My now husband and I met at a party and we just had such a good time dancing and laughing and talking. On our first date, he brought me roses, had no issues when I asked if we could push back the dinner reservations to go for a bowling game, then had a fancy dinner. We covered a lot of the bases - financials, kids, career goals, family, etc that night. I called my mom that next day and said I met the person I’m going to marry.

We got married 4.5 months later and it’s been 13 years.

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Shortly after we got engaged, my stepfather had a heart attack and had to go into the hospital to have a triple bypass. Mom, Sis, Bro and me were all there for most of the handful of days that Stepfather had to be in the hospital for surgery/recovery.

Fiance' (now Husband) kept everybody fed and brought some magazines, etc to keep us entertained. He paid my pager bill (LOL this makes me feel so old) because I wasn't going to be able to make it to the pager store on time to pay it.

I mean, I already had an inkling at that point he was def a for real keeper when he convinced his parents to take me in for a couple days after my mom kicked me out because I dared to close the shared banking account (I'd gotten as a minor and she was required to be on the account as well) after I found out she was regularly stealing money out of it.

But this? Cemented the deal.

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For our second dating anniversary, I got us a set of promise rings, knowing he wasn’t ready for marriage but also knowing that I had strong interest in hopefully marrying him one day. I told him his ring was a symbol of my love, that it didn’t have to mean marriage if he didn’t want it to, but that it was a way of physically pledging my loyalty for him so long as he should have me. He scooped me up in a hug so large with tears in his eyes and an “I accept” on his lips. That’s when I knew, without I doubt, I’d be sharing the rest of my life with him. And I have been ever since :)

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We had a brief “thing” When we were freshman in high school. Didn’t take it farther than just really good friends that kissed… a lot. Then we just kinda drifted apart when he switched schools. There was no doubt we had a rare connection, but we were so young, we hadn’t had enough experience with dating to realize how special it really was.

Fast forward 14 years: we reconnected on social and agreed to hang out the next day. The moment I saw him I realized his energy was exactly how I remembered it… idk his vibe is just so perfect…

Anyways, I was smitten— I *am* smitten. 4 years after reconnecting/making it exclusive and we’re just as infatuated as we were 18 years ago. He shows me every single day why he is my person, and I love him endlessly!

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I don't think it was one moment in particular, but a combination of many big and small occasions that has led me to the conclusion that I want to spend the rest of my life with my partner.

It's honestly felt surreal just how amazing things have been with her. We met online and talked all night into 3am, then talked all the next day and the day after. It was such a profound experience to just "click" with someone. The first time we met in person, we kissed in my driveway like some sort of cheesy romance film script and she stole my breath away ever since.

It's been 7 months and since we met, we've been there for each other in some of our hardest times. I had terrible leg pains the other month and I was worried about blood clots. She came and picked me up and stayed with me at the hospital until late at night, comforting me. Just last week, she had a major surgery, and I joined her on the journey across the states to be there with her before and after the procedure. The first thing she did when she woke up was cry and tell me how much she loved me.

Even the small things add up; she respects my boundaries, is an excellent communicator, and so incredibly good to me. I think this past week confirmed my feelings for me what had been growing steadily throughout the past several months; I love this lady to death and I want to be a part of her life for as long as she wants me around. She shares these feelings, and we're hoping to move in together sometime soon.

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All I can say is, I hope the future is so bright for you and your partner. I hope the future brings nothing but happiness to both of you.

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My husband and I have had our issues, but all things considered, he's a good human. Some of the things/actions that stick out for me:

- When we were newlyweds, I had to undergo chemotherapy. We were also *young*, like in our early 20's type of young. So, practically still children ourselves (he was in the military at the time). Every night, for almost a year (duration of my chemo treatment), he laid on the bathroom floor with me, holding and rocking me in his arms, as I vomited my guts out. He'd rub my back, hold what little hair I had, and sleep on the bathroom floor with me, because the vomiting was just endless.

- During my first chemo session, he insisted on shadowing my nurse at the time. When asked why, he responded: "I want to learn how to prepare and administer her medications myself, so my wife can be sickly and uncomfortable from the comfort of home, instead of stuck in a cold, harsh, sterile clinical environment." He learned to reconstitute and administer my chemo meds, how to start and manage an IV line, the differences in types of meds (i.e. different immunotherapy treatments), measuring vitals, etc. The nurses taught us how to do a lot of it at home, which was nice, so that we weren't stuck in a hospital more often than need be.

- When I had to undergo reconstructive surgery of one of my arms, the loose shirt I'd worn to the hospital still wasn't loose enough to fit over all the tubes, wires, and my cast. As the nurse and I fidgeted with my shirt, my husband, *quite literally*, gave me the shirt off his back. When the hospital discharged us to go home, he trekked out to and across the parking lot to retrieve the car and bring it around to the entrance, with no shirt on, in the middle of winter.

- For about a year or so, I was also confined to a wheelchair. My husband learned to disassemble and reassemble every screw and nail of my wheelchair, so that we'd never be stuck waiting on insurance bureaucracy for repairs. Thanks to his mechanical engineering background, my wheelchair was actually an interesting project for him. He has learned the ins and outs of assembling and fixing a variety of wheelchair types, and has helped other people in our community/town/neighborhood with their own mobility equipment repairs, because they were either fed up with waiting on their insurance to repair it, or their insurance would try and charge them a fortune for repairs. So, my husband sort of became "Mr. Wheelchair Fix-It" in and around our town.

I could go on, but I'll stop there. These examples are just a few (of many) that demonstrate, to me, that my husband is a keeper.

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Your hubby really sounds like an angel. Your really do have a good one. Give him a big hug from a internet stranger.

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As soon as we started dating! We had been friends for a while and had chatted through all of the big topics: our faith, kids, marriage, parenting, conflict resolution, life goals, life approach, music, literature etc etc 😂. Basically we got really passionate in our conversations because we both got excited that we felt the same about so many things in common and so we decided to give dating a go with the idea that if we felt the chemistry that intellectually was already there then we would want to get married. So 2 weeks after we decided to date we decided to get married! Waited 4m to get engaged to give our family and friends used to the idea of both of us and meet each other. We make each other so happy, and I've grown and healed in ways I only dreamed of! We're married 8yrs and it's pretty obvious we're still obsessed with each other and already have 2 kids with another on the way (waited 4 years to try for a baby so we could get used to livibg and sleeping together as we're Christians). Life is hard as I'm sick and pregnant and we're knackered all the time with 2 toddlers but he's my favourite person in the whole world and we're very happy with our stable relationship in this crazy ride of parenting!

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My hometown burned down in 2018. After the fire, I was living in a small three bedroom townhouse with 8 other people and was constantly over stimulated from the trauma and constant people.

I met my husband through a mutual friend at a bar one night, and an instant wave of calm came over me. From then on, any time I was with him, my body relaxed and I could feel the tension of all of my stress melt away.

The moment that really got me was when I went to see the property for the first time - I took him with me. We had only been casually seeing each other for a few months, but the way he held my hand and supported me through the absolute worst trauma of my life sealed the deal for me.

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He put something like 4 different socks in different shades of black and blue, he told me "here, choose the ones that looks similar. I have to wear them and I don't have any single pair that match".
I do the same. At that point I decided that we were made to each others.

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When my daughter (9 months old) immediately reached for him when they met. It usually takes her some time to warm up to strangers, but she was immediately comfortable with him and giving him kisses. That's the moment I knew he was the perfect man for me.

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My grandma was battling cancer for the first time, and I was still in school. My grandma had an appointment at the hospital very early for a procedure. I was stressing out, trying to figure out how my grandparents (whom I lived with at the time) and I were going to get where we needed to go on time and without my going to campus at like 6am. I was venting to my partner about how I couldn’t figure out what to do and I was so worried about my grandma, I was basically losing it. Totally unprompted, he said “why not just stay here overnight and then go to class in the morning?” He just offered to take the stress off of my family and me because he could. In that instant, where he showed up for me, but also for my family, who at that point he hadn’t even met yet, I just knew he was my end game. It’s always been important to me that my partner and grandparents get along - my grandma loved him so much, and my grandpa still does. He’s been my rock through so much these last 10 years, and I can’t think of anyone else who would have stuck through it all with me.

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I used to work for an airline, so I took him to Hawaii for his 40th birthday. He had such a great time and seeing his happiness while swimming in the ocean and watching the sunsets each day made me 1000% sure this is my forever man. I adore him so much.

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I was still in high school and he knows I wasn’t in the best place to live in. My mom was up and leaving me where ever for the 100th time. So he spoke to my mom and his parents before talking to me to make sure I was care care of the right way before my mom left me.

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**Backstory:** We met at my town's 7-Eleven. I'd been working there for 1.5y and he just joined the team. I immediately started hitting on him (not even subtly) because he's insanely attractive. A couple days/weeks later, I found out he was taking the bus from the next town over. We worked night shift (11pm-7am) and the last bus of the day came into town around 6:30. This meant that his period of consciousness was from 5:30pm (ish) to 10am (ish). I used to do a similar thing for college a few years prior, so I knew how much it sucked. I offered to let him stay at my house when we worked together. Things went from sharing a bed together to intimate within a month.

**Story:** We were cuddling in bed after...an act of intimacy and chatting. I told him how much I cared for him but that I was scared to start a relationship with him because my family always told me, "Don't date co-workers because things can get awkward." He asked if he could play a song the conversation reminded him of. I was curious, so I said yes. He then started playing [What Ifs by Kane Brown](https://youtu.be/fM8V1XOI-14). It was so cheesy and sweet, and I loved it because it was so cheesy and sweet. It reminded me of something I would do. I knew in that moment that he was going to be my forever. We've been together for 5y now.

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He knew the moment he saw me, I knew a couple hours later. Was just something we couldn’t shake. He was so shy and didn’t talk to me much in the moment, but there was just a look and a feeling. We’ve been there through extreme downs and highs (both got out of bad relationships and weren’t quite ready for a new relationship but didn’t want to lose each other due to timing) now together 1.5 years and he popped the question over the holidays! :)

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I have pretty bad mental problems and I was afraid to let anyone into my deepest brain thoughts and one day while I was tired I just told him everything. He acted unfazed and told me when he was really depressed he had some bad thoughts too. So I felt safe enough I told him about my paranoid thoughts and he told me that it was okay and that my thoughts aren't true and that he supported me in my mental health journey. I have never felt so much love for a partner before and all I want is for him to be happy and healthy and have anything he ever wanted

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We met as teenagers & dated in our twenties, but it wasn’t the right time for us, so we broke up & didn’t speak for a few years. Then we became friends again after we both grew a lot. I texted him a joke one day & that led to daily conversations & we became a couple again two months later.

He told me after that he regretted how things ended the first time & worked to prove me wrong by getting a better job & improving himself. And he kept up with me to make sure I was ok & said a prayer for me & my son every night. We got married after five months together & I’ve never been so happy.

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We've been together 3 years now bur I knew a few month in. We were watching TV one night and he was acting kind of strange. I asked him what was up and he hit me with the "I think we need to talk." Que instant anxiety on my part.
So he tells me his parents have decided to move 7 hours away and they wanted him to come but gave him the choice to stay (he lived with them at the time). I was understandably upset thinking I was going to loose him so I asked him if he was going too. And he said " well thats what I wanted to talk about. I was thinking we could move in together?"
I burst into tears and explained I thought he was going to end things. And he jsut paused. Grabbed my hands and said
"Babe. For me there was never any choice."
We've been together 3 years now and are engaged.

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My (26F) partner (25M) was the first guy friend I'd had who didn't make me feel like there were romantic or sexual expectations after being friends for more than a year.

Sure, he was super friendly and funny, but I really felt emotionally and physically safe near him, which allowed me to develop romantic feelings in a healthy way I think. To put it simply, when we were just friends, that was it. I never felt pressure to be anyone other than myself as a good friend to him.

When we started dating in 2014 after being friends for about two years, he never pressured me to kiss him (I hadn't ever kissed or dated anyone) or do anything sexual. What really sealed the deal for me was when he told me point blank that he would wait however long it took for me to feel okay trying penetrative sex (listen, I had never used a tampon or even tried putting anything else in me before this), and he really did mean it.

We've been married for seven months now and together for eight and a half years!

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When he said my daughter was just another extension of me to love

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One week into the relationship I jokingly asked:"If I broke both my arms, would you wipe my a*s??" He said: "Noo that would be weird".
I totally forgot about this conversation and then, after a few days, my bf said completely out of context:"You know what? I thought about it...I would totally wipe our a*s If you could not do it yourself." We are now together for 8 Years, still going strong.

I then knew that he is someone who sees me as me and it's not Just about romance or sex or just having fun together, If that makes sese.

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His mom did not take well to me "taking" her eldest son (she was a single mom and it could be a bit emotionally incest-y). She had tried to put him in the middle a few times and I would try my best to go, "we're all adults, she can speak to me directly."

Well one day she withdrew my invitation for an event where I would meet an out of town sibling..I had cancelled other plans prioritizing this meeting.

He saw that it hurt me, even though I tried to shrug it off. By his own accord he told his mom that's enough, from now on all family invites are both of us or neither of us how she acted will never happen again.


We're getting married this year :) her and I are okay enough

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There was no one moment of absolute clarity, it was all the small moments where he respected me and made me feel safe to be myself with him.

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I lost my phone in front of a shopping mall, someone found it, searched for the emergency contacts, called my boyfriend and he was not sure If I had been kidnapped, lost my phone and was still in the mall. I immedately ran over (just a 5' walk from his place) searched in every possible store I told him I would be until he found me one hour later, he was stressed as he did not know if I was there still, kidnapped, had gone home, he even thought: s**t I have to call the police if we dont find her, he had all scenarios played out. Fun fact, when the guy called him on my emergency contact, my boyriend picked up and said: Whats up tiny mouse? And the guy on the phone was like: no mouse here, just Igor.

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when I took him to the park with my child. he was so attentive and holding her up so she could use the monkey bars and interacting with her on all the equipment. followed along go make sure she was okay. my heart was so full and I knew.

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The way he took my hand to lead me into the restaurant on our first date. I instantly got a feeling of being completely safe and at home with him. We celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary in October.

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I'd say it's less 'one moment of truth' and more consistent, reassuring behaviour over the past 3-4 years.

I've been lovebombed/duped before, so for me a sign of a life partner is someone who continues to be supportive, loving and reliable even after they 'have you'.

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After 2 years of dating, I moved in with him and three other roommates we were friends with. After a year, I was ready to kill the other roommates (and they me).

But not him. We got along great the whole time. In fact we realized we never wanted to be apart.

I knew then.

We celebrated 17 years recently✌️

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We have been together for almost 3 years and there are quite a few things he does which make me believe that he is the one. Here’s few :
- Cooking for me
- Taking care of me and cleaning me up when I was sick and threw up everywhere
- Taking care of me when I fell and opened deeply my chin
- Creating a mental health fund for me and paying for my therapy expenses
- Learning my mother tongue
- Creating from scratch an advent calendar for me every December, 3rd year in a row
- Massaging my feet almost every night.
- Always offering me to switch plates when I don’t like what I ordered at the restaurant
- Holding me when I cry and letting me cry for as long as I need.

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It was after we had just finished messing around and for some reason I just started crying and he didn’t say anything at first. He just grabbed me and held me tight. And just kept kissing my forehead, running his hand through my hair, and then started softly whispering that I’m okay and that he loves me. He never judged me or made me feel bad about it.

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That's so heart-warming!

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I was just thinking about this. We were on our first trip together visiting Seattle. He had me drive somewhere secret as a surprise and it was the town where Twin Peaks, one of my favorite shows was filmed. We went to the waterfall, the hotel, the diner to get some cherry pie. It was the most thoughtful thing anyone has ever done for me, I was blown away.

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The way he stands by me through hardship.
I went through some trouble last summer, and he was very supportive, it made the whole thing bearable

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Since the moment I saw this m**********r roofing a house at 17. I was 16. Some separations along the way. But damn I feel like I knew then, right then and there. Magic confirmed in our youth and have always carried him around in my heart since. He is family, he is friend, he is father and he is lover. He is flawed, I am flawed but there has always been something that fits together like a puzzle.

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"He is flawed, I am flawed but there has always been something that fits together" is a complete and very graceful description of a successful relationship.

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I can’t really think of one specific moment. I just love the way he makes me feel & cares for me like no other

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I knew its gonna be longterm when i first met him. There were many thing sthat confirmed it all for me, like his mum saying that im her daughter in law now or when i began to cry when he needed to leave. When he came to me on my birthday when my family was away and i thought im gonna be all alone because noone seemed to have time. His smile when he opens the door.. everything

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He put me through grad school, despite having a high school diploma himself, and misgivings about the ROI of higher ed. (Same, dude, but here we are.)

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I don't know if there's one specific moment or a series of little moments.

The second time we ever met, I had invited him to a memorial party I was having. He stayed later than all the other guests and helped me clean up.

Before we became an official couple, he kissed me in front of other people in a very public place. I wasn't used to being "shown off" because my ex hid me.

Other cute little things like that lol

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We found common ground on the very FEW values/ideals/concept (however you want to say it) that we weren't aligned on. Once we established that and found that there was still an abundance of love and the desire to work on it together, we knew this was forever ever type s**t.

Foreva eva <3

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On our 2nd date, he accidentally touched my fat roll and didn't recoil in horror. It's been 7-8 years and he's not traumatized yet

EDIT: I want to share this too. A year or so ago, I had an awful stomach virus that included violent evacuations at both ends. I came out of the bathroom crying in shame and embarrassment, holding my crappy pj bottoms. He took them from me, told me not to be embarrassed, and washed them. He brought me 2 more pair of pj bottoms just in case.

He drives me nuts sometimes and neither of us are perfect, but when I remember things like this, I cut him some slack.

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You just know when you’ve met the right person when you’ve been meeting all the wrong people your whole life. 3 weeks after talking, I knew he was the one. My mom met him and knew this was the man I was going to marry. When you’ve met someone that is everything you never knew you wanted, it makes it pretty easy to confirm.

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Our first date. We talked about women’s rights, political beliefs, whether or not we wanted kids, what we wanted out of life (values) and he made me laugh several times. And as soon as I saw his smile, I knew I liked him instantly. 4 years later, still going strong and getting married this fall. (Woulda been much sooner but Covid *shakes fist*)

I wish I could bottle that initial feeling and sell it. Just a great feeling.

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This thread is giving me so much hope. Like chicken soup for the broken-hearted 🥺.

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When he finally farted in front of me eight months into living together. And can talk about physical issues and being open about his feelings/needs and thoughts . That was it for me :)

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It wasn‘t a moment, we got to know each other better after the first romantic moments. We both knew from then on that we wanted to spend our life together. It was more of a process. And here we are - 22 years later still going strong and we had and have a lot of hardships. But I wouldn‘t want to spend my life - even with all those difficulties - with anyone else.

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— it's not fat, its flavour (he's a chef)

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Was simple enough

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When he said he would do his own laundry 🙃

It’s actually how he took care of me when I wasn’t well. He was thoughtful, kind and patient. And it was genuine.
I remember every time I looked at him… my brain was yelling I LOVE YOU! … if I had actually said it out loud as many times as my brain was saying it…I’d have said it to death! And he’d have ran away 😂

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For me, it was the period where I was really struggling with myself during covid. I started a new job but worked from home 24/7, feeling very isolated. I also started developing an eating disorder and felt like all my bagage from my past was taking over me constantly. I couldn't see the bright side and easily got caught up in doom thinking. Throughout this period I feared this would be his breaking point. But no, he never experienced this difficult period as a breaking point. He supported me throughout everything and kept on reminding me what I wonderful person I am and that we will always face issues together. He made me feel so safe for the first time in my life and we do just as he says: tackling issues together as a team. We have now been together for nearly 4 years and we care so much for eachother, he is the only person in the world who truly knows everything of me, and vice versa. We consider eachother as soulmates and it such a wonderful feeling knowing that he is my partner for life

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When he asked my daughter about marrying me.

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I knew the night I met him. When i got home i told my cousin that i met the man I would spend the rest of my life with. That was 40 years ago, we are still together, and I don’t know how I knew… but I did

Edit: added that we’re still together

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There wasn't one lightning strike moment for me but several moments, important and not, that made me sure.

We had only been together for 3 months when my gran died, and he supported me through that.

I was being taken advantage of by my friends at the time, and he stood up for me.

He always made me laugh, he encouraged my independence, he supported me emotionally.

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Trying long distance since he has to work away from home. I anticipated that it would be the make or break and it definitely was the make. Although I prefer it when we live together I feel like we are stronger than ever now and we can get through anything

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I knew we were serious around the 2 month mark, after that, it was just accepted that we were each others forever. Then just after our 5th anniversary he proposed, after 3 years of saying we didn't need to, after confirming he was serious I said yes.

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We were only dating for about a month and a half and went on a short get away trip. Just in the country in a cute b&b. I have so many memories from those 4 days together that I can link to ''that moment''.

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He sent me a picture he took of a dead flying fish and asked what kind of bird is this?

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