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It can be sobering to realize that oftentimes, the most painful things you hear from someone don’t come from an enemy and often aren’t even intended to be insults. The truth is that our loved ones can and will sometimes tell us things that can hurt very badly, with both good and ill intent.

Someone asked “What’s the most hurtful thing a man can hear from a woman?” and people shared their relevant examples. So get comfortable as you read through, upvote the most insightful posts and be sure to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments.

#1

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison I had a drinking problem 6 years ago. I broke up with my gf because subconsciously I knew I was in a bad head space. Didn’t want to take her down with me. She came to grab her stuff from the house. We lived together. She said to me “Don’t become your father. You are better than him.” My father and mother are both alcoholics. Mother has been sober for 30+ years. Father has not and is awful while drinking.

Her saying this broke me. I quit drinking less than one week later. S**t f****d me up. Hurt me to my core. But I thank her daily for saying this to me. Not literally.But got my head straight. Might not be exactly what this post is asking for. This is my worse experience but at the same the best.

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Ace
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, _telling_ someone that they're turning into their parent is never going to go down well, but here the suggestion was clearly a well-needed wake-up call.

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#2

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison When I was about 20 one of my best friends came around and was upset that a guy had rejected her and said she wasn't attractive. She was crying and slightly drunk, as I hugged her she said "now I understand what it must feel like to be you".

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#3

Every argument I have had with my sister's since I was a child has resulted in my mum saying "you know what they are like, just let them have their way" because apparently I can take it better. I've basically been told my entire life that my opinion is irrelevant because I am a man and don't cry about it and therefore it doesn't affect my feelings.

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Disgruntled Pelican
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband also grew up in a very "men are not allowed to have feelings unless they involve anger" sort of household and thankfully, we are breaking him of that mentality, but it's been hard.

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#4

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison "You're too sensitive, it feels like I'm dating a girl."

My first ex told me this, and I thought it was a me problem. Turns out there are women who don't have a problem with sensitive guys (e.g. my wife).

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#5

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison We can stay married, but as friends. I want to pursue the other man.

No, thank you. Here is a divorce for you.

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Blondie23
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my exhusband did this to me. He wanted to stay married and keep our lifestyle but wanted a girlfriend... like nope!

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#6

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison For me, it was when she said "I'm only with you because you've got a big d**k and know how to use it. I never really gave a s**t about anything else."

In response to me opening up about a few emotional things and the experience of being roofied by an older (adult) woman when I was 14 at a middle school party.

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Jenn Smith
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry that happened..some people are mean. Regardless of age, status, race..some people just suck

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#7

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison Using something you never told anyone else against you.

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RabidChild
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This. Devastating when it turns out someone you trusted wasn't trustworthy at all

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#8

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison Once had someone tell me, after years of being the "rock" in the relationship, "You're just not that strong, are you?" It's like all those moments of supporting them suddenly meant nothing.

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Aboredpanda
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. Callous. And says something about how little the other party thinks of them. Relationship ending sentence, really.

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#10

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison When you’re trying to communicate your wants and needs in a friendship/relationship and they basically say “this is who I am, I’m not going to accommodate for you”

By all means, prioritize yourself, but friendships are a two-way street, so you can’t expect to just mindlessly do what you want and expect everyone to adjust to what you’re doing.

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Debby Keir
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes and no. There's a hard line somewhere, and relationships as well as friendships are not always for life.

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#11

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison "But you're so nice, how come you're single" if i knew I wouldn't be single and rubbing salt into that wound isn't doing any favors.

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Ace
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah that's borderline friendzone stuff. like "if only I could find a guy like you, but not you, obviously".

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#13

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison “I wish I never had a child with you”


“I’m going to make sure you only get supervised visits to see your daughter”


“You’re so f*****g stupid, you f*****g ape”


Then the next day , acts like nothing happened and business as usual. Just because your close to having your period , doesn’t mean you get to base all your actions and words on the emotions your feeling .

Letting emotions run your life makes you weak and undesirable.


(This is brief, and a lot more things have been said. I literally have never said anything bad to her to make sure I don’t sink to that level).

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LaserBrain
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In the end, you're still responsible for the words that come out of your mouth. No one can control that except for you.

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#14

“your brother f***s better than you. but worse than your dad. but they’re both better than you. also we’re getting divorced because i’m having your best friends baby”.

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#15

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison I lost most of my hair around 25 years old. It was tough for me and I started thinking about hair transplant but I was not sure at 100% if I wanted to proceed. I was playing squash with my ex-girlfriend when we started having the discussion during a break. With the sweat, my hair looked even thinner and closer to what I would actually look like completely bold.
She starting crying when she heard about my hesitation and told me to do it because “I disgusted her” like this.
It was tough, especially because you don’t have much control on boldness and it is a common issue for many young men.

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JJ
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2 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband started going bald while he was still a late teenager. He's been through a lot of bullying due to this and just started shaving his head when he started Army. I got to know him like this but felt deeply sorry that he's been through so much for something he couldn't influence. Anyhow, that man started growing a beard a few years ago and looks pretty damn bada*s this way. He doesn't mind about his baldness but his beard ... 😅

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#16

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison You’re not enough for me; I’m moving on to better.

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Nina
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair, men and women seem to think they are good enough when they're just not. Sometimes, it just needs to be said so they know that they are the problem. My ex wasn't good enough for me and I told him so. Then i met and married the man who was.

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#17

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison I don't like the movie Crocodile Dundee II.

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#18

You have been raising a child that's not yours. That's the biggest L a guy can't take and the biggest insult.

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Aboredpanda
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even if it was true, the child is yours for having raised it like a parent from birth. No one can take that away from you. Disgusting thing to say. Contact a lawyer practicing family law immediately if a woman ever says this to you. Make sure you have solid legal advice before doing or saying anything to change your situation.

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#19

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison “His jokes are funnier” might as well be saying you want a divorce.

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Multa Nocte
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone is overly tender if they actually believe that this is saying someone wants a divorce.

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#20

I never loved you.

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InfamousBerry34
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It hurts to realise that an entire relationship was fake. It really hurts.

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#21

“The only reason you didn’t get me pregnant when i stopped taking my birth control, is because you’re a lesser species.”

We werent even trying to have a baby in the first place…..?

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Aboredpanda
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2 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

... one: It can take up to six months before hormonal contraceptives stop having an effect on a womans body if she's been taking it for many years. Two: Could be something wrong with HER reproductive ability. Three: RUN.

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#22

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison "Maybe your father was right to treat you like a dog, you do belong on a leash".

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Aboredpanda
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This sounds more like somthing an abuse person would say in general, than slmething a woman might say to a man. Vile.

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#23

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison Your mom must be so disappointed in you.

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#24

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison "Is it in yet?".

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Solidhog
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminds me of that joke, "It may be a small organ, but I did not realise I would be playing in a cathedral."

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#25

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison To me the most hurtful thing was getting nothing at all I got broken up with and asked what I did that caused this and she replied “ I don’t know”. That sentence sat in my head for months. After 3 years I got I don’t know … I’d rather get told anything else than I don’t know.

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Aboredpanda
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well that sucks but isn't it better with honesty than some sort of lie? Sometimes a person just falls out of love, and there's really nothing more to it, hurtful as it is.

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#26

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison When a women expects you to there thru her hardships and emotional well being and then when you open up just once or try to find some comfort. She makes it all about herself or starts having a dry spell on you.

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#27

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison I was once told that I 'wasn't toxic enough' i don't think that really hurt me, but I still think about that sometimes.

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Caramello
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Remember talking about relationships with coworkers and had one woman say, "I'm toxic when it comes to relationships." She went on to detail how if things are going "too well" in the relationship, she needs to stir up something. It was just bizarre that she wore the "toxic" label with pride.

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#28

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison "It's not yours".

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Lez Be Honest
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2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It? Like the lamp isn't his? The couch perhaps...Surely we aren't referring to a child as an it?!

#29

While we were sitting at a table, chatting, my cousin's wife told me "I could've found someone like you, but you come with a lot of problems. I settled for him because I don't want the hassle"

She is bat s**t ugly and way below the level of my cousin's. Disgusting.

Edit: I didn't get hurt at all, my cousin propably did. I feel bad for him.

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#30

For me, it would be hearing, "I don't respect you anymore." Respect is a cornerstone of any relationship, and losing that can feel like losing everything.

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LaserBrain
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lack of respect is usually shown through actions, not someone actually saying "I don't respect you anymore."

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#31

‘I wasted years with you’.

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#32

You are useless / worthless

Many men were trained since very young to only value themselves based on how useful you are too other people, your job, society, etc.

Fellow men: you are worth a great deal just for being you... don't give a rat's a$$ about people judging your value based on what you can do for them.

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#33

I think just plain old "eww" 
That really is a slap in the face.

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Yellow dot
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh.. oh this brought up a memory of 4th grade. The teacher was, idk, talking out some fantasy storyline when she added me into it. I wasn't paying attention, I smiled at a guy friend as he had drawn something silly and showed me. The teacher saw me smile at him, and made the storyline addition of "and Yellow Dot.. who is married to *his name*!!!.." suddenly EVERYONE was yelling "EWWWWWWW". Some might have been "eww marriage" but some were "ewww *his name*".

#35

“His was bigger”.

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#36

"There's an inchworm on your balls!".

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ColdSteelRonin
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2 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One time when I was with a girl and we were getting undressed for some romantic antics she pointed at my crotch and asked "Who do you expect to please with that?" Well, I just grinned and said: "Me."

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#37

“Your d**k is literally the only thing you have going for you right now”
Only hurt cause she was right lol. Definitely was a wake up call to get my priorities straight!

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#38

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison Either;

1. I love you but not in love with you

Or

2. I have fallen out if love with you.

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Ellinor
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's indeed hurtful, but necessary. Breakups hurt but do you want someone that stays with you even if they don't love you anymore ?

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#39

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison In perspective, when as a man you've sacrificed emotionally, time, dreams and financially a lady( romantic, family, friends) not just out of love but also responsibility then they later dismiss all your efforts with I didn't ask you for it. Most hurtful since it cuts across all genders.

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Slowdown
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you weren't asked to do something, and did it out of "responsibility", it wasn't being done for the right reasons. It was being done for recognition and accolades; not because it was the right thing to do.

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#40

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison You’re just like your father.

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#41

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison “You’re just a booty call” *to the guy you’ve been seeing for some time*.

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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I need more context. Sorry, but sometimes a "relationship" can be in one person's head but not the other.

#43

I cheated

The baby/child isn’t yours.

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#45

You are useless.

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#46

"Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison I don’t want you.

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Aboredpanda
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2 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe it's hurtful but it's also honest. Context is interesting. For ex: I was working and a man and his friend came in. The man was flirting heavily with me and making me feel very uncomfortable; I was working alone in the locale the whole evening. I told the man very simply and firmly "Look, I'm not interested in you." He had a visceral reaction; he agressively showed me his teeth like some sort of snarlig animal. It was very intimidating. His friend was ashamed of his behavior and luckily got him out of there. Was I hurtful? Was I not within my right to say so? If you are a man obviously most of society would expect you to be the one to make the moves on a woman if anything is to happen, but the responsibility then falls to women to accept or decline. There is a reason a lot of women lie instead of being honest when a man is interested in them. Rejection hurts a lot, for both genders. But it shouldn't be considered hurtful to decline interest. It's ok not to want someone.

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#47

I don’t feel romantic with you

You are not financially sound.

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#48

“Past instances, in which i profess to like you, were fraudulent.”.

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#49

You’re too much.

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#50

"You didn't love me. You used me for sex. Mine was one-sided love".

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#51

“I love you but I want him.”.

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#52

No prenup.

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#53

For me it was "just get it over with." That was new years eve 2013 going into 14. My wife at the time and I were quickly spiraling, and that night, after getting our two kids to bed, we laid on the floor of our front room to watch the ball drop on TV. I had tried cuddling with her a bit, spooning her, and she was surprisingly receptive (she rarely was those days). It had been either almost a year, or just over a year since we had had sex at that point, so I decided to shoot my shot, and pulled her hips into mine, one of our signals. She sounded so disgusted... like she was gagging on the words... but honestly, I needed it so bad at that point, I didn't care that much. She dead fished it (per usual), and when I came inside, she started yelling at me that she wasn't on bc. She had gotten off of an iud, and was *supposed* to be on bc...she *told* me she was... so I didn't think it was a problem, and let fly. But suddenly I was "misremembering things because of my autism" her favorite gaslight to use. I'll admit, my memory isn't always concrete, but I think I would remember, "hey, I can't get on bc for a few months, just fyi" (which she swears that is what she told me, to this day)

Needless to say, kid #3 happened that September, and she was 3 weeks old when I got kicked out of the house and the divorce started.

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#54

You're such a good friend.

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#55

You're a nice guy.

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