Every soon-to-be-married couple hopes that tying the knot will be an absolute blast. This day is supposed to be filled with thrill, joy, and beautiful memories they will cherish for years to come. But when you have distant relatives, jealous siblings, and dodgy plus-ones in inappropriate outfits all under one roof, things are bound to go terribly wrong.
You see, weddings are notorious for bringing out the worst in some people. Whether they had one drink too many or decided to do their best to wreck the event, disrespectful friends and family who make the celebration unforgettable for all the wrong reasons are every bride’s and groom’s worst nightmare.
So to better understand these mishaps, Redditor BewareOfTrips started up a thread asking: "Who was the rudest guest at your wedding?" Fellow members over on 'Wedding Shaming' opened up about the worst behaviors they witnessed, detailing firsthand tales of awkward, vile, and jaw-droppingly impolite incidents from their big day. We at Bored Panda have gathered some of the most surprising responses, so be sure to read them right below. And if you have any similar stories to share, let us know about them in the comments!
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My grandfather. Less than 30 minutes into the reception, he decides that he was ready to leave. In an effort to "hurry my gram along", he went and sat in the car. And she LET HIM. She didn't decide to leave until over 3 hours later! My gram didn't normally have this shiny of a spine. But I was not only the oldest grandkid, I was also the first to get married, so she wasn't letting him ruin it for her (or me)! My gram is easily one of my favorite people on this planet, so I choose to remember most her shiny spine than my grandfather's dickish one on that day.
Not mine, but my sisters wedding. An aunt brought a piñata in the shape of a woman so the groom could have something to “pop” that night since my sister wasn’t a virgin (she had a child from her 1st marriage)
My cousin and I took care of it and it never made its way into the reception thank goodness.
Isn't it time people got over this obsession with virgin brides?
My husband's cousin complained about the music. It was too 'happy.' He was single at the time, and the wedding was making him feel sad and lonely, so he requested blues to be played. Not one song. Blues only. Because he was sad. At my wedding. He tried to argue with me several times until I told him to go home and listen to his music in the privacy of his own room. I had to explain to him that even though he felt sad, I was in a rather positive mood.
In October 2020, I went with my wife to her younger sister's wedding, which was attended by their vehemently anti-mask grandmother. Leading up to the big day, she'd nearly been kicked out of every hotel from Tennessee to Colorado because whenever she was asked to put a mask on in the lobby, she responded by covering her mouth with her hand and saying, 'How about this?' At the wedding, she was asked to limit physical contact, so she naturally hugged everyone she did — and didn't — know. My wife, who is a doctor, refused her hug, resulting in the grandmother's brother calling her 'not a great doctor.'
After she found out the woman the maid of honor was picking up from the airport was her wife, she refused to acknowledge it — first referring to her as a 'friend,' 'girlfriend,' and, naturally, 'nobody really cares about titles.' She also told the groom's father that 'immigrants are the worst thing to happen to this country.' The father responded in his thick native Bulgarian accent, 'I'm an immigrant.'
My BIL. He got belligerently drunk and kept tossing empty glasses into the little koi pond at the venue. My nephew, who was 7 at the time was in hysterics, worried about the fish.
Thanks for the award! Who knew my obnoxious BIL would earn me an award?!
My FIL. As Best Man, he carried my ring in his pocket. He went outside to smoke his pipe before the ceremony and was fiddling with the ring and dropped it in the grass. It was night. The wedding was delayed as everyone got flashlights to help look for it. No one told me what was going on. They couldn't find it, so my MIL let my husband borrow her anniversary band, that was fancy and had diamonds in it. When the time came, I was pleasantly surprised to receive a fancier ring than we had chosen. I thought it was a surprise for me. My MIL approached me after the ceremony and told me there was no way I was keeping it. A few minutes later someone out in the yard actually FOUND MY RING! At the reception, my FIL vomited on my dress.
At the reception, my mother went around to all the tables, not to greet anyone, but to ask if she could have their leftovers for her dog. She had a large ziplock bag in her purse that she opened up and asked them to drop the leftovers/bones in the bag. She would hover behind people and ask for specific pieces. My sister ran interference and took me to the other side of the room while our husbands dealt with her. Only by promising that the kitchen staff would save everything for her, did they finally get her to sit down.
Well, the staff saved nothing, and she was pissed. The next morning, she returned to dig it out of the trash bins. She stood on a cardboard box, it collapsed, and she fell in it. She broke two ribs and couldn't climb out, so 911 was called. She was hospitalized. When I found out about her broken ribs, she refused to tell me how it happened. I kept asking until her sister finally shouted, 'For God's sake, just tell her you went back to get the damn bones.'
I love my dog to bits, but this is absolutely insane. Not to mention disgusting and dangerous for the animal and the owner. Seriously, that’s utterly irrational behavior, hopefully she gets help.
My wife’s aunt ignored our signs and announcements to not take photos during the ceremony and leave it to our paid, professional, photographers. That a*****e aunt stood in the main aisle taking photos of my wife and her father walking down the aisle, ruining our photographer’s photos of the procession. When I finally got the photos she took 6 months later, they were low resolution and out of focus. I spent upwards of 10 hours in Photoshop trying to composite one, single, decent, photo but ended up losing hope. She also got overly drunk and wouldn’t stop harassing my already married Uncle. Years later and I still don’t like that lady.
Like... I'm so sick of how y'all worship this cult of family. Blood doesn't mean *s**t* except: don't f**k this person. That's absolutely it. If they treat you like this, sever that f*****g chain holding you back. Don't stay with toxic family anymore than you would a toxic lover or job.
My ex friend at my friend’s wedding. She requested a vegan meal. She wasn’t
vegan. She ate her meal plus a ton of other non vegan food throughout the reception.
She got really drunk and tried to fight the groom. He didn’t engage so she tried to fight me. Apparently she was angry about a slight from years prior. I ignored her and ended up calling a cab to go home.
She was screaming and carrying on as I left.
The venue called the cops on her.
My officiant was over an hour late, brought her adult daughter, and ate all my bacon wrapped scallops. When we asked for a refund, she wrote a letter telling us we were going to hell.
I tried giving her poor reviews; she changed her business name and kept going.
Wait -- she the one who ate BOTH pork AND shellfish, against the Bible TWICE, and said that OP was the one going to hell?
One of my husbands friends who's given me the cold shoulder for years. I suspect she had either some kind of thing for him or was mad she wasn't like a daughter to my in-laws like I now legally would be, because she had been a close neighbor to him growing up.
Well, she was in a group of friends from high school we have invited to our wedding (we went to the same high school and hung out with the same people) and she rounded everyone up to take one of those reunion photos with the everyone. Excluding me. The bride. Who went to her high school. And everyone else was too drunk to notice, I guess... She posted it all over social media.
Meanwhile husband's college friends, who i hadn't even met until he was out of college (went to different schools) insisted I be front and center of their reunion photo with husband anyway.
That was the last straw of me trying to be nice to her.
I'm glad to hear you're done with her. What absolute dickishness to exclude you like that.
My husband’s uncle. About two weeks before the wedding, we asked our wedding party, parents, and siblings if anyone wanted to give a speech. We ended up with a total of five speeches and a toast from my dad. My dad was supposed to go at the end to give the toast, and then we would go back to partying. Husband’s uncle must have figured it was an open mic for anyone to give a speech and stepped up behind my dad. I tried to get my coordinator’s attention to ask him to go sit back down, but to no avail. He gave a 10 minute sermon. Yeah, a sermon. Now, I’m a practicing Catholic, and I had some elements of religion in the ceremony, but I made a conscious decision not to make people feel like my beliefs were being shoved down their throats. The fact that he got up and gave a speech all about Jesus without even asking still gets me worked up.
Was at a wedding years back. A friend of the couple was a cleric and was annoyed that they had decided on a non religeous wedding. To make him happy they allowed him to say grace at the reception. Delivered a15 minute sermon. For me that was the final straw for religon. Gave it all up.
The +1 of my partner’s work buddy offered to blow the groom under the head table while I was on the dance floor.
That wasn’t the only thing she did that night that is still talked about 20 years later.
My sister was the maid of honor and my husband had a best man. They were both to give a speech. My dad wanted go give a speech too so I said okay and he was scheduled after the other two. My attention-seeking dad cut my sister's speech short, taking the mic and did his speech before the best man. One of the points in his speech was something about how he was supposed to do the first speech. Another point was how my husband and I didn't know each other that long (15 months) and basically that we were rushing. I was so hurt and embarrassed, it took a lot of strength to not tear up and run out of the room. I just tried to forget about it after it was said and done because I didn't want him to ruin my wedding day.
I feel like I should also add that when he walked me down the aisle, he didn't want to sit down after handing me off to my husband. I was not paying attention to him because he was standing behind me, but my mom (his ex wife) in the front row had to tell him to sit down.
Attention-seekers will do anything to get eyes on them.
Bonus: he caused some wedding planning f**k ups as well.
Damn, that really sucks. I hope this lady's dad is either behaving (a lot!) better now or has been cut out of the life of his daughter. And maybe some therapy for the dad as well, cause this is very wrong.
We had a formal wedding by the side of a lake and one of my uncles brought his fishing pole and started fishing in the middle of the reception. He brought bait and everything, dude was prepared.
I invited my cousin and her husband. She showed up with her husband, her MIL, both of his brothers and one of their girlfriends. Six people!
The only reason it turned out okay was that a hurricane came through two days before our wedding and several guests weren't able to make it. She hasn't gotten any more thoughtful.
Don't people know there is a limited number of guests?? Where would the sit if there wasn't a hurricane?
When I was 16 I sat next to my uncle at my other uncles wedding. He kept offering me more and more money to object. I didn’t do it, but at 16, $500 to make a fool of yourself at a wedding is very tempting.
Was this because he had concerns about the marriage or because he thought it would be 'funny'?
My wedding planner ripped my bouquet out of my hands as soon as the ceremony was over, plopped it in a vase, and placed it on a random table. An unwitting guest took it home thinking it was a centerpiece! I had no idea what happened to my bouquet until I went looking for it at the end of the night.
Guests didn’t RSVP. Then showed up towards the end of dinner. Toasts had already started. They had pikachu faces when they were sat at the table I had put for the photographer and other service people in case they got hungry because I had two extra spaces there just in case. A friend later told me she complained we didn’t wait for them to start serving dinner? I was like wtf?
I plan a lot of parties and never trust RSVP, as all it does really is give you an idea of how many are interested. It doesn't mean they are going to show up, and if you don't receive one, it doesn't mean that they aren't. It's only polite to send back an RSVP, it's not mandatory. If you invite 100 people, plan for 110 people. Food won't be wasted, who cares about empty seats, and late comers have to stand before the table and introduce themselves to every punctually seated diner and tell us a little about themselves. However, I do hold a special brand of hate for those invited to an event and they show up with their whole damn family. Really, you had to turn this event into your family reunion. Really? Trust me, I will have a team of people asking every single one of your extras how they know the host.
At my sisters wedding my aunt turned up in jeans, then called rose gold (one of the wedding colours) “tacky”, and criticised her own daughters, our cousins, for turning up in jumpsuits which she deemed “classless”. They were beautiful floral jumpsuits, much more appropriate for a wedding than jeans…
We later found out she’s a racist so she’s not invited to mine.
My ex MIL. One of my bridesmaids was dancing with a drink in her hand at our reception and my MIL tapped her on the arm and loudly asked if she could put the drink down while she danced because "she was looking trashy". Bridesmaid told me later, because "her gift to me was not tearing that woman apart on the spot".
Someone tried to tell me sonething i did was trashy. I cant remember what it was, but I told her that I could not be held accountable for the company she kept. She just stared at me, so i told her that my self and countless other people was able to do said act without losing any dignity or respekt from others, so it must be the the spesific people she was hanging out with that would give her such an idea. It shut her mouth. Edited spelling
I had someone bring in a Tupperware container of pot brownies to my wedding at a country club. Then someone snuck into the air bnb my husband and I were staying in on the venue property and smoke weed inside. I’m a substance use disorder therapist with several family members in recovery from drugs and alcohol. Just felt seriously disrespectful and it’s not like we were having a dry wedding but really lol smoke weed at another time or damn at least do it in your car not my freakin wedding night air bnb
It was another bride. I’ve talked about this before, but we were in a venue with two ballrooms. We had an open bar and I guess the other wedding had a cash bar. The bartender started to suspect people from the other wedding were coming in and stealing free drinks from ours (he said because they didn’t tip, and we had been) and our groomsmen were dealing with it. Then the BRIDE in her full gown and train walked up to our bar to get a drink. The bartender shut her down, the event manager canvased the bartender and the groomsmen who saw and asked for an estimate for how much they stole and it was a lot. They had been doing it more subtly all night and this was later. But eventually there were about 30-35 people from their (much smaller) wedding doing it one at a time. We had 150 people so it was easy to not get seen. This was pretty-COVID.
The bride walked past me with the manager lecturing her about the extra charge and I just laughed. I didn’t mean to, but I was drunk, and I just felt bad for this poor cheapskate who couldn’t even get someone to get her drinks on her wedding.
We were paying one price for dinner and unlimited alcohol per guest, but she didn’t know that. So she got a nice bill for like $500 afterwards and I think her party shut down early, but I don’t think that’s why. Their party wasn’t even near ours, so they had to go searching for it. What a weirdo.
My mom and dad walked from table to table and “quietly” told everyone that they were separating.
We invited the best man's entire family because my husband basically grew up in their house. The parents are divorced and apparently take turns going to events. So we got the dad and his new wife (best man's stepmother). I don't know what her problem was but she spent the entire wedding and reception dramatically sulking. The photographers mostly worked around her but there's one photo where you can clearly see a grown as woman literally pouting like a five year old. Also I did a non traditional wedding dress and at one point she walked up to me and said "I thought this was a wedding, where's the bride?"
Not sure what she was trying to achieve, but no one cared and I thought it was hilarious.
My best friend’s wedding.
Her grandma made a point to personally insult every bridesmaid.
In the group wedding photo, grandma is literally doing a nazi salute. I’ve since learned it’s a Catholic thing and not in fact a nazi salute; but she’s the only one doing it and it 100% looks like a nazi salute right over the groom’s shoulder.
It was a early afternoon wedding reception and we had to be out of the venue by 6. No joke, as soon as everyone was done eating at 4pm, grandma started singlehandedly packing up the decorations and tables while people were still eating at them. It totally killed the vibe and everyone started leaving in droves because they thought they were being rushed out.
I really don't understand why nobody stepped in and escorted grandma out. Who is she, the Queen-Mother? My own grandma was a bit of a d******d sometimes, and she would always be reprimanded or escorted out by either my mum, dad or my uncle to demine the situation before she would be let in again.
We sent my MIL a one page single spaced list of all the problems she caused at our wedding. Her response was “I didn’t yell at the musicians before the service, it was after.”
She also said “We’ll we’re family now so that means we all have to get along since we’ll see each other the rest of our lives.” I think after a few years of me never speaking to her, she’s starting to reconsider that thought
In lieu of giving a toast at the rehearsal dinner, my MiL got up to announce that she was getting married that next Wednesday. She wore her winter-white micro-mini skirt wedding suit to the ceremony the next day.
This was a quiet, Methodist-church wedding in the upper South. My husband’s childhood best friend showed up with his girlfriend absolutely stoned out of their gourds (some cocktail of pot and a passel of pharmaceuticals and probably a few things snorted to top it all off). HIS mom stood at the buffet table and ate more than half of the groom cake (I’ve been told it was absolutely amazing, perhaps the best chocolate cake ever, but we didn’t get any of it).
My uncle kept demanding that god doesn't recognize my marriage because it wasn't done in a Catholic church and that my husband and I will never last bc he'll probably cheat on me in a few years when things "inevitably become stale".
I tried telling him I don't believe in the same things as him and wasn't concerned, so he got louder instead and I had to just walk away. Definitely gave my surrounding cousins a good laugh though, he does stuff like this a lot.
I'd whisper in his ear, "I'm betting on that whole Hell thing, Daddy. I hear Satan has the bigger d**k."
That's Catholics for you. They are so impressed from childhood by their magnificent buildings, they think their invisible sky god only sits in those and can't be found anywhere else.
I guess this is a common one but once during my brother’s wedding I invited a friend and plus one because she was married. This chick was on the phone with me for 20 mins begging to invite her mother as well who wanted to see a different type of wedding (they are from a different culture). I relented only because one of my other friends canceled. Guess what, none of them showed up. Ex-friend I should say.
Same thing at my wedding. A family of five RSVPd no. Then a week before the wedding contacted us to say sorry but they really wanna come. Ok, despite our protests my mom says it’s ok (she was paying) and we scramble to make room. And they didn’t come nor did they call.
Mine was the bride (+ random bridal party members) who crashed my ceremony; and made a big stink at the back of the venue about how she couldn’t believe they had double booked when sheeee was supposed have her wedding photos… all to discover she was meant to be next door.
At my wedding I was trying to make a point to say hi to as many people as I could during cocktail hour so I could enjoy the reception. My brother in law was our officiant and he asked if he could invited his best friend with a plus 1. Seemed reasonable enough. I'd met the best friend enough times but never his girlfriend. So I spot them and go to say hi. Best friend hugs and kisses me. I turn to the girl he's with and say, "Oh you must be Nick's girlfriend!"
Girl nearly spills her drink. She gives me such a look of contempt and says loud enough that everyone with in 30 feet can hear, "Excuse me? I'm not his girlfriend I'm his FIANCÉ." And she turns and walks away from me. Nick just shrugs and walks away. Obviously we weren't invited to their wedding the next year...
Runner up goes to my sister who wanted to take the top tier of my cake home for her in laws because they had to leave early and thought I was being unreasonable when I said I wanted to freeze it for our one year anniversary.
My stepbrother who (from least to worst):
1. Left after an hour
2. Turns out the restaurant owner kicked him out
3. Because he was stealing wine from behind the bar (it was unlimited alcohol AND he's a police officer who knows serving laws)
4. And then tried to invite a homeless man into my 40 person reception
Well, the photographer mixed up the date so I didn't get pictures and someone showed up with their kids in pajamas and halloween costumes. It was not an October wedding.
One of my college friends who showed up late then called my wedding boring during the reception to my face.
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I'm amazed at the behaviour of most of these people but they were allowed to stay. I would've kicked them out immediately, or had someone else do it for me. What is wrong with people, how can they think that kind of behaviour isn't incredibly horrendous?!?
I mean the people who are behaving horrendously, not the people who don't kick them out straight away :-)
Load More Replies...FFS, people, it's YOUR wedding. Speak up for yourselves and the day you spent months planning. Why would you allow these troglodytes to ruin your day without doing something about it?
I'll share a nice story. I am from a small Midwestern town. There is a park with a kitchen building and several outbuildings where churches have picnics and the main church manages renting it out for events. My Aunt had reserved the space for her reception but the church accidentally double booked. My Aunt had it first and could have told the other bride tough luck, but instead our family used the main building and their family used a smaller building and everything worked out fine. The couples each came over and congratulated the other.
My husbands nephew came in shorts. He did breakdancing on the dance floor. His dad (my husbands shitty brother) an his troll gf gave us $25 in a card. 2 $10s and 5 $1s. She got drunk as f**k. Almost ruined our entrance because she was outside smoking and wouldn't shut up when told to go inside as we were coming in. She barely beat us through the door. We waited a few before going inside. Family photos were done. Somehow someone forgot to do a group shot we his whole family. But only did one of my side. I put those small cameras out an the troll took it home from their table. At least I put them on the other side of the room from our table.
Hes one of 4 & none of them had weddings. He didn't want big, but kinda traditional. So we married at a friend's church, had a small reception there, w/ friends making the food and decorations etc Afterwards, we went to the 5 star hotel we were staying at (his mom worked there) for an adult reception. Found out later that FIL apparently made a comment about how cheesy the church reception was & my parents heard him. We fought a LOT for a few years, but we ended up being extremely close as I stood up to him. At the hotel, MIL arranged for us to eat since we had nothing earlier. SIL wanted something small. I come back from the bar & she's eating shrimp cocktail (2) while we had ordered sandwiches. And she left her puppy in the car. In July. In Texas. But,hubby and I will be married 25 years this year so it's all good
Not a fail but funny. We got married in city hall, which apparently was also a police station. While sitting on a beach waiting for the judge, a cop handcuffed a man to the other end of the bench and walked away. The man and my wedding party just stared awkwardly at each other.
Drama like these are why weddings turn otherwise reasonable people into angry honey badgers.
My BIL. He refused my husband request to be best man. Brought his entire family of six. Gave no gift. Packed up tons of to go containers of wedding meal that we never got to eat because we were busy enjoying ourselves. The final kicker.. pulled me to the side to tell me I better take care of his brother. Hate that man, husband doesn't care too much for him either
I was late to my own wedding because last minute I had to give my younger sister a ride to the wedding, as in we picked her up in the limo. My older sister was her ride, but she didn't show up until after the ceremony was done and we were gathered outside the chapel. There's a reason I didn't put them in the wedding.
My MIL was trying to fix my now wife up with someone else a few days before our wedding. She didn't like that I was white and not baptist.
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I'm amazed at the behaviour of most of these people but they were allowed to stay. I would've kicked them out immediately, or had someone else do it for me. What is wrong with people, how can they think that kind of behaviour isn't incredibly horrendous?!?
I mean the people who are behaving horrendously, not the people who don't kick them out straight away :-)
Load More Replies...FFS, people, it's YOUR wedding. Speak up for yourselves and the day you spent months planning. Why would you allow these troglodytes to ruin your day without doing something about it?
I'll share a nice story. I am from a small Midwestern town. There is a park with a kitchen building and several outbuildings where churches have picnics and the main church manages renting it out for events. My Aunt had reserved the space for her reception but the church accidentally double booked. My Aunt had it first and could have told the other bride tough luck, but instead our family used the main building and their family used a smaller building and everything worked out fine. The couples each came over and congratulated the other.
My husbands nephew came in shorts. He did breakdancing on the dance floor. His dad (my husbands shitty brother) an his troll gf gave us $25 in a card. 2 $10s and 5 $1s. She got drunk as f**k. Almost ruined our entrance because she was outside smoking and wouldn't shut up when told to go inside as we were coming in. She barely beat us through the door. We waited a few before going inside. Family photos were done. Somehow someone forgot to do a group shot we his whole family. But only did one of my side. I put those small cameras out an the troll took it home from their table. At least I put them on the other side of the room from our table.
Hes one of 4 & none of them had weddings. He didn't want big, but kinda traditional. So we married at a friend's church, had a small reception there, w/ friends making the food and decorations etc Afterwards, we went to the 5 star hotel we were staying at (his mom worked there) for an adult reception. Found out later that FIL apparently made a comment about how cheesy the church reception was & my parents heard him. We fought a LOT for a few years, but we ended up being extremely close as I stood up to him. At the hotel, MIL arranged for us to eat since we had nothing earlier. SIL wanted something small. I come back from the bar & she's eating shrimp cocktail (2) while we had ordered sandwiches. And she left her puppy in the car. In July. In Texas. But,hubby and I will be married 25 years this year so it's all good
Not a fail but funny. We got married in city hall, which apparently was also a police station. While sitting on a beach waiting for the judge, a cop handcuffed a man to the other end of the bench and walked away. The man and my wedding party just stared awkwardly at each other.
Drama like these are why weddings turn otherwise reasonable people into angry honey badgers.
My BIL. He refused my husband request to be best man. Brought his entire family of six. Gave no gift. Packed up tons of to go containers of wedding meal that we never got to eat because we were busy enjoying ourselves. The final kicker.. pulled me to the side to tell me I better take care of his brother. Hate that man, husband doesn't care too much for him either
I was late to my own wedding because last minute I had to give my younger sister a ride to the wedding, as in we picked her up in the limo. My older sister was her ride, but she didn't show up until after the ceremony was done and we were gathered outside the chapel. There's a reason I didn't put them in the wedding.
My MIL was trying to fix my now wife up with someone else a few days before our wedding. She didn't like that I was white and not baptist.