Sharing a bed with an ex is like inviting a bull into a china shop and expecting nothing to break – it’s messy, definitely awkward and absolutely not a good idea. Splitting the occasional bill or co-parenting a dog? Sure, totally fine. But cozying up under the same blanket, even with a “no-touching” rule? That’s just flirting with chaos. Somehow, though, not everyone got the memo.

One woman found herself in this eyebrow-raising situation, and let’s just say, it’s got people debating the fine line between “modern family” and “major red flag.”

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When you invite your ex to share your bed, you might be inviting drama too

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One woman was shocked to find out her boyfriend is still sleeping in the same bed with his ex-wife, despite being separated

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The man and his ex still live together, while the ex-wife finalizes her living arrangements

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The woman, who is head over heels for her boyfriend, is heartbroken and shocked to find out he is platonically sleeping with his his ex-wife

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The woman asks if she is being unreasonable to break up with the man until he can sort out his feelings

The OP (original poster) gushed about her boyfriend, a 44-year-old dreamboat who seems to have it all – charisma, kindness, emotional depth, and even a knack for making strangers smile. Sounds like a keeper, right? Well, like in most of our stories, there’s a twist. The guy is still living with his ex-wife. Yes, you read that right. Apparently, they’re in a transitional phase, waiting for her to finalize housing arrangements.

Now, our OP, feeling optimistic and understanding, decided to roll with it. After all, she thought, he’s trying to keep things stable for his kids, and being compassionate isn’t exactly a dealbreaker. But what she didn’t think to ask, and probably should have, is “Where are you two sleeping?”

It turns out, her Prince Charming and his ex-wife occasionally share a bed. Platonically, of course. With a barrier down the middle, no less. Honestly, I wouldn’t know if I should laugh or cry, if I were the OP.

And the OP was blindsided herself. This news hit her like a bucket of cold water. So, she wonders if she’s overreacting and being unreasonable to break up with the man until he can sort out his feelings.

I get it, sharing a bed with an ex, regardless of the circumstances, would make most people’s alarms go off. And, while the OP’s boyfriend might not have bad intentions, it’s clear that their ideas of appropriate boundaries don’t really align.

Healthy boundaries in a romantic relationship are pretty much a must, if you want things to work smoothly. Healthy boundaries keep everyone on the same page, avoiding those awkward “Wait, you thought THAT was okay?” Ignore them, and it’s chaos.

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And, when it comes to exes, the lines need to be drawn in permanent marker, not pencil. Co-parenting? Yeah, that’s fine. But sharing a bed with your ex? That’s just weird.

Now, if there’s one thing this situation really tests, it’s trust. Trust is what makes a relationship work. Without it, things can fall apart pretty quickly, like when you mess up putting together Swedish furniture. No shame in that, we’ve all been there.

But the pros say that trust isn’t automatic, it’s earned over time, and it can crumble the moment your partner conveniently “forgets” to mention they’re sharing a bed with their ex. If you want trust to thrive, clear communication is key, especially about things that might raise eyebrows (or alarm bells). It’s not about oversharing—it’s about keeping your partner in the loop, so they don’t feel like the last to know.

It’s not just the bed-sharing that’s troubling—it’s what it represents. Our OP is questioning whether this lack of boundaries now could spell trouble for their future. And honestly, who wouldn’t? You’re told you’re the love of someone’s life one day, and the next, you find out they’re playing bedroom Tetris with their ex. Yikes.

What’s your take on this story? Do you think the poster is being unreasonable? Let us know in the comments!

Netizens are not buying the man’s story, saying he is still together with his wife

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