Your 18th birthday marks a new beginning. You’re no longer a kid, and most young adults go off to college or leave the nest to start building their own lives. However, that’s not a rule, and recently, the trends have shown the opposite. A 2023 survey revealed that nearly half (45%) of young adults in the U.S. are still living with their parents.

But not all parents want their grown-up kids around. Like the mom in this story, who unceremoniously let her daughter know that she expects her to move out once she turns 18. The dad, blindsided by her decision, found himself between the cold-hearted mom and the panicking daughter. Curious to know how the family drama unfolded? Read on and find out!

It can be hard to decide what the best way for your teenager to transition into adulthood is

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However, parents should make these decisions together – something that this mom decided not to do

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No rule says that teenagers should leave the family home at 18

Whether a child moves out at 18 or a few years later, it’s a big adjustment both for the parents and the child. The debate about whether or not children should leave the home nest when they’re legally of age really has two sides.

Some parents believe that kicking your 18-year-old out of the home is kind of an outdated concept. As of 2023, a third of young adults in the U.S. are still living with their parents. And more than half see only positives in this.

64% said that it considerably helps their financial situation. In fact, in 2021, there was a conspiracy floating around on Twitter (X) that children moving out of their parent’s house as soon as possible was all a scheme by the banks to make more people pay rent. 55% of the respondents claimed that it also helps them maintain a better relationship with their parents.

However, asking a kid to leave the family home is not something parents should spring on their children. There are things teenagers should know so they can successfully transition into adulthood. These include basic financial skills, knowing how to make a basic meal, cleaning, home management, and personal healthcare.

Perhaps even more important is the emotional and mental preparation. And that’s not just about preparing them for the move by discussing it ahead of time. Teenagers who move out should have basic problem-solving skills so they can deal with minor life challenges without help from their parents.

Experts also note that it’s important to teach teenagers to set goals. Sitting down together and going over long-term and short-term plans will make the parents feel less stressed and the teenager more grounded.

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Parents need to make parenting decisions together

Another major problem in this story is the lack of communication between parents. The mom and the dad should discuss decisions like this together. After all, they are both equally parents to the daughter.

However, it’s easier said than done because parenting differences can be difficult for couples to overcome. Jaclyn Gulotta, PhD, LMHC, claims that parents disagreeing on parenting can lead to more conflict, emotional and physical disconnect, lack of trust, and changes in behavior.

So, parents must try to overcome their differences in order to be a united front. Talking things out and listening to each other is crucial in these circumstances. Dr. Gullota recommends parents determine the rules for their kids together. That will not only solve the problems but show the children how emotionally mature adults handle a difference of opinion.

But disagreements and more heated conversations should never take place in front of the kids, even if they’re teenagers. “If parents argue in front of their children, this can also cause miscommunication, and the children may feel there is a lack of stability or feel insecure in the home,” Dr. Gulotta explained.

When parents disagree on a parenting decision, it can cause children stress and anxiety. In some cases, kids can even start taking advantage of the conflict and start favoring one parent over the other. “Think of parents as the ‘captain of the ship,'” Julia M. Chamberlain MS, INHC, LMHC, explained. “If there were two captains of a ship and the crew witnessed them not in agreement about the course of action, it can cause anxiety for the crew.”

The dad gave more context in the comments about what the daughter’s plans for the future were

People decided unanimously that the dad wasn’t the unreasonable one

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