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Woman’s New Manager Is The Father Of Her Child But Has No Idea, She Turns To Netizens For Advice
One-night stands can have unexpected consequences – like surprise pregnancies. Usually, the two people involved will decide together how best to manage the situation, but what if they suddenly lose all contact with each other?
This was the situation facing one woman after the guy she spent the night with left the country the day after. With no way to reach him, she raised her daughter herself, but now he’s back in town and about to become her new manager.
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One-night stands might seem like a good idea at the time, but they can have unintended consequences down the line, as this woman found out the hard way
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After spending the night with a fellow PhD student, she found out she was pregnant, but he’d already left the country, shut down his local number, and wasn’t on social media
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With no way to get hold of him, she got on with raising their daughter alone but, in a twist of fate years later, found out he was about to become her new manager
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When she told HR the truth about their history together, they immediately did everything they could to push her out of the company
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In a meeting with her lawyer, the union rep, HR, and a member of the senior management team, she was asked to resign
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When she said no, they insisted on a statutory declaration about the intimate details of her relationship with Jacob, which she also declined
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The company’s solution was to start messing with her pay, benefits, and swipe card access
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Her lawyer guessed that it would take ages to get any kind of resolution, and at that point she didn’t even want the job anymore
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Wanting to steer clear of any more workplace warfare, she resigned, but let the clueless dad know about their daughter anyway
Life has a habit of throwing curveballs, but nothing could’ve prepared this woman for the plot twist that hit her inbox. Years after a one-night stand with a fellow PhD student, Jacob, she discovered he was about to become her new boss. The kicker? He had no idea their night together had made him a dad.
As office introductions rolled in, the reality of their history loomed large. Would he be okay managing someone he unknowingly had a daughter with? Could she keep things professional while holding onto a life-changing secret?
After disclosing their relationship to HR, however, management started playing dirty. The stress was unbearable, and she decided to resign rather than endure any more workplace warfare.
But there was one last thing for OP to do—tell Jacob. To her relief, he didn’t want to take legal action and said he’d love to meet his daughter—if she was ready. And OP’s daughter? She was glad to have his contact info but didn’t want to disrupt her life for the time being.
It’s not like OP didn’t try to get hold of Jacob and, when she could, she didn’t take long to put all her cards on the table. The real villains of this story seem to be the HR department. So, is HR your friend? We went looking for answers.
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In her article for The Guardian, Alaina Demopoulos writes that, in a 2021 survey of 1,000 workers at UK organizations with over 250 employees, 47% reported that they didn’t trust HR to help with conflict resolution.
Peter Cappelli, a professor of management, says the problem is that many employees don’t grasp how HR fits into a company as a whole.
“What people don’t understand is that ultimately, HR works for the company and the employer organization,” Cappelli explains.
In her article for the BBC, Joanna York writes that, when disputes arise, HR departments often walk a fine line between delivering the outcome the employee wants and the outcome the organization wants.
Perhaps OP’s decision to resign was the right move. They sound like a lousy company to work for anyway.
What would you have done if you’d found yourself in OP’s shoes? Do you think she made the right choice by telling HR about her history with Jacob? Let us know your opinion in the comments!
In the comments, readers slammed the company for breaking a bunch of laws and some even advised the woman to pursue legal action
Poll Question
How do you feel about the woman's decision to inform Jacob about their daughter?
She made the right choice
She should have waited
She shouldn't have told him
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Ellinor 1 week ago
It's really awful that she had to quit her job over this, like one of the comment said it was years ago, they had no contact over the years, she was in the company first... Really unfair for her, she was just trying to do the right thing.
SpiderWoman13 1 week ago (edited)
I may have misread this but -- this does NOT make any sense, at all. This is such a personal and sensitive matter that OP should not have brought this up to anyone - except, perhaps, a lawyer. Then she should have pretended not to know that "one night stand" and - if he remembers her ONLY in that context, acted as if she'd forgotten. Now if, after working together, the guy appears to be the kind of person to whom she wants her child introduced, it should be under the strictest confidentiality, with lawyers involved. This was BACKWARDS and ridiculous.
Nina 1 week ago (edited)
What kind of f****d up country has a HR who gives a f**k about getting rid of a woman who had a child years ago with a new employee? Don't parents ever work at the same company in this country? The kid sounds like she's ten by now. Why does anyone in any company care at all about this very previous relationship?
Michael Largey 1 week ago
The OP might have been wise to take some time for Jason and she to reacquaint themselves with each other. This would have made her better informed about how, when, and whether to inform Jason of their child. Or she could have played it safe and not told Jason or anyone else, chalking up Jason's return as just a bizarre coincidence which need have no effect on her life.
Ellinor 1 week ago
It's really awful that she had to quit her job over this, like one of the comment said it was years ago, they had no contact over the years, she was in the company first... Really unfair for her, she was just trying to do the right thing.
SpiderWoman13 1 week ago (edited)
I may have misread this but -- this does NOT make any sense, at all. This is such a personal and sensitive matter that OP should not have brought this up to anyone - except, perhaps, a lawyer. Then she should have pretended not to know that "one night stand" and - if he remembers her ONLY in that context, acted as if she'd forgotten. Now if, after working together, the guy appears to be the kind of person to whom she wants her child introduced, it should be under the strictest confidentiality, with lawyers involved. This was BACKWARDS and ridiculous.
Nina 1 week ago (edited)
What kind of f****d up country has a HR who gives a f**k about getting rid of a woman who had a child years ago with a new employee? Don't parents ever work at the same company in this country? The kid sounds like she's ten by now. Why does anyone in any company care at all about this very previous relationship?
Michael Largey 1 week ago
The OP might have been wise to take some time for Jason and she to reacquaint themselves with each other. This would have made her better informed about how, when, and whether to inform Jason of their child. Or she could have played it safe and not told Jason or anyone else, chalking up Jason's return as just a bizarre coincidence which need have no effect on her life.
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