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Couple Decides To No Longer Eat MIL’s Food Because She’s A Terrible Cook, She Gets Offended
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Couple Decides To No Longer Eat MIL’s Food Because She’s A Terrible Cook, She Gets Offended

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When you fall in love, the last thing you concern yourself with is in-laws. That’s why when you finally start paying attention, you might find yourself in big trouble.

You see, there’s a reason why in-laws are so infamous. They have high expectations, go crazy around their grandkids, and are not always great with boundaries. And while not all of them are awful, the stories of in-laws from hell are not uncommon.

The following story, though, doesn’t seem to belong in either of the categories. The mother-in-law here is not doing anything that’s obviously malicious or intrusive. She’s simply not a great cook. That’s not a crime, right? But how does one deal with that without hurting anyone’s feelings? Scroll down to read the whole story and see what advice the Am I The [Jerk] community had to offer.

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    Whether it’s your everyday luxury or not, having a lovely home-cooked meal can be really nice

    Image credits: cottonbro studio (not the actual photo)

    However, sometimes home cooks aren’t as skilled as they think

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    The woman added more context to the story

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    The author is certainly in a tricky situation. On one hand, preserving a good relationship with your in-laws is important. One doesn’t want to screw everything up simply because they don’t like the food they’re making.

    On the other hand, food can be one of the great joys of living. Enjoying a tasty, nutritious meal can improve your mood and give you a boost of energy. Is the relationship with the in-laws worth sacrificing this delight? It certainly can be a tough choice.

    Screwing up in the kitchen is really quite common

    It’s important to note that being a bad cook is not uncommon. As much as 56% of Americans admit that they struggle to prepare easy-to-make dishes. Those include eggs, mashed potatoes, pasta, and soup. The hardest “easy” food to make is pancakes, with almost 40% of respondents saying that they have messed them up in the past.

    The most common cooking mistakes of novices are over or under-cooking something as well as under-seasoning a dish. This is not a surprise as beginners are just discovering cooking and don’t know how to get to that perfect middle yet. It’s not easy to get it just right, and it might require a trial-and-error phase to get going.

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    Everybody makes mistakes

    However, it’s not only novices that make mistakes. Plenty of decent cooks also get it wrong at times. A mistake that those confident in the kitchen make quite often is not reading the whole recipe through. They skim through the ingredients without checking the preparation steps and dive in. This can lead to all sorts of misinterpretations and a poorly executed meal.

    A helpful habit that professionals encourage home cooks to get into is tasting the food you’re making. As it is with seasoning, do it as you go, not only at the end. Make sure it tastes good to you and, once you’ve found your footing in the kitchen, don’t be afraid to add your own flair to the recipe. Make it spicier, add your favorite herbs, or use other flavorings that help you balance the taste in a way that suits your palate.

    And if you ever come across people who are bad cooks who insist on cooking for you, consider having an open conversation with them. State that you are not trying to insult them and that the food they make is simply not your thing. Maybe you can come to some sort of solution together.

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    Many stated the author is not a jerk for wanting to have tasty dinners

    Others thought she’s wrong not to tell MIL the truth

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    People offered advice on how to handle the issue

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    And quite a few commentators could relate to the author’s experience

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    Agne Steponaityte

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    Agne Steponaityte is a writer at Bored Panda. After getting a BA Film Production degree in England, Agne moved around Europe living and writing in Lithuania, Belgium, and Portugal. Now, together with her partner and daughter, she is residing in Munich, Germany. Her favourite book is East of Eden, favourite movie – There Will Be Blood, favourite show – Succession.

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    Agne Steponaityte is a writer at Bored Panda. After getting a BA Film Production degree in England, Agne moved around Europe living and writing in Lithuania, Belgium, and Portugal. Now, together with her partner and daughter, she is residing in Munich, Germany. Her favourite book is East of Eden, favourite movie – There Will Be Blood, favourite show – Succession.

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    Eastendbird
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not adding salt to anything is just weird, nothing to do with being "British"! 😉

    Ace
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I Want to know how the MiL's husband has got to the point where he gets hos own food, without her knowing that he too thinks she can't cook. Surely if your own partner won't eat what you prepare for them you must be at least ever-so-slightly aware of how bad it is?

    DC
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That, I don't really get here, too. IIf everyone - not the few having religious restriction, the few vegetarians if you're a family of butchers, not that dude who sprays pepper spray in his mouth because he loves the heat -, but truly everyone avoids eating your stuff, you have to notice that. And, after all, even if this isn't proof beyond doubt, if the only thing constant is the person in charge of cooking, the only constant in this ocean of variables, it sure takes a lot of self-delusion not to admit, to oneself even, that cooking isn't among their talents.

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    Nitka Tsar
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    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is a fairytale about three princesses. The King wants them to show him how much they love him. 2 give him jewels and such, but the youngest gives him salt. He is offended and curses her and the salt out. The king of the salt kingdom then curses this kings kingdom and every grain of salt is turned to gold. At first the king is elated and thought to be the luckiest guy. But then he notices his food tasting bad. They try to get salt but every imported grain is turned instantly into gold on the border. His subjects start getting sick and lots of them leave. So, he comes to realize that salt is indeed greater than jewels and gold. Its not the whole story but the gist of it

    Gardener of Weeden
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To this day I still do not understand the "value" of gold / jewels etc. - they are pretty - but they will not feed me nor keep me warm/ cool within themselves. And the person with the truly valuable items, determines what those trinkets are worth. Has anyone recently re-purchased the gold you sold a few years ago?

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    Eastendbird
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not adding salt to anything is just weird, nothing to do with being "British"! 😉

    Ace
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I Want to know how the MiL's husband has got to the point where he gets hos own food, without her knowing that he too thinks she can't cook. Surely if your own partner won't eat what you prepare for them you must be at least ever-so-slightly aware of how bad it is?

    DC
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That, I don't really get here, too. IIf everyone - not the few having religious restriction, the few vegetarians if you're a family of butchers, not that dude who sprays pepper spray in his mouth because he loves the heat -, but truly everyone avoids eating your stuff, you have to notice that. And, after all, even if this isn't proof beyond doubt, if the only thing constant is the person in charge of cooking, the only constant in this ocean of variables, it sure takes a lot of self-delusion not to admit, to oneself even, that cooking isn't among their talents.

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    Nitka Tsar
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is a fairytale about three princesses. The King wants them to show him how much they love him. 2 give him jewels and such, but the youngest gives him salt. He is offended and curses her and the salt out. The king of the salt kingdom then curses this kings kingdom and every grain of salt is turned to gold. At first the king is elated and thought to be the luckiest guy. But then he notices his food tasting bad. They try to get salt but every imported grain is turned instantly into gold on the border. His subjects start getting sick and lots of them leave. So, he comes to realize that salt is indeed greater than jewels and gold. Its not the whole story but the gist of it

    Gardener of Weeden
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To this day I still do not understand the "value" of gold / jewels etc. - they are pretty - but they will not feed me nor keep me warm/ cool within themselves. And the person with the truly valuable items, determines what those trinkets are worth. Has anyone recently re-purchased the gold you sold a few years ago?

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