Family Hires Nanny Full-Time And Explains To Her That She Can’t Eat Anything From Their Home
It goes without saying that taking care of a kid is a very tough job. And it’s equally hard to find a nanny who’d help parents out because, face it, sooner or later you will have to leave your kid in someone else’s hands because you’ve got stuff to do.
But parents come in all shapes and sizes, and nannies get to experience this diversity as well, with this one particular babysitter going to TikTok and explaining that she got hired by a family that specifically asked her not to eat their food, despite having to work there a full work day.
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Meet Brenna, a professional nanny who’s recently been going viral for a video of hers regarding her work conditions
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Meet Brenna (@braonain1 on TikTok) who is a professional nanny as well as a lifestyle, fashion and fitness influencer. She has been recently in the news because of a video of hers that showed a peculiar situation.
In the video, she was unpacking her lunch and snacks for the day she was babysitting. The caption read: “POV: when the family you nanny for doesn’t let you eat their food so you bring the most random [things]”.
Specifically, she showed herself unpacking her food for the day because the family she works for doesn’t let her eat their food
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Among the things that she unpacked were a doughnut, some fruit, a water bottle, chips, pretzels, and a can of chicken noodles. But hey, the coffee and water was available to her, so she was able to make an iced coffee, and she was trying to make the best of it.
But what stuck with people was the fact that the family that hired the nanny to work full-time included in the contract that she was not to touch and eat any of their food, meaning that she was supposed to provide it for herself throughout the day.
Despite her having to work a full day, she was asked to bring her own meals, which consisted of mostly snacks in this particular scenario
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There was the silver lining of being able to get some coffee and water
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Despite trying to grin and bear it, she ended up leaving after 2 days, but not without going viral first
@braonain1 Yeah don’t ask about my food choices.. first time having a family tell me I can’t eat there food but it’s all good 🤣 #nanny #funny #nannyfamily ♬ Material Girl (Bass Boosted) – Saucy Santana
In particular, the people on TikTok were, for the most part, all for nannies having “pantry privileges”. And this was coming from regular people as well as other nannies and people who hired them, so the overall nanny hiring culture is certainly contrary to what this family decided on.
While Brenna did mention that she was trying to make the best of it, in a video update (which is no longer available, assuming for privacy issues) she said she had quit two days later and was already at a new job. She also encouraged those who employ nannies to allow them to eat their food and to treat them well.
She gave several updates, namely where she quit and explaining more about the situation
But, overall, people were supportive of Brenna
And while you could play the devil’s advocate and argue that nannies are there to do a job, i.e. take care of a kid, and not eat, and that it’s a benefit that is solely the decision of the parents, you can’t really blame nannies for not wanting to live with it because everyone’s free to look for jobs with conditions they want and need.
Whatever the case, her video blew up on TikTok, receiving not only loads of support from like-minded nannies, parents and followers, but also garnering 1.7 million views on the video with a bit over 170,000 likes.
We also got in touch with Brenna and are awaiting a response for her, so stay tuned! In the meantime, why not check out the video in context here, and also tell us your thoughts on this in the comment section below!
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People who’ve never nannied commenting that employers don’t provide food. 🙄 Most employers don’t. But it is the norm that people provide food for the nanny to eat, as they are likely eating multiple meals a day with the children. Aside from that, it’s not like she gets a break when she can send the children away and eat. So now she has to possibly deal with the children wanting to eat the food she has brought for herself, rather than the food the parents want the children to eat. Putting the nanny in a bad position and possibly causing unnecessary friction between the nanny and children.
Absolutely this ! People don’t realise the fact we don’t even have the time to prepare our own food and sometimes it’s tricky to eat our portion as we get distracted by children, crying babies etc. Moreover it’s better when nanny eats the same food as children, because it’s not good if she had some more attractive food and they had for example some healthy food that parents wanted them to eat. Also, good families treat nannies as part of the family and have no issues to share their food.
Load More Replies...Why would anybody caring for children 'runout somewhere to grab lunch???
How many babies are YOU Nannying?? I manage to cook and eat my own meals when I had four kiddies, as well as doing the housework, garden and laundry,
What a stupid post. Stay home mothers manage to feed themselves and their children. Even mothers with 4 children or more. not only that but we managed to clean the house, do the laundry, mend the clothes, do the shopping, feed the cat and the dogs and entertain the bloke's boss and his wife sometime. Does the nanny also do all that??????
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I respect what you're doing, but I work HR and don't have the time either. But it's not on them to provide my lunch. I either spend more time making meals at home or go hungry. Free meals should be a perk, not an expectation.
HR isn't childcare, this is a stupid comparison. Your job is literally to prevent employees from getting too uppity and to keep them in their place to protect the company's image and their profit margins, so it makes sense that you'd think this way.
And HR employees usually get a lunch break where they are allowed to leave their workplace & responsibilities behind, plus two additional paid breaks if they're working a full day
I don't know where you're getting the idea of these 3 paid breaks from as that varies from place to place. But I'm sure most office employees do get breathing room aka time to themselves to have a snack throughout the day constantly/consistently.
A nanny can't leave for any break at all. She can't go get food or even eat alone........ Anyone who believes this is right isn't a normal person.
I don't think anyone said they were paid breaks, but we're getting the "idea from" a federal labor law that doesn't apply to nannies.
Okay then how about working 12 hrs in urgent care? Going from room to room seeing patients, giving instructions they'll likely not follow, educating on hand washing and other hygienes, asking their kids to stop touching everything, and find a few minutes in between them all to scarf down some frozen food - or if lucky, a food delivery. It's all unhealthy and not a civilized lifestyle.
They still get breaks I did that working on the medicare wing total care so don't give me that BS you get a break. a nanny doesn't get to sit in a break room.
Never having been a nanny, but having reared four healthy and well fed children and been a housewife at eh same time, I thing that people here are being just a wee bit too precious. Now note, this girl said nothing about the number or age of children she was expected to care for. As far as I know Nannying does NOT include cooking or cleaning or shopping. So she could hardly be run off her feet.
Pretty sure legally you're entitled to a lunch break. Its on you to set boundaries in your workplace. I acknowledge it's hard in some professions.
Nobody is trying to say you don't work hard or harder, but the scenarios aren't equivalent regarding meals. Read the explanations from actual nannies. There's a reason it's standard to allow nannies to eat and it's not bc their employers are uniquely amazing compared to all others. It just makes sense in the context. And it's super gross that anyone would resent a small benefit that someone else receives bc if they don't get it nobody should. Let's stop keeping each other down out of out own misery!
Exactly. And we're already preparing meals for the children. When are we supposed to prepare something separate for ourselves? The last family I worked for was terrible about keeping groceries properly stocked, so sometimes I would bring something from home if I noticed the selection getting bad. It never failed that the kids would want what I brought from home, and I couldn't blame them. I only brought something because they didn't have proper groceries!
Uh I have never hired someone to watch my kids and not left something for them. No it isn't part of their pay. it is common sense. If they are going to be stuck with your children you should let them eat. I once was left with 3 kids for was suppose to be 3 or 4 hours 2 days later and no car seats or anything. and their fridge was freaking empty the parents finally came back. I it wasn't for pizza. And the kids from my job those kids would have need cps cause I was not about to walk to the stop with it 116 outside. Truthfully looking back I should have just called.
Look. You can either do the job or you can't. Food prices are high, and she's likely NOT fixing 3meals a day. My kids ate ramen, beefaroni, etc. for lunch. Breakfast was cold/hot cereal with toast and fruit. If I hire a nanny I'm hiring her to keep my kids alive and well. My boss doesn't feed me. Why should I feed her? She is either cut out for it or she ain't. If kids wanted her food all she would have to do is literally say, "No". Alot of ppl don't seem remember that word anymore. Warm your food up when you warm up the kids. It's really not that hard. I bet she wasn't asked to cook a full meal at each feeding, but we don't know that, do we? Bc it's ridiculous that this story was even written.
The people saying jobs don’t feed people are the same people who get 30min to an hour lunch & two 15 minute breaks- it’s not the same! They don’t get a lunch break or dinner break where they can just leave & go get food. Usually the only chance you have to eat is when the kids are so makes sense you eat their food.
I was a professional Nanny for 3 years. I can attest that kids not only want to eat what you're having, they also want YOU to eat whay they are having. Kids are learning about fairness~~some of them consider it unfair for caregivers to have different meals ( yes, those with special diets either learn quickly that some things aren't fair). It's up to the parents to decide what to do. If I'm eating better than the kids, perhaps their parents should up their food game.
It is a simple question of practicality. A nanny works non-stop. It's not like an office job where there is usually some option to get food near-by and where you have time to go ad have some lunch.
Nannies work no more non-stop than stay at home mothers who look after their own children do. When I had kids I had meals and morning and afternoon tea.
In most jobs, you get a lunch break. It isn't like she can pause the kids while she runs to get lunch. Even teachers have the option of buying a school lunch (would not recommend it).
That makes perfect sense. Do the parents usually specify what the kids are going to eat and the nanny just eats the same? I mean it can't just be "help yourself to anything" or they might come home and find their dinner plans half-eaten.
Usually we eat whatever we make for the kids. That's the whole point...there isn't time to make something different. We eat when they eat. In my experience, it was totally up to me what I made, and the family would let me know if something was off limits because it was planned for a specific meal.
Usually the nanny makes the dinner also. FYI it's usually done when the parents get home there Skippy.
Having worked as an Au Pair both in Europe and the USA, it's in all contracts that your employer provides you with food if you are feeding their children. To have someone specifically say you cannot eat their food shows all sorts of red flags.
I mean, just from a logic standpoint, if I had a nanny who was feeding my kids during the day, I would encourage the nanny to eat the same foods with the kids to set a good example and normalize healthy eating. I wouldn't want the nanny trying to get the kids to eat a healthy lunch and she's sitting there eating the packaged snack foods that she had to bring for herself. That just doesn't make any sense to me.
Load More Replies...Exactly! There's also the element of sitting down to eat together as a family. Nannies are treated as part of the family, not just the hired help.
Also could get the kids upset seeing you eating cookies for lunch then you have to tell the kids ‘I can’t share my cookies cause your parents don’t share with me’
Lucky parents! Would YOU leave your preschooler with a self-important and untidy girl like that?? She doesn't specify what 'training" she has had, apart from 4 years experience. Here we call these girls "Mother's Helps"
If you are a live-in nanny, like an au-pair, I think it's reasonable. However, if you are only there for a few hours and then go home, Apart from e.g. cooking meals for the kids and eating with them - why should they keep extra food around for you? Most employers don't do that, why is a nanny something special? (Apart from e.g. the nanny cooking meals for the kids and eating with them)
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Then she should have actually read the contract and not taken the job or negotiated. The baby showed bad judgment and business sense in this. Or wanted something to bump up her influencer status
It sounded like she read it and thought it was manageable and 4 days later realized it wasn't for her. I don't blame her. I wish we were all empowered to leave the jobs that didn't benefit us maybe all employers would be forced to give better benefits.
For those that say employees normally bring their own lunch: these employers are refusing to feed ONE employee. They're not going to go broke providing lunch. Plus, that means the nanny eats very different food from the kids: "No, you can't have my donut. Now finish your liver and spinach sandwich."
And the nanny can't run out and take an hour lunch and leave kids - other occupations are very different.
Load More Replies...Exactly it's like they don't realize she's cooking the kids food and also she gets ZERO breaks she has to keep an eye on children that doesn't come with down time it's all day every second of the day. There is no way to be like ok well I'm taking my lunch be back in half an hour or an hour then who's looking after the kids??!! This is completely unreasonable to think someone who's at your house all day with your kids cooking their meals and feeding them has to bring their own food from home. When will they get to prepare or eat their meal if they have to feed small children or a baby. It's unreal anyone would think this is ok.
Is she cooking the kids food?? Or does the 'cook' do that?? Or do he kids simply have sandwiches??? Or a bottle from the fridge than 'nanny' must warm up.
Most places I know are half hour and most people bring their lunch. Yes. I'm saying that. We only have the "luxury" of knowing the FURTHER employee's side of this situation. We don't know why the family had this rule in place. If it was such a hardship for the girl, she should have not taken the job
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Lolololol adulting is difficult!!!! Most places I know are half hour lunches and most people bring their lunch. Yes. I'm saying that. We only have the "luxury" of knowing the FORMER employee's side of this situation. We don't know why the family had this rule in place. They may have had an unfortunate situation occur with another nanny. Abs we don't ACTUALLY know the family's financial situation. If this was going to be such a big issue and a hardship for the girl, she should have not taken the job It is so easy for us to armchair quarterback this one isn't it
She's not in an actual office or factory or even restaurant setting there buddy. It's a house where she's cooking for children breakfast lunch and dinner. Is she supposed to sit and watch them eat every meal. Or maybe breakout her doughnut and chips while they are eating their healthy foodies what do you think that's going to make the kids do. They would be like why do you get to eat that we want some why do we have to eat this and you get chips and snacks. You obviously have no clue what it's like being around children.
She did NOT specify the number of children she is supposed to be caring for,. It might simply be one young baby. Nanny tends to have come to mean a baby, not even a toddler. She's hardly going to be run off her feet with one baby. People here are making wild guesses as to what, where and why she in nannying and what where and why the parents want or need a nanny. I think the real warning for the parents was that this girl also callds herself an 'influencer"
Lololol finding a good nanny is difficult! These people are going to have way more trouble finding a good nanny than they would have if they treated their employee better. Sounds like she's going to be just fine and it's the parents who will have to scramble to find someone else.
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Perhaps these children have a special diet or other health issues that require certain foods be left for their children. And. Since donuts etc are NOT LIKELY on parents' lists of good choices, why would a Pro. NANNY even take junk food to her employers home?
Well, Susie, the pro nanny took junk food because she's not permitted to eat any of the food in the employer's home. She also took an overripe banana. What she chooses to take can't be dictated by the family who refuses to let her eat with the children. It can't be both ways. If they want to dictate what she can eat, they can provide it.
It seems pretty clear that she didn't know she would have to provide her own food until the last minute. Therefore, she probably didn't have the groceries she needed to take a lunch. As a nanny myself, I've never had a family not feed me while I was there feeding their children. I would have been in the same position.
That's a bagel, Susan. She clearly stated the things she is allowed to take: water and coffee. That's an insane reach, you must be popular on LinkedIn
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These employers are one family, not an entire corporation. They COULD go broke feeding the person if it blows their budget.
Dude, if they can afford paying 23,000 a year for me to watch their children, they can certainly afford the ham and cheese sandwiches and carrot sticks I got to eat for lunch everyday.
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Ah yes, because we all want someone else to manage our budget. They can't want to provide how they see fit in a limited budget? Everyone with a nanny is rich? Where is the common sense?
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Nope. She should learn how to pack a proper lunch like most employees (retail is different). I don't get food at my job.
I wasn't at any job except babysitting. I served lunch for myself and the children. My mother had lunch with cleaners if they were cleaning all day. Someone modeled for an artist's painting and he ordered pizza for the both of them. Of course, if you ever hire someone to work in your home, you're free to refuse them any food. I'd certainly offer them something.
I, for a VERY short while employed a cleaner who INSISTED she work for the full day (not what I wanted) but also insisted I supply a hot midday meal for her. Sorry M'dear, I never prepare hot meals for midday. And I do NOT want you arriving in hte wee small hours and coming into me bedroom while I'm still in bed. I decided that there worse things than an unclean house,. Many year later I employed a pair of cleaners -- who had such slummy habits that i had to clean up after them.
K- Actually I've worked in offices that provided things like cup-a-soups and bread and butter for employees so that those who had forgotten lunch, or were having a tough financial time, could eat. Plus no nannying job I ever did failed to provide food.
Karen doesn't understand that not every job or situation is just like theirs lol. I've had exactly 1 fast food job that did not provide at least one of the following Free meal at break or after shifts Allowed to eat stuff too old or specific to sell Allowed to bring home extras from the day at closing time/shift changes . And that's the one that inspired me to quit within 3 weeks (though they did offer 10% discount, no free drinks tho and no friends getting discounted etc) cause not messing with the regular theft that is min wage work in addition to being expected to eat meals i could only realistically access there (cause no car and no time to walk somewhere else and no kind of break room or safe place to store or prepare your own stuff). Felt way too company store and exploitative.
People who’ve never nannied commenting that employers don’t provide food. 🙄 Most employers don’t. But it is the norm that people provide food for the nanny to eat, as they are likely eating multiple meals a day with the children. Aside from that, it’s not like she gets a break when she can send the children away and eat. So now she has to possibly deal with the children wanting to eat the food she has brought for herself, rather than the food the parents want the children to eat. Putting the nanny in a bad position and possibly causing unnecessary friction between the nanny and children.
Absolutely this ! People don’t realise the fact we don’t even have the time to prepare our own food and sometimes it’s tricky to eat our portion as we get distracted by children, crying babies etc. Moreover it’s better when nanny eats the same food as children, because it’s not good if she had some more attractive food and they had for example some healthy food that parents wanted them to eat. Also, good families treat nannies as part of the family and have no issues to share their food.
Load More Replies...Why would anybody caring for children 'runout somewhere to grab lunch???
How many babies are YOU Nannying?? I manage to cook and eat my own meals when I had four kiddies, as well as doing the housework, garden and laundry,
What a stupid post. Stay home mothers manage to feed themselves and their children. Even mothers with 4 children or more. not only that but we managed to clean the house, do the laundry, mend the clothes, do the shopping, feed the cat and the dogs and entertain the bloke's boss and his wife sometime. Does the nanny also do all that??????
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I respect what you're doing, but I work HR and don't have the time either. But it's not on them to provide my lunch. I either spend more time making meals at home or go hungry. Free meals should be a perk, not an expectation.
HR isn't childcare, this is a stupid comparison. Your job is literally to prevent employees from getting too uppity and to keep them in their place to protect the company's image and their profit margins, so it makes sense that you'd think this way.
And HR employees usually get a lunch break where they are allowed to leave their workplace & responsibilities behind, plus two additional paid breaks if they're working a full day
I don't know where you're getting the idea of these 3 paid breaks from as that varies from place to place. But I'm sure most office employees do get breathing room aka time to themselves to have a snack throughout the day constantly/consistently.
A nanny can't leave for any break at all. She can't go get food or even eat alone........ Anyone who believes this is right isn't a normal person.
I don't think anyone said they were paid breaks, but we're getting the "idea from" a federal labor law that doesn't apply to nannies.
Okay then how about working 12 hrs in urgent care? Going from room to room seeing patients, giving instructions they'll likely not follow, educating on hand washing and other hygienes, asking their kids to stop touching everything, and find a few minutes in between them all to scarf down some frozen food - or if lucky, a food delivery. It's all unhealthy and not a civilized lifestyle.
They still get breaks I did that working on the medicare wing total care so don't give me that BS you get a break. a nanny doesn't get to sit in a break room.
Never having been a nanny, but having reared four healthy and well fed children and been a housewife at eh same time, I thing that people here are being just a wee bit too precious. Now note, this girl said nothing about the number or age of children she was expected to care for. As far as I know Nannying does NOT include cooking or cleaning or shopping. So she could hardly be run off her feet.
Pretty sure legally you're entitled to a lunch break. Its on you to set boundaries in your workplace. I acknowledge it's hard in some professions.
Nobody is trying to say you don't work hard or harder, but the scenarios aren't equivalent regarding meals. Read the explanations from actual nannies. There's a reason it's standard to allow nannies to eat and it's not bc their employers are uniquely amazing compared to all others. It just makes sense in the context. And it's super gross that anyone would resent a small benefit that someone else receives bc if they don't get it nobody should. Let's stop keeping each other down out of out own misery!
Exactly. And we're already preparing meals for the children. When are we supposed to prepare something separate for ourselves? The last family I worked for was terrible about keeping groceries properly stocked, so sometimes I would bring something from home if I noticed the selection getting bad. It never failed that the kids would want what I brought from home, and I couldn't blame them. I only brought something because they didn't have proper groceries!
Uh I have never hired someone to watch my kids and not left something for them. No it isn't part of their pay. it is common sense. If they are going to be stuck with your children you should let them eat. I once was left with 3 kids for was suppose to be 3 or 4 hours 2 days later and no car seats or anything. and their fridge was freaking empty the parents finally came back. I it wasn't for pizza. And the kids from my job those kids would have need cps cause I was not about to walk to the stop with it 116 outside. Truthfully looking back I should have just called.
Look. You can either do the job or you can't. Food prices are high, and she's likely NOT fixing 3meals a day. My kids ate ramen, beefaroni, etc. for lunch. Breakfast was cold/hot cereal with toast and fruit. If I hire a nanny I'm hiring her to keep my kids alive and well. My boss doesn't feed me. Why should I feed her? She is either cut out for it or she ain't. If kids wanted her food all she would have to do is literally say, "No". Alot of ppl don't seem remember that word anymore. Warm your food up when you warm up the kids. It's really not that hard. I bet she wasn't asked to cook a full meal at each feeding, but we don't know that, do we? Bc it's ridiculous that this story was even written.
The people saying jobs don’t feed people are the same people who get 30min to an hour lunch & two 15 minute breaks- it’s not the same! They don’t get a lunch break or dinner break where they can just leave & go get food. Usually the only chance you have to eat is when the kids are so makes sense you eat their food.
I was a professional Nanny for 3 years. I can attest that kids not only want to eat what you're having, they also want YOU to eat whay they are having. Kids are learning about fairness~~some of them consider it unfair for caregivers to have different meals ( yes, those with special diets either learn quickly that some things aren't fair). It's up to the parents to decide what to do. If I'm eating better than the kids, perhaps their parents should up their food game.
It is a simple question of practicality. A nanny works non-stop. It's not like an office job where there is usually some option to get food near-by and where you have time to go ad have some lunch.
Nannies work no more non-stop than stay at home mothers who look after their own children do. When I had kids I had meals and morning and afternoon tea.
In most jobs, you get a lunch break. It isn't like she can pause the kids while she runs to get lunch. Even teachers have the option of buying a school lunch (would not recommend it).
That makes perfect sense. Do the parents usually specify what the kids are going to eat and the nanny just eats the same? I mean it can't just be "help yourself to anything" or they might come home and find their dinner plans half-eaten.
Usually we eat whatever we make for the kids. That's the whole point...there isn't time to make something different. We eat when they eat. In my experience, it was totally up to me what I made, and the family would let me know if something was off limits because it was planned for a specific meal.
Usually the nanny makes the dinner also. FYI it's usually done when the parents get home there Skippy.
Having worked as an Au Pair both in Europe and the USA, it's in all contracts that your employer provides you with food if you are feeding their children. To have someone specifically say you cannot eat their food shows all sorts of red flags.
I mean, just from a logic standpoint, if I had a nanny who was feeding my kids during the day, I would encourage the nanny to eat the same foods with the kids to set a good example and normalize healthy eating. I wouldn't want the nanny trying to get the kids to eat a healthy lunch and she's sitting there eating the packaged snack foods that she had to bring for herself. That just doesn't make any sense to me.
Load More Replies...Exactly! There's also the element of sitting down to eat together as a family. Nannies are treated as part of the family, not just the hired help.
Also could get the kids upset seeing you eating cookies for lunch then you have to tell the kids ‘I can’t share my cookies cause your parents don’t share with me’
Lucky parents! Would YOU leave your preschooler with a self-important and untidy girl like that?? She doesn't specify what 'training" she has had, apart from 4 years experience. Here we call these girls "Mother's Helps"
If you are a live-in nanny, like an au-pair, I think it's reasonable. However, if you are only there for a few hours and then go home, Apart from e.g. cooking meals for the kids and eating with them - why should they keep extra food around for you? Most employers don't do that, why is a nanny something special? (Apart from e.g. the nanny cooking meals for the kids and eating with them)
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Then she should have actually read the contract and not taken the job or negotiated. The baby showed bad judgment and business sense in this. Or wanted something to bump up her influencer status
It sounded like she read it and thought it was manageable and 4 days later realized it wasn't for her. I don't blame her. I wish we were all empowered to leave the jobs that didn't benefit us maybe all employers would be forced to give better benefits.
For those that say employees normally bring their own lunch: these employers are refusing to feed ONE employee. They're not going to go broke providing lunch. Plus, that means the nanny eats very different food from the kids: "No, you can't have my donut. Now finish your liver and spinach sandwich."
And the nanny can't run out and take an hour lunch and leave kids - other occupations are very different.
Load More Replies...Exactly it's like they don't realize she's cooking the kids food and also she gets ZERO breaks she has to keep an eye on children that doesn't come with down time it's all day every second of the day. There is no way to be like ok well I'm taking my lunch be back in half an hour or an hour then who's looking after the kids??!! This is completely unreasonable to think someone who's at your house all day with your kids cooking their meals and feeding them has to bring their own food from home. When will they get to prepare or eat their meal if they have to feed small children or a baby. It's unreal anyone would think this is ok.
Is she cooking the kids food?? Or does the 'cook' do that?? Or do he kids simply have sandwiches??? Or a bottle from the fridge than 'nanny' must warm up.
Most places I know are half hour and most people bring their lunch. Yes. I'm saying that. We only have the "luxury" of knowing the FURTHER employee's side of this situation. We don't know why the family had this rule in place. If it was such a hardship for the girl, she should have not taken the job
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Lolololol adulting is difficult!!!! Most places I know are half hour lunches and most people bring their lunch. Yes. I'm saying that. We only have the "luxury" of knowing the FORMER employee's side of this situation. We don't know why the family had this rule in place. They may have had an unfortunate situation occur with another nanny. Abs we don't ACTUALLY know the family's financial situation. If this was going to be such a big issue and a hardship for the girl, she should have not taken the job It is so easy for us to armchair quarterback this one isn't it
She's not in an actual office or factory or even restaurant setting there buddy. It's a house where she's cooking for children breakfast lunch and dinner. Is she supposed to sit and watch them eat every meal. Or maybe breakout her doughnut and chips while they are eating their healthy foodies what do you think that's going to make the kids do. They would be like why do you get to eat that we want some why do we have to eat this and you get chips and snacks. You obviously have no clue what it's like being around children.
She did NOT specify the number of children she is supposed to be caring for,. It might simply be one young baby. Nanny tends to have come to mean a baby, not even a toddler. She's hardly going to be run off her feet with one baby. People here are making wild guesses as to what, where and why she in nannying and what where and why the parents want or need a nanny. I think the real warning for the parents was that this girl also callds herself an 'influencer"
Lololol finding a good nanny is difficult! These people are going to have way more trouble finding a good nanny than they would have if they treated their employee better. Sounds like she's going to be just fine and it's the parents who will have to scramble to find someone else.
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Perhaps these children have a special diet or other health issues that require certain foods be left for their children. And. Since donuts etc are NOT LIKELY on parents' lists of good choices, why would a Pro. NANNY even take junk food to her employers home?
Well, Susie, the pro nanny took junk food because she's not permitted to eat any of the food in the employer's home. She also took an overripe banana. What she chooses to take can't be dictated by the family who refuses to let her eat with the children. It can't be both ways. If they want to dictate what she can eat, they can provide it.
It seems pretty clear that she didn't know she would have to provide her own food until the last minute. Therefore, she probably didn't have the groceries she needed to take a lunch. As a nanny myself, I've never had a family not feed me while I was there feeding their children. I would have been in the same position.
That's a bagel, Susan. She clearly stated the things she is allowed to take: water and coffee. That's an insane reach, you must be popular on LinkedIn
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These employers are one family, not an entire corporation. They COULD go broke feeding the person if it blows their budget.
Dude, if they can afford paying 23,000 a year for me to watch their children, they can certainly afford the ham and cheese sandwiches and carrot sticks I got to eat for lunch everyday.
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Ah yes, because we all want someone else to manage our budget. They can't want to provide how they see fit in a limited budget? Everyone with a nanny is rich? Where is the common sense?
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Nope. She should learn how to pack a proper lunch like most employees (retail is different). I don't get food at my job.
I wasn't at any job except babysitting. I served lunch for myself and the children. My mother had lunch with cleaners if they were cleaning all day. Someone modeled for an artist's painting and he ordered pizza for the both of them. Of course, if you ever hire someone to work in your home, you're free to refuse them any food. I'd certainly offer them something.
I, for a VERY short while employed a cleaner who INSISTED she work for the full day (not what I wanted) but also insisted I supply a hot midday meal for her. Sorry M'dear, I never prepare hot meals for midday. And I do NOT want you arriving in hte wee small hours and coming into me bedroom while I'm still in bed. I decided that there worse things than an unclean house,. Many year later I employed a pair of cleaners -- who had such slummy habits that i had to clean up after them.
K- Actually I've worked in offices that provided things like cup-a-soups and bread and butter for employees so that those who had forgotten lunch, or were having a tough financial time, could eat. Plus no nannying job I ever did failed to provide food.
Karen doesn't understand that not every job or situation is just like theirs lol. I've had exactly 1 fast food job that did not provide at least one of the following Free meal at break or after shifts Allowed to eat stuff too old or specific to sell Allowed to bring home extras from the day at closing time/shift changes . And that's the one that inspired me to quit within 3 weeks (though they did offer 10% discount, no free drinks tho and no friends getting discounted etc) cause not messing with the regular theft that is min wage work in addition to being expected to eat meals i could only realistically access there (cause no car and no time to walk somewhere else and no kind of break room or safe place to store or prepare your own stuff). Felt way too company store and exploitative.
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