Guy Tries To Give Away Things For Free, Claims That People Ruined It With Their Entitlement
About four years ago, my old washing machine broke down, and instead of calling the technician and repairing it for a long time, my wife and I decided to buy a new one. Accordingly, we advertised that the old one could simply be taken away for spare parts or for repairs. Free, pickup only.
Now guess how many of those who called or texted us were really ready to take it out themselves? One. In fact, the one who eventually got it. So this story by user u/Mastodon996 in the r/ChoosingBeggars community is so close to me. And not only me, most likely…
The author of the post once had to move his mother out of her apartment so he decided to do a handout of her old stuff
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However, as the author reminisces, he almost immediately had to face numerous ‘choosing beggars’
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Some people demanded the author deliver things to their places, claiming themselves carless and sick
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The guy ended up calling trash haulers who took all the stuff for a decent fee, but did it without any further talks and threats
So, the Original Poster (OP) says that recently he had to move his mother out of her apartment, and she had so many old things that he had to literally give them away. Well, why not, as the author of the post reflects – just to do a good deed. But the problem is that there has been a veritable invasion of choosing beggars who would gladly take, say, a table or cupboard – only if the OP delivers it himself.
What particularly angers the original poster is that all these people who want to pick up things suddenly turn out to be absolutely carless, and besides, if some heavy thing is given away – a sofa, for example, then they immediately have a huge number of health problems that completely prevent them from carrying something heavier than their own conscience.
Moreover, when something has already found its new owner, then choosing beggars, as the OP reminisces, also sometimes have the audacity to resent that someone was ahead of them. And they even try to make the author of the post feel guilty – that he ‘made their kids cry’, as if the original poster should chase after the one to whom he just gave the desired item, take it away, and give it to those who ‘really’ need it. And, of course, deliver it on his own…
In the end, the OP was so fed up of dealing with people like this after several days that he first decided to charge some kind of symbolic fee for each item – just to weed out the weirdos, and when faced with an avalanche of accusations of greed, he took a completely Solomonic decision. He just called trash haulers, paid them – and a few hours later, the apartment was empty and clean. “And it was some of the best money I ever spent,” the author of the post admits.
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The most annoying thing is that choosing beggars meet us literally at every turn, no matter what we do and where we live. “Whenever I receive messages demanding that I do something for free, that amounts to my losing money. Asking me to ignore my commitments for a free phone call is effectively the same thing because I’d be harming my reputation. I have a firm policy when it comes to clients who expect me to drop everything and cater to them,” Rachel Wayne, an artist and art activist, writes in her blog on Medium. “I fire them, and I encourage you to do the same.”
“Most likely, the roots of this issue go back to childhood – like almost any of our mental problems, by the way,” says Irina Matveeva, a psyhologist and certified NLP specialist, with whom Bored Panda got in touch for a comment on this story. “If even in childhood a kid understands that they can beg for something from adults or peers using begging or manipulation, then with age this develops very strongly.”
“And it’s not that in the situation described, the person who was late for the handout really believed that after their words about ‘crying kids’, the author of the post would change his mind and take the desired thing from another person. It’s just that the manipulator in this situation was upset, and decided to spoil the mood of the interlocutor too. Totally out of the blue. This is actually a big problem, and thorough therapy is required to cope with it. However, first one still needs to recognize the problem – after all, awareness, as you probably know, is the first step to healing,” Irina states.
People in the comments praised the author for this wise decision, regretting only not doing it this way themselves
just put it out on the curb, and then post anonymously to the facebook groups for these type of things, and people will grab it in min, no complaints. My parents once got ride of 2 sofa's, was gone from the curb in under 30 min, saw some college kids hauling it away to what I assume would be their apartment
Totally agree with this. Just very recently we bought a new dryer so needed to get rid of the old one which still looked new and still worked (just slightly passed it's best so wasn't really cutting it anymore for a family of four but would be fine for a single person or couple). We advertised for free but it was strictly pick up only as it simply could not fit in my car and this was emphasised in the ad. The sheer amount of replies asking for it to be delivered made us take the ad down after about 24 hours. So my wife placed a new notification on FB giving our address which simply said "free dryer on pavement" and.......that was it, no further info. Literally gone within an hour of that post.
Load More Replies...I love the description of opening a bag of chips for a bunch of seagulls. Hahaha! At first, I didn't get "CBs" ... further down I saw "charity beggars." I encountered this all the time on Freecycle. But I'd wade through it and managed to clear out an entire storage unit 10X8. I'm Swedish Death Cleaning now, so I need to find a local charity to work with me.
Sorry, "Choosing Beggars" ... On Freecycle it's usually the sob story. I was going to have a everything free garage sale. Now I'm not, unless I set everything out on the driveway and watch from the house.
Load More Replies...Yes people will use that whole "you made my kid cry" thing. I found a cat and arranged to take her to a girl I had met in a meeting and she seemed like a good home. I arranged to meet with her 2 separate times and the second time I drove across town to take her to her. When I got close she said she got busy and could I wait till she was done I said sure and ended up waiting like 2 hours! I had bought her all kinds of supplies like food, bowls, toys, litter stuff. And then she just stopped answering all together. I decided that I'm keeping kitty after that. I can make it work. Late that night she finally texted back and wanted to arrange to meet up for a 3d time. I said it's okay I've decided to keep her! And then she got mad and said I made her kid sad. Wtf I didn't even know she had a young daughter and actually I felt even better of my decision after that lol. Still have kitty and I'm so so happy. We made it work and she's right here next to me as I type :) her name is Slippers.
Probably not a reliable person. If you really wanted a pet it would be a priority. Slippers is no doubt better off.
Load More Replies...I was my dad's trustee for his estate and it was made very clear that everything would be split equally amongst us kids. Well, entitled oldest child cried that she should be in charge because she's the oldest. Then she demanded to be let in the house to take what she wanted, nope. Finally "Little Miss Can't Wrong" was let in the house and she wanted about half of what my dad owned. Fine, nobody wanted or had room for these items in their own homes. The grandkids all came in took things they liked or held deeper meaning to them. Moving truck shows up and we gave her about 70% of everything dad owned. She went ballistic, screaming that she didn't have room for everything. I finally just told her to give the items to someone who needs them or call a thrift store. Immature of me? Maybe. I was two years into this during covid and I was tired of her BS. I've spoken to her twice in two years and it's kind of nice. Nobody needs that drama.
People like this have been around for generations. But now they're even more entitled and clever. They try to make you feel sorry for them. Don't buy my sofa if you don't have a way to get it home. I don't have a truck either. But if I did, I'd charge a delivery fee. My father had a great relationship with a person who managed and organized private sales for estates, etc. When someone bought things at the sale,one furniture, and had no way to bring them home, they called my father. He made a lot of money, just because he had a pick up truck. In our town, when you put things at the curb, they disappear quickly. Mostly in the middle of the night. Lol.
I can relate! It is not only strangers who act like emperors receiving tribute - friends and family can be insulting ... and come back to insult you again. Once while moving I offered to deliver a box of army surplus clothes to a cousin who was in community theater. He replied, haughtily, "Don't tell me, let me guess - you're moving and want to get rid of your junk!" So, I tossed it into the dumpster and moved. A month later he hit up family for military clothing for a sketch and got mad that I didn't still have it.
My daughter and SIL moved into their first apartment straight out of college near my SIL job. They gave birth to a baby as well. They didn't have nothing really. A air mattress and the baby's furniture. This couple who was marry for 1 year was finally moving in together. The wife was able to get transfer to a place closer to her husband place. So she was getting rid of her things. They had a couch for $100 it came with a blanket and throw pillows. It was the last day to get it all out. My daughter rented a all Uhaul. They went to picked it up they started talking the husband and my SIL hitted off. My SIL is a mechanical engineer his wife was loving my grand baby. They let the couple know that they just moved and really don't have nothing. The woman called everyone else who called about the free stuff nobody was able to come and get it. They had a dining room table that they was selling for $100 the person didn't want it since they couldn't deliver it. At that point the woman and her
Husband was going to put it in the trash they told my daughter and SIL they can have it. My SIL wanted to give them some more money they said no you literally rented a uhaul to get the couch you was on time we didn't have to hunt you down and they understood what it felt like being young starting a family fresh out of college. That just look at it as our gifts to you for your new start in life. They gotten two end tables with lamps they got the dining set and a bed.
Load More Replies...Things sure have changed. In 2008 I sold enough household goods to pay for our move from CA back to Georgia. It had cost the company $10,000+ to move us to CA so we quickly audited our belongings: keep, sell, donate, trash, then scheduled a POD & small UHaul. Then I went to work taking pictures & measurements, posted each item on Craigslist. Each posting carried this at the beginning: Moving. Cash only. Priced fairly for you and me. No negotiations. Will not deliver. Will help you load. First come, first served. Those are the terms. Period. Amazing how well everyone respected that. No cell phones, no texts. Just land lines & Internet. As soon as an item was sold I took that listing down. My husband and I were able to work in tandem as we'd both lost our jobs. He handled the in person stuff and I manned the phone and Craigslist. Within two weeks we had cleared ourselves to begin packing for the move. Neighbors, former co-workers and friends brought simple meals and stayed to help pack.
The worst ones are the scammers. I tried to sell a twin bed frame (it was pretty nice and had a light) and mattress a few years ago. I get people being apprehensive about the mattresses, so I said that they could be sold separately. Anyway, the scam is that someone offered to buy it and gave me $600 more than what I asked on a check from Sacramento (address was for a 99 cent store). Then they said I had to pay the movers with that extra money. The check was from some concrete company. Now that's suspicious. I called the company and they said they didn't know about it. I also live in Phoenix and light up twin bed frame isn't worth that much. Like just buy a new one in Sacramento. The way this scam works is if I cashed the check, it would deposit but then eventually bounce, meaning that I would end up paying the scamming pieces of s!it "movers" $600 to haul away this bed. Tried to file a police report but they didn't seem that enthusiastic and neither did the police in Sacramento.
So don't trust people paying with checks especially if they try to overpay you. I only trust cold, hard cash. I got rid of the bed once a nightstand that I had ordered (but was on back order) was delivered. One of the guys was interested in the bed taking up my dining alcove and I told him that it was his for free if he wanted to haul it.
Load More Replies...Yep I've encountered this a ton. If someone makes me feel nervous, or seems to be trying to manipulate my emotions at all, I bail. No apologies. Just, "the item is no longer available." In college I sold various things, and I would have customers fail to read descriptions, and say I tricked them. I don't bow to manipulators. It's also crazy how many people think they're important enough to stop me from having a job, or career, or selling things. It's crazy that they think their two seconds of discomfort warrents that kind of threat, too. Whatever. Jokes on them.
I've gone my research on the various local charitable organizations and found one that seems to be pretty much on the level, definitely better than Good Will, and I've donated a ton of stuff to them over the last few weeks in preparation for moving. Another good avenue is if you've got military bases in your local area. The AF has what they call the Airman's Attic which takes quite a few different donations for household items and clothes with the best aspect being that they only allow personnel who are E5 and below to shop for what they may need. Outside of something like Airman's Attic, bases may have other areas which receive donation such as outdoor and recreation items.
Yeah, I'm blind and obviously don't drive, but if I wanted something in this situation - I'm poor so I tend to - I'll either make sure the person is willing to deliver and offer to pay for it, or I won't try to claim the item. It's just rude to expect people to go out of their way to accommodate people - free/cheap items are more than enough! If I really need or want something and the person isn't willing or able to deliver, there are services in Copenhagen where I can pay for it. But it being Copenhagen that'd be so expensive it'd be better to get whatever it is delivered from IKEA.
I'm physically incapable, but if it were something I needed, I would offer a delivery/setup fee. If the person said no, they said no.
Depending on the item/situation/my time, I have often offered delivery of items for people who can't come pick it up. It's another cost of being poor/disabled--being able to get free stuff.
Load More Replies...Apparently people are kinder here in Sweden. I know most of the people who sell their stuff on our local Facebook group and they know I don't have a driving licence (epilepsy) and that my only transport is my wheelchair. So they offer to bring it to me and I pay for the fuel and a fee for delivery. I don't buy furniture though, it's always smaller items, like a vacuum cleaner or curtains etc. One seller has seen that I'd commented on someone else's post that I was interested in the item being sold but then the seller said they lived outside of our small town so I couldn't pick it up and they had no possibility to bring it to me so the other seller offered to pick it up for me and come with it at the same time when he was coming with the items I bought from him. The other seller was very close to where he lived so easy pickup and I gave him extra money for being so kind
Some people here in Georgia call them driving licenses too. That's because a lot of people buy fishing licenses because the lakes never freeze.
Load More Replies...My dad after retiring got into buying settlement from a salvor. One such item was 80 marble bathroom counters with porcelain Gerber sinks, new in crate. The sink alone sold for nearly $100 (early 90's), the whole thing was $350 (cost, not MSRP). Following his death we're selling stuff (CHEAP) just to be done with it all. Local motel was doing a reno on 50 rooms. As these were made for that purpose, it's a win win. Or so you'd think. I told him $1000 for 50 of them. That's a steal. He asked when I'd have them cleaned (they had a plastic wrap to protect them) and delivered. I promptly told him that for $20 each they could sit there till they rot before I'd clean and deliver them. I later donated them to a fund raiser for one of the local rescue squad units and contractors went nuts over them. Also donated some to a church that was doing a reno and they were very thankful for them as well.
Awhile ago we did a garage sale to get rid of stuff. We had super cheap prices because it was more about clearing things out than getting money. We had two working TVs for sale - 32 & 36 inch. Both worked, were really nice flat screens, absolutely nothing wrong with them. We were asking $10 for one and $15 for the other. People were offering $2 and $5, but wanted to see how it looked inside. I ended up keeping them for over a year before setting them outside on a rainy day for trash pickup. F@ck em all...
We once had a plastic barrel we were using for garbage. Because it was at the curb (even labeled TRASH), somebody took it. Ugh.
I have had ONE garage sale ever and this is why. Things that are actually worth some money, people want to offer $1 for. I was so pissed off at the end, I swore NEVER AGAIN. I donate everything to charity now.
Too much bother with people who want to haggle over a quarter.
Load More Replies...Whenever I no longer need items, and still in good shape, I donate them to the local Vets organization and/or Salvation Army. Where I live, both have monthly pickups dates. I leave things on my driveway and they pick them up.
Ugh. After my divorce I sold my house to downsize and had to sell most of my furnishing as well. What a nightmare. People were like vultures. Honestly, I'd rather toss it all out than deal with all of that again. If I ever have to get rid of a substantial amount of goods again, it's being donated to the Habitat for Humanity store.
yeah but not everyone without a car CHOOSES to be carless. I wouldnt demand a delivery for free stuff, though. When i was moving in with my BF i got rid of a lot of stuff, put it on the curb because thriftshops didnt wanna have it. Passers by started to take stuff, so that was good. Two guys started picking out things and friendly asked me if i was going to add more stuff that i was going to get rid off. Turned out it was a father and son who had their first place of their own after difficult time. Told them i had a fridge upstairs that worked perfect but thriftshops refused it because it had a big dent in it. It was free as long as they would carry it downstairs so i wouldnt have to and take it to the dump. So they did. I asked them to see if there was anything else they could use, they picked out some things. Next day they came back just to say thank you.
I ABSOLUTELY can see this happening!!! They way a majority of folks are thee days, smfh...someone trying to be nice, do something nice, and careless/entitled people will come out the woodwork...people are disappointing these days
When i moved a few years ago, I started by cleaning and downsizing. Anything of value I donated. But other stuff - old suitcases, boxes of books, misc kitchen stuff - I put out in a pile by the trash can at the end of the driveway for haul away. I came home the next day (not trash day) and the pile was considerably smaller. I didn't even have to place an ad.
In my country if you donate something to charity, they come to get the stuff for free.
in the Netherlands and Belgium they are very picky. It has to be in perfect state. And yet still they manage to sell c**p in their stores, lol. I had a perfect fridge they didnt want because it was dented.
Load More Replies...If it's in good shape, you can donate it to Salvation Army. They'll take it away and give you a receipt for tax purposes. This is in the US. Avoid Goodwill, they're a scam.
See stuff like this messes it up for the real non lazy people. My son broke my 32" tv.. My mom let me borrow hers out the play room that night. The next day my mom's best friend who didn't know I needed a TV called my mom told her that his neighbor is putting out a little older 50" screen TV if she knew anyone who can use it he will make sure nobody takes it. I was with my mom she said yeah Rasheeda do her son just broke hers. She picked up my 18 year old nephew and drove over there and we picked it up. Me and my nephew took it into my apartment. It's a great model the volume is awesome the picture quality is great. I said thank you God I didn't have the money to replace it.
I think what you should do is figure out what reasonable delivery costs are, then triple that figure and put it into the ad. So if it'd be $50 to delivery a dryer you word the ad "Dryer free, $150 for delivery".
If you'd bother to read more carefully, you would have noted that the story was originally posted in the r/ChoosingBeggars subreddit.
Load More Replies...just put it out on the curb, and then post anonymously to the facebook groups for these type of things, and people will grab it in min, no complaints. My parents once got ride of 2 sofa's, was gone from the curb in under 30 min, saw some college kids hauling it away to what I assume would be their apartment
Totally agree with this. Just very recently we bought a new dryer so needed to get rid of the old one which still looked new and still worked (just slightly passed it's best so wasn't really cutting it anymore for a family of four but would be fine for a single person or couple). We advertised for free but it was strictly pick up only as it simply could not fit in my car and this was emphasised in the ad. The sheer amount of replies asking for it to be delivered made us take the ad down after about 24 hours. So my wife placed a new notification on FB giving our address which simply said "free dryer on pavement" and.......that was it, no further info. Literally gone within an hour of that post.
Load More Replies...I love the description of opening a bag of chips for a bunch of seagulls. Hahaha! At first, I didn't get "CBs" ... further down I saw "charity beggars." I encountered this all the time on Freecycle. But I'd wade through it and managed to clear out an entire storage unit 10X8. I'm Swedish Death Cleaning now, so I need to find a local charity to work with me.
Sorry, "Choosing Beggars" ... On Freecycle it's usually the sob story. I was going to have a everything free garage sale. Now I'm not, unless I set everything out on the driveway and watch from the house.
Load More Replies...Yes people will use that whole "you made my kid cry" thing. I found a cat and arranged to take her to a girl I had met in a meeting and she seemed like a good home. I arranged to meet with her 2 separate times and the second time I drove across town to take her to her. When I got close she said she got busy and could I wait till she was done I said sure and ended up waiting like 2 hours! I had bought her all kinds of supplies like food, bowls, toys, litter stuff. And then she just stopped answering all together. I decided that I'm keeping kitty after that. I can make it work. Late that night she finally texted back and wanted to arrange to meet up for a 3d time. I said it's okay I've decided to keep her! And then she got mad and said I made her kid sad. Wtf I didn't even know she had a young daughter and actually I felt even better of my decision after that lol. Still have kitty and I'm so so happy. We made it work and she's right here next to me as I type :) her name is Slippers.
Probably not a reliable person. If you really wanted a pet it would be a priority. Slippers is no doubt better off.
Load More Replies...I was my dad's trustee for his estate and it was made very clear that everything would be split equally amongst us kids. Well, entitled oldest child cried that she should be in charge because she's the oldest. Then she demanded to be let in the house to take what she wanted, nope. Finally "Little Miss Can't Wrong" was let in the house and she wanted about half of what my dad owned. Fine, nobody wanted or had room for these items in their own homes. The grandkids all came in took things they liked or held deeper meaning to them. Moving truck shows up and we gave her about 70% of everything dad owned. She went ballistic, screaming that she didn't have room for everything. I finally just told her to give the items to someone who needs them or call a thrift store. Immature of me? Maybe. I was two years into this during covid and I was tired of her BS. I've spoken to her twice in two years and it's kind of nice. Nobody needs that drama.
People like this have been around for generations. But now they're even more entitled and clever. They try to make you feel sorry for them. Don't buy my sofa if you don't have a way to get it home. I don't have a truck either. But if I did, I'd charge a delivery fee. My father had a great relationship with a person who managed and organized private sales for estates, etc. When someone bought things at the sale,one furniture, and had no way to bring them home, they called my father. He made a lot of money, just because he had a pick up truck. In our town, when you put things at the curb, they disappear quickly. Mostly in the middle of the night. Lol.
I can relate! It is not only strangers who act like emperors receiving tribute - friends and family can be insulting ... and come back to insult you again. Once while moving I offered to deliver a box of army surplus clothes to a cousin who was in community theater. He replied, haughtily, "Don't tell me, let me guess - you're moving and want to get rid of your junk!" So, I tossed it into the dumpster and moved. A month later he hit up family for military clothing for a sketch and got mad that I didn't still have it.
My daughter and SIL moved into their first apartment straight out of college near my SIL job. They gave birth to a baby as well. They didn't have nothing really. A air mattress and the baby's furniture. This couple who was marry for 1 year was finally moving in together. The wife was able to get transfer to a place closer to her husband place. So she was getting rid of her things. They had a couch for $100 it came with a blanket and throw pillows. It was the last day to get it all out. My daughter rented a all Uhaul. They went to picked it up they started talking the husband and my SIL hitted off. My SIL is a mechanical engineer his wife was loving my grand baby. They let the couple know that they just moved and really don't have nothing. The woman called everyone else who called about the free stuff nobody was able to come and get it. They had a dining room table that they was selling for $100 the person didn't want it since they couldn't deliver it. At that point the woman and her
Husband was going to put it in the trash they told my daughter and SIL they can have it. My SIL wanted to give them some more money they said no you literally rented a uhaul to get the couch you was on time we didn't have to hunt you down and they understood what it felt like being young starting a family fresh out of college. That just look at it as our gifts to you for your new start in life. They gotten two end tables with lamps they got the dining set and a bed.
Load More Replies...Things sure have changed. In 2008 I sold enough household goods to pay for our move from CA back to Georgia. It had cost the company $10,000+ to move us to CA so we quickly audited our belongings: keep, sell, donate, trash, then scheduled a POD & small UHaul. Then I went to work taking pictures & measurements, posted each item on Craigslist. Each posting carried this at the beginning: Moving. Cash only. Priced fairly for you and me. No negotiations. Will not deliver. Will help you load. First come, first served. Those are the terms. Period. Amazing how well everyone respected that. No cell phones, no texts. Just land lines & Internet. As soon as an item was sold I took that listing down. My husband and I were able to work in tandem as we'd both lost our jobs. He handled the in person stuff and I manned the phone and Craigslist. Within two weeks we had cleared ourselves to begin packing for the move. Neighbors, former co-workers and friends brought simple meals and stayed to help pack.
The worst ones are the scammers. I tried to sell a twin bed frame (it was pretty nice and had a light) and mattress a few years ago. I get people being apprehensive about the mattresses, so I said that they could be sold separately. Anyway, the scam is that someone offered to buy it and gave me $600 more than what I asked on a check from Sacramento (address was for a 99 cent store). Then they said I had to pay the movers with that extra money. The check was from some concrete company. Now that's suspicious. I called the company and they said they didn't know about it. I also live in Phoenix and light up twin bed frame isn't worth that much. Like just buy a new one in Sacramento. The way this scam works is if I cashed the check, it would deposit but then eventually bounce, meaning that I would end up paying the scamming pieces of s!it "movers" $600 to haul away this bed. Tried to file a police report but they didn't seem that enthusiastic and neither did the police in Sacramento.
So don't trust people paying with checks especially if they try to overpay you. I only trust cold, hard cash. I got rid of the bed once a nightstand that I had ordered (but was on back order) was delivered. One of the guys was interested in the bed taking up my dining alcove and I told him that it was his for free if he wanted to haul it.
Load More Replies...Yep I've encountered this a ton. If someone makes me feel nervous, or seems to be trying to manipulate my emotions at all, I bail. No apologies. Just, "the item is no longer available." In college I sold various things, and I would have customers fail to read descriptions, and say I tricked them. I don't bow to manipulators. It's also crazy how many people think they're important enough to stop me from having a job, or career, or selling things. It's crazy that they think their two seconds of discomfort warrents that kind of threat, too. Whatever. Jokes on them.
I've gone my research on the various local charitable organizations and found one that seems to be pretty much on the level, definitely better than Good Will, and I've donated a ton of stuff to them over the last few weeks in preparation for moving. Another good avenue is if you've got military bases in your local area. The AF has what they call the Airman's Attic which takes quite a few different donations for household items and clothes with the best aspect being that they only allow personnel who are E5 and below to shop for what they may need. Outside of something like Airman's Attic, bases may have other areas which receive donation such as outdoor and recreation items.
Yeah, I'm blind and obviously don't drive, but if I wanted something in this situation - I'm poor so I tend to - I'll either make sure the person is willing to deliver and offer to pay for it, or I won't try to claim the item. It's just rude to expect people to go out of their way to accommodate people - free/cheap items are more than enough! If I really need or want something and the person isn't willing or able to deliver, there are services in Copenhagen where I can pay for it. But it being Copenhagen that'd be so expensive it'd be better to get whatever it is delivered from IKEA.
I'm physically incapable, but if it were something I needed, I would offer a delivery/setup fee. If the person said no, they said no.
Depending on the item/situation/my time, I have often offered delivery of items for people who can't come pick it up. It's another cost of being poor/disabled--being able to get free stuff.
Load More Replies...Apparently people are kinder here in Sweden. I know most of the people who sell their stuff on our local Facebook group and they know I don't have a driving licence (epilepsy) and that my only transport is my wheelchair. So they offer to bring it to me and I pay for the fuel and a fee for delivery. I don't buy furniture though, it's always smaller items, like a vacuum cleaner or curtains etc. One seller has seen that I'd commented on someone else's post that I was interested in the item being sold but then the seller said they lived outside of our small town so I couldn't pick it up and they had no possibility to bring it to me so the other seller offered to pick it up for me and come with it at the same time when he was coming with the items I bought from him. The other seller was very close to where he lived so easy pickup and I gave him extra money for being so kind
Some people here in Georgia call them driving licenses too. That's because a lot of people buy fishing licenses because the lakes never freeze.
Load More Replies...My dad after retiring got into buying settlement from a salvor. One such item was 80 marble bathroom counters with porcelain Gerber sinks, new in crate. The sink alone sold for nearly $100 (early 90's), the whole thing was $350 (cost, not MSRP). Following his death we're selling stuff (CHEAP) just to be done with it all. Local motel was doing a reno on 50 rooms. As these were made for that purpose, it's a win win. Or so you'd think. I told him $1000 for 50 of them. That's a steal. He asked when I'd have them cleaned (they had a plastic wrap to protect them) and delivered. I promptly told him that for $20 each they could sit there till they rot before I'd clean and deliver them. I later donated them to a fund raiser for one of the local rescue squad units and contractors went nuts over them. Also donated some to a church that was doing a reno and they were very thankful for them as well.
Awhile ago we did a garage sale to get rid of stuff. We had super cheap prices because it was more about clearing things out than getting money. We had two working TVs for sale - 32 & 36 inch. Both worked, were really nice flat screens, absolutely nothing wrong with them. We were asking $10 for one and $15 for the other. People were offering $2 and $5, but wanted to see how it looked inside. I ended up keeping them for over a year before setting them outside on a rainy day for trash pickup. F@ck em all...
We once had a plastic barrel we were using for garbage. Because it was at the curb (even labeled TRASH), somebody took it. Ugh.
I have had ONE garage sale ever and this is why. Things that are actually worth some money, people want to offer $1 for. I was so pissed off at the end, I swore NEVER AGAIN. I donate everything to charity now.
Too much bother with people who want to haggle over a quarter.
Load More Replies...Whenever I no longer need items, and still in good shape, I donate them to the local Vets organization and/or Salvation Army. Where I live, both have monthly pickups dates. I leave things on my driveway and they pick them up.
Ugh. After my divorce I sold my house to downsize and had to sell most of my furnishing as well. What a nightmare. People were like vultures. Honestly, I'd rather toss it all out than deal with all of that again. If I ever have to get rid of a substantial amount of goods again, it's being donated to the Habitat for Humanity store.
yeah but not everyone without a car CHOOSES to be carless. I wouldnt demand a delivery for free stuff, though. When i was moving in with my BF i got rid of a lot of stuff, put it on the curb because thriftshops didnt wanna have it. Passers by started to take stuff, so that was good. Two guys started picking out things and friendly asked me if i was going to add more stuff that i was going to get rid off. Turned out it was a father and son who had their first place of their own after difficult time. Told them i had a fridge upstairs that worked perfect but thriftshops refused it because it had a big dent in it. It was free as long as they would carry it downstairs so i wouldnt have to and take it to the dump. So they did. I asked them to see if there was anything else they could use, they picked out some things. Next day they came back just to say thank you.
I ABSOLUTELY can see this happening!!! They way a majority of folks are thee days, smfh...someone trying to be nice, do something nice, and careless/entitled people will come out the woodwork...people are disappointing these days
When i moved a few years ago, I started by cleaning and downsizing. Anything of value I donated. But other stuff - old suitcases, boxes of books, misc kitchen stuff - I put out in a pile by the trash can at the end of the driveway for haul away. I came home the next day (not trash day) and the pile was considerably smaller. I didn't even have to place an ad.
In my country if you donate something to charity, they come to get the stuff for free.
in the Netherlands and Belgium they are very picky. It has to be in perfect state. And yet still they manage to sell c**p in their stores, lol. I had a perfect fridge they didnt want because it was dented.
Load More Replies...If it's in good shape, you can donate it to Salvation Army. They'll take it away and give you a receipt for tax purposes. This is in the US. Avoid Goodwill, they're a scam.
See stuff like this messes it up for the real non lazy people. My son broke my 32" tv.. My mom let me borrow hers out the play room that night. The next day my mom's best friend who didn't know I needed a TV called my mom told her that his neighbor is putting out a little older 50" screen TV if she knew anyone who can use it he will make sure nobody takes it. I was with my mom she said yeah Rasheeda do her son just broke hers. She picked up my 18 year old nephew and drove over there and we picked it up. Me and my nephew took it into my apartment. It's a great model the volume is awesome the picture quality is great. I said thank you God I didn't have the money to replace it.
I think what you should do is figure out what reasonable delivery costs are, then triple that figure and put it into the ad. So if it'd be $50 to delivery a dryer you word the ad "Dryer free, $150 for delivery".
If you'd bother to read more carefully, you would have noted that the story was originally posted in the r/ChoosingBeggars subreddit.
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