She proved her point about the grass being torn up though. It's her land, her decision and the neighbours are just being AH now on doubling down. They've always had parking issues but now that someone owns bigger land, they are EXPECTED to host a bunch of cars not even related to her? Nah. Doesn't matter what time of year it is - you don't expect other people to resolve known issues - like parking.

Plant some trees. If she says yes then neighbours are always going to park there. Forever. And it is hard to go back to no once you have said yes and they start taking the p**s.

Just because OP was offered money, she wasn't obligated to accept. Just imagine somebody slipping and hurting themselves on OPs property. Who would be liable? OP of course. Neighbourly gestures cannot prevent liability claims

In litigious society, I would refrain from allowing anyone onto my property. All you need is one person to say there was a defect in your property that caused them injury and you are literally screwed. Your homeowners insurance will pay, if warranted, but, your rates will double or worse, they will not renew AND they will blackball you in the industry, so that you can not get coverage for a decent price, ever again. This is worse, if OP took money, then they are operating a business without license. and that can cause the homeowners insurance to deny coverage AT ALL. If the people are close to you and are friends, then MAYBE, otherwise, not a chance in hades. People today are always looking to make a buck off of someone else.

When did the Panini start? How did I miss that?

Why couldn't they park on near by side streets? OP's land wasn't the only option, just the closest one.

People complain that no one knows their neighbors anymore and OP is the reason why. Why would I ever go out of my way for OP. I have a neighbor who just left will helped us repair it have, and I made him a huge batch of cookies and agreed to day sit for a week. It's all a give and take. It's what being a community is

I feel as if something is missing from the narrative. Is the author determined just to be isolated from others or just a nasty neighbor? From his own description, it sounds as if he not only craves isolation but also is determined to be unpleasant as well. How unfortunate since he does not live in a deserted island by himself!

That's one bread of problem. Perhaps you could sandwich them in. ;-)

I have wonderful neighbors who have helped me out when I needed it even before I met them. After we bought our house but before we moved in a large piece of furniture was delivered 2 weeks earlier than it was scheduled. We were out of state and had no way of securing it. We asked our realtor if he could pick it up but he was also unavailable. A week later when we showed up at our new home the neighbor came over immediately and said, I have a large package of yours I will bring it right over. He brought it as well as take out menus for the local restaurants. We have helped them with things and they have helped us with other things. Make friends with your neighbors, it is well worth it.

Why can't the guests just park somewhere else nearby?

I find it funny the way he repeat none of his neighbours interacted with him before, right after he proudly says he don't want any interaction with anyone... That's why Sherlock, that's why nobody interacted with you. You use this to shame them and justify your sociopathy.

I don't think two days of the year is a big deal to allow the neighbors to use his otherwise unused driveway.

NTA, OP. People can choose to have large families OR lots of space. They made their choice and you made yours.

In this situation, I would offer to sell part of the land to the people who have small gardens and little parking. I'd have 17 acres of land, and an easily afford to make it 16 instead. This would be more than enough to ensure my privacy. Sell them a strip of land, have them pay the fees, and erect a fence and plant trees along side the fence.

This has been turned into a trolley problem, but it's not. Seriously, carpools exist. If they can't manage that then likely whatever arguments they would (apparently, absolutely need to) have would spill harmfully over onto the OP's land. This has legal liability and environmental destruction written all over it. Subjecting your neighbor's land's flora and fauna to harm and your neighbor to lawsuits by idiots is an YTFA thing.

NTA!!!!!! Just the liability alone is enough to make it a HARD NO! Plus their lawn has already been trashed and not repaired - I seriously doubt they would repair your property if damage occurred. You are not responsible for an unknown person's happiness. They chose to live on a tiny plot of land - this situation was due to their choices/decisions. Words and actions have consequences. They created this scenario. Hopefully they will soon move far far away and never blame others for their mistakes. Post NO TRESSPassing signs!!

Oh... I'm actually torn on this one. I wouldn't have any issues sharing with people I know, but I would worry about being sued. Not everyone's relatives are good people. The situation would get much much worse if someone suddenly thought they could get rich quick by falling on the property. Even if the case were dismissed, it's a huge problem. I guess I have to go with: saying "No," isn't mean, no matter how much the other person is sad. So NTA

There's a difference between a neighbor and someone who lives in the neighborhood. A neighbor is someone you connect with, if you have no connection they just live in the neighborhood. These aren't neighbors, that's a more rare thing, like a lot of relationships, they just live on the same street. Neighbors would have interacted by now. A first interaction to request something isn't neighborly, it's selfish. An actual neighbor, definitely rural ones would have introduced themselves within the first week. The result of this interaction was due to both chosing to isolate from the other locals, ones okay with it, other not so that one should have made a connection.

She has the right to refuse. It's the OPs property. They say no, end of story. Does6matter if the neighbors are nice or not. No means no. There are potential liability issues. I can sympathize with OP. I enjoy my privacy as well. I enjoy being left alone. I've dealt with toxic neighbors. Though, if I was offered the right price, I'd probably the offer.

OP says that she bought 2 lots and made them into one lot. This means that the neighbor had the same opportunity to buy one of the vacant lots for their own use and chose not to do so. I'm sure this isn't the first time they've had parking issues. Where were they parking before? OP is NOT the AH and doesn't owe anybody an explanation

You know what? I'd refuse based on the potential liability alone. And no, I shouldn't be obligated to explain my reasoning to them. (Why? So they can try to talk me out of it?) No is a complete sentence. And if not wanting the liability or responsibility for strangers' safety and the security of their vehicles while on my property makes me an a-hole, so be it. At least I'll be an a-hole that isn't getting sued.

When all the YTAs pay his property taxes, then they can have an opinion. Otherwise, p**s off.

These neighbors are so unimaginative that they can't come up with a solution after asking the neighbor doesn't work and have to disinvite people? Designate a parking place and shuttle them in or have them carpool...park the household's cars elsewhere and allow the guests to use those spaces. There are plenty of solutions they could have employed. Wanting to use someone else's things and then giving up is silly and further asking to use their things once you've shown how that very activity ruins your own things....it doesn't sound like OP was rude about it at all, just declined to let people use their stuff, which I don't see a problem with. It's not being unneighborly to politely decline a request or enforce your boundaries.

That’s a reallife grinch right there!

Wow. 7 months and you haven't needed something. But if/when you go out and your house is on fire or burglarized, don't expect them to lift a finger to help you. It's fine to keep neighbors at an arm's distance. But this was a politie and benign request. And while it won't pay off immediately beyond the payment, in a few years that politeness will eventually pay off.