax. But if OP is the only one doing 'weird' parties, its literally only one day/night a year for that group. You can't suck it up for just one day/night?

brittany
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

am i the only one picturing friendsgiving as being themed from friends? like i keep seeing rachel's dessert on tiktok and im really in the mood for a themed thanksgiving this tear lol

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Bowtechie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel so bad for her. From what she's described doing in the past and this party I feel like she'd be a friend I'd really look forward to partying with! She needs better friends

PolymathNecromancer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed 100%. She sounds like someone I would gladly have as a friend and would greatly enjoy sharing fun out-of-the-ordinary stuff with. INSTANT NC IS NECESSARY

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Nice Beast Ludo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wtf! It's HER f*****g birthday! How dare they?? These parties sound fuc king awesome and I would LOVE to have a friend like her. Drop these vapid, superficial a******s and find some real friends who have more interests than just going out and drinking. F**k them. Seriously. op sounds awesome and they sound dreadful

JayWantsACat
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her parties over the years sound great! I like a regular bar and restaurant or just a home dinner party just fine. Those are great because the point is to be with friends and celebrate someone's bday. But those 'odd' bdays also sound really fun. I could see where some people would like to just sit down, have a meal, and just relax. But if OP is the only one doing 'weird' parties, its literally only one day/night a year for that group. You can't suck it up for just one day/night?

brittany
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

am i the only one picturing friendsgiving as being themed from friends? like i keep seeing rachel's dessert on tiktok and im really in the mood for a themed thanksgiving this tear lol

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