Truth is a valuable resource, and when we lack it, we may go to extreme lengths to replicate it. Yet, sometimes people can tell the difference between the fake and the real thing.
Reddit user RobDa59 asked others on the platform to share the lies they've heard the most, and the replies immediately started pouring in—a couple of thousand in just a few days.
Whether it's because everyone's guilty of using the same false claims themselves or they've simply grown tired of hearing them over and over again, apparently, some lines aren't fooling anyone.
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We got in touch with Dr. John A. Johnson, professor emeritus of psychology at Penn State University, to learn more about morality, and he told Bored Panda that before we can talk about lying, we need to be clear about the definition.
"From my perspective, lying is more than just saying something that is not true. First, the liar must be aware that what they are saying is not true," Dr. Johnson highlighted. "If I say something untrue but genuinely believe it is true, that is not a lie; that is just a mistake."
"Second, and most critically, lying is an intentional attempt to gain something valuable by trying to convince someone that the lie is true. If a used-car salesperson withholds from a customer information about a car's engine showing defects in the past and assures the customer that the car runs like a charm and should run fine for years to come, then it is obvious what the salesperson is intending to gain: a commission from selling the car," Dr. Johnson illustrated.
"Other lies can be more subtle, like promising things that the liar has no intention of delivering or withholding information that might be damaging to the liar's reputation. These kinds of lies, which are stock-in-trade for politicians, are attempts to secure power by misleading the public."
“ When I am elected, I will…”.
But, according to Dr. Johnson, there are many possible things to be gained beyond the obvious ones, such as money and power.
"So-called white lies are meant to spare a person's feelings. What the teller of the white lie gains from [it] is feeling good about themselves because they avoided hurting someone's feelings or creating an uncomfortable social situation," he explained.
Now, we can get to what many of you probably believe to be the main question: why do people lie, even when it doesn't seem to be necessary? Dr. Johnson said that, paradoxically, in many cases, it's probably because people think it's necessary.
"It doesn't occur to them that there are other ways of gaining what they consider valuable without lying. Or, in other cases, lying seems easier than telling the truth. Or, it is simply a habit," he said.
If the surgeon says, “you’ll experience some mild discomfort.” You know it’s gonna hurt like hell. It’s guaranteed.
"If the surgeon says" If I'm in the middle of surgery I better not be hearing what the surgeon says at all.
“This is my last one”- most common lie heard by bartenders.
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We also got in touch with RobDa59, the Redditor who initiated the discussion and can be found on Instagram under the same nickname.
"I found myself going through emails for a weekly radio show I co-host when I was clearing spam/fake emails [and] wondering what the most common lies people hear or say," he told us about the origins of the post.
RobDa59 said, "I do believe some 'lies' to be acceptable in the sense that some truths do not always need to be said; as well some 'lies' can make someone's day better, and with how hard life can be sometimes that small lie to cheer someone up is needed."
"Sorry, just seeing your text now".
I've never lied about this. I keep my phone on silent 99% of the time and I'm often busy and not near my phone. I miss a lot of texts and don't see them until later.
"You can do anything if you our your mind to it." Just no. We all have our limitations. I could study my a*s off and cut out all junk food and work out non stop. Does it mean Im going to be the next Elon Musk or Albert Einstein or Usain Bolt? No. We all have limitations and only a select few will truly succeed in life.
Dr. Johnson also acknowledges there's a possibility that a lie can lead to a positive outcome. (For the sake of simplicity, let's all agree to moral universalism—at least this time.)
"Some lies are harmless and may even be beneficial. That is actually a difficult thing for me to say because, as I mentioned, I am uncomfortable with even small lies," the psychologist said. "But, the thing is, absolutes rarely describe life accurately, and that includes lying. Life is not so simple and black-and-white such that every intentional untruth is always wrong.
"Lies can have both positive and negative consequences for both liars and their audiences, and it can be difficult to sum up the total positives and negatives for any lie. (Of course, many lies have obviously negative consequences, which is why our culture generally judges lying to be immoral.)"
But, Dr. Johnson added, sometimes even the truth itself is "fuzzy" and "hard to determine." Remember the used-car salesperson who says a car with engine defects in the past will run fine in the future? "This is certainly a sneaky, misleading thing to say to the customer. But maybe the mechanics corrected the defects sufficiently for the car to run fine for years. Who knows? Lying is a gray area."
I can quit anytime I want.
That's a lie I tell myself everyday. Technically I CAN, as in able to actively, walk out any time I please and never come back. However, my resume and bank account says I need a better plan.
The weekend news host who was nominated to be the new head of the US Department of Defense assured us all that he would quit drinking if his nomination is approved. Definite "I can quit any time I want" vibes, and about as reassuring.
I can quit anytime the long term consequences outweigh my immediate comfort.
We value your call.
"We value customers staying on hold so our understaffed call centre looks busier than it usually is."
Corporate one -> ”If there are any questions, please don‘t hesitate to ask“.
the end of that statement is unspoken but it would be..."someone who actually cares. Now get back to work."
Luckily, most communication is honest and most lies are told by a few prolific liars, said University of Wisconsin-La Crosse professor Dr. Tony Docan-Morgan, who co-authored the publication, "Unpacking variation in lie prevalence: Prolific liars, bad lie days, or both?”
The study analyzed 116,366 lies told by 632 participants over 91 consecutive days. Participants self-reported daily, and the data revealed that about 75% of them did not lie much—about zero to two lies per day. And most lies were inconsequential—little white lies, like saying you like a gift you really don't. Only a small group—6 % of respondents—had days in which they lied much more frequently, even though they had lower levels of lying on average.
51% of the time, people lied to their friends; 21% to family; 11% to school/business colleagues; 8.9% to strangers; and 8.5% to casual acquaintances.
I’m good.
I do it all the time and I’m sure everyone else does too. None of our lives are as put together as we’d like to let others believe, so we just lie and say we’re good and move on. It’s really sad in actuality.
I’ll be there in 5 minutes.
"Nah it didn't cost much".
"As I indicated, for some people, lying is a habit that they developed because of a long history of successful lying, getting what they wanted more often than not from lying," Dr. Johnson said. "A habitual liar has become very comfortable with their lying because it has been so successful."
"Donald Trump, who some claim has told more lies than any US President, may fall into this category. Everybody but everybody lies because that is part of human nature. I've certainly told my share of lies in my life. But I couldn't become a habitual liar because I have never felt comfortable with lying," he added.
“I recently read somewhere that…”
Aka, saw something on an Instagram reel.
For example, Dr. Johnson recalled the time he strongly objected to claiming a son was a year younger than his actual age just to pay less money for a children's ticket. But people are different. "Many are perfectly comfortable with misrepresenting their age or the age of their children to get a discount on a ticket. We differ in our comfort levels with lying."
However, the psychologist reminded us there is also a class of people with personality disorders who enjoy lying to manipulate or even hurt others.
"There are three clusters of personality disorders: (A) Eccentric, (B) Dramatic, and (C) Fearful. For people with cluster B disorders (antisocial, borderline, histrionic, and narcissistic), lying is a way of life," Dr. Johnson said. "People with cluster B disorders feel absolutely no remorse about lying and actually get a kick out of manipulating others, hurting them, or getting them into trouble with lies.
"Personality disorders are serious illnesses that exist on a continuum, from the full-blown clinical disorder to milder, sub-clinical cases. So, some people with a mild version of a cluster B disorder might enjoying lying once in a while because they think it's fun."
I will call u back.
If I say it, I do it. For me, it is essential that I keep my word, as when all is said and done, this tells of who I am.
"I promise I will return your money back.".
Lying has become such a big part of the world that RobDa59 isn't even sure how he would imagine everyday life if everybody suddenly stopped doing it.
"I do believe politics would be a lot different; but in an individual's daily life, it could lead to a lot of awkward situations!" he said.
I floss everyday!
“…till death do us part”.
Not really a lie. At the time people make their vows, I'm sure they mean it.
“I’m not mad”.
No, honey. You don't look fat in that...
Height (overstate)
Weight (understate).
Though the former gets understated by certain people who want to be seen as short, and the later overstated by those trying to hide a serious eating disorder...
I'm 1/8 native American.
If your ancestors were born in North America, that is a good possibility of it being true. if you're born in North America, and your parents were born here, and your grandparents and their parents, at this point you're a native to this land. You just aren't part of the Indigenous population.
That they washed their hands after using the bathroom.
I'm here for you.
I don't say things like this, don't tell someone I'll do something if it's likely I won't. However, you're seen as a hard faced bìtch, uncaring etc when you don't put on the act. Maybe there are people who prefer kind lies, I prefer to know where everyone truly stands and what I can expect.
"Just one more...".
Cracking your knuckles will give you arthritis. I can’t count how many times it’s said to me.
That's not so much a lie as just misinformation. Like "shaving makes your hair grow back thicker." Lots of people believe it, they're just wrong.
Load More Replies...These were pretty bad. Half of them weren't lies at all. Amusing, though ... 6/10.
So I type fast amd it doesn't come put perfect oh jow I yearn t please all u square f***s oh belive me I'm human just we ain't on the same level quite clearly.... so disappointing you all are boring
I think the one I hate the MOST is when you haven't contacted someone in a "while" and they say, "Hey, I was just thinking about you..." Not sure why that one bothers me so much.
That’s a horrible thing to lie about. I don’t know how you *know* it’s a lie. But if it changes your perception at all, I will tell you I say this to my friends often because it is 100% a fact. I will think about someone I haven’t heard from in a long time and within a day or two I get a text. Not magically - but it happens a lot.
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Cracking your knuckles will give you arthritis. I can’t count how many times it’s said to me.
That's not so much a lie as just misinformation. Like "shaving makes your hair grow back thicker." Lots of people believe it, they're just wrong.
Load More Replies...These were pretty bad. Half of them weren't lies at all. Amusing, though ... 6/10.
So I type fast amd it doesn't come put perfect oh jow I yearn t please all u square f***s oh belive me I'm human just we ain't on the same level quite clearly.... so disappointing you all are boring
I think the one I hate the MOST is when you haven't contacted someone in a "while" and they say, "Hey, I was just thinking about you..." Not sure why that one bothers me so much.
That’s a horrible thing to lie about. I don’t know how you *know* it’s a lie. But if it changes your perception at all, I will tell you I say this to my friends often because it is 100% a fact. I will think about someone I haven’t heard from in a long time and within a day or two I get a text. Not magically - but it happens a lot.
Load More Replies...Yes I gwtvu thanks for all.thw down votes u sad a*s haters I did agree with ir opinions amd I don't downvote some.humans yep all yall whi down voted me are weak asses truly are pathetic
Red Marbles thank you for bwifable to put tpir personal.opinin aside amd.cobvwrs with me like an adult human.I appreciate ypur different viewpoint mindless downboting haters I cannot.abide but people lile tou whi just talk n set their stall put I am.all.for eve in difference so tha ms n yeah I get what youre saying.