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“Is It In Yet?”: 30 Devastating Lines From Women That Stung These Men Like Poison
It can be sobering to realize that oftentimes, the most painful things you hear from someone don’t come from an enemy and often aren’t even intended to be insults. The truth is that our loved ones can and will sometimes tell us things that can hurt very badly, with both good and ill intent.
Someone asked “What’s the most hurtful thing a man can hear from a woman?” and people shared their relevant examples. So get comfortable as you read through, upvote the most insightful posts and be sure to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments.
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#1
I had a drinking problem 6 years ago. I broke up with my gf because subconsciously I knew I was in a bad head space. Didn’t want to take her down with me. She came to grab her stuff from the house. We lived together. She said to me “Don’t become your father. You are better than him.” My father and mother are both alcoholics. Mother has been sober for 30+ years. Father has not and is awful while drinking.
Her saying this broke me. I quit drinking less than one week later. S**t f****d me up. Hurt me to my core. But I thank her daily for saying this to me. Not literally.But got my head straight. Might not be exactly what this post is asking for. This is my worse experience but at the same the best.
#2
When I was about 20 one of my best friends came around and was upset that a guy had rejected her and said she wasn't attractive. She was crying and slightly drunk, as I hugged her she said "now I understand what it must feel like to be you".
#3
Every argument I have had with my sister's since I was a child has resulted in my mum saying "you know what they are like, just let them have their way" because apparently I can take it better. I've basically been told my entire life that my opinion is irrelevant because I am a man and don't cry about it and therefore it doesn't affect my feelings.
Disgruntled Pelican 2 weeks ago
My husband also grew up in a very "men are not allowed to have feelings unless they involve anger" sort of household and thankfully, we are breaking him of that mentality, but it's been hard.
#4
"You're too sensitive, it feels like I'm dating a girl."
My first ex told me this, and I thought it was a me problem. Turns out there are women who don't have a problem with sensitive guys (e.g. my wife).
#5
We can stay married, but as friends. I want to pursue the other man.
No, thank you. Here is a divorce for you.
#6
For me, it was when she said "I'm only with you because you've got a big d**k and know how to use it. I never really gave a s**t about anything else."
In response to me opening up about a few emotional things and the experience of being roofied by an older (adult) woman when I was 14 at a middle school party.
Jenn Smith 2 weeks ago
I'm sorry that happened..some people are mean. Regardless of age, status, race..some people just suck
#7
Using something you never told anyone else against you.
RabidChild 2 weeks ago
This. Devastating when it turns out someone you trusted wasn't trustworthy at all
#8
Once had someone tell me, after years of being the "rock" in the relationship, "You're just not that strong, are you?" It's like all those moments of supporting them suddenly meant nothing.
Aboredpanda 2 weeks ago
Wow. Callous. And says something about how little the other party thinks of them. Relationship ending sentence, really.
#10
When you’re trying to communicate your wants and needs in a friendship/relationship and they basically say “this is who I am, I’m not going to accommodate for you”
By all means, prioritize yourself, but friendships are a two-way street, so you can’t expect to just mindlessly do what you want and expect everyone to adjust to what you’re doing.
Debby Keir 2 weeks ago
Yes and no. There's a hard line somewhere, and relationships as well as friendships are not always for life.
#11
"But you're so nice, how come you're single" if i knew I wouldn't be single and rubbing salt into that wound isn't doing any favors.
#13
“I wish I never had a child with you”
“I’m going to make sure you only get supervised visits to see your daughter”
“You’re so f*****g stupid, you f*****g ape”
Then the next day , acts like nothing happened and business as usual. Just because your close to having your period , doesn’t mean you get to base all your actions and words on the emotions your feeling .
Letting emotions run your life makes you weak and undesirable.
(This is brief, and a lot more things have been said. I literally have never said anything bad to her to make sure I don’t sink to that level).
LaserBrain 2 weeks ago
In the end, you're still responsible for the words that come out of your mouth. No one can control that except for you.
#14
“your brother f***s better than you. but worse than your dad. but they’re both better than you. also we’re getting divorced because i’m having your best friends baby”.
#15
I lost most of my hair around 25 years old. It was tough for me and I started thinking about hair transplant but I was not sure at 100% if I wanted to proceed. I was playing squash with my ex-girlfriend when we started having the discussion during a break. With the sweat, my hair looked even thinner and closer to what I would actually look like completely bold.
She starting crying when she heard about my hesitation and told me to do it because “I disgusted her” like this.
It was tough, especially because you don’t have much control on boldness and it is a common issue for many young men.
JJ 2 weeks ago (edited)
My husband started going bald while he was still a late teenager. He's been through a lot of bullying due to this and just started shaving his head when he started Army. I got to know him like this but felt deeply sorry that he's been through so much for something he couldn't influence. Anyhow, that man started growing a beard a few years ago and looks pretty damn bada*s this way. He doesn't mind about his baldness but his beard ... 😅
#17
I don't like the movie Crocodile Dundee II.
#18
You have been raising a child that's not yours. That's the biggest L a guy can't take and the biggest insult.
Aboredpanda 2 weeks ago
Even if it was true, the child is yours for having raised it like a parent from birth. No one can take that away from you. Disgusting thing to say. Contact a lawyer practicing family law immediately if a woman ever says this to you. Make sure you have solid legal advice before doing or saying anything to change your situation.
#19
“His jokes are funnier” might as well be saying you want a divorce.
Multa Nocte 2 weeks ago
Someone is overly tender if they actually believe that this is saying someone wants a divorce.
#20
I never loved you.
InfamousBerry34 2 weeks ago
It hurts to realise that an entire relationship was fake. It really hurts.
#21
“The only reason you didn’t get me pregnant when i stopped taking my birth control, is because you’re a lesser species.”
We werent even trying to have a baby in the first place…..?
Aboredpanda 2 weeks ago (edited)
... one: It can take up to six months before hormonal contraceptives stop having an effect on a womans body if she's been taking it for many years. Two: Could be something wrong with HER reproductive ability. Three: RUN.
#22
"Maybe your father was right to treat you like a dog, you do belong on a leash".
Aboredpanda 2 weeks ago
This sounds more like somthing an abuse person would say in general, than slmething a woman might say to a man. Vile.
#25
To me the most hurtful thing was getting nothing at all I got broken up with and asked what I did that caused this and she replied “ I don’t know”. That sentence sat in my head for months. After 3 years I got I don’t know … I’d rather get told anything else than I don’t know.
Aboredpanda 2 weeks ago
Well that sucks but isn't it better with honesty than some sort of lie? Sometimes a person just falls out of love, and there's really nothing more to it, hurtful as it is.
#26
When a women expects you to there thru her hardships and emotional well being and then when you open up just once or try to find some comfort. She makes it all about herself or starts having a dry spell on you.
#27
I was once told that I 'wasn't toxic enough' i don't think that really hurt me, but I still think about that sometimes.
Caramello 2 weeks ago
Remember talking about relationships with coworkers and had one woman say, "I'm toxic when it comes to relationships." She went on to detail how if things are going "too well" in the relationship, she needs to stir up something. It was just bizarre that she wore the "toxic" label with pride.
#28
"It's not yours".
Lez Be Honest 12 hours ago
It? Like the lamp isn't his? The couch perhaps...Surely we aren't referring to a child as an it?!
#29
While we were sitting at a table, chatting, my cousin's wife told me "I could've found someone like you, but you come with a lot of problems. I settled for him because I don't want the hassle"
She is bat s**t ugly and way below the level of my cousin's. Disgusting.
Edit: I didn't get hurt at all, my cousin propably did. I feel bad for him.
#30
For me, it would be hearing, "I don't respect you anymore." Respect is a cornerstone of any relationship, and losing that can feel like losing everything.
What do you think ?
Doctor Strange 2 weeks ago
I can think of so many examples. Like my first relationship, when she left me for the guy she was cheating on me with after telling me how much better than me he is. Or my second relationship which ended with her admitting she was deliberately trying to push me to commit suicide.
Blondie23 2 weeks ago
Okay I say this often to my husband but women can be the worst! So many women forget that men have feelings too... I am just floored by this post. I have an ex-husband that I could say some low down dirty things about but have never done that to him. How can you be so careless with people's feelings.... screw these women!!!!!!
Doctor Strange 2 weeks ago
I can think of so many examples. Like my first relationship, when she left me for the guy she was cheating on me with after telling me how much better than me he is. Or my second relationship which ended with her admitting she was deliberately trying to push me to commit suicide.
Blondie23 2 weeks ago
Okay I say this often to my husband but women can be the worst! So many women forget that men have feelings too... I am just floored by this post. I have an ex-husband that I could say some low down dirty things about but have never done that to him. How can you be so careless with people's feelings.... screw these women!!!!!!
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