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Woman’s Ex Finds Out What Her New Husband Does For A Living, Demands Child Support Be Dropped
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Woman’s Ex Finds Out What Her New Husband Does For A Living, Demands Child Support Be Dropped

Woman's Ex Finds Out What Her New Husband Does For A Living, Demands Child Support Be DroppedMom Refuses To Drop Child Support Unless The Kid's Bio Dad Lets Her Husband Adopt Her Son, The Deadbeat Dad Is LividFather Demands To Stop Paying Child Support Because The Mother Of The Child Lives Mom Wonders If She's A Jerk For Refusing To Drop Child Support Even Though She Has A Wealthy HusbandChild's Bio Dad Is Livid He Has To Pay Child Support Despite The Mom's Husband Being Rich, Tries To Manipulate Her Into Dropping ItChild’s Bio Dad Wants Mom To Drop Child Support Because Her Husband Is Rich, She Asks For Advice On What To DoMom Asks If She's Wrong To Expect Ex To Continue Paying Child Support Even Though Her New Husband Is Well-OffMom Refuses To Drop Child Support From Kid's Bio Dad Even Though Her Husband Is Rich, People Assure Her She's Doing The Right ThingDad Refuses To Pay Child Support Because Ex's New Husband Is Well-Off, But He Won't Let Him Adopt His Son, The Internet Weighs In
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When couples do what couples like to do, they must both accept the mutual risk they’re taking. In one woman’s case, however, the man she was with left her when she got pregnant and, now that she’s found a supportive and well-paid husband, is trying to shake off his child support obligations as well.

In a Reddit post, she asked commenters whether she was wrong for continuing to pursue child support from her ex despite having a loving husband who her child recognized as his real father. The details of this story are what really make it, so read on!

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    Even if a family split is ultimately for the best, these situations can quickly become ugly

    Image credits: Anastasia Shuraeva (not the actual photo)

    In one woman’s case, her son’s deadbeat biological father wanted to cut off child support for his son when she found a wealthy and supportive husband

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    Image credits: Karolina Grabowska (not the actual photo)

    After commenters showed interest in her story and support, she filled out a lot of extra details

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    Image credits: DisastrousAfternoon1

    Commenters were, quite understandably, almost entirely supportive. Some even offered advice

    When it comes to pregnancy and childbirth, nearly every step of the process is riskier for mothers than it is for fathers. Though child support laws can sometimes come under criticism, they are a key tool for helping ensure that mothers left with children after a family split receive some sort of support. As most of the commenters under the author’s post seem to agree, we can also be glad that those laws came into play here as well.

    The key issue that many commenters latched onto that made this story so compelling (and the author’s ex’s behavior so unlikable) is the question of custody and parenthood. Most jurisdictions, including the one that the author is in, acknowledge that adults can sign away their rights to guardianship over a child, whether or not the child is biologically theirs.

    The ex seems not to want to have anything to do with their child. He tries every trick in the book to avoid paying child support and hardly ever visits. While this can be hard to understand or condone, this is exactly the sort of situation in which it would make sense for the ex to nullify their parenthood/guardianship over a child they seem to have no interest in. But they declined to do so, thereby restricting the wife’s supportive husband from becoming the child’s father and transferring legal responsibility for childcare costs from the ex.

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    Some commenters were particularly upset by the biological father’s behavior

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    Monday
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If Ryan wants to stop paying child support he should just give up his parental rights and let Kyle adopt the kid. Simple.

    Ron Baza
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ryan appears to be a bad person. Ryan’s parents appear to be bad people.

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    Laura Lou
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even if your new husband was a billionaire, I think a father should still pay child support. He helped make the baby, he should help pay for him! New husband sounds absolutely amazing, and I wish all step parents were like him.

    H.M. V.
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They should also plan for what happens should she die. Just in case. Can't hurt. Make sure the child will stay with the family that actually loves him.

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    Monday
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If Ryan wants to stop paying child support he should just give up his parental rights and let Kyle adopt the kid. Simple.

    Ron Baza
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ryan appears to be a bad person. Ryan’s parents appear to be bad people.

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    Laura Lou
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even if your new husband was a billionaire, I think a father should still pay child support. He helped make the baby, he should help pay for him! New husband sounds absolutely amazing, and I wish all step parents were like him.

    H.M. V.
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They should also plan for what happens should she die. Just in case. Can't hurt. Make sure the child will stay with the family that actually loves him.

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