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Baby Showers Beware: “Nesting Party” Takes Internet By Storm As Much Better Alternative
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Baby Showers Beware: “Nesting Party” Takes Internet By Storm As Much Better Alternative

Interview Baby Showers Beware: “Nesting Party” Takes Internet By Storm As Much Better AlternativeExpectant Mom Replaces Baby Shower With “Nesting Party,” Goes ViralMom-To-Be Has A Nesting Party Instead Of A Baby Shower, Goes ViralMom-To-Be Chooses A Nesting Party Over A Baby Shower, And The Internet Loves ItFriend Organizes Mom-To-Be A Nesting Party Instead Of A Baby Shower, She Loves ItMom Explains Why Nesting Parties Are Better Than Baby Showers, Goes Viral On TikTokWoman Shares How She Opted For A
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There’s a new trend spreading among moms-to-be, and it’s all the rage these days. Nesting parties are popping up as a potentially better, more relaxed and way more practical alternative to baby showers. And many parents are loving it!

Mom Nia Lui, aka @nialui21, aka Nia Mullet Mom, recently went viral on TikTok after sharing just how wholesome and friendly nesting parties can be. And the internet fell in love with the idea! Scroll down for Nia’s full video, as well as to read how people reacted to it.

Bored Panda reached out to Nia and she was kind enough to tell us a bit more about the video and shared some great advice for expectant mothers who are overwhelmed with everything. You’ll find our full interview with the mom as you read on!

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Many people know about baby showers, however, they’re not aware that there’s an alternative

Image credits: Kampus Production (not the actual photo)

One mom enlightened TikTok about nesting parties—something that many parents might genuinely prefer

“So I had my nesting party last night instead of a baby shower, and it was amazing.”

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“My friend Bree organized it. I sent her a list of things that I wanted to get done before the baby came and she made little cards for each person to take on a section of the house.”

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“I kind of took on more of a supervisory role, kind of telling people where I wanted things and what I wanted to do with things.”

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“And then we took a dinner break, ate some soup, some sourdough bread and treats and just chatted about this baby and how it’s going to be and then we got straight back to work.”

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“Everything was so clean and organized and I feel so much more ready for this baby.”

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“And everyone brought freezer meals for me for postpartum and it was so much fun. I highly recommend a nesting party if you’re getting ready for a baby.”

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You can watch Nia’s full viral clip over here

@nialui21 Replying to @Haley Sheppard Every pregnant mom needs a nesting party. If you’re pregnant and don’t want a baby shower, do this. If you have a pregnant friend, do this for them! #nestingparty #nestingmom #nestingmode #pregnantmom #pregnancy #babyshower #nestingmama #thirdtrimester #ittakesavillage #myvillage @Bri Welcker ♬ original sound – Nia Mullet Mom

Nia told us that she didn’t expect her video to take off like that. “I think it resonates with moms so much because preparing for a baby can be so overwhelming. And to see women come together to help another woman prepare for that touched a lot of hearts,” she shared her thoughts with Bored Panda via email.

“We all say it takes a village, but to actually see the village in action, and how it affects others is really eye-opening.” The mom drew attention to the fact that a lot of the women in the comments of her video said that they’d much rather attend a party where they’re helpful to the mother, rather than just bring her a gift.

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“It is the year of women supporting women and I think we’re all looking for ways to help our friends. And the nesting party is a great and easy way to know how to do that,” Nia said.

We were curious to get the mom’s take on why baby showers are still so popular among parents. She told us that this might be because they’re simply the norm.

“That’s what women have been doing for years and years. And it’s almost what is expected. I don’t know if a lot of people know that there are alternatives that exist. But I think knowing the alternatives may change the way that we go about helping expectant mothers prepare for motherhood.”

Nia was happy to share some advice for moms-to-be who are feeling overwhelmed by it all. She told Bored Panda that it’s vital to not be afraid to ask for help.

“You would be surprised at how willing and ready people are to help you. We all love to serve each other, but sometimes we aren’t sure how to do so. So reach out when you need help, don’t be too proud,” the mom urged.

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“Having a baby is very difficult even if it is what we want most. It can be lonely and isolating and exhausting. But to be surrounded by people that are willing to help can make a huge difference. So allow them to help you.”

Nia pointed out that she knows that not everyone is surrounded by people as supportive as she is. “I just want to say that I know that I am not the norm. I am extremely blessed and extremely privileged to have the people that I do surrounding me and supporting me, I genuinely wish that every expectant mother and mother, in general, would have the kind of support that I do,” she said.

“It has made a world of difference not only physically, but with my mental health as well. Everyone needs support.”

The mom later answered more questions about nesting parties in a follow-up video

@nialui21 Replying to @katiecusic Nesting party answers. #nestingparty #babyshower #nesting #nestingmom #womensupportingwomen #momlife #sahm #pregnantmom #nestingmode #nestingmama #thirdtrimester #pregnancy #ittakesavillage #bethevillage #greenscreen ♬ original sound – Nia Mullet Mom

Mom Nia and her husband were expecting their third child when she filmed the video. It seems like in the few days since then, she has already given birth. Congratulations to the family!

At the time of writing, Nia’s clip had over 1 million views, and it made a huge splash not just on TikTok but in the media as well. It appears that there are far more people who are tired of the rigidity and pressure of baby showers than you’d think.

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During the party, Nia’s friends cleaned her home and brought her freezer meals. This was the practical and wholesome help that the mom needed, instead of being at the center of attention and forced to play random games—something she dislikes.

On the surface, nesting parties and baby showers might seem similar, but they have completely different atmospheres and energy.

Nesting parties are more low-key and focus on practical help for the parents before the baby comes. From doing some housework and finishing setting up the nursery to food preparation and installing the car seats and the changing station.

Baby showers, on the other hand, are far more formal and focus on the ‘party’ aspect a bit more. They usually have a theme, lots of decorations, plenty of entertainment, and tons of snacks. Baby showers also tend to have far more guests than nesting parties would.

Naturally, expectant parents should pick the option that appeals to them the most. It’s important to be honest with yourself what kind of support and activities you actually want—not just what you think your family and friends will value the most.

Of course, if you can’t make up your mind, it’s always possible to merge the two ideas together. You can have a baby shower that involves a lot of the practical help elements that you’d find in nesting parties.

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The mom-to-be shouldn’t be doing any chores on the day of the party. However, she can take the time to organize things. She can make a list of guests and prepare a list of tasks before everyone arrives. She can then delegate these tasks and manage everyone on the day-of, or she can ask a friend to take over that role.

The goal is to enjoy yourself in the company of friends as you’re checking all the dozens of boxes of the things still left to do before the baby comes. It’ll make things far easier for the family when their new baby finally arrives.

Many internet users were amazed by how great an idea nesting parties are. Here’s what some TikTokers said

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Spocks's Mom
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So I have to get pregnant to have a bunch of people clean and organize my house for free AND bring me food? Bummer.

Max Fox
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As one of the people in the comments wrote - do it for your birthday. "In lieu of presents, help me clean my house". One person cleaning an apartment is a tough job, but for 10-15 people? An couple of hours' work, and then pizza and beer.

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Lama
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Brilliant! Sort out that c**p, instead of getting more c**p.

Rebecca O’Donnell
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Premium
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, Smruti Rekha, this dad took their two kids out to a play place and to dinner to free up the house for the nesting party. :)

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Awsomemom52
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A friend had a similar “baby party.” She wasn't in a very good financial situation and mostly had to resort to used things for the baby. All of her friends already had babies. Everyone brought with them, what their babies no longer needed (rompers, baby wipes, small diapers (in different sizes), bedding for the cradle, baby wipes, pacifiers, bottles, etc. Mom was also thought of. She was given everything she needed for breastfeeding and personal care and hygiene items for after the birth. While some cooked (prep meals for the freezer), cleaned and sorted the things they had brought with them, others prepared the baby's room and explained to the father what his tasks would be when the baby was born.

Jude Laskowski
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When a friend was on her second marriage with her son already 15 years old, she became pregnant with her daughter. I went to a neighborhood garage sale, and bought every piece of baby clothes one woman was selling. My friend knew she was having a girl, so she had a huge supply of little girl baby clothes.

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Awesome At Being Autistic
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aww, this is amazing! It's such a good idea, especially for a 2nd (or more!) baby. I love to clean and organize, I would happily do this for a friend who's expecting. Mind you it would be great if we were all having knockout punch, too, lol.

Nicole Holt
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, but I'd rather just bring a gift, eat some cupcakes and move on with my day ;)

Kevin J. Henning
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Great idea but diapers aren't cheap and it's always nice to get several boxes.

Helen
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, I would rather go and help out my pregnant friend with whatever they need help with, than buy some useless stuff they don't like or don't need at all. It's still a party when you sing and dance while dusting or vacuuming, or? :) Love the idea!

Anony Mouse
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh no - not another awful tiktok post. Please stop with these. I don't think anyone likes them

Jude Laskowski
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a wonderful idea! Mom gets a clean and organized home that takes so much stress off her. Sheer genius!

Spocks's Mom
Community Member
1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So I have to get pregnant to have a bunch of people clean and organize my house for free AND bring me food? Bummer.

Max Fox
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As one of the people in the comments wrote - do it for your birthday. "In lieu of presents, help me clean my house". One person cleaning an apartment is a tough job, but for 10-15 people? An couple of hours' work, and then pizza and beer.

Load More Replies...
Lama
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Brilliant! Sort out that c**p, instead of getting more c**p.

Rebecca O’Donnell
Community Member
Premium
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, Smruti Rekha, this dad took their two kids out to a play place and to dinner to free up the house for the nesting party. :)

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Awsomemom52
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A friend had a similar “baby party.” She wasn't in a very good financial situation and mostly had to resort to used things for the baby. All of her friends already had babies. Everyone brought with them, what their babies no longer needed (rompers, baby wipes, small diapers (in different sizes), bedding for the cradle, baby wipes, pacifiers, bottles, etc. Mom was also thought of. She was given everything she needed for breastfeeding and personal care and hygiene items for after the birth. While some cooked (prep meals for the freezer), cleaned and sorted the things they had brought with them, others prepared the baby's room and explained to the father what his tasks would be when the baby was born.

Jude Laskowski
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When a friend was on her second marriage with her son already 15 years old, she became pregnant with her daughter. I went to a neighborhood garage sale, and bought every piece of baby clothes one woman was selling. My friend knew she was having a girl, so she had a huge supply of little girl baby clothes.

Load More Replies...
Awesome At Being Autistic
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aww, this is amazing! It's such a good idea, especially for a 2nd (or more!) baby. I love to clean and organize, I would happily do this for a friend who's expecting. Mind you it would be great if we were all having knockout punch, too, lol.

Nicole Holt
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, but I'd rather just bring a gift, eat some cupcakes and move on with my day ;)

Kevin J. Henning
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Great idea but diapers aren't cheap and it's always nice to get several boxes.

Helen
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, I would rather go and help out my pregnant friend with whatever they need help with, than buy some useless stuff they don't like or don't need at all. It's still a party when you sing and dance while dusting or vacuuming, or? :) Love the idea!

Anony Mouse
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh no - not another awful tiktok post. Please stop with these. I don't think anyone likes them

Jude Laskowski
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a wonderful idea! Mom gets a clean and organized home that takes so much stress off her. Sheer genius!

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