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People say you can't choose family, at least the one you're born into. But most Americans say their family life is quite satisfactory. According to a poll of almost 2,000 people, 74% of Americans would describe their family as happier than most.

The stories on this list would probably come from the other 26%. We've collected the wildest replies people have shared under two videos on TikTok: one about the most unhinged family lore and the other about the most vile things parents have done to them. These stories are proof that just because you're related by blood, doesn't mean you can't be horrible to each other.

Parents are often the source of crazy family lore, so, to know more about the effects of toxic parents and how to deal with them, Bored Panda reached out to psychotherapist Amanda Robins. She works with daughters of narcissistic mothers, and kindly agreed to share her expertise with us. Read her expert insights below!

More info: Melbourne Psychotherapy | Amanda Robins

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#1

Person leaning against a reflective surface, obscuring their face, wearing a denim jacket, symbolizing unhinged emotions. Told her abt my SA that happened when I was 4 and 8 yrs old. She told me "you must've liked it if you didn't say anything for this long" I packed my stuff and I left that same day.

intrntsl , DANNY G / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

Kristin
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8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was severely abused by my mother. Think a child called it and that was my life. When I was sent to be with my grandma for certain times I was molested by my uncle for 5 years. When I came out and said something like, most of the family said I embarrassed them and then my mother said I deserved it. My dad was the only one who was there for me. I'm 37 as of Sunday (easter) and it still messes with me.

Val
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8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Geez, that book is horrifying. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

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Rachel Pelz
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8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's terrible. I wonder if maybe the mother was also SA'ed as a child?

ManuelQue
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8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Could well be...and she still believes it was her fault.

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Little Bit
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8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have never told my mother about my SA and I never will. When I was a kid and it was happening I was scared that she would throw me out onto the streets. She would almost certainly have said it was my fault; that I brought it on myself; that i deserved it; that I'm a troublemaker; an attention seeker; and how could I possibly say anything like that about her brother?

Julie S
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8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry that happened to you I hope you are getting therapy.

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Iseley
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7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Piece of vile human trash

Alexia Howe
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7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I was r***d at 12, my mom called me a wh@re , said I deserved it.... Then beat me with a belt, then dad came in and finished up the beating. Great times. Only feel free now at 50 because both of them have passed on. Just one of my many delightful (not) stories.

Viks Anton
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8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's not a mother, that's a monster.

Evelien Stijger Martens
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8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know of a woman that was SA and abused in any other possible horendous way by father and mother until she was 25 and could escape. A friend of hers confronted the father befor he died. All he syad was: She liked it. And thus is ine of thise cases where you din't beleave what you read and what it did to her till this day and cps send her back time after time.

ManuelQue
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8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hell....I hope she got some helpful therapy.

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Crystalwitch60
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8 months ago

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😱😱now words 💔🤬

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    #2

    Two people embracing warmly outdoors, highlighting family affection. My mom called ICE on my Mexican gf’s parents bc she was mad we were lesbians.

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    Huddo's sister
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't like to bring politics into everything, especially US politics, but after seeing what is happening at the moment with the deportations, these are obviously the type of people who vote for Trump. Don't like something/someone? Just get rid of them. Seriously messed up!

    Earonn -
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Calling ICE on anyone is attempted murder by g***g right now. F**k homophobes and racists.

    Angela Weaver
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    8 months ago

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    Mom's a beech, but don't make this political. This is human drama.

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    #3

    Child lying in bed with arm over face, illustrating unhinged family dynamics. My parents are flat earth/anti vaxers and left me on the couch for 4 days with a 103 fever and abdominal pain bc they didnt want to take me to a dr, it was a cyst 🤓.

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    Val
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hello, child abuse.

    DowntownStevieB
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have no sympathy for this group of people. You can't even claim religious exemption.

    Angela Weaver
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel sorry for children of ignorant parents. They love their children literally to death.

    Huddo's sister
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh s**t, I wonder if that's what gave me a fever this week. All the respiratory infection tests were negative (I didn't have any respiratory symptoms, just the fever) and I have had a cyst before, but I didn't realise it until it was 10cms big and twisting my ovary.

    Ahnjunwan
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only if the cyst was on your kidneys, liver or ovaries and got infected, otherwise unlikely

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    Alexia Howe
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh gosh. I could never do that to a child.

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    You'll notice a pattern as you read through the entries on this list that most stories involve parents or stepparents. Our mothers and fathers are our first contact when it comes to experiencing love. The ways in which they show us that love or lack thereof often shapes us for life.

    However, Melbourne-based psychotherapist Amanda Robins cautions against generalizing all bad parents as 'toxic'. "Most parents are well-meaning," she believes. "However, as a broad generalisation I would say that parents need to have the ability (and the capacity) to empathise with their child."

    #4

    Pregnant woman with partner holding her belly, capturing a family moment. My alcoholic mother who didnt even take care of me my whole life asked if I would be a surrogate for her and her boyfriend.

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    Crystalwitch60
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let me think about that for a moment ……. F C K RIGHT OFF ,

    tw 72
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ... they can f#ck all the way off, I might add

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    Charles McChristy
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm betting her BF wanted to do it the "old fashioned way..."

    #5

    Woman looking stressed and touching her head, expressing frustration over unhinged family situations. My biological mom c*****d my skull open to (and I quote): “get the evil out of me”. Yes she’s lost parental rights, and I am now adopted.

    dolce_delux , Sinitta Leunen / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

    Atom Bohr
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know I'm saying this without further context, but that sounds like mental illness

    Crystalwitch60
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Erm no ! More like brain washed godsqaud lunatics , hmm ok yeah mental !

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    axnyslie
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All this f*****g censorship needs to stop right.f*****g.now!

    slay_potato
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope your new family loves and protects you

    Alexia Howe
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They don't know how to BE human..... And unfortunately they never will. My mom and dad both died (1 Yr apart) believing their own bs. I am finally in a place of healing but it's tough undoing decades of abuse.

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    Crystalwitch60
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omg n I thought my father actually killing my mother when I was 8 mths old n blaming me all my life was bad this is inhuman ! n I’m a white witch , no one does this bar psychopaths hope mother was locked up for childabouse and you are ok xx blessed be

    Libstak
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please tell us he is in jail and you have no contact.

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    #6

    “My Stepmom Is Two Hours Older Than Me”: 30 Wild Family Stories That Sound Made Up My lil brother is schizophrenic and one time my VERY religious parents tried to give him an exorcism at home, they believed his mental disorder was demons. And I had to anonymously call the cops.

    Era Jules , Richard Stachmann / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

    Lila Allen
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good for you for recognizing they were wrong and getting help. Hope your brother is doing well now.

    Alexia Howe
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    7 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What is very interesting to me, is that despite all the Hollywood dramatization and outright lies..... The Catholic church will NOT perform an exorcism unless medical criteria have been met: eg full clearance from a specialist psychiatrist and/or full medical clearance from relevant Drs. Precisely because of these situations. Edit to add.... This was wrong on so many levels. OP was 1000 percent correct to take that action.

    Nikole
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fúcking religion, man.

    ManuelQue
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, focking religious extremist parents.

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    'Toxic' parents or parents who are 'not good enough' are on the whole unable to 'attune' to their child," Robins explains. "They are either too self-focused, too distracted, too stressed, or too traumatised themselves to be in the moment with their child and to keep the child’s mind in mind."

    For these types of parents, their relationship with their children is often a quid pro quo. "Narcissistic parents generally need something from their children rather than allowing the child to be safely dependent on them," Robins notes. This can come in forms of wanting the child to behave in ways that reflects well on the parents to maintain their image as 'good parents'. Other times, they want love, affection, and attention from their children so they can feel powerful.

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    #7

    Family in kitchen, young girl whisking batter, father assisting, mother in background, highlighting family dynamics. My step mom accused me of being romantically involved with my dad bc we joked around more than they do…..three times.

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    DowntownStevieB
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry she is jealous of your relationship with your father. That's a her problem, not a you problem.

    Julie S
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me and my dad are always joking around, we have the same sense of humour. My mum just shakes her head at us.

    Lyoness
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mother kicked me out at 18 because, in her opinion, if I wasn't there, Dad would have to talk to her. Then she blamed me for their divorce (apparently still wonders why I don't speak to her anymore).

    #8

    Man adjusting hair in dimly lit room, conveying concern; example of unhinged family actions. I once said women weren't property and he STRONGLY disagreed.

    theoyourbestfriend , Lance Reis / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

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    #9

    A mother holding a baby, highlighting family dynamics in a tender moment. My bio father cheated on my bio mom while she was pregnant with me. she proceeds to give me the same name as this woman so I could " be his reminder of what he did".

    threeoutlawboyz , Hollie Santos / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

    Lila Allen
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right?!?!? How unhinged do you have to be that you name your child to punish your spouse. Some people just do not seem to view kids as actual humans

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    SkippyJohnJones29
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess it depends on what the name is

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    Children who have toxic parents can often grow up to be people pleasers. They think that someone will love them only if they are serving someone else's needs. "Adults who have experienced this kind of parenting become people pleasers an sometimes compulsive caregivers expecting very little from relationships," Robins adds.

    #10

    A woman reading a book in a library, surrounded by shelves, reflecting on vile family stories. I would come home from school and my mom will just start beating me and yelling at you because God told her what I was doing stuff at school. Turns out she was schizophrenic.

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    Borg
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    8 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That must have been so terrifying and confusing 😕

    GPawesomeness
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Something seems wrong here, calling hmmmm

    Ahnjunwan
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Baaaad. But not her fault

    Nina
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But not her childs fault either.

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    #11

    “My Stepmom Is Two Hours Older Than Me”: 30 Wild Family Stories That Sound Made Up Alright sit down for this one. My dad promised to help me safe for college so while I was putting 90% of my part time income in a joint saved account he put 10% of his, when the time came I wanted to check how much we saved up, I open the account. $94.30 😃. I went to the bank and asked for a sheet of all the transactions little by little my 21k was being GAMBLED away. Into $94.

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    Lyoness
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like my parents. I worked from age 14 and had to use what I earned for the basics (clothes, toiletries, eyeglasses etc because "you're working now, pay your own way". They thought food and a place to sleep was all they were responsible for. I asked for years if I needed to save for school and every time was told they'd pay for it. Come the last year of high school I was thrilled to get into my №1 pick of universities, only to be told they "didn't have the money" to send me there. They'd just bought a brand new set of living room furniture and a dining table and chairs from a boutique store. When I pointed this out I was told it was their money and they could do what they liked with it. So I lived at home my first year and worked to save, so no new clothes, wore the same glasses for an extra year and so on. Thankfully by the time I was told to get out I had enough to put a deposit on my tuition and residence and the university let me pay off the rest in monthly payments.

    K Barnes
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My parents told me they had a RESP for me. When I started university I got it- 2400$. I am grateful for the 2400$ but it was less than half a year of school and they talked about it like they were paying for my education. On top of that they charged me rent while I paid my own way through university with student loans and a job, so the rent I paid them increased my student loans. They ABSOLUTELY could have afforded to help me and chose not to. I love them but don't understand how some parents feel responsible to help their kids get a head start and others don't. I have a lot of resentment. I also worked from 13 and paid all my own non food and shelter expenses, in addition to having to pay for any non essential groceries like pop or chips. I don't understand. We were middle class so there was no excuse for it.

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    brittany
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    not quite like what happened to me but close. my mom tol me she would go 50/50 on my college fees but only if i entered a program she approved of. i wanted to be an elementary school teacher preferably grades 1-3. she said shed only pay if i went into accounting or business. i figured i could get some credits under my belt and go back for a teaching degree later. well when i graduated she said she wasnt going to help and i was on my own. i never got to go back and ended up as emergency dispatch instead of the business office job she wanted me to have.

    Lady Eowyn
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    8 months ago

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    Save for college.

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    #12

    Elderly woman holding flowers, smiling and walking arm-in-arm with a younger man. Defended my r*pist on multiple occasions & refers to him as her SON.😀😀😀😀

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    Lila Allen
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you are no contact and that she develops flesh rotting bacteria

    Bigfoot87
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    flesh rotting bacteria in her v****a!!**

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    Iseley
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And excruciating bone deterioration....still not good enough though

    Alexia Howe
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am so sorry you had to go through that.

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    Robins goes through some hints that might point to whether an adult grew up with 'not good enough' parents. She says that a lack of boundaries is one the tell-tale signs. Some parents don't allow their children privacy or don't shield them from adult fears and problems. "[They] will discuss intimate details of their marital relationship with their children, expecting the child to provide empathy and a sympathetic ear," Robins points out.

    #13

    Piece of meat being dipped into a bowl of red sauce, surrounded by more raw meat. Force fed me liver and when I threw up m try to make me eat my throw up.

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    Val
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hello again, child abuse.

    Kristin
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mother did this to me with bell peppers. Actually pretty much anything whe she found out I ate something cause I wasn't allowed to eat without permission

    Disgruntled Pelican
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh my word, Kristin. I'm so sorry you had to experience that!

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    SkyyCaramba
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    if y'all want a wholesome story involving liver: me and my family stay at my uncle's house in little rock while we visit family. once, we came home at around 11 pm (we were at my dad's friend's house) and my uncle was making liver and onions for dinner

    Jenn Smith
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom used to make " Liver Nips". She essentially wrapped up a food I didn't like into a dumpling sort of thing . Was delicious. ( I still don't like liver)

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    Skogsrået
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ugh, same here but with tripe. Was horrible, today just the smell of it makes me sick.

    Huddo's sister
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My grandparents forced my uncle to eat tripe, but I don't think they went that far. There was emotional abuse though I don't think he or my mum ever called it that. They just took it as strict parenting and never talked about it with them. Once they were adults it was pretty much a reversal personality and they got on well most of the time. I think having grandchildren helped, as my grandfather was always better with other people's kids. He was a great caring teacher, just had no time for them at home.

    Just off the Goat
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Uuuugggghh! Good night nurse! Time to look at cat memes!

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    #14

    A young boy holds a red ball, affectionately petting a dog through a window, conveying a family moment. My mom put my dog down without telling me and NO warning.

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    Crystalwitch60
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬as a mum two kids n always had dogs all my 60 yrs I would never do this ffs that’s pure evil n inhuman !

    Lila Allen
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom gave my cat away while I was at my grandparents because she didn't like the cat.

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    GalPalAl
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    they should have put your mom down instead

    brittany
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my mom would adopt animals and then wait till she got mad at us and make us drop them off in the countryside. i still have problems getting attached to animals because of that. i like them and all but i dont let them get to close cause i got in the habit of knowing they were gonna be gone in a few weeks.

    #15

    Person hugging a pillow tightly, conveying emotions tied to vile family experiences. My mom told me I had demons and needed Jesus or an exorcism when I was having a panic attack because of her.

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    Crystalwitch60
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eugh brainwashed lunatic from the god squad cult !

    Fat Harry (Oi / You)
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Funny how many of these seem to be religion related.

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    Viks Anton
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is not believing in the Almighty, this is a unhealthy mindset that doesn't understand God. People like this are man made religion. God is not religion.

    Kalikima
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Except we wouldn't worship God to the point we do now if it wasn't for religion. The native tribes all have God-like figures, but usually there are many gods, and they don't use it to push pervasive agendas on people for the sake of control.

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    Michael Largey
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    8 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The OP was being plagued by a demon - her mother.

    Robins says that parentification is another sign of having 'not good enough' parents. Having too much responsibility, such as parenting your younger siblings, can result in dysfunctional relationships as an adult. Other dysfunctional parents use triangulation. As a strategy to get back at their spouse, they co-opt the child to side with them against the other parent.

    #16

    “My Stepmom Is Two Hours Older Than Me”: 30 Wild Family Stories That Sound Made Up My therapist SA’D me my mom then proceeded to tell me it was my fault and made me apologize to him ( I was 8 so I genuinely thought it was my fault).

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    Lila Allen
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is criminal in every use of the word. I hope they both rot in the hell they richly deserve.

    Lyoness
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a quadruple betrayal. 1. You're meant to be able to trust your therapist fully. 2. They were SA'd. 3. Their mother blamed them, then 4, Made them apologize to their rap*st. Sick.

    Viks Anton
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope they're rotting in jail. Disgusting AH

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    #17

    Children playing on a tire swing in a park on a sunny day. My father lets just say, likes children a little too much.

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    Lila Allen
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No! Your father is a rapist and pedophile. Not " likes children too much" Don't soften felonies.

    ManuelQue
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She still might find it extremely difficult to use the actual words.

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    #18

    “My Stepmom Is Two Hours Older Than Me”: 30 Wild Family Stories That Sound Made Up My mom is pro life. even for SA cases. i think that’s enough said.

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    murmelinpaiva
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My sister thinks that women should die rather than have an abortion for any reason.

    Nikole
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I will never understand things like that

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    Michael Largey
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those who call themselves "pro-life" are merely anti-abortion. When the Nazis took over Germany, they immediately repealed all the mildly pro-choice laws of the Weimar Republic. Hitler was anti-abortion, but nobody would call him pro-life.

    Vermonta
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How does she feel about that crunchy sock in your brothers room. Isn't that the same?

    Rachel Pelz
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Just" as an attitude with any SA/pregnancy of OP, this is refreshingly harmless compared to others here.

    Lyoness
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry what now? A woman being told she should have to see a pregnancy to term after being SA'd is "refreshingly harmless"? No, it's horrifying, whether in comparison to something or not. No one ever has any right to tell a woman what to do with her body.

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    Angela Weaver
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    8 months ago

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    Is she horrid for not wanting to create two victims?

    Lyoness
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. Yes, she is. The right to decide what happens in a uterus belongs solely to the person whose body it's in. The woman has already been violated and her autonomy taken away. No one has the right to tell her what to do with her own body.

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    Toxic parents often guilt their children for not doing things their way. According to Robins, shame and shaming becomes a parenting strategy for these types of parents. "They will make the child feel guilty for having needs that aren't aligned with their own," she says. And they don't work to repair that relationship, either. Instead of talking things out, they use ' silent treatment' and expect the child to find out what they did wrong for themselves.

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    #19

    “My Stepmom Is Two Hours Older Than Me”: 30 Wild Family Stories That Sound Made Up My parents thought I was faking being sick as a kid. I was having an organ failure and the only reason im alive is cuz my babcia brought me to the ER.

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    Ace
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    (Polish for grandmother, just to save anyone else the bother.)

    Janelle Collard
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thanks! You saved me a Google!

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    #20

    Woman with long blonde hair in casual attire, sitting outdoors, headphones in, embodying family dynamics theme. Took away my therapist when she recommended emancipation.

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    Crystalwitch60
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’d take the advice ! dint need a therapist for that one lovely

    PunnyPanda
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Could go either way tho- needs context.

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    #21

    “My Stepmom Is Two Hours Older Than Me”: 30 Wild Family Stories That Sound Made Up When i forgot my jacket in 3rd grade she made me kneel in the tub and pick 100 grains of pasta out w chopsticks. after every grain say “i won’t forget my jacket at school again”.

    suiciideshy , Bozhin Karaivanov / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

    Justanotherpanda
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How do people even come up with this kind of punishment? Twisted minds....

    Charles McChristy
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like some type of t*****e my stepmother would come up with.

    Vermonta
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had to write " I will be a good Brownie." ( part of Girl Scouts). My finger hurts.

    Angela Weaver
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is bad? My bestie had to kneel on rice in the corner and I just got my a*s busted. In school they'd make you write this 100 times. If this is bad, then I wish you good luck with your teenagers

    Kalikima
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So because you were àbùsed, and your bestie was too, this somehow is ok? You have some twisted values, and I hope you don't have kids.

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    Robins explains that this guilt and shame contribute to why children of toxic parents choose to cut contact with them once they grow up. They believe that the only way to manage the relationship is to leave. And, Robins says, the guilt and shame won't end after going no-contact. "The adult child will need to learn to self-soothe and stay grounded in their decision making process," she explains.

    #22

    Hands holding and counting multiple dollar bills, related to unhinged family actions. My mom stole 20k from my grandma who has dementia. I do not talk to her.

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    Lila Allen
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is horrible. I hope you also called the cops and reported her for fraud and elder abuse.

    #23

    Two people laughing together on a couch, one holding a gift bag and the other using a laptop. She kicked me out over me getting Starbucks with my friend of 10+ years just bc my friend is black.

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    Robert T
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you get a chance to return the favour some day.

    Angela Weaver
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seriously? I call BS. After more than 10 years of friendship she just noticed she's black?

    ManuelQue
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My guess is they usually met up at a coffee shop or etc. This might have been the first time the one friend called on the other and the Mom was home.

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    #24

    “My Stepmom Is Two Hours Older Than Me”: 30 Wild Family Stories That Sound Made Up Once, my mom mocked the way i talked while we were eating dinner, annoyed i mocked abt hers too. She grabbed my hair and hit my head in our concrete wall (twice)...she didn't say sorry and acted like nothing happened.

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    Robert T
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you shat in her shoes!

    Nikole
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    8 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope when this person got older and stronger they used used it to their advantage…

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    Lila Allen
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So many people just do not deserve to be parents

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    The psychotherapist lists the things people can do to soothe their feelings of guilt and responsibility after they distance themselves from toxic parents:

    1. Accept that you will feel bad about this;
    2. Practice self-compassion;
    3. Gather understanding and empathetic people around you.

    "You may experience disenfranchised grief as there is a lot of social disapproval around going no-contact," Robins shares as a reminder. "It's seen by a lot of people as 'selfish' or extreme."

    #25

    Axe with red handle embedded in wood, symbolizing vile actions in some families. I had a hatchet mark in my bedroom door as a teenager and nobody believed me when I said my mom was chasing me with a hatchet and I closed the door and she hit the door…. A few month later she did it.

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    Sa Ruuu
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is written weird

    Forrest Grump
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So your mother was chasing you and you ran into your room and closed the door, and then a few months later she hit the door?

    Julie S
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does OP mean she did it again?

    Lindsay A
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Missing word "again" maybe?

    Angela Weaver
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What? You said she did it, then she did???

    Crystalwitch60
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ie op had a dream n fore saw it happen and then it did !

    Rob D
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    8 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did it ever occur to the grammar and spelling Nazis that the people writing these posts might not have had parents particularly invested in their f*****g education?

    K Barnes
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with you, however, in this specific case I actually don't understand the meaning of the last sentence. Misspelled word, missing word- get over it. But I am curious here if someone can explain what the mom did a few months later ("it").

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    #26

    Girl in a yellow shirt eating a banana outdoors, with a thoughtful expression. She called the cops on me because I "stole food" (I ate something in the fridge).

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    Huddo's sister
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When they say police protect and serve, they don't mean they serve any crazy person's whims. So much entitlement. If you have kids, your food is their food and if you can't handle that then don't have kids. I could accept it if there was a small budget and food needed to be rationed/spread out between shops, but I doubt someone who is poor but cares about their kids enough to make sure they have food for them every day would call the cops like this.

    Robert T
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In the UK we have a charge of "wasting police time". I'd love to know if such a thing ever gets applied in the US, as the number of stupid things they seem to get called for, they could fund the entire force on the fines!

    Sparkle
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They do in the US especially cases that cost 1000 of dollars and man power

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    ManuelQue
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope calling the cops made.the cops call CPS.

    tori Ohno
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I were the 911 operator to get that call, I'd have CPS sent out to that house immediately to hopefully have that starving child taken away.

    Ahnjunwan
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope the cops took you right with you

    #27

    A distressed woman holding a pregnancy test, sitting in a bathroom, highlighting family-related issues. I told my mom I was pregnant and not to tell anyone. Guess what she diiiiiiiiiiiiid.

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    Nannychachi
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I became pregnant before I was married. My mother asked, "How did this happen?" Umm....

    Lila Allen
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm petty enough to explain in detail how it happened.

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    Still, Robins encourages people to be brave and put themselves first. "Although you will need to take responsibility for your decision, that doesn't mean you are responsible for your parent's or your family's mental health or emotional wellbeing. Maintaining good emotional boundaries is part of a successful separation process," the psychotherapist says.

    #28

    Silhouette of a person beside a glowing cross, evoking themes of vile family dynamics. My dad performed an “exorcism” on me because I had a MILD anxiety attack.

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    Crystalwitch60
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yet another brainwashed god squad lunatic ! As hasn’t worked out the bible is litterally the biggest work of fiction ever written !!! they are very dangerous people !

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    #29

    “My Stepmom Is Two Hours Older Than Me”: 30 Wild Family Stories That Sound Made Up My mom used my hair as a mop. We have a great relationship now 💀💀💀.

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    Jenn Smith
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Poor kid. That's heartbreaking. Hope your hair and the rest of you is safe now!

    Lindsay A
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used my daughters soapy hair to scrub something on her neck once in the shower...

    Rachel Pelz
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hopefully after she cut it off...?

    #30

    Hands pinching skin, illustrating vile family actions theme. Made me get gastric sleeve surgery.

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    Bigfoot87
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ehhhh... i feel like a medical professional would have had to approve the need for one..

    Hippopotamuses
    Community Member
    8 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Guarantee it. Especially if the person is young, as in this case, and there appears to be no medical reason.

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    Lila Allen
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom would have done this if the doctor had let her. I was 5' tall and weighed 106 pounds. She felt that was 20 pounds overweight.

    Extinct Animal
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    A lock on the fridge would have been easier... Kinda wondering how tubby one needs to be and how little self control for that as a kid though?

    #31

    My parents physically and verbally abused me throughout my childhood and then when I finally had a conversation about it with them they said that I was the abuser.

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    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you stay far far away from them and live your best life free of their poison

    A S Mora
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like something my mother would say

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    #32

    Man in a car looking at the ocean, gripping the steering wheel, with a tattoo on his arm, showcasing a serene moment. My dad threatened to drive off the mountain while we were on a road trip because I didn't give him a gummy bear.

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    Nannychachi
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm feeling pretty darn good about my mom skills right now.

    LB
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So do I, and I don't even have any kids!

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    #33

    When i was 15 my mom left me 100 miles from home with no money of phone..she then called my family and told them I ran away and was on dr*gs. I was abandoned.

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    Rachel Pelz
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    May that mother roast in hell, as pretty much every parent on this post.

    #34

    Black dog with open mouth showing teeth, wearing a red collar in a forest. My dad's dog attacked me and I had to get 22 stitches, and then he proceeded to tell me that I had to pay the bill.

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    tori Ohno
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd take the evidence to the cops and have the dog possibly put down since it's dangerous. Then smile at him and say "You should have paid my doctor bill dad"

    Sam Trudeau
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unfortunate that US healthcare works like that

    Steve
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey Crystalwitch60, a dog has a higher IQ then you do.

    Crystalwitch60
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    And what exactly did you do to p**s the dog off ??? sorry but dogs don’t bite for no reason !

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    #35

    Close-up of a person's leg and hip wearing brown clothing, showcasing texture of the fabric. When I was thirteen and going through puberty I got stretch marks for the first time and told my mom, she told me it was my fault for eating so much. Mind you she's a dietitian 😶.

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    #36

    Young girl sitting on a couch, gazing out the window, wearing colorful socks, reflecting on family issues. Starved me for a week straight because of THEIR religion 😝.

    nex_goth , Ivonne Lecou / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

    Huddo's sister
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fasting is supposed to be a personal decision, a freely given sacrifice. Forcing someone to do it is both ethically and religiously wrong. All the religions I know that do fasting give children a pass anyway, for health reasons.

    Sam Trudeau
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a Christian, this is true. Lent is also a case where someone can give up a specific thing (ex: chocolate, or maybe music) and fasting is also not usually done in my town or any Christians I know

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    Crystalwitch60
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    Yet again RELIGION THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL !! from a bloody book ie the bible ! that is the biggest work of fiction ever written ! creating nothing but brainwashed lunatics in its cult of lunatics ! god ain’t real , sorry but he isn’t !

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    #37

    My mom told me she should’ve aborted me when I was 15 and we are no contact now.

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    Fat Harry (Oi / You)
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    15 would be an awfully late term abortion.

    Ravenkbh
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She'd have to use a long coat hanger

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    #38

    Mom dragged me out of bed when I was asleep, down the hall, & down the stairs (all carpet) to do dishes (that I didnt even leave) at MIDNIGHT. on top of that, it was the night prior to ACT testing.

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    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hopefully OP still scored well, got into college, and never ever came back.

    #39

    My biological dad was in foster care so he dated his mom and didn't know it was his mom but she knew it was her son. ts messed him up for life.

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    #40

    She found out I was in therapy and proceeded to listen to me whenever I was on call with her (it was during covid) and beat me when I told my therapist that she got rid of my depression medication.

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    #41

    Pushed her ED onto me and constantly harrassed me when I ate. She pressured me to lose weight/be as skinny as possible from the age 5, I was never over weight or anything.

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    Crystalwitch60
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m a recovering anorexic ! N when ,y now 24-21 yr old kids where young id hide the fact I wasn’t eating so it didn’t rub off on them , I’m now 60 n I have learnt to eat , I adore cooking n I’m good at it to , and I’ve learnt also to be who I am , op your mother is a vile inhuman s k a n k !

    Barbara Deskins
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    took me a minute...couldn't figure out what erectile dysfunction had to do with it!

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mistaking the acronym, I started reading this as "Pushed her erectile disfunction on me ... " and was very confused

    Wintermute
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a 40 year old man it too me way too long to try and figure out how she pushed her erectile disfunction onto you. smh

    #42

    When i didn’t wake up at a certain time in the morning, they’d take 30 minutes of my sleep and it got to a point i’d only sleep for 2 hours.

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    Huddo's sister
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is bizarre. No wonder they wouldn't wake up, they weren't getting enough sleep. Most parents would do the opposite.

    #43

    My brother was born on 9/11/2001 and my parents believe he is the reincarnation of the antichrist.

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    Ahnjunwan
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They should have fücked another day then

    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right?!?! Imagine acting like your child had some control over the day they were born

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    #44

    They adopted me as a baby and then sent me back to foster care as a teenager. my dad referred to it as a return sale.

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    #45

    Person holding a mason jar filled with a creamy drink, showcasing family-related oddities. Step mom gave me a smoothie with RAT p****n before Halloween so I couldn’t go trick or treating for my last year :).

    simplyjustmarshall , Amanda Vick / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

    #46

    I said i dont support elon musk. she did not like that and took away my therapist thinking she was influencing me.

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    Sam Trudeau
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They should paint the cybertrucks green. "To promote green energy"

    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Get out as soon as your can. Go no contact.

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    #47

    I broke my tibia at 11. My folks didn't believe I was hurt so I walked on it for 2 months.

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    Rachel Pelz
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hope it healed without lasting damage.

    #48

    Listened to me cry about not being invited to family events, and how much it hurt to feel excluded. Come to find out she was the one asking people not to invite me.

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    #49

    Threw my mental health medication in my face then took a fist full of it herself and send “now I have to take them because is so hard to deal with you”.

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    Sam Trudeau
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    More than just bad, this is a medical risk: Different doses have different effects, even if it's the same medicine prescribed

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    #50

    My mum walked in on me having a bath and told me that when my bf sees how fat ill be on my wedding day "let's see if he still loves you".

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    GalPalAl
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    the patriarchy is sadly strong with this one

    Rachel Pelz
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like the "classical" female body shaming the mother has experienced is passed to the next generation...hopefully not.

    #51

    On my great grandmothers wedding day she was shot in the head by the groom. She survived and still married him once she recovered. They're buried together.

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    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She probably didn't have a choice back then

    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Life might not be great for women now, but at least this is no longer acceptable.

    Otto Katz
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was picturing an 88 year old bride being shot. And then recovering in hospital, and then getting married in a wheelchair in a care home.

    #52

    My drunken uncle tried to k**l my entire family over $10 when I was 7, me included.

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    #53

    My grandmother grabbed my crotch and asked if I was wearing a packer. It was not the first time she’s done something like that and it won’t be the last. I was horrified.

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    Nannychachi
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd break granny's arm.

    Earonn -
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds as if OP is too young to avoid the s*x pest. Poor OP!

    Ace
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WTF is a 'packer'?

    HeavyMetalHeart
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Something men wear to look “bigger” in the c****h area

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    Michael Largey
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The most appalling thing isn't even that she asked or how. It's that she was curious at all.

    #54

    Person lounging on a tree branch in a forest, using a laptop. Sent to wilderness therapy 2 TIMES.

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    Rachel Pelz
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How are these child abuse camps even legal?

    Kalikima
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    7 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Money in the wrong politicians pocket.

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    Crystalwitch60
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    8 months ago

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    Ok that’s not to bad tbh grow op up

    Kira Okah
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wilderness therapy, or wilderness bootcamps, use abuse and dehumanisation to try and "fix" abused/disabled/mentally ill children.

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    #55

    My mom took my birth certificate with her to japan so i cant press charges against the man who SA'd me but luckily my (ex) Bf's mom helped me get a new one, and he's in jail now.

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    Tobias Reaper
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i'm confused why would you need a birth certificate for that

    Earonn -
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To prove your identity for the court records? At least in Germany you have to prove your name to press charges - but there you have an ID card.

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    Huddo's sister
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why do you need a birth certificate to press charges?

    Lila Allen
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on the country but if the r**e was underage you'd need a birth certificate to prove that.

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    #56

    My mom used to make bets with my siblings that I would get pregnant before I graduated high school. I was 12.

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    Rachel Pelz
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let's make a bet who is going to go no contact as soon as she can.

    murmelinpaiva
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I knew a woman who became a grandmother at age 28.

    Lila Allen
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unfortunately I live in rural Nevada and I know quite a few women who became grandmothers before 35.

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    #57

    Mom told me my stretch marks will get me r*ped😃.

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    #58

    I don't talk to my mom anymore. she abused my children. immediately cut off. but over the years I put up with a lot. force feeding me my own throw up, refusing medical care, starving me, poisoning.

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    Rachel Pelz
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are women who should not raise children. At least not without massive surveillance and help by CPS or a similar agency.

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    #59

    Bought my ex an uber from jail after he was released from assaulting me at my job.

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    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow that's next level betrayal

    #60

    This one time I put A LITTLE eyeliner and my stepdad said I looked like a stripper 😻.

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    Billo66
    Community Member
    Premium
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh but when I put it on they call me Ozzy lol

    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Assuming they mean young Ozzy I'd take that as a compliment

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    Rachel Pelz
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How would he know what s******r looks like, I wonder.

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    #61

    I got SA’d and my mom continues to blame me for it and not him. And I proceeded to get grounded for months from it…. My dad… lord he’s worse than my mom cause he said I “deserved it”.

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    Rachel Pelz
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm afraid the more rigid the moral ideas about sexuality are, the less compassion there will be. Partly -no excuse!- because of the more powerful position of abusers (as compared to most victims) and also because of that "shame/dirty/don't talk about that" atmosphere.

    Earonn -
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If rapists only would go for the victim blamers and excuse makers.

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    #62

    My mom found out i was bulimic and told me i needed to stop “ruining my teeth bc she paid a lot of money for my braces” and never brought it up again.

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    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So she's ok if you die as long as your teeth look good? WTF?

    #63

    Kicked me out of the house during the middle of the night, and blamed me for getting the police involved.

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    #64

    Well where do i start💀. Father dearest lets say has an attraction to young girls that happen to be of his own DNA. And mother dearest plays victim while genuinely DESTROYING lives.

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    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Stop soft peddling this stuff. Your dad is a rapist. He sexually assaults his own kids. Your mother is an accessory before and after the fact. They are felony child abusers.

    Rachel Pelz
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hope OP has kind people who care for her now.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Where do you start? In your room, packing.

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    #65

    Hid the fact that I have another sibling from me for YEARS while everyone else knew.

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    #66

    Locked me outside for a week, but brought three meals a day and I had a tent soooo…Also locked me out of my room for 4 months with the same five outfits cuz I didn’t get all A’s.

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    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ah the intersection of should never have had kids and should not be allowed to raise the ones she has

    #67

    I cut my hair cause im trans and wanted to be a boy and she said i wasnt apart of the family, just a monster living in her house.

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    #68

    My great grandma went into cardiac arrest when she found out my cousin married a black man.

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    Earonn -
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good, hope that was the end of the racist b***h.

    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah I think this is more of a feel good story

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    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wouldn't cardiac arrest require having a heart?

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    #69

    My brother died and nobody told me. I found out by accidentally finding his ashes in my parents closet.

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    #70

    My ancestor led a cult. Like preaching from a throne and healing people with his hands kind of cult.

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    #71

    A doctor performing a medical examination in a clinical setting, focusing on healthcare practices. Forced me to undergo pelvic exam and get a Pap smear at 15 as a punishment. 🙃 I don’t talk to her anymore.

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    Val
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is awful. However, you should get a PAP smear as soon as you start coitus.

    #72

    Woman sitting on a bench with shopping bags, using her phone and holding a drink, camera around her neck. My stepmom is 2 hours older than me.

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    Rachel Pelz
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Creepy dad vibes. Very creepy.

    Rob D
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Are we for women's choice and independence of choice or not? Why is a 19 year old woman able to choose abortion or hysterectomy (rightly so) but apparently incapable of choosing to date someone older without automatic presumption of being the victim of a creepy, predatory male?

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Supporting someone's right to choose is not an automatic endorsement of the choice they end up making.

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    #73

    My dad sent me to a mental hospital because i was being too kind to my sister. i’m sorry? [tears].

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    Rachel Pelz
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hope "kind" is something different from "loves children too much".

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    #74

    When I was 17, she had a psychotic meltdown and blamed me for the death of my 6 month old brother. I was 18 months old at the time of his death and I brutally explained why she was wrong for years.

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    Rachel Pelz
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did the mother not want or not have access to therapy? Losing a baby must be horrible but you have to mourn without blaming another child. (My grandma kinda was like OP's mother, unfortunately. My mom was 6 months when her brother was run other by a train. Hunted her her whole life. Wish my grandparents got therapeutical help at some point because their "we survived the war so we will lead a happy life without problems, no matter what" did not work. My other uncle who killed himself might still be alive if he had been allowed not to be perfect and happy all the time.)

    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is just a huge pile of generational trauma. I am so sorry

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    #75

    My dad flat out told me “been telling all your friends you have daddy issues well you’re about to have them” sir they have BEEN there thanks.

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    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Odd logic. If you don't have daddy issues I'll give you some???

    #76

    Sent me to the psych ward cause they were told celiac was a mental illness.

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    Rachel Pelz
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did the psych ward accept OP?!?

    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Having worked in one I cannot imagine them admitting OP> More likely sent parents to real doctor to explain food allergies

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    john doe
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ummm maybe they didn't have celiacs and completely believe they did otherwise why would a psyc ward take them. People who think they have Celiac's and don't are pretty common.

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    #77

    Grandfather died of a heart attack while in mexico and some lady claiming to be his "wife" wouldnt release the body to my
    nana ... his wife of 60+ years.

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    #78

    Bonnie and Clyde asked my great grandpa and my Nana (she was maybe 6-7) asked if they can borrow their car. They said yes, that car is now in a museum.

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    Huddo's sister
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonder how true it is. Similar sort of story to a boat that is in a museum because it was supposedly used in Dunkirk, but actually never was.

    #79

    There's an unsolved murder in my family but we all know who did it.

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    Earonn -
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sooo, and when is one of you going to "do" something about it?

    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This kind of thing is horrifyingly common. Whole family "knows" and just says nothing.

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    Rachel Pelz
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If they killed a rapist or child a****r, I would understand and let it remain unsolved for good.

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    #80

    Grandad cheated on my grandma with her sister on the wedding night and carried on for 20+ years, mom doesn't know how many of her 'cousins' are her half sibling.

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    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Time to gift ancestry.com kits to everyone. Oh and don't forget to opt in to GEDmatch please.

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    #81

    My grandpa nearly hit terry fox on the highway (wasn’t paying attention to the news) he didn’t know why the car was going so slow, went to pass and nearly made my family one of the most hated in Canada lol.

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    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    8 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For those in other parts of the world who may not know who Terry Fox is. He was a teenager who had his leg amputated due to an aggressive cancer. He had gotten a prosthetic, metal leg. To raise awareness and donations for cancer research he decided to run/jog across Canada, coast to coast, calling it "Marathon Of Hope" that started in St. John's, Newfoundland. He ran 5,373 kilometers (3,339 miles), 143 days, from April 12, 1980 . He had to stop in Thunder Bay, Ontario, September 1, 1980, when the cancer returned in his lungs. He raised $24 million from the marathon, alone. He died June 1, 1981. So, yeah, if anyone hit him that would have been a nation of outraged Canadians. Since then, we have Terry Fox day, where schools have students run laps around the field and other memorial marathons for raising donations for cancer research.

    Earonn -
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you. He sounds like an amazing person, and it's good to hear that his goodness wasn't forgotten or praised just in words, but is actually remembered and continued.

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    Kristin
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omg ohhhhh ok this makes alot more sense now lol I didn't understand in school why we were running laps and then having a jump rope for heart as well.

    Sam Trudeau
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In Canada, at least, they do school runs and full town runs through everywhere, with traffic closed down for the event

    #82

    Um my dad cheated on my mom with my best friends mom and then my mom cheated on my dad with my sisters situationship.

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    #83

    Long story short my mom signed me up for a self defense class bc someone tried to 💀 her when she was 13- she ended up pulling me out when she found out he was the one teaching the class.

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    #84

    I had family fighting both sides in ww2.

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    Libstak
    Community Member
    8 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My poor great uncle on mums side was conscripted first to fight for the Nazis at 16, his squadron was captured by the Partisans fighting against N.azi Occupation and he was lucky he was not shot. One of the rebels wanted him shot with the others but the group leader gave him a choice to fight with them or die, he fought with them for the rest of the war and survived.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    8 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some soldiers serving Italy fought on both sides without any help from relatives. Vichy France, too.

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    #85

    My grandpa is in prison for hiring a hitman on his ex wife.

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    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OK I'm gonna need a little more. Did the hitman succeed? Did they report him?

    Kalikima
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If he'd succeeded, they likely wouldn't have known about it at all.. Grandma would have died from a freak accident, or unknown murder.

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    #86

    My great grandad was sent to the camps in the 40s and WALKED all the way back to his village in France to find his wife.

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    Rachel Pelz
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wait, what is vile about this?

    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The original title was " unhinged things in family" so I think this is here for that.

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