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#2

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Doctors tend to take their complaints seriously instead of chalking it up to being dramatic, on their period, or fat.

Quiet_Goat8086 , MART PRODUCTION Report

Final score:

156points

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DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago

These doctors need to be reevaluated by the medical board.

51points

#3

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Not having periods

grungeisforever , Natracare Report

Final score:

144points

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Donkey boi 1 year ago (edited)

Slightly related story time (Apparently a TMI warning needs to go here): When I was a kid and my big sister was telling me about periods, we had a good discussion about how normal it was, what was happening, and the ways girls dealt with them. I told my sister about how my period wasn't too bad and was usually only 1 or 2 drops. She explained to me that boys don't have periods, then explained what boys do go through during puberty. I told her she was wrong and boys do bleed too! That was when I showed her my boxers in the laundry basket, and my latest "period". Needless to say, she had mam take me to the doctors. And that was how I found out I was not having a period, but had an a**l fissure.

91points

DarkRapunzel_North , Katarzyna Grabowska Report

#4

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Not having to put up with near-constant sexual harassment from the age of 13.

Final score:

135points

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Multa Nocte 1 year ago

You are "lucky" that it started so late for you.

61points

#5

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Being allowed to express all of their emotions in otherwise completely acceptable and healthy ways. Let me squeal with joy at kittens m**********r

anon , Steven Arenas Report

Final score:

125points

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Nichole Harris 1 year ago

Squeal away my friend!!!

73points

phenerganandpoprocks , MART PRODUCTION Report

#6

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Not having people look at you suspiciously when you take your daughter to the park.

Don't get me wrong-- as a dude I appreciate that it takes incredibly little for me to be considered a "good dad" while for women it takes incredibly little for them to be considered a "bad mom"-- I just wish that I didn't literally have some random b***h go up to my daughter and ask her if she felt safe while I was keeping an eye on her.

I didn't even know what to say... but my daughter did, "my daddy says not to take to weirdos" (we use weirdo and strangers somewhat interchangeably in our home). I bought her ice cream afterwards

Edit: I appreciate the kind words and awards— the judgement isn’t an everyday thing, just something that happens every once in awhile. As some have pointed out, it may not be a gender thing; some people are just a******s. This happened earlier in the week and I’m pretty sure it’s just one of those cliquish park moms who can’t mind their own business. The elementary school mom’s in the area have formed their own Mean Girls clique at the park and I think they’re just trying to make me uncomfortable. Probably gonna get some temporary tattoos put on my face for the next time I go to give them something to really have a moral panic over :D

Final score:

116points

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Nichole Harris 1 year ago

Maybe I'm missing something... But do most kidnappers/or perverts take the kids to the park??? Why would the lady even think that??? What is wrong with the world!

49points

seiraphim , Clark Street Mercantile Report

#7

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online I don't know if this has been said yet and it will probably get buried however I feel it must be said.

Sensible sizing. When looking at women's clothing it's always a massive guessing game because there is NO standardization. A size 2 in one store is a 4 in another, or a 0 at another, sometimes even in the same brand but at a different store. Don't even get me started in on the fact that they typicall also tend to skip over the odd numbers in ladies' and juniors have the odd numbers only.

No matter what I do or where I go, I ALWAYS fall between the sizes. I always have to buy a size up and then do a bit of altering in hopes to get it to fit.

Final score:

96points

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DrBronxx 1 year ago

I don't think this is exclusive to women's clothing. I have this problem with all of my clothes and shoes.

24points

#8

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online The diversity of their wardrobe. Don’t get me wrong. I know that women’s fashion is often frustratingly inconvenient and unpractical. That said, I wish men’s clothes can include more than 3 colors and like... 4 styles.

YZ_C , Cam Morin Report

Final score:

91points

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Xip Dizc 1 year ago

Agreed. At my office women can wear shorts, skirts, dresses. All men can wear are pants. They won't even let me wear my kilts which I wear all the time outside of work.

5points

tacosontitan , Monstera Production Report

#9

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online I have a bright AF personality, why can’t I let that show without someone feeling the need to let their opinion on my sexuality be known? I’m a peacock captain, you’ve gotta let me fly!!!

Final score:

90points

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Lama 1 year ago

Fly, peacock captain! Be free and fly!

29points

#10

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online I would love to feel safe going anywhere alone. I think about hiking solo with such a longing... my boyfriend doesn't get it at all, he thinks I'm being silly. It makes me so sad/angry.

Edit: Holy moly, I didn't expect to wake up to this. Thanks for all the awards and solidarity. I want to add that of course men can and do also feel this way, women don't have the market cornered on the fear of something terrible happening when going out alone. And, where you go is also a huge factor- if you're in a sketchy place, both men and women are going to be nervous, of course.. but I've had the fact that I cannot do things solo (no matter where I am) crammed into my head all my life, and when I doubted that fact.. something really bad actually happened. I'd rather not tempt fate at this point.

I know that if I went on a hike solo, there is a very good chance nothing would happen, however I would not enjoy my time in the woods anyway. The fear of what could happen overshadows any enjoyment I might get. I've taken self defense classes, but even still, I'm the type of person that will "freeze" instead of fight or flee. I don't want a gun either, I don't want that kind of power in my hands or in my house.

My comment was not made to be a contest between women and men. I made it because all I would like to do is feel safe alone, and it makes me sad that I will most likely *never in my lifetime* feel safe being by myself in a host of different scenarios. I have many guy friends that are confident when they go out somewhere, they don't believe anything bad will happen, and that's all I want. The confidence and peace of mind that no one is going to hurt me. That's it.

SweetDangus , Josh Hild Report

Final score:

82points

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just me 1 year ago

If you like dogs and would take good care of one, you might consider getting a large dog. My pup is a sweetheart that loves being outside. She has also caused a few guys that seemed sketchy to back of quickly just by doing her "hey, I don't know you yet" bark. Not why I got her, but I do feel safer knowing she's got my back.

9points

#11

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Not worrying about appearing creepy, or scaring people while just walking home at night.

Edit: My phone is at 1%, so I gotta make this quick but ty so much for the gold. Never had anything upvoted this much!

Ok-Crab-6306 , Isaac Weatherly Report

Final score:

82points

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Donkey boi 1 year ago

A tip a girl friend gave me: If your out at night and think you might be appearing creepy or scary to nearby women, just call your mum or your girlfriend. It's hard to appear intimidating when your talking like you do to someone you love.

54points

Jesha 1 year ago

That's great advice! It doesn't involve even talking to the person who appears afraid or approaching them but would help a lot for setting up a better passive vibe.

6points

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Neill Powell 1 year ago

This is a modern evolution men need to get with. Instead of being the cowering creep, neckbeard staring at you, be The Dude. Be kind, and friendly to stranger girls, yes make a call and be the "almost too cool for her". A man that a woman realises is most likely disinterested in her already has a lot less anxiety about the situation. Be the kind Anime guy that goes "heya" and then ignores her for the rest. She might be a goddess fallen from heaven, but that's no reason for you to stand there, developing a date-rape face as you fantasize. You need her to get the message you get she has boundaries, without saying a word. if SHE breaks those boundaries, well then you may be in for a nice drink or even a good night.

1point

PolymathNecromancer 1 year ago

I like this too

0points

Kirsten Holmes 1 year ago

Even if a man gives you a friendly hello it can help.

-3points

Mr. Nurse Man 1 year ago

I’ll offer some advice for my fellow guys: you’re not going to appear as threatening at night if you wear brighter colors or reflective clothing. And if you make sure your face is easily visible, it means you can be identified - which is the opposite of what creeps want. Plus, in the event of a false allegation (which sadly happens), you’ll be able to corroborate your story with security cameras, witnesses, etc. Or if you’re lucky enough to have a service animal you can take places, it’s less threatening because it’s a cute doggy (usually) and I have my hands full making sure my buddy doesn’t leave packages behind as we walk..

6points

The Short Lady 1 year ago

It's funny, women feel unsafe because a not insignificant amount of men behave badly. Also, decent men worry about making women uncomfortable because a not insignificant amount of men behave badly.

3points

Leigh 1 year ago

I live in Portland oregon and my family and I live in crime ridden neighborhoods. I don't feel safe going out at night, I've been attacked by people experiencing a mental health crisis or drug crazed. Sadly these people are not getting the help they need

1point

joe blow 1 year ago

I know I don't act creepy, I can't control what you see as creepy...that's a you thing

0points

EarthGrowl 1 year ago

Don't be one of those snobby people who clutch their purse or hurriedly lock their car door when a "poor" person walks by. There is no such thing as a "wrong neighborhood" any neighborhood is someone's home. Guys, if you're walking down a sidewalk and a woman is walking solo a head of you, don't just lurk behind her. Say something about the weather to break the tension, a neutral topic, offer to walk a head instead of behind. Ladies, most men aren't monsters. Give a strange guy the chance to be a hero for even a few seconds and they will usually jump at the chance. We were always taught not to talk to strangers, but speaking establishes a human connection.

0points

meow point1 1 year ago

My father once told me he feels awkward sitting next to a woman (provided it's not Mum or a relative) on the bus for that reason.

0points

--- 1 year ago

Wish I had that problem

0points

D0C 1 year ago

Yeah, because women walking home at night obviously have it much better ^_^

-1point

SadieCat17 (she/her) 1 year ago

Don't detract. Sure women face far worse problems related to walking at night, but men and women have a common enemy affecting us both in different ways.

10points

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#12

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Being able to go shirtless, not in most businesses obviously, but like outside or swimming etc

ETA: I didn't realize it's technically legal where I live. However that conflicts with indecent exposure laws:

https://www.findlaw.com/state/new-york-law/new-york-indecent-exposure-laws.html

Also people would stare, be creepy, freak out, etc

Zoe_118 , RUN 4 FFWPU Report

Final score:

74points

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WindySwede 1 year ago

I'd say, everybody or non?

23points

Sophssy , Jeanetta Richardson-Anhalt Report

#13

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Most leaders are probably your gender, just like most heroes in stories and movies as you grow up, most businessmen, most inventors, most politicians etc. Plus there's also the phsysical strength, no periods, rarely if at all being bothered by random creepy perverts, people comment less on your body.

Final score:

73points

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Tabitha 1 year ago (edited)

I absolutely fume when men say women can’t handle leadership roles, and when you tell them women can be natural leaders just like men, they then start asking “OK, then name me some women in leadership roles throughout history”. Well fuckface, whose fault is it that they are so few? You a*****e men did your best to block women from even being educated, much less learn any of the skills that would help them be independent for so many centuries. Hell, it’s barely even been 30 years since we couldn’t have a checking account in our own names, or take out a mortgage or any other kind of loan by ourselves. Then when things really started changing in the seventies and eighties, you made sure to relegate us to menial, non-promotion type jobs, thereby blocking us from even being in the running for a promotion. Remember hearing about the “Glass Ceiling”? That f****r exists, that glass is think, and it’s only just starting to crack. That’s why it’s only NOW that we’re finally seeing some women being given equal chances at rising in the ranks to even become leaders—-and proving they’re as good or even better than men at it. Give it another 50 years, and the list of women who are leaders will grow and maybe even surpass the list of men who are leaders.

70points

#14

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Sun dresses in summer. They look so cool and comfortable!

biscorama , Yaroslav Shuraev Report

Final score:

70points

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Mimi La Souris 1 year ago

and fresh air can pass through it ! :)

28points

#15

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Guys don’t have to deal with the side effects of birth control (or just birth control in general).

The weight gain, hormonal issues, and other side effects can be a nightmare, especially if you’re just starting and trying to find what’s best for you.

bearzbeetzbattles , tr0tt3r Report

Final score:

63points

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Donkey boi 1 year ago

I hate condoms, but I use them because the wife didn't like taking the pill. I offered to get "fixed" but she doesn't want me to. We need that male pill!

53points

#16

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Men can't/don't get pregnant

warda8825 , Kei Scampa Report

Final score:

54points

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Elizabeth Brown 1 year ago

I find it kind of funny this could reasonably be said by either sex and still apply to this list

20points

#17

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Generally speaking, having people take your problems seriously and being able to safely express that you’re having them rather than being told to “man up” and just deal with it. You’d be shocked and horrified what kind of stuff men just shove in a box and mentally lock away and keep going like nothing is wrong.
Again, generally speaking. I recognize there’s a lot of women with a lot of problems, but people are generally more open to listening to them and taking it seriously, in my experience.

AlphaEag1e , Andrea Piacquadio Report

Final score:

53points

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Tuesday 1 year ago

Even as women we get told to calm down and stop overreacting, it's not a real problem, are you on your period? Men have it worse in some ways, women have it worse in others. I wish people would just listen, no matter the gender, and stop using social stereotypes to box them in and ignore them

51points

#18

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Not having to shave everywhere 😫

gillgreen , Karolina Grabowska Report

Final score:

51points

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Biytemii 1 year ago

Yea.... I only shave now when it's summer and I want to have hairless legs on the beach. Other than that my husband deals with my Italian hairiness lmao 🤣 honestly most people could care less and the ones that do are not the kind of people I care to be around anyway. Once I hit 30 I realized I don't actually have to torture my skin every 2 days

37points

#19

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Being physically stronger and higher stamina. I really like to work but is always told that I can’t handle it

gracewyte , Victor Freitas Report

Final score:

50points

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Donkey boi 1 year ago

Actually stamina is not something that men naturally have more of. For the "factory standard" human, men do have more natural strength, but (physical) stamina is the same. Also, women can improve their stamina faster than men.

24points

#20

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Unsolicited hugs, cuddling without romance

pranthlar , Thirdman Report

Final score:

45points

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Steve Hall 1 year ago

I do not like to touch anyone and I will not let anyone handle me.

4points

thatonegirlonreddit5 , Max Fischer Report

#21

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online The school dress code…specifically shoulders

Final score:

44points

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Donkey boi 1 year ago

I've always felt that uniforms were the best solution for schools.

26points

#22

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online The physical contact they share with their friends. Guys usually don't go around hugging each other

Edit: Personally for me a lot of why I'm not really a hugger is the culture where I live(Finland). I don't really want to make other people uncomfortable by invading their personal space. I have a lot of female friends as well and hugging them is pretty rare too

Thank you for all the encouragement though! Maybe I have to make a change

IrmeliPoika , Courtney Cook Report

Final score:

40points

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Donald 1 year ago

I hug the homies if I haven't seen them in a while, going to my G-moms 93rd on Friday. All my cousins are getting bear hugged.

16points

#23

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online They don't have to waste a year of their lives serving in the military in my country.

patoysakias , Filip Andrejevic Report

Final score:

40points

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Luke Wensley 1 year ago

I get the feeling that many people in my country could benefit from a year of military service. Admittedly I could also probably use the experience.

23points

#24

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online They can cry during movies or TV shows and not get thought less of or made fun of.

Seriously, I get choked up at stupid stuff and have to try to hide it. Need to try to limit it to one manly tear.

KingGuy420 , JESHOOTS.com Report

Final score:

40points

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Tuesday 1 year ago

Bawl your eyes out, I'll only respect you more. How could you not cry at the ride of the Rohirrim?!? Or even better, when the dog on screen is just overwhelmingly cute?

35points

#25

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Getting compliments.

I’m one of the fortunate ones who at least gets smiled at by women, but I still never get compliments.

anon , Nick Fewings Report

Final score:

39points

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XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 1 year ago

Tbf, it can sometimes be difficult to give a man a compliment. Hear me out...I like to compliment people regardless of gender, but sometimes you can tell a guy "that's a great color on you" and what they hear is "I want you to relentlessly hit on me." Not always, and clearly not every guy, but it happens enough that it can be off-putting. I'll still compliment anyone because sometimes it can make a person feel good when they are appreciated in some form, but yeah, it's cuz some guys are creepy. Sorry, and you look lovely today!

46points

#26

Not having to be conscious about who your walking behind, the distance you are from somebody or the way your walking to appear "less threatening"

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34points

TheDag

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TheDag (Submission author) 1 year ago

let me clarify I hate both sides of this before I get ratioed 10 years into the future, both the fact that I have to be aware of it and that its a thing that women generally have to be on the look out so much, its a s****y world and I have to try and not take it personally but it does still hurt

24points

#27

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online I would say being pretty. Men are not considered pretty and people don't compliment us so we live our whole lives being un-appreciated in that way. This is just a generalization, but I'd say most men like me simply don't get complimented and are not considered inherently valuable unless we do or accomplish some great thing.

vorpalglorp , Wesley Tingey Report

Final score:

23points

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Jesha 1 year ago

Hey, just let your friends know. One thing that helped my dudes who were feeling this way was to start complimenting other friends of theirs when their hair looked nice or they had a good shirt etc. etc.. It normalized the concept and they started lifting each other up more.

4points

#28

29 Experiences Only One Gender Has That The Other Is Jealous Of, As Pointed Out Online Pretty clothes pretty everything

domthemomm , Tatiéle Alves Report

Final score:

22points

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Tabitha 1 year ago (edited)

Pretty, maybe. But not always comfortable. Or even substantial—-meaning made of thin material to the point it’s pretty much see through. Then there’s the issue of plunging necklines, cutouts, shortness, tightness, coverage, etc, etc, etc. That s**t is incredibly uncomfortable. Then there are the unwanted eyes on you and words coming out of filthy unfiltered mouths. Why do you think so many of us prefer to wear loose and comfortable clothes, even if they are rather shapeless?

21points