Impulsive 29YO Doesn’t Understand Reality, Moves To Australia With No Plan, Job, Or House
You know how some people think moving to a new place will magically solve all their problems? Like, poof! New country, new me. But what happens when reality doesn’t match the fantasy and, instead of sunshine and success, you’re left broke, homesick, and all alone?
One Redditor is struggling with this exact dilemma after watching their friend ditch England and move across the globe to Australia, expecting an easy admin job and instant happiness only to land in the middle of empty pockets and a botched bleach job.
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Moving to a different country to escape your problems doesn’t solve them, it just gives them a new zip code
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One woman moved from England to Australia for an easy life, but quickly realizes she’s in over her head when she ends up broke and homesick
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The woman’s friends are frustrated with her as she keeps making poor life choices, ignoring their advice while criticizing their lives
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After blowing her $37k inheritance in just one month of living in Australia, the woman ends up broke, homesick, and realizing that her dreams of an easy life won’t come true
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The woman’s friend wonders if they are being unreasonable for feeling frustrated with their friend who moved to Australia expecting a miracle
The 29-year-old sun-chaser decided it was time to leave gloomy England behind to find that Aussie dream: easy living, a cushy admin job, and a year-round tan. But she might have skipped over some minor details, like, I don’t know, visiting first? Researching the cost of living? Or at least Googling “Australia.”
So, who is this jet-setter? Well, she’s got a history of…let’s say “living in the moment.” I’m talking job-hopping, relying on her parents to pay her bills, and blowing through an almost $40k inheritance meant for a house deposit. Her vibe is pretty much just YOLO meets no long-term plans.
Her friends have tried steering her toward adulting basics, but it’s like giving advice to a brick wall. Instead of listening to them, she criticized her friend’s new-build home, calling it “rubbish,” while dreaming of her own castle in the land Down Under. I don’t know if anyone ever told you, but castles cost money.
So, after just one month, the Aussie dream hit her like a kangaroo on a mission. Turns out, Australia isn’t exactly the cheap paradise she’d imagined. She’s broke, lonely, and realizing that sunshine doesn’t pay the rent.
Oh, and about that $600 bleach job she got before moving? Yeah, she hates it. Now she’s stuck with bad hair in a new country, far from any trusted stylist to fix the damage. Honestly, it’s kind of poetic, just like her approach to life: cut first, then measure.
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Look, we’ve all made impulsive decisions, whether it’s buying overpriced festival tickets or cutting your own bangs at 2 a.m. But some people take it to the next level. Impulsiveness can feel thrilling, and might come from impatience or a desire for instant gratification, but it also leaves you scrambling when things don’t work out.
Experts say that impulsive behavior can be tied to some mental health conditions, such as borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, or even ADHD—which our globetrotting friend claims to have. And sure, ADHD might make long-term planning a challenge, but let’s be real, skipping every adulting step in the book doesn’t exactly help.
Don’t get me wrong, I get it—dreaming of a fresh start is tempting. Who hasn’t wanted to ditch their problems and run to a tropical beach? But here’s the catch: no matter where you go, you bring yourself along. Your habits, your mindset, your issues—they all hop on that flight with you.
Escapism feels good in the moment, especially when life’s overwhelming, but eventually, reality catches up. What some people forget is that you don’t actually escape yourself, even if you move across the world. You just end up stuck in a new place with the same old struggles, only now they come with a side of homesickness and a shocking cost of living. Escaping your problems doesn’t solve them, it just gives them a new zip code.
The OP and another mutual friend have been the unpaid life coaches in this story, trying to guide Miss Impulsive through the basics of budgeting and stability. But let’s face it, there’s only so much you can do for someone who’s not ready to help themselves, and sometimes, the best thing you can do is let them learn the hard way, bleached hair and all.
What do you think of this story? Would you stick by a friend like this, or let them figure things out solo? Share your thoughts below.
Netizens say the poster should let their friend figure it out on her own, as they’ve already given her advice and tried to help, but she ignored them
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Tell to go to the mining towns and get a job as hotel reception or admin or bar tending/waitressing. The jobs usually include accommodation and frankly there is not a lot to spend money on. Bonus points if she can get a job with a mining company. Although if she is unreliable she's really just going go back home with sun burn and empty pockets, not much you can do about that.
"that's unfortunate and must be difficult to deal with, I hope it works out" should be the only response to any messages form this friend. She clearly can't get herself or her life together and will drag those down around her with nasty comments. Let her lay in the bed she made, she has family to help her if she needs it, she's not OP's responsibility.
I wonder why people keep relationships like this. Is it because this person brings something positive to your life? Or are you in this relationship because of history/habit? From what Op says, I am not sure what positive things this friend brings to Op's life. Maybe she's there so Op can safely say, "At least I am better than her!" If that's the case, I guess that's something Op values then please continue to give her what you gave before. If that's not the case, then just lose the friend. Why sags your life with other people's baggage?
It sounds like OP has outgrown this friend and just doesn't know how to let her go. Looking to the Internet for permission to dump the friend
Load More Replies...Tell to go to the mining towns and get a job as hotel reception or admin or bar tending/waitressing. The jobs usually include accommodation and frankly there is not a lot to spend money on. Bonus points if she can get a job with a mining company. Although if she is unreliable she's really just going go back home with sun burn and empty pockets, not much you can do about that.
"that's unfortunate and must be difficult to deal with, I hope it works out" should be the only response to any messages form this friend. She clearly can't get herself or her life together and will drag those down around her with nasty comments. Let her lay in the bed she made, she has family to help her if she needs it, she's not OP's responsibility.
I wonder why people keep relationships like this. Is it because this person brings something positive to your life? Or are you in this relationship because of history/habit? From what Op says, I am not sure what positive things this friend brings to Op's life. Maybe she's there so Op can safely say, "At least I am better than her!" If that's the case, I guess that's something Op values then please continue to give her what you gave before. If that's not the case, then just lose the friend. Why sags your life with other people's baggage?
It sounds like OP has outgrown this friend and just doesn't know how to let her go. Looking to the Internet for permission to dump the friend
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