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There is an existing stereotype that women are the more jealous gender than men. In fact, some research actually supports that. But at the same time, describing women as jealous beyond any other emotion is damaging to not only their own self-perception but also how others see them as then people tend to take them less seriously and that impacts their lives in various ways. And, well, we can only assume that men definitely do not envy women for being perceived as the more jealous gender. But today, let’s look at what traits of women men are jealous of and the other way around. After all, jealousy is an emotion that every person, no matter their gender, experiences.
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#1
POCKETS! Actual f*****g pockets in pants that hold more than a damn quarter.
Multa Nocte 2 years ago
What do we want? We want pockets! When do we want them? We want them now!!!!!!!
Mr. Nurse Man 2 years ago
Not actually trying to advertise for them, since I don’t get paid for it, but my wife found a company called Bloom Chic and apparently most of their dresses have pockets..do with that info what you want.
Donkey boi 2 years ago
My wife buys "Men's" jeans. She say they are sized better (instead of sizes 4,6,8,etc you have leg and waist measurements), fit better (Quote: "The flatter a**e hugs my butt better"), and have awesome pockets.
Dreaming Spirit 2 years ago
I tried that, but I dont have the right build for mens' pants (different waist/hip ratio and leg length) :(
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Niamh Gallagher 2 years ago
If you like dresses with pockets I highly recommend popsyclothing.co.uk
Papa 2 years ago
I'm curious about why women's pants usually don't have useful pockets. If so many women want them I can't see why the clothing manufacturers don't make and sell more of them. They're in business to make money, after all, and it takes an incredibly stupid business person to not try to please their customers.
Antoinette Maldari 2 years ago
Because, some designers think that pockets will make the garment look 'bulky"
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Lesbian Sloth (she/her) 2 years ago
I never seem to have this problem, though? All the pants I get have pockets
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#2
Doctors tend to take their complaints seriously instead of chalking it up to being dramatic, on their period, or fat.
Sky Render 2 years ago
Sadly wouldn't do much good as in most parts of the world any given medical board is entirely or almost entirely comprised of men.
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HTakeover 2 years ago
And not being denied a tubal because "you might want kids some day" or "wait until you're married to a man to decide." Basically taking away medical decisions because they don't like it. And that's not even touching other reproductive care.
SadieCat17 (she/her) 2 years ago
Lesbians in committed relationships being told that they might change their mind later in life
Load More Replies... LH25 2 years ago
Or being overweight. Have a sore throat? Lose weight and you'll be fine. Broken bone? Lose weight and you'll be fine.
ScootyPuffJr 2 years ago
Exactly. It goes both ways, too. If you're thin they think there can't be anything wrong with you and send you home.
Load More Replies... Mr. Nurse Man 2 years ago
Once my then-fiancé nearly died because her doctor at the time didn’t take her seriously when she said she felt something was wrong. Turns out she had almost literally half the blood she is supposed to and was somehow still managed to be conscious to go to work. I made the determination that I will NEVER allow that to happen again to my family or my patients.
PlusUltraNova (She/They) 2 years ago
This is so true. My mom has many different health issues, but it's always played off as being dramatic or she's just on her period or it's a side-affect of this or that and blah blah blah and it's so annoying, because she's always in pain but nobody ever takes her seriously.
Laura Williams 2 years ago
Yep hubby went to doc for sprained ankle they gave him major pain killers. I went for same thing. I got Tylenol and rest and ice.
lawrence Andrew 2 years ago
There is solid research that women get better care from women cardiologist.
Cassie 2 years ago
My son almost died because doctors wouldn't take me seriously as a mother. I have untreated chronic illness because doctors won't take me seriously. I'm left to experiment to try to treat myself and then if that goes wrong, I get chided for trying something without their guidance.
pep Ito 2 years ago
It is curious because in Spain you are more likely to be seen by a female doctor than by a male doctor. Does this mean that women also think the same of themselves?
Jill Rhodry 2 years ago
I don't know if they think it of themselves, but they're taught in the same institution and have absorb the same ideas.
Load More Replies... Donkey boi 2 years ago
Nah, I think that just certain doctors. I was told I was constipated after an ambulance ride to A&E. Only to be back that same afternoon for emergency surgery.
Jesha 2 years ago
You still had to come back and put yourself in more danger by being brushed off. That's the problem.
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Not having periods
Donkey boi 2 years ago (edited)
Slightly related story time (Apparently a TMI warning needs to go here): When I was a kid and my big sister was telling me about periods, we had a good discussion about how normal it was, what was happening, and the ways girls dealt with them. I told my sister about how my period wasn't too bad and was usually only 1 or 2 drops. She explained to me that boys don't have periods, then explained what boys do go through during puberty. I told her she was wrong and boys do bleed too! That was when I showed her my boxers in the laundry basket, and my latest "period". Needless to say, she had mam take me to the doctors. And that was how I found out I was not having a period, but had an a**l fissure.
arthbach 2 years ago
I'm very glad you has such an open discussion with your sister.
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WalterWhiteSavannah 2 years ago
My gf and her friend once asked me why men are such babies when they get the cold or flu and I told them its cause we didn't have periods too toughen us up. I think they both still consider it the smartest thing I ever said. 🤣
Fun Fan 2 years ago
In fact, there are machines through a man can experience the level of pain a woman feels through her periodb from little to no till I-wanna-die! At least, I met them in some gyn/urollogyc docs" offces. .
Load More Replies... LH25 2 years ago
The one good thing from having uterine cancer was getting a hysterectomy and not having my very heavy periods anymore.
catmom3 2 years ago
Due to unsolvable infertility problems, I adopted my two kids. Around that time I was having there ridiculously heavy two - to -three week long periods. I also had nasty (painwise) ovarian cists, endometriosis, ... and the started having abnormal pap smears. I had a hysterectomy at the age of 40...and it ranks as one of THE best decisionsI ever made. No having to tell my busy kiddos that mommy couldn't do something with them because I didn't feel good. No having to plan for a period during a trip. So many other reasons...
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Jared Robinson 2 years ago
Not gonna lie, you ladies are walking miracles. I wouldn't do it. I don't think most men would do it. You are Angels.
New Everywhere 2 years ago
Thanks for the compliment but uhhhh...f you had a uterus, there would be no "absolutely not this month, I have a trip planned" lol
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Kathy Richardson 2 years ago
You'll get there, then it's a whole pile of other things that can last for years.
#4
Not having to put up with near-constant sexual harassment from the age of 13.
the harbinger of doom (she/he) 2 years ago
who tf do I need to smack for you
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Brainmas 2 years ago
Not even necessarily harrassed so much as objectified at a younger age too. Family members commenting on your size, weight, or development is so awkward. One time when I was like 13 my grandma literally ran her finger between my boobs and was like, " you're wearing a bra!" To be fair, she was developing Alzheimer's, but if felt like that scene from Sixteen Candles.
Bols 2 years ago
It is so scary. I was thinking for a long time that there is absolutely NO woman who hadn't gone through some sh*t like that and even brought it up on a hen party I went to with my friends to a cabin. They all admitted but told me I spoiled the fun. And later that night the owner of the cabin broke in and turned the light off and was stroking our legs while we were sleeping.
Evelyn Fox 2 years ago
13? By the time it ended at 8, 4 years of molestation had passed for me.
Stephanie Barr 2 years ago
Not that it doesn't happen to men, but, I suspect, for most, it is not constant.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
I had Marilyn Monroe's measurements when I was 12: 36x26x36. Yeah old guys were really f*cking creepy.
joe blow 2 years ago
Perhaps if we went back to when only actual harassment was considered harassment instead of like it is now, when you just feel uncomfortable...it wouldn't happen quite as much
Lex <3 (they/them) 2 years ago
As someone who has been through s3xual h@rassment I will definitely say it made me more than just a little uncomfortable... it was really, really scary and I had no idea what was going to come next, and it was done by an immediate family member so that made it even worse since I had no escape. I was literally having panic attacks and literally tried committing su¡c¡d3. I definitely feel like it counted as harassment but everyone can have their own opinion I guess
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Being allowed to express all of their emotions in otherwise completely acceptable and healthy ways. Let me squeal with joy at kittens m**********r
PlatinumThe8-BitCat 2 years ago
Can I join you? I squeal at my cats every day. Also my dogs, and any animal I find cute
Load More Replies... Jill Rhodry 2 years ago
I take your point and agree it's an issue - and certainly not healthy - but squeal away my man, women will fawn over you!
BrownTabby 2 years ago
The reason men censure other men for that is because they perceive certain emotions as “womanly” and therefore beneath them. So at the end of the day, men need to take an active role in dismantling this culture.
Laura Williams 2 years ago
All feelings are normal anyone who tells you it's wrong is already broken.
#6
Not having people look at you suspiciously when you take your daughter to the park.
Don't get me wrong-- as a dude I appreciate that it takes incredibly little for me to be considered a "good dad" while for women it takes incredibly little for them to be considered a "bad mom"-- I just wish that I didn't literally have some random b***h go up to my daughter and ask her if she felt safe while I was keeping an eye on her.
I didn't even know what to say... but my daughter did, "my daddy says not to take to weirdos" (we use weirdo and strangers somewhat interchangeably in our home). I bought her ice cream afterwards
Edit: I appreciate the kind words and awards— the judgement isn’t an everyday thing, just something that happens every once in awhile. As some have pointed out, it may not be a gender thing; some people are just a******s. This happened earlier in the week and I’m pretty sure it’s just one of those cliquish park moms who can’t mind their own business. The elementary school mom’s in the area have formed their own Mean Girls clique at the park and I think they’re just trying to make me uncomfortable. Probably gonna get some temporary tattoos put on my face for the next time I go to give them something to really have a moral panic over :D
Nichole Harris 2 years ago
Maybe I'm missing something... But do most kidnappers/or perverts take the kids to the park??? Why would the lady even think that??? What is wrong with the world!
Fora Nakit 2 years ago
Most kidnappers and perverts are members of the family, not the strangers in the park.
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Brainmas 2 years ago
When I was a stay home mom I loved park dads. Park moms were always intimidating and seemed more judgemental. Dads were more likely to also be hanging out on the playground with their kid, as I was. The moms that would yell from the bench for their kids not to climb some ladder or whatever made me so mad.
Rahul Pawa 2 years ago
OP is being too kind suggesting it might not be a gender thing. The situation described was DEFINITELY a gender thing.
Premislaus de Colo 2 years ago
As a single dad of two daughters I couldn't agree more. Questions and suspicious stares everywhere, but especially beaches, hotels, swimming pools, park playgrounds, etc.
Barbara Kayton 2 years ago
Statistically, most kids are abused by someone close to them, this paranoia has got to stop.
Neill Powell 2 years ago
I've had the same issue. I wasn't raised that way. Taking a little girl on a walk or play with them does NOT MEAN i am doing something weird. besides, little boys are naughty disgusting little smelly turds when they're at "that" certain age. Took a little girl to play with the ducks at a pond while mommy was having some wine-time (i was on a date with her). A Karen came to me and said "Where is her mother" so I replied "She's DEAD. Would you like to know more". Mortified she left. Spoke to the GF afterwards and she giggled and said, "watch this" .. She went to find the Karen and said "I am NOT DEAD, but i Died a little inside when you accosted the man my daughter was playing with looking at the ducks"
SummerVeE 2 years ago
If I'm at a busy park or playground, my radar is on alert for threats. People catch my eye if they're circling, approaching multiple kids then backing off again when a parent spots them. Something seems off about their body language - it's hard to explain. I wouldn't approach anyone or stare to make them uncomfortable, but if they are watching or approaching my kid, I'll be in their path.
#7
I don't know if this has been said yet and it will probably get buried however I feel it must be said.
Sensible sizing. When looking at women's clothing it's always a massive guessing game because there is NO standardization. A size 2 in one store is a 4 in another, or a 0 at another, sometimes even in the same brand but at a different store. Don't even get me started in on the fact that they typicall also tend to skip over the odd numbers in ladies' and juniors have the odd numbers only.
No matter what I do or where I go, I ALWAYS fall between the sizes. I always have to buy a size up and then do a bit of altering in hopes to get it to fit.
DrBronxx 2 years ago
I don't think this is exclusive to women's clothing. I have this problem with all of my clothes and shoes.
Elizabeth Harless 2 years ago
Definitely not! My late husband was a "short large". Finding shirts that were big enough without sleeves that reached past his fingertips was nigh impossible!
Load More Replies... El Cucuy 2 years ago
Men have the same issue. "Standard" sizes (and in some cases even measurements!) vary by manufacturer.
Tabitha 2 years ago (edited)
Excuse me? Aren’t a man’s 32x34 pants ALWAYS 32” waist X 34” inseam? You’re inferring that rulers and measuring tapes aren’t uniform. Or have men’s clothing manufacturers suddenly started measuring by eye or whatever mood they’re in that day, like they do with women’s clothing?
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Deborah B 2 years ago
I take a tape measure when I go shopping. Faster to measure the waistband and length than try on three different sizes in each style.
David Albro 2 years ago
I wouldn't be surprised if it's more a problem with women, but I have consistency problems all the time. That's why when I find something that fits, I buy it until they stop making it. They has happened to me several times. A few years ago about 10 of the same cut T-shirt because they fit me reasonably well (but not anywhere near the best)
Stephanie L Thesing 2 years ago
I’ve never quite understood how something as basic as a t-shirt can vary so much in shape and fit. I used to be able to buy tshirts sight unseen cause I knew exactly what size I wear, it’s not so cut-and-dry anymore..
#8
The diversity of their wardrobe. Don’t get me wrong. I know that women’s fashion is often frustratingly inconvenient and unpractical. That said, I wish men’s clothes can include more than 3 colors and like... 4 styles.
Xip Dizc 2 years ago
Agreed. At my office women can wear shorts, skirts, dresses. All men can wear are pants. They won't even let me wear my kilts which I wear all the time outside of work.
Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 2 years ago
Wait, they won't LET you wear your kilts?
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Stannous Flouride 2 years ago
Someone told me back in the 1960s that clothes fall into two categories- costumes and uniforms. Except for a brief period in the Army I have always chosen the former. At 71 I have 5 colors in my hair. A few weeks ago in Japan: IMG_202310...5b23ba.jpg 
PolymathNecromancer 2 years ago
Love it!!! ..... Side question: did anybody decide to nickname you Tin yet?
Load More Replies... Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
My son used to love to have his nails painted. Now he's become aware he's a boy and suddenly no more. Makes me sad. He really loved his sparkles. Why do we have to make nail polish a girl thing?
Sylvi Ann Børsheim 1 year ago
When my youngest son was born, almost all boy's clothes were dark blue, and maybe some light blue. In protest I bought him a one- piece, that was a bit expensive, in bright red!
Entity_unfound She/they/it 2 years ago
My dad wears a lot of colourful bear t-shirts from a shop called Lucky
BrownTabby 2 years ago
Try ethical clothing companies; they tend to be less afraid of colour in general (as well as not being crappy in the design of their women’s clothes.)
#9
I have a bright AF personality, why can’t I let that show without someone feeling the need to let their opinion on my sexuality be known? I’m a peacock captain, you’ve gotta let me fly!!!
EarthGrowl 2 years ago
I've been married 30 years. My husband's midlife crisis lead him to bleach his long hair- to the middle of his back- and started dying it a multitude of colors, red, pink, purple blue. We are American truck drivers. He gets glared at by the Trump worshippers, they probably think my husband is gay. He doesn't care, he just wants to ensure no one thinks he is a Trump supporter. So if you happen to see a shiny black tractor trailer rolling through the Southern U.S. and the driver has long blue hair and a goatee it might be my husband.
David Albro 2 years ago
Probably a dude with a bubbly personality that many people feel the need to comment on his sexuality because of.
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I would love to feel safe going anywhere alone. I think about hiking solo with such a longing... my boyfriend doesn't get it at all, he thinks I'm being silly. It makes me so sad/angry.
Edit: Holy moly, I didn't expect to wake up to this. Thanks for all the awards and solidarity. I want to add that of course men can and do also feel this way, women don't have the market cornered on the fear of something terrible happening when going out alone. And, where you go is also a huge factor- if you're in a sketchy place, both men and women are going to be nervous, of course.. but I've had the fact that I cannot do things solo (no matter where I am) crammed into my head all my life, and when I doubted that fact.. something really bad actually happened. I'd rather not tempt fate at this point. I know that if I went on a hike solo, there is a very good chance nothing would happen, however I would not enjoy my time in the woods anyway. The fear of what could happen overshadows any enjoyment I might get. I've taken self defense classes, but even still, I'm the type of person that will "freeze" instead of fight or flee. I don't want a gun either, I don't want that kind of power in my hands or in my house.
My comment was not made to be a contest between women and men. I made it because all I would like to do is feel safe alone, and it makes me sad that I will most likely *never in my lifetime* feel safe being by myself in a host of different scenarios. I have many guy friends that are confident when they go out somewhere, they don't believe anything bad will happen, and that's all I want. The confidence and peace of mind that no one is going to hurt me. That's it.
just me 2 years ago
If you like dogs and would take good care of one, you might consider getting a large dog. My pup is a sweetheart that loves being outside. She has also caused a few guys that seemed sketchy to back of quickly just by doing her "hey, I don't know you yet" bark. Not why I got her, but I do feel safer knowing she's got my back.
meow point1 2 years ago
Also, I think men and women worry about different things. Speaking as a woman, women are more likely to worry about rape, whereas men worry about being mugged.
oui.oui.croissant (ollie) 2 years ago
I just did some research, 91 percent of kidnappers are male, and the ratio of females kidnapped to males is around 72:28
Mario Strada 2 years ago
"I'm the type of person that will "freeze" instead of fight or flee." If you really want to overcome that issue, it can be trained out of you. I am not saying it's easy, but it's possible, and it could be life-saving. It doesn't assure you can overcome any situation, but it's an advantage.
EarthGrowl 2 years ago
I am a tiny female truck driver. I'm 5 foot, 2 inches (with my boots on) and weigh about 120lbs. I have made so many solo cross country trips in the last 20 years, I can't keep track of the trips. I have never felt unsafe or had a problem with anyone. I've parked in abandoned Kmart parking lots in Detroit overnight, interstate rest areas and busy truck stops. A lot of the other drivers have thought I was a lot lizard, a prostitute, but they back off when they realize I'm a driver. I think the world is a lot safer than most women expect. But don't present yourself as skittish or a frightened little doe. That attracts creeps. Don't act like your better than the people you encounter. If you act like you're terrified of every man you encounter your just going to insult them and make them angry. That might put you in a bad position. You don't have to be too friendly, be social, mention the weather. Show that you see them as a Person, not some kind of monster.
Monique Miller 2 years ago
I live in an awesome hiking place, and I do hike solo near my house. However, when I hike a more challenging trail, I do hike with friends mostly because if I fall and hurt a body part, I don’t want to be by myself.
#11
Not worrying about appearing creepy, or scaring people while just walking home at night.
Edit: My phone is at 1%, so I gotta make this quick but ty so much for the gold. Never had anything upvoted this much!
Donkey boi 2 years ago
A tip a girl friend gave me: If your out at night and think you might be appearing creepy or scary to nearby women, just call your mum or your girlfriend. It's hard to appear intimidating when your talking like you do to someone you love.
Jesha 2 years ago
That's great advice! It doesn't involve even talking to the person who appears afraid or approaching them but would help a lot for setting up a better passive vibe.
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Mr. Nurse Man 2 years ago
I’ll offer some advice for my fellow guys: you’re not going to appear as threatening at night if you wear brighter colors or reflective clothing. And if you make sure your face is easily visible, it means you can be identified - which is the opposite of what creeps want. Plus, in the event of a false allegation (which sadly happens), you’ll be able to corroborate your story with security cameras, witnesses, etc. Or if you’re lucky enough to have a service animal you can take places, it’s less threatening because it’s a cute doggy (usually) and I have my hands full making sure my buddy doesn’t leave packages behind as we walk..
The Short Lady 2 years ago
It's funny, women feel unsafe because a not insignificant amount of men behave badly. Also, decent men worry about making women uncomfortable because a not insignificant amount of men behave badly.
EarthGrowl 2 years ago
Don't be one of those snobby people who clutch their purse or hurriedly lock their car door when a "poor" person walks by. There is no such thing as a "wrong neighborhood" any neighborhood is someone's home. Guys, if you're walking down a sidewalk and a woman is walking solo a head of you, don't just lurk behind her. Say something about the weather to break the tension, a neutral topic, offer to walk a head instead of behind. Ladies, most men aren't monsters. Give a strange guy the chance to be a hero for even a few seconds and they will usually jump at the chance. We were always taught not to talk to strangers, but speaking establishes a human connection.
meow point1 2 years ago
My father once told me he feels awkward sitting next to a woman (provided it's not Mum or a relative) on the bus for that reason.
SadieCat17 (she/her) 2 years ago
Don't detract. Sure women face far worse problems related to walking at night, but men and women have a common enemy affecting us both in different ways.
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Being able to go shirtless, not in most businesses obviously, but like outside or swimming etc
ETA: I didn't realize it's technically legal where I live. However that conflicts with indecent exposure laws:
https://www.findlaw.com/state/new-york-law/new-york-indecent-exposure-laws.html
Also people would stare, be creepy, freak out, etc
Neill Powell 2 years ago
I think If I saw more boobs in public, i wouldn't wonder what they look like under the top. If a girl wears no bra under a loose top, Most "breast men" go supercomputer-processing and work out size, shape, definition and all the other bits in about 3 seconds. After that, meh, the magic is basically lost because the mystery is now gone. It's not a glamour-shot so there's no "response" that need to be enticed. Perhaps "smaller than it though, or perhaps, hmm bigger than expected" but it diffuses into the ether and becomes a non-issue from there in out. Butt-guys get the best candy, because you can't pad that.
Load More Replies... J Adams 2 years ago
What is (some of) America’s problem with boobs? Male nipples are fine but female nipples no no no, it’s so bizarre especially when probably most of the pornography in the world is shot in America and breast augmentation surgeries are very popular
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
It's not all that great. Mostly just leads to sunburn and skin cancer.
Antoinette Maldari 2 years ago
Don't know why you got downvoted, Jared. Here's an upvote because it's true it you don't wear sunscreen.
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Ruth Harper 2 years ago
But I'd also add being able to do that safely without being sexualized. In general, having our bodies not sexualized everywhere, all the time. Not being treated as an object for men to lust after or if not then I'm not worth anything because I'm not lusted after. I'm a person. My body is mine. It isn't a sexual object unless I want it to be.
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
Even just to not wear a bra. Officially I have declared I'm too old to be wearing stupid bras. I hate them. But realistically, I'm some places you need to wear a bra.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
I was married (briefly) to an absolute redneck. One hot summer day in Seattle, my boss comes into my office in a panic. "Your husband is walking this way - without a shirt on!". I was mortified. I made it to the front of the building before he could been seen by anyone else. I was like "WTF is WRONG with you? You don't go walking into a place of business bare chested. Get TF out of here". We had a huge fight when I got home. He literally couldn't understand why this was inappropriate. We were already headed towards divorce and this was just one more nail in the coffin.
#13
Most leaders are probably your gender, just like most heroes in stories and movies as you grow up, most businessmen, most inventors, most politicians etc. Plus there's also the phsysical strength, no periods, rarely if at all being bothered by random creepy perverts, people comment less on your body.
Tabitha 2 years ago (edited)
I absolutely fume when men say women can’t handle leadership roles, and when you tell them women can be natural leaders just like men, they then start asking “OK, then name me some women in leadership roles throughout history”. Well fuckface, whose fault is it that they are so few? You a*****e men did your best to block women from even being educated, much less learn any of the skills that would help them be independent for so many centuries. Hell, it’s barely even been 30 years since we couldn’t have a checking account in our own names, or take out a mortgage or any other kind of loan by ourselves. Then when things really started changing in the seventies and eighties, you made sure to relegate us to menial, non-promotion type jobs, thereby blocking us from even being in the running for a promotion. Remember hearing about the “Glass Ceiling”? That f****r exists, that glass is think, and it’s only just starting to crack. That’s why it’s only NOW that we’re finally seeing some women being given equal chances at rising in the ranks to even become leaders—-and proving they’re as good or even better than men at it. Give it another 50 years, and the list of women who are leaders will grow and maybe even surpass the list of men who are leaders.
Libstak 2 years ago
Whenever there are female leaders, the effort to tear them down are downright diabolical. They will attack their fashion sense, hair, claim they are emotional, can't think logically. Media is saturated with attacks on women. Yet men can lose their tempers, rage and verbally assault others and be admired. As if that's not out of control emotion. As if bar fights, domestic assaults and sociological abuse of women, gangster behaviour, tearing apart buildings, burning cars and looting etc are not the ultimate in out of control emotions that a significantly much smaller percentage of women ever enact.
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Mark Hewis 2 years ago
My heroes were my baby sitter who got me into physics , first proper job,Fiona,who took me under wing and aunt who taught me piano. All utterly awesome women.
#14
Sun dresses in summer. They look so cool and comfortable!
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Well women started wearing pants, why can't men start having something similar to dresses? It is very comfortable in summer.
UpQuarkDownQuark (he/hey you) 2 years ago
Come and live in NW Portland. It’s far from a perfect place, but people who might otherwise present as men wearing skirts and dresses is more common by the day. It’s freaking awesome.
Laura Williams 2 years ago
You just have to find one in your size. Of course you also have to be willing to deal with criticism.
Nae Nae BB 2 years ago
They're truly wonderful. If you want to wear a dress, by all means wear one! I don't care your gender or how you choose to identify
#15
Guys don’t have to deal with the side effects of birth control (or just birth control in general).
The weight gain, hormonal issues, and other side effects can be a nightmare, especially if you’re just starting and trying to find what’s best for you.
Donkey boi 2 years ago
I hate condoms, but I use them because the wife didn't like taking the pill. I offered to get "fixed" but she doesn't want me to. We need that male pill!
Fun Fan 2 years ago
Cindoms are there to prevent yourself from some nasty STDs .....
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Then, after 30 to 40 years of monthly periods and probably pregnancy too (including miscarriages), you get to go through f*****g menopause, and even once you’re pronounced medically post-menopausal the symptoms don’t all just disappear. which will extend nature’s continual assault on your body until you die. If it’s not menstruation or pregnancy messing with you, it’s menopause not eve freeing you from physical discomfort. The ONLY good part of menopause was the end of having periods. Yay. But now I have to deal with hot flashes that come out of nowhere and persist, even when it’s cold. I remember having hot flashes that happened so often and lasted so long, I ended up wearing summer clothing all year long. Imaging being perfectly comfortable, even sometimes feeling a little uncomfortably warm, wearing shorts, a sleeveless shirt, and flip-flops standing outside talking to my husband when it’s below freezing—-and he’s bundled up so much he looks like the Michelin Man, and still saying he’s cold! That was me when the hot flashes were at their worst. They’ve calmed down quite a bit since then, but still periodically creep up unexpectedly.
ScootyPuffJr 2 years ago
Let's not forget perimenopause...the 10-12 years of fresh hell before menopause...
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#16
Men can't/don't get pregnant
Elizabeth Brown 2 years ago
I find it kind of funny this could reasonably be said by either sex and still apply to this list
Michelle Reynolds 2 years ago
Be real people-if men had to deal with periods, pregnancy and childbirth, the human race would have been lost a long time ago.
RandomEpiBioPerson 2 years ago
Technically, even if you ignore the existence of trans individuals, there are individuals born male, and have fully functional ovaries, with the capability of carrying a pregnancy. Many of these individuals just don't find out unless they get a cyst or develop some other problem with their ovaries. On top of that, trans-men with still fully functional ovaries exist, so this one is still wrong. I can see this as both a positive and a negative though.
#17
Generally speaking, having people take your problems seriously and being able to safely express that you’re having them rather than being told to “man up” and just deal with it. You’d be shocked and horrified what kind of stuff men just shove in a box and mentally lock away and keep going like nothing is wrong.
Again, generally speaking. I recognize there’s a lot of women with a lot of problems, but people are generally more open to listening to them and taking it seriously, in my experience.
Tuesday 2 years ago
Even as women we get told to calm down and stop overreacting, it's not a real problem, are you on your period? Men have it worse in some ways, women have it worse in others. I wish people would just listen, no matter the gender, and stop using social stereotypes to box them in and ignore them
BrownTabby 2 years ago
Yall really say this when women die as a result of doctors not taking us seriously, huh?
#18
Not having to shave everywhere 😫
Biytemii 2 years ago
Yea.... I only shave now when it's summer and I want to have hairless legs on the beach. Other than that my husband deals with my Italian hairiness lmao 🤣 honestly most people could care less and the ones that do are not the kind of people I care to be around anyway. Once I hit 30 I realized I don't actually have to torture my skin every 2 days
Bols 2 years ago
It's funny how after 30 you just care less and less about others :)
Load More Replies... Mario Strada 2 years ago
Speaking of shaving... as a guy I hate carrying a beard (mine was snow-white since the age of 20) and I hate shaving. That's something I could do without.
Donkey boi 2 years ago (edited)
I shave everywhere from the neck down. I hate having body hair. Weirdly, it doesn't bother me on women, and never has.
BookFanatic 2 years ago
It took me (female) decades to realize I didn't have to shave anything I didn't want to.
Stephanie Barr 2 years ago
I stopped shaving when my youngest daughter started getting hairy. If she wants to shave, I'll teach her how, but I didn't want her to feel pressured to do it because of social pressures. So far, she hasn't seemed interested and I honestly don't miss it at all.
George Costanza 2 years ago
Meh, I shave my face every single day of the week. My wife shaves her legs and armpits maybe once a week. Not sure anyone is really getting it worse here.
Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 2 years ago
It's ironic how women are constantly pressured to shave but women are also told to buy more expensive pink razors that aren't superior to men's razors in any way.
Papa 2 years ago
"Both have to shave everywhere?" I didn't get that memo.
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#19
Being physically stronger and higher stamina. I really like to work but is always told that I can’t handle it
Donkey boi 2 years ago
Actually stamina is not something that men naturally have more of. For the "factory standard" human, men do have more natural strength, but (physical) stamina is the same. Also, women can improve their stamina faster than men.
Donald 2 years ago
Very true, there are some killer long distance swimmers and runners that are women. Shoot, they put most of the dudes to shame in those events. Something explosive like contact sports is where the gap is just because of physiology.
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Awesome At Being Autistic 2 years ago
Women have more stamina than men. Source: Me, with 36 hours of labor before I finally gave birth naturally. I'd like to see a man last that long.
MotherofGuineaPigs 2 years ago
Work at a big box home improvement store in the paint department. You will quickly get strong enough to carry 5 gal buckets of paint. It is undeniably affirming when a man asks to carry it for you and you carry 2 at the same time. The look on their faces is priceless.
Theoretical Empiricist 2 years ago
Actually, there was a big write-up in Scientific American about how women are "built for endurance" while men are "built for power". The implications show that it was women were more likely to chase down the prey than men. The paleontology records show that both sexes participated in hunting and gathering rather than being split by sex.
Tjoori Vids 2 years ago
Ha. I have 3ha, 2 horses, a donkey, a bunch of chickens. I heat with firewood. I'm 58, and I look after all of that on my own. People keep telling me "You live in paradise, I wish I could..." and when the odd one comes to stay for a couple of days, they get a wake up call... because I'll be out there, knocking in fence posts, taking down dead trees in the woods with a chainsaw, chopping it up and bringing it back to the house with a wheelbarrow...harrowing fields, repairing fences, mucking out etc etc etc all of it usually physical and sometimes very hard work. "Oh..." Don't tell me I can't handle it, because I'll run rings around you. BTW, I'm 5'2. :P
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
you can always increase your stamina. it takes work and it hurts, but if you push you can do it.
#20
Unsolicited hugs, cuddling without romance
Niamh Gallagher 2 years ago
It's the one thing I miss most about hospitality is the amount of hugs given and received for all sorts of reasons.
#21
The school dress code…specifically shoulders
Elladine DesIsles 2 years ago
I wore a uniform for a couple of years at a Catholic high school (publicly-funded parallel to the non-religious public schools here in Ontario). In many ways it made things worse, even at my all-girl school. There are economic disparities, of course - not all families can afford uniforms, or all/multiple components, keeping kids in suitable sizes and the fabric in good repair as they grow, or regularly laundering/drycleaning uniform elements (kilts do not just go in the wash). Then, when everyone is dressed alike, differences become highlighted, especially those things kids are self-conscious about, with no way for a "curvy" girl or a "scrawny" boy to hide a bit in their clothes. Kids will still still find ways to personalize, of course, and how much they get away with depends on how the staff see them - lots of room for gender and racial bias there, or simply to favour the smart kids. And the uniforms at my school had obvious misgynist intentions.....
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Michelle Reynolds 2 years ago
I work in education and I can tell you that there is no dress code anymore. Teens wear what they want. I just don't get the girls who wear Playboy merch. It is such a demeaning magazine, so why would a female want to support that?
Austin L 2 years ago
I have a theory: they like the symbol and the merchandise, not the magazine.
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KnightOwl 2 years ago (edited)
Never understood Why people are allowing this awful sexist behaviour. Teaching girls that their bodies are shameful and need to be covered up is disgusting but also insisting that boys need to be protected from seeing something as simple and nonsexual as a girl's shoulder is very weird and is very condescending towards boys. The whole thing is ridiculous and would be laughable if it wasn't affecting so many young girl's education.
sky 2 years ago
like tank tops and crop tops my school had a dress code against that but they changed it a bit idk what they did tho.
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Aiden Brough 2 years ago
It stops the need for kids to be bullied because they don't have the right branded clothing. At least that is the theory...
ScootyPuffJr 2 years ago
Our school tried it years ago. The kids found other ways to bully--with uniforms, you then had to have $600 shoes, the right socks, the best hair, etc. or suffer the consequences. And as a teacher it made it a harder to see who might be in a tough living situation at home.
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#22
The physical contact they share with their friends. Guys usually don't go around hugging each other
Edit: Personally for me a lot of why I'm not really a hugger is the culture where I live(Finland). I don't really want to make other people uncomfortable by invading their personal space. I have a lot of female friends as well and hugging them is pretty rare too Thank you for all the encouragement though! Maybe I have to make a change
Donkey boi 2 years ago
My friends were all huggers. I guess we were just more comfortable with ourselves.
El Cucuy 2 years ago
Same. Most of my men friends are huggers. We always hug when we see each other and hug at goodbye time. Even in public settings. No one around us has ever seemed to care.
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Anya Beboop 2 years ago
You should probably just ask them not to hug you. Proper friends even ask first. Some of mine have sensory issues so always ask.
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Multa Nocte 2 years ago
Come to France. The men and women ALL give each other a "bisou" when they meet and usually when they leave (kiss or air kiss on each side of the face).
Mr. Nurse Man 2 years ago
Maybe I’m weird, but I think we need to encourage platonic and familial physical contact. Hug your friends, family, or even a total stranger that looks like they could use some support (if they’re amenable). Humans are meant to be social creatures and despite what you may read from some people online, we need social interaction which often includes some kind of physical contact. Even just a fist bump or handshake can give you happy chemicals and boost your mood in a notable way, even if only briefly.
Kennedy Stevens 2 years ago
dude, in america its natural for the guys to be hugging. its their way of saying 'hi , i missed you'
#23
They don't have to waste a year of their lives serving in the military in my country.
Luke Wensley 2 years ago
I get the feeling that many people in my country could benefit from a year of military service. Admittedly I could also probably use the experience.
Stannous Flouride 2 years ago
If not military service then some other form of public service. They used to do this in the Netherlands I believe and I think it's a great idea.
Load More Replies... Suck it Trebek 2 years ago
I think in the US everyone should have to do one year of civil service. Not military, civil. I think we would create a more caring, inclusive and accepting society.
Mario Strada 2 years ago
I agree. I experienced military service as a social experiment and it worked with me. I grew up in Rome, Italy, the son of a Diplomat in one of the world's great capitals. I had no idea what the real world was. . When I joined (as an officer but mostly as a dare) I had to deal with people from all over Italy. From kids that had never slept in a bed (we looked for him all over our base, he was sleeping under his own bed) to those that had never used utensils to eat or had never been in a town with a traffic light. It was eye opening and did wonder for me. I learned to make an effort to understand those different from me. To help others if I could, rather than bullying them or ostracize them. I think many countries could use a year of civil or military service where different people from different backgrounds come together and are forced to work together.
Load More Replies... Mario Strada 2 years ago
I have very fond memories of my military service. Yes, it was occasionally a pain and dealing with some of people was hard, but it's good life experience. Plus, it's never a bad idea to know how to shoot a rifle or a .50 Cal. You never know when you are going to need the skill.
Lama 2 years ago
I think it -is- a bad idea to teach people how to shoot a gun, and I hope you -never- going to need that skill.
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Marie Dahme 2 years ago
Well, I think in some countries, like Israel, both genders are required to do a year or two if military service.
Michelle Reynolds 2 years ago
"Waste"????? Wow. We ALL benefit from the military and I really wish I had done it. The benefits towards college etc are tremendous and the obvious aid to your country.
Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 2 years ago
It depends on what they do in the military, they should not be forced to fight in a war, especially a war they don't agree with, it could have disastrous effects on their mental health, I feel like it would be better to make some different service mandatory and have exceptions for people not capable of doing it.
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SadieCat17 (she/her) 2 years ago
If they don't want to do it, it's a waste to them
Load More Replies... Nae Nae BB 2 years ago
It should be equal. Just like the draft here in the USA should also be equal, no gender excluded.
Donald 2 years ago
Conscription is mandatory for almost 40 countries. Most of the time its only men, but there are a few that expect both male and female citizens to join.
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Maureen Rouse 2 years ago
I think that the country could benefit from two year mandatory military service at age 18 or immediately after high school. The 'entitled' youth of today are definitely in need of serious discipline and boundaries. The country would also benefit from having military available in case of crisis.
Donkey boi 2 years ago
That's probably why they finished with "in my country".
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#24
They can cry during movies or TV shows and not get thought less of or made fun of.
Seriously, I get choked up at stupid stuff and have to try to hide it. Need to try to limit it to one manly tear.
MotherofGuineaPigs 2 years ago
I am glad that my late husband didn't hold to this. We decided early on that you can feel how you feel, no judgement. There is enough of that out of the house. He also gave the best hugs.
Poison Ivy/Boo 2 years ago
My husband absolutely takes the pïss out of me when I cry at adverts, TV programmes and movies. Sorry, I wear my heart on my sleeve and I still shed a tear when Kanan sacrifices himself in Rebels.
Neill Powell 2 years ago
Simple laws for men: You Cry watching 3 videos: Armageddon, We Were Soldiers and your Wedding video. There. Easy
#25
Getting compliments.
I’m one of the fortunate ones who at least gets smiled at by women, but I still never get compliments.
XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 2 years ago
Tbf, it can sometimes be difficult to give a man a compliment. Hear me out...I like to compliment people regardless of gender, but sometimes you can tell a guy "that's a great color on you" and what they hear is "I want you to relentlessly hit on me." Not always, and clearly not every guy, but it happens enough that it can be off-putting. I'll still compliment anyone because sometimes it can make a person feel good when they are appreciated in some form, but yeah, it's cuz some guys are creepy. Sorry, and you look lovely today!
Just me, myself, and I 2 years ago
A good thing about growing older being a woman - no one thinks I'm hitting on them anymore, they just take the compliment.
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Mr. Nurse Man 2 years ago
I try to make it a point to give at least one person per day a compliment. And I try to make an extra effort to compliment those close to me more regularly. And a tip I’ve found works for me if I want to complement someone I don’t know on their looks, I say something like “Just wanna complement you for having a really cool hairstyle.” Paired with a mild tone but friendly voice and not lingering around, I’ve not had a bad interaction yet.
Zoey Rayne 2 years ago
One of the students who used to come to our tutoring center was a very sweet neurodivergent 10 year old who I affectionately thought of as a "compliment machine." She wanted to connect with people and understood the value of being kind, so as soon as she sat down with any teacher she would start saying things like, "I like your hair."; "I like your eyebrows."; "I like your face"; "I like your neck"; "I like your shirt"; "I like your knees."; "I like your shoes." She would continue until she had compliment whoever she was sitting with from head to toe. It was one of the cutest rituals I have ever seen.
Donkey boi 2 years ago
As a sociopath, I need compliments like I need oxygen! If they don't come on their own, I'll fish for them.
Sophia Li 2 years ago
Thank you for stating that, even though I am not a sociopath!
Load More Replies... BrownTabby 2 years ago
What do you do to stand out? I compliment things that are unique about people, and the compliments I’ve received have been about something unique I was wearing too.
Thrillion 2 years ago (edited)
I'm a man who has style. Men don't comment other men on their style as often as women compliment other women. If they do, its almost accusatory like "why/how are you dressed up?". I get that women are hesitant of complimenting men due to the possible misunderstanding of attraction. If she's a friend, say something! Same for my wife, I tell her all the time how much of a stylish dresser she is (she's also hot). I have to beg for compliments... Its a little thing but I take the time and I have the gift so its part of who I am, I like talking about it.
#26
Not having to be conscious about who your walking behind, the distance you are from somebody or the way your walking to appear "less threatening"
Final score:
34points
TheDag (Submission author) 2 years ago
let me clarify I hate both sides of this before I get ratioed 10 years into the future, both the fact that I have to be aware of it and that its a thing that women generally have to be on the look out so much, its a s****y world and I have to try and not take it personally but it does still hurt
Jesha 2 years ago
Hey there's no shame in feeling that way. It's what you do about it, which is to continue to try to do your best to not be threatening. You seem like a good dude.
Load More Replies... Laura Williams 2 years ago
I appreciate anyone who gives me space. Being female means being aware at at all times.
#27
I would say being pretty. Men are not considered pretty and people don't compliment us so we live our whole lives being un-appreciated in that way. This is just a generalization, but I'd say most men like me simply don't get complimented and are not considered inherently valuable unless we do or accomplish some great thing.
Jesha 2 years ago
Hey, just let your friends know. One thing that helped my dudes who were feeling this way was to start complimenting other friends of theirs when their hair looked nice or they had a good shirt etc. etc.. It normalized the concept and they started lifting each other up more.
Mr. Nurse Man 2 years ago
I still remember being a new nursing student and a recent graduate complimented me on my kind smile and told me “Keep your beautiful personality when you treat patients, and you’ll be very successful and more fulfilled.” She was my “test patient” while practicing taking vital signs, and aside from my wife telling me that I was a “beefcake” in my wedding tux, that was the best compliment anyone has ever given me.
Huddo's sister 2 years ago
I was talking to the kids at work about this. They insisted boys couldn't be called pretty, only handsome. I challenged this but I don't know how many had second thoughts about it.
BrownTabby 2 years ago
Do you put effort into your appearance? The term “pretty boy” does exist; it’s just that men censure other men for it and too few men are willing to push back on it.
Thea Sieling 2 years ago
Men being able to go pee without taking off half of your clothes ... .lol
#28
Pretty clothes pretty everything
Tabitha 2 years ago (edited)
Pretty, maybe. But not always comfortable. Or even substantial—-meaning made of thin material to the point it’s pretty much see through. Then there’s the issue of plunging necklines, cutouts, shortness, tightness, coverage, etc, etc, etc. That s**t is incredibly uncomfortable. Then there are the unwanted eyes on you and words coming out of filthy unfiltered mouths. Why do you think so many of us prefer to wear loose and comfortable clothes, even if they are rather shapeless?
Poison Ivy/Boo 2 years ago
I'll take my lumberjack shirts and jumpers over thin, tight and uncomfortable tops any day, I'm always cold and comfort comes before style any day!
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Being able to locate items in the refrigerator
Irishwoman abroad 2 years ago
I'm not sure which gender is envious of the other here! All I know is I could have half a side of beef in the fridge, and the men in my life would stand there with the door open, asking, "what's for dinner?"!
Donkey boi 2 years ago
So true! My wife couldn't find truck if it tried to park in our fridge.
Maureen Rouse 2 years ago
C'mon...most men just look in the front and say 'we're out of' whatever. They don't even bother to bend down and actually look!
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
Locating anything period. I have to ask my husband, "Did you LOOK look or did you man look?" because inevitably whatever he's looking for is behind a jar or carton of something.
Steve Hall 2 years ago
Wait until you get old and realize that all the things on the bottom shelf are out of reach.
Michelle Reynolds 2 years ago
My ex couldn't find his way out of a paper bag without a map, much less find ANYTHING in the house.
What do you think ?
Jill Bussey 2 years ago
I can't believe body autonomy is not on this list, and at the top as well. When your male doctor/gynaecologist says don't do this/that/the other, because you're a young woman and you can't possibly know your own mind.
Jesha 2 years ago
GOD we took my dad down to the local lakefront hangout my parents and I both did antics at in our time. He's older so he smugly went 'You know I can't make it back to the house' and got to have a moment with nature by peeing between the boulders. Gave him s**t about 'oh you didn't hit your cane did you' and he got defensive about his aim. In reality, mom and I were spending the time waiting for him sulking about how jealous we were. That s**t gave him some kind of spiritual boost for DAYS.
Load More Replies... Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
I wish I could just whip it out and pee behind a tree sometimes. Also the last 10 did not show up, so sorry for repeating, but how men's pants are sized in inches and always accurate.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
And have leg/waist sizes. It's extremely hard to find short pants for women
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Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 2 years ago (edited)
Men can also wear skirts, the problem is that it's difficult to find women's clothing that fits amab people. (I haven't looked for many skirts but I know it is difficult to find tops and I assume it is similar for skirts)
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Jill Bussey 2 years ago
I can't believe body autonomy is not on this list, and at the top as well. When your male doctor/gynaecologist says don't do this/that/the other, because you're a young woman and you can't possibly know your own mind.
Jesha 2 years ago
GOD we took my dad down to the local lakefront hangout my parents and I both did antics at in our time. He's older so he smugly went 'You know I can't make it back to the house' and got to have a moment with nature by peeing between the boulders. Gave him s**t about 'oh you didn't hit your cane did you' and he got defensive about his aim. In reality, mom and I were spending the time waiting for him sulking about how jealous we were. That s**t gave him some kind of spiritual boost for DAYS.
Load More Replies... Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
I wish I could just whip it out and pee behind a tree sometimes. Also the last 10 did not show up, so sorry for repeating, but how men's pants are sized in inches and always accurate.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
And have leg/waist sizes. It's extremely hard to find short pants for women
Load More Replies... Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 2 years ago (edited)
Men can also wear skirts, the problem is that it's difficult to find women's clothing that fits amab people. (I haven't looked for many skirts but I know it is difficult to find tops and I assume it is similar for skirts)
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