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Muslim Student’s Headscarf Slips, Male Teacher Asks Female Colleague For Help, She Reports Him
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Muslim Student’s Headscarf Slips, Male Teacher Asks Female Colleague For Help, She Reports Him

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In our ever-diversifying world, navigating cultural and religious sensitivities has become more important than ever. Every conversation we have with someone is a chance to either connect with that person or accidentally step on a few toes. Sometimes, even the smallest and most innocent gestures have a way of causing unnecessary misunderstandings. Especially in places like schools, where a variety of backgrounds come together, even the tiniest actions can make a big difference.

One Redditor learned this the hard way when his well-intended request for help with his female Muslim student turned into a report over “unprofessional conduct”.

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    Male teacher asks female colleague to assist his Muslim student with her head scarf, but he gets reported for his actions

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    The teacher notices his student’s head scarf has moved and exposes her hair, thinks it’s inappropriate for him to help her, as he is not related to her

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    The female colleague reports the teacher to the principle for “unprofessional conduct” after he asks for her help with fixing his Muslim student’s head scarf

    The OP (original poster) of this story was a high school science teacher with a surprising knack for accidentally stepping into cultural minefields. The OP moved to an “exclusively white” area seven years prior to the neighborhood receiving a bit of a cultural makeover, introducing some much-needed diversity.

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    So, the OP had the chance to welcome his first Muslim students, 2 cousins, Amira and Nadia. He was in no way an expert in their religion, but he did have some knowledge on it, as well as in other major religions.

    One day, while grading some worksheets, the OP noticed that Nadia’s headscarf had slipped, exposing her hair. He panicked and immediately went to his female colleague, Mrs. Smith, to ask for help, as Amira was out sick. The OP thought that it would have been inappropriate for him to address the issue directly, as a man who was not related to Nadia.

    Not wanting to disrespect her religious beliefs, he disrupted Mrs. Smith’s class and asked her if she could help out Nadia. But her reaction was not exactly what the OP expected, as she seemed pretty annoyed by the request. “She made a weird face at me but eventually said, ‘fine’ and went to go get Nadia,” the OP recalls.

    After the class, the OP apologized to Nadia for embarrassing her, if he did, and she replied that it was no issue. However, Mrs. Smith didn’t agree, and she reported the OP to the principal for “unprofessional conduct”. That seems a bit extreme, doesn’t it?

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    The same evening, the OP received a call from the principal informing him that there was a meeting set for the following Monday with Mrs. Smith, Nadia, and her parents. Oh, and a union rep for good measure. Feeling ambushed and confused, the OP was left wondering if he somehow stepped into an alternate universe where doing the respectful thing lands you in hot water.

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    Respecting a student’s religious beliefs is an important part of creating and maintaining an inclusive environment. It’s more than just about avoiding conflicts – it’s about showing that you genuinely value the different ways people see the world. In schools, this kind of respect helps create a welcoming vibe where all students can feel comfortable and understood.

    Teachers have the obligation to protect their students and intervene in any situation that may involve discrimination of any kind. Research shows that “teachers are more likely to intervene in bias incidents related to race, religion and disability than other forms of bias.”

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    By being mindful of religious beliefs, we can prevent small misunderstandings from blowing up into major issues. Plus, embracing diversity, especially in school settings, can make everyone feel a bit more appreciated and connected.

    Embracing diversity in schools is all about making sure we are creating an environment where all students and teachers feel welcomed and valued. A simple way we could all do this is by learning about different cultures and perspectives. It can be through workshops, maybe reading up on various traditions, or even just having open conversations with people from different backgrounds and just being sensitive to their beliefs. Which is probably what the OP was trying to do when his intention was misunderstood by his colleague.

    What’s your take on this story? Why do you think the OP’s colleague reported him for trying to help his student? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

    People in the comments say the teacher is not a jerk, as he was only trying to be considerate and respectful to his student’s religious beliefs

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    What is your opinion on Mrs. Smith reporting the male teacher for unprofessional conduct?
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    Rabbit Of ill Portent(she/her)
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He was just trying to be considerate ffs! I can see why he might've been anxious af in thinking of a way to help his student with her hijab because nowadays, it's so easy to accidentally trigger someone. I swear to goddess, it's damned if you do and damned if you don't -_-

    Bryn
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    3 months ago

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    It's how you react. you can be considerate without reacting like he did. He could have asked another female student. He made a bigger mess.

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    Aiden Brough
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's a male. He'd be damned if did and damned didn't. As is apparant by the fact that he tried to point out he's an unrelated male and got damned by his actions. Ridiculous.

    R Dennis
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A big part of the issue these days is everyone being offended by everything. Understanding intent has been replaced by blind outrage and reactionary behavior. Hopefully this nonsense gets cleared up and op now knows why type of person the other teacher is...

    Nota Robot
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mrs. Smith is a c**t for reporting him, regardless of whether he overreacted or not. This could easily have been solved off the record. Sorry for using that word, but I feel it's justified.

    Deborah B
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the male teacher had good intentions, and clearly didn't have appropriate guidance on how to handle the situation. He was clearly trying to be respectful, to the point where he made a big deal of a minor issue. The appropriate thing for the woman teacher to do would be to have had a discussion with him and their principal, consulted with their local muslim community group or mosque, and set a clear guidance. Surely there are policies for how a male teacher should deal with other sensitive issues with female students? What happens if he sees a student in the hall with her skirt tucked into her knickers, or notices that someone has bled through while on her period. Not informing the student leaves them open to public humiliation (especially in a co-ed school), but for a man to tell his teenage girl student she's flashing her knickers is also going to be a major embarassment for her, and open him to censure.

    Sunny Day
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP never updated his post, so I will assume he got cancelled.

    Cooking Panda
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a muslim hijabi woman, I appreciate his action and knowledge about Islam's basic rule like no touching unrelated ppl of different sex. I hope this ends well for OP and Mrs. Smith learn her lesson

    Manana Man
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't see why he needed to do anything. Nadia needs a wardrobe adjustment, Nadia can take care of it. No one needs to say or do anything.

    Charity Angel
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Having hair showing can be a massive deal, depending on how strict Nadia (and her family) is about this. And as he rightly says, as an unrelated man he should not be looking at her hair (hence the presence of the hijab. While I think he might have been better off asking a female student in the class who's friendly with Nadia to mention it would have been a better shout than getting another teacher involved, he was being respectful. And I think he needs to establish with both Nadia and Amira what they are comfortable with, and sharing that with his colleagues, who are clearly not aware of the religious background here. If Nadia's parents are very strict, she could be in serious trouble for what to an outsider seems a minor wardrobe slip.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This was a situation that hadn't happened before, OP did his best to be considerate and respectful. If there was a plan in place or if he'd been told to handle it inab certain way and he just went rogue, that would be different. But even if this was t the best way, how can there be a complaint? Hopefully they speak to the students and come up with a clear plan for the future, but this type of one off is not worth disciplinary action. It isn't a persistent problem, he wasn't rude, disrespectful or dangerous. This must be some administrator power tripping

    Charity Angel
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it's a serious lack of understanding on Mrs Smith's part, and something she didn't even bother to clarify with either Nadia or just a basic Google. Or maybe she did ask Nadia, and Nadia was embarrassed about being pulled out of class for this - we don't know - but somehow I doubt it. While I don't think involving Mrs Smith was the best move - another female student who gets on with Nadia would probably have been better - going forward he needs to ask Nadia and Amira what they are comfortable with. Are they okay showing a little bit of hair, or is that a massive no-no for them? If they do mind, would they object to him discretely mentioning it so they can fix the problem? I have a suspicion that OP followed a protocol from his previous school, without anyone at the new school having any awareness whatsoever about why that even exists elsewhere.

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    Northern Breeze
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Funny how we have to adapt and accommodate to a religion who won't do it for no one....

    Full of Giggles
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a load of b******t. I’m guessing you’ve never spent quality time with Western Muslims. They are far more accommodating than many Christian sects.

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    Pittsburgh rare
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How old was the student? My hijab wearing students can perfectly fix it without a fuss if it ever slips. They're from 12/13 yo onwards. And l'll be damned if l mention anything about their hair, why would I?Another prime example of white (American?) person trying to be ultra politically correct and making things awkward.

    Papa
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't help but wonder if casually slipping her a note letting her know about the situation and letting her deal with it however she thought best would have been a better option.

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    nm (he/him)
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm in favour of the policy of France in the matter of religion: No religious symbols, of any kind, are permitted in schools and other public buildings. Problem solved.

    Thom Serveaux
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If she was forcing other people to wear a hijab, it would be a problem. But let people wear what they want.

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    Joe
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll need a follow up on this, please.

    Marno C.
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For those who do not get the religious aspect of this, the Western equivalent of this has been around for a long time. A male colleague/teacher is discouraged from noticing or making remarks about a female's body or undergarments and vice versa. Assistance should be sought from someone more appropriate. He would not say anything directly to a woman whose slip was showing; his female colleague would not address a male student whose fly was unzipped (I hope).

    peanuttygood
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mrs. Smith is reporting you because you ANNOYED her. No other reason. The problem here is that in attempting to accommodate one culture (that of your Muslim student), you violated another culture: that of the constipated, indignant bureaucrat. You will be forced to admit you did something wrong and apologize, and it will be held against you for years. And your heart will grow just a little bit darker, while Mrs. Smith will get a thrill of vindication every time she tells the story.

    JP
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mrs. Smith was upset because she's from a place that is traditionally all white (OPs words) and probably isn't as aware of Muslim practices. OP is NTA. (I've used awkward wording here, but I've got a hella cold and my brain isn't working the best.)

    Steve Hall
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, I hope they tell the rest of the story because there was nothing here.

    Chelsea McKee
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    3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She probably reported you because she lacks any understanding of the surrounding culture. I'm not well versed in head coverings outside the basics, but I do know a few things and your behavior to find an appropriate female in which to inform her seems appropriate. As a woman the relationship with the person would have determined my response. I don't understand entirely why this person was reported, for trying to be polite. Then again, this is high school and they are attending school here. Not saying anything and continuing with the lesson would have also been fine. She would have simply noticed her 'indiscretion' and adjusted the head covering accordingly.

    Max Fox
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What the actual heII? The guy may have overreacted, but only because he had no idea how ro react and and he overreacted in the right direction. The only thing that the Principle should have done is to figure out rules of conduct for this, so that the OP would know how to deal with it. The discussion should be "you did nothing wrong, but let's figure out how to react next time so as to minimize disruptions".

    Nils Skirnir
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a completely non-religious person, I’d have ignored the whole thing. Just as I would’ve if a bunch of ashes started dripping down a face.

    Christopher Crockett
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sh!t like this makes me glad I never managed to achieve a childhood dream of wanting to teach. The other teacher sounds like a complete cvnt and so does the principal.

    MR
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Literally everyone is overreacting on this one. At least, for his part, the spirit of his overreaction is in the right place.

    Mike Loux
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "No good deed goes unpunished." Mrs. Smith completely and totally overreacted, and I can't help but wonder if she is a little on the racist side, the way she handled the whole thing.

    Red_panda
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly he is and ah, but not for the reason he thinks. This is a teenager, not a child. Pretty sure she didn't need "help". I'm sure she was more than capable of fixing it herself. He could have whispered to another female student that he trusted to have discretion to let the Muslim student know. But no teenage girl needs help fixing an article if clothing. My girls are 10 and 11 and have been dressing themselves completely without assistance for years. They don't wear hijabs, but if they did it would be a normal article of clothing and wouldn't need help. The girl probably felt infantilized more than discriminated against.

    Joe Bloe
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    3 months ago (edited)

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    IT's easy, he perpetuated the misogynistic religion view with his actions, by avoiding even eye contact with a woman that didn't have her scarf perfectly fitted... It's like avoiding children staying alone with a priest because christian priest r*pe childrens.

    Rabbit Of ill Portent(she/her)
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He was just trying to be considerate ffs! I can see why he might've been anxious af in thinking of a way to help his student with her hijab because nowadays, it's so easy to accidentally trigger someone. I swear to goddess, it's damned if you do and damned if you don't -_-

    Bryn
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    3 months ago

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    It's how you react. you can be considerate without reacting like he did. He could have asked another female student. He made a bigger mess.

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    Aiden Brough
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's a male. He'd be damned if did and damned didn't. As is apparant by the fact that he tried to point out he's an unrelated male and got damned by his actions. Ridiculous.

    R Dennis
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A big part of the issue these days is everyone being offended by everything. Understanding intent has been replaced by blind outrage and reactionary behavior. Hopefully this nonsense gets cleared up and op now knows why type of person the other teacher is...

    Nota Robot
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mrs. Smith is a c**t for reporting him, regardless of whether he overreacted or not. This could easily have been solved off the record. Sorry for using that word, but I feel it's justified.

    Deborah B
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the male teacher had good intentions, and clearly didn't have appropriate guidance on how to handle the situation. He was clearly trying to be respectful, to the point where he made a big deal of a minor issue. The appropriate thing for the woman teacher to do would be to have had a discussion with him and their principal, consulted with their local muslim community group or mosque, and set a clear guidance. Surely there are policies for how a male teacher should deal with other sensitive issues with female students? What happens if he sees a student in the hall with her skirt tucked into her knickers, or notices that someone has bled through while on her period. Not informing the student leaves them open to public humiliation (especially in a co-ed school), but for a man to tell his teenage girl student she's flashing her knickers is also going to be a major embarassment for her, and open him to censure.

    Sunny Day
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP never updated his post, so I will assume he got cancelled.

    Cooking Panda
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a muslim hijabi woman, I appreciate his action and knowledge about Islam's basic rule like no touching unrelated ppl of different sex. I hope this ends well for OP and Mrs. Smith learn her lesson

    Manana Man
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't see why he needed to do anything. Nadia needs a wardrobe adjustment, Nadia can take care of it. No one needs to say or do anything.

    Charity Angel
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Having hair showing can be a massive deal, depending on how strict Nadia (and her family) is about this. And as he rightly says, as an unrelated man he should not be looking at her hair (hence the presence of the hijab. While I think he might have been better off asking a female student in the class who's friendly with Nadia to mention it would have been a better shout than getting another teacher involved, he was being respectful. And I think he needs to establish with both Nadia and Amira what they are comfortable with, and sharing that with his colleagues, who are clearly not aware of the religious background here. If Nadia's parents are very strict, she could be in serious trouble for what to an outsider seems a minor wardrobe slip.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This was a situation that hadn't happened before, OP did his best to be considerate and respectful. If there was a plan in place or if he'd been told to handle it inab certain way and he just went rogue, that would be different. But even if this was t the best way, how can there be a complaint? Hopefully they speak to the students and come up with a clear plan for the future, but this type of one off is not worth disciplinary action. It isn't a persistent problem, he wasn't rude, disrespectful or dangerous. This must be some administrator power tripping

    Charity Angel
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it's a serious lack of understanding on Mrs Smith's part, and something she didn't even bother to clarify with either Nadia or just a basic Google. Or maybe she did ask Nadia, and Nadia was embarrassed about being pulled out of class for this - we don't know - but somehow I doubt it. While I don't think involving Mrs Smith was the best move - another female student who gets on with Nadia would probably have been better - going forward he needs to ask Nadia and Amira what they are comfortable with. Are they okay showing a little bit of hair, or is that a massive no-no for them? If they do mind, would they object to him discretely mentioning it so they can fix the problem? I have a suspicion that OP followed a protocol from his previous school, without anyone at the new school having any awareness whatsoever about why that even exists elsewhere.

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    Northern Breeze
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Funny how we have to adapt and accommodate to a religion who won't do it for no one....

    Full of Giggles
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a load of b******t. I’m guessing you’ve never spent quality time with Western Muslims. They are far more accommodating than many Christian sects.

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    Pittsburgh rare
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How old was the student? My hijab wearing students can perfectly fix it without a fuss if it ever slips. They're from 12/13 yo onwards. And l'll be damned if l mention anything about their hair, why would I?Another prime example of white (American?) person trying to be ultra politically correct and making things awkward.

    Papa
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't help but wonder if casually slipping her a note letting her know about the situation and letting her deal with it however she thought best would have been a better option.

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    nm (he/him)
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm in favour of the policy of France in the matter of religion: No religious symbols, of any kind, are permitted in schools and other public buildings. Problem solved.

    Thom Serveaux
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If she was forcing other people to wear a hijab, it would be a problem. But let people wear what they want.

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    Joe
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll need a follow up on this, please.

    Marno C.
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For those who do not get the religious aspect of this, the Western equivalent of this has been around for a long time. A male colleague/teacher is discouraged from noticing or making remarks about a female's body or undergarments and vice versa. Assistance should be sought from someone more appropriate. He would not say anything directly to a woman whose slip was showing; his female colleague would not address a male student whose fly was unzipped (I hope).

    peanuttygood
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mrs. Smith is reporting you because you ANNOYED her. No other reason. The problem here is that in attempting to accommodate one culture (that of your Muslim student), you violated another culture: that of the constipated, indignant bureaucrat. You will be forced to admit you did something wrong and apologize, and it will be held against you for years. And your heart will grow just a little bit darker, while Mrs. Smith will get a thrill of vindication every time she tells the story.

    JP
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mrs. Smith was upset because she's from a place that is traditionally all white (OPs words) and probably isn't as aware of Muslim practices. OP is NTA. (I've used awkward wording here, but I've got a hella cold and my brain isn't working the best.)

    Steve Hall
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, I hope they tell the rest of the story because there was nothing here.

    Chelsea McKee
    Community Member
    3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She probably reported you because she lacks any understanding of the surrounding culture. I'm not well versed in head coverings outside the basics, but I do know a few things and your behavior to find an appropriate female in which to inform her seems appropriate. As a woman the relationship with the person would have determined my response. I don't understand entirely why this person was reported, for trying to be polite. Then again, this is high school and they are attending school here. Not saying anything and continuing with the lesson would have also been fine. She would have simply noticed her 'indiscretion' and adjusted the head covering accordingly.

    Max Fox
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What the actual heII? The guy may have overreacted, but only because he had no idea how ro react and and he overreacted in the right direction. The only thing that the Principle should have done is to figure out rules of conduct for this, so that the OP would know how to deal with it. The discussion should be "you did nothing wrong, but let's figure out how to react next time so as to minimize disruptions".

    Nils Skirnir
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a completely non-religious person, I’d have ignored the whole thing. Just as I would’ve if a bunch of ashes started dripping down a face.

    Christopher Crockett
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sh!t like this makes me glad I never managed to achieve a childhood dream of wanting to teach. The other teacher sounds like a complete cvnt and so does the principal.

    MR
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Literally everyone is overreacting on this one. At least, for his part, the spirit of his overreaction is in the right place.

    Mike Loux
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "No good deed goes unpunished." Mrs. Smith completely and totally overreacted, and I can't help but wonder if she is a little on the racist side, the way she handled the whole thing.

    Red_panda
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly he is and ah, but not for the reason he thinks. This is a teenager, not a child. Pretty sure she didn't need "help". I'm sure she was more than capable of fixing it herself. He could have whispered to another female student that he trusted to have discretion to let the Muslim student know. But no teenage girl needs help fixing an article if clothing. My girls are 10 and 11 and have been dressing themselves completely without assistance for years. They don't wear hijabs, but if they did it would be a normal article of clothing and wouldn't need help. The girl probably felt infantilized more than discriminated against.

    Joe Bloe
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    3 months ago (edited)

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    IT's easy, he perpetuated the misogynistic religion view with his actions, by avoiding even eye contact with a woman that didn't have her scarf perfectly fitted... It's like avoiding children staying alone with a priest because christian priest r*pe childrens.

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