If you're going to yell at men to express emotion and then tear those men apart for expressing emotion you need to look up the word Oxymoron and apply it to yourselves.

I think it's pretty normal to have some disappointment, you can't help how you feel. I know that if my son ended up being a daughter I too would have been a bit disappointed. Doesn't mean I would have loved the daughter any less than my son. It's not sexist to have those feelings either.

He doesnt hate his newborn girl. He was just expecting son after 3 daughters and expressed his feelings. That is no way a misogynist would confess.

I can’t be the only one who just wanted healthy babies. We have 3 of one gender, and neither of us cared a whit

If this were anything more then a quick flash of emotion, yeah he'd be TA. But I can get it after 3 girls, wanting a son. He has a right to a little sadness over it.

We h ave this amazing tech that lets us check the sex way before birth. So.... they could've checked if he was that eager? Just wondering why this is a big deal. I knew a couple as a kid who "kept going" till the husband "got his son". They had six kids. And it's his chromosome, not hers, so deal, y'know? (removes soapbox)

There is a saying that your first feelings on an issue reflects on how you were brought up and your second feeling reflects on what you have learned. It can be hard to unpick some of the attitudes towards gender when they are engrained in you from a very early age. So yes, it was kind of a knee jerk reaction he had - but he quickly realised how wrong he was to feel that way and clearly embraces his beautiful family. I can understand his mum's reaction but it sounds like she had a very traumatic marriage which colours her perception of her son's actions. Hopefully she will get past that, once she sees her son doting on all his girls.

Stop placing expectations on your kids based on their genitalia or chromosomes.

I think it's a sign of a very unhealthy marriage when you have to suppress your most private thoughts and emotions, out of worry that an involuntary facial expression might betray you and bring on drama and criticism from your partner. There are no perfect humans who have 100% pure and correct thoughts all the time, and life partners need to accept that about each other.

I think it sucks that you were made out to be the asshole. It's okay that for a second you mourned the things you thought a son would bring. You're allowed to feel that way. Now if you made a big stink about it and had a temper tantrum about it, that would be a different story. You being bummed about not being a father to a boy for a moment is not being misogynistic. Your mother was being hypersensitive and the way she went about it wasn't cool. You sound like a great dad, don't let anyone take that away from you.

Listening to my dad all of my life talk about how proud he was to be the father of 5 girls, I don't get this weird obsession with the your child's genitals. People constantly asked me, "But don't you really want a girl?" when my son was born. No. I didn't care even a little bit. The only reason I was a little relieved to find the second was going to be a girl was to shut people up.

NOT an a-hole at all. It's natural to want a son after even one daughter, so three... wow. But wanting a son after three daughters does not make you misogynistic in any way. Don't let Karen get you down.

I agree with the comment that there are private things between couples. Too bad his Mother had to butt into their lives.

I was disappointed when my sister had all boys (3 of them)....doesn't mean I dont adore my nephews. I would have just loved a niece as well She had twins for goodness sake, she could have at least given me one niece 😂

Who doesn't know the sex of the fetus by the time they are born? My daughter is 30yo and we knew it beforehand back then, when the ultrasound machine was steam powered and we had to go to the hospital on a horse drawn carriage. Is this a choice people make to not know until birth? if so, good for them, I am all about choice, but after 3 girls it would be wise to find out sooner rather than later to avoid precisely this kind of situation. Also, I know plenty of mothers disappointed with their 3rd or 4th boy. Didn't stop them from doting on them and it doesn't make them misandric. That's the thing about us parents, we may have a flash of disappointment (I didn't, I just wanted wife and child healthy) but in a matter of hours we'd be ready to lay our life down for our son or daughter, smiling all the way. After 3 girls, one is entitled to display a sad face for 10 seconds.

NAH

NTA I never had a mom, she favored my brother and abandoned me. So I wasn't ready to have a girl. I wanted a boy first, always had because I had no idea how to take care of a girl, plus having a "big brother" to protect my maybe one day girls would've been aswesome. I got pregnant with my first and was convinced it was a boy thank you old wives tales lol. The day I found out she was a girl I cried I was devestated... then not even a minute later I felt guilty and cried again out of guilt lol. She was the most beautiful baby and everything was fine. I had my boy next and although hes the middle child he's now almost 17 and he's 6' 2' already so he's the big brother anyhow lol. My youngest is a girl. So to me it was funny. God said "You want boys huh...watch this" and I'm grateful. I love my girls and my world would be so different without them. I get his feelings, it's not like he abandoned her, he's over it and happy, it's fine.

I’ll bet if he had three sons already he would have been a little sad he didn’t get a girl. Why is there even a question of this feeling.

NTA. It's natural to want a boy for a lot of people. I remember when husband and I were pregnant with our first and I was really hoping for a girl. When we found out he was a boy i felt sadness as well. But the moment he was born and I held him in my arms I realized how silly I had been, because I loved him more than life itself and the only thing that mattered was he was finally in my arms and I could love him with all I had.

I think he's the type of person that if he had 3 sons back to back, then he'd want the 4th one to be a daughter naturally. I think the mom manipulated into making her son think that he's a misogynist. Well, I think otherwise. Clearly, wanting a son after three daughters and loving them to the core makes a man misogynist? Calm down women.

NTA - I imagine it could very easily have been reversed where a mother of 3 boys wanted a girl. I doubt she would be called out for Misandry for being momentarily disappointed with it being another boy. I really feel for this man, but can also understand the reaction of his mother having been through what she has. This is in no way the equivalent though

Y'all, I just want to point out that during labor the delivering mother is totally flooded with oxytocin, a hormone that f***s with your memory and makes you remember some things *forever* (like the first time you hear your child's voice) and forget other things (how exhausted you were/how much it hurt, etc). Wife saw a flash of disappointment on OP's face while jacked up on memory juice, and now it will follow her for life. It's not OP's fault really, she could have imagined it and the memory and sadness would still be there. But she didn't imagine it, and now Mom's involved because everyone needs to make sure that OP doesn't love this last daughter less than he should.

How can you not know the gender before the moment of birth??

NTA... Don't care what anyone else says

Absolutely 100% normal feeling to have cant believe it is still a taboo in so many places to express momentary expression on face. Its important that feelings are expressed and then move on otherwise it could build up and cause resentment later on.

I think it's a totally normal reaction and doesn't mean you don't love your new daughter . Some people really want a girl if they've had all boys. My brother has give boys. They were sad that they didn't have a girl , but not for more than a few minutes

Nothing wrong with a parent desiring a certain gender as long as they love whoever they get.