I love the fact he was the one pushing for a baby asap. Hope the judge wipes the floor with him and he's to pay for all the maintenance and childcare for this baby he wanted so much.

If you have overprotective friends or family in a situation like this you tell them very clearly that if they do anything to risk you losing custody they will lose the ability to have children and then they will never see you or your child again.

As a man myself, I'd just like to say she is married to a POS. How can he consider it reasonable to do nothing but work, play games and sleep, when he has a 3 month old baby? The gaming should have near completely stopped for now, so he can support his wife when he is not working or sleeping.

Jake sounds like a POS to me.

Who raises these scumbags.

People who have any fear of leaving a relationship, if in the USA, if you need/want to hide your address, consider getting a mailbox at a UPS (or similar) store. It will give you a street address and you can use that to get a drivers license. Have all mail forwarded to that address. The only bill that should have the actual address is the utility company and that should be in someone else's name. I had a stalker a few years ago and I needed to hide my home address. It isn't easy, especially with online searches, but it can be done. List the box - PO boxes do not work because you need some kind of a street address. One bill sent to the new home address is all that's needed. Most people don't think about this, but its imperative if you don't want someone showing up at your door.

I dated a Jake for about two years. Are all Jakes selfish asśholes?

You married a teenager unfortunately and he's never going to grow up. Especially as long as all of his friends are exactly the same way. I pray for their wives. Our father never did change to the day he died. I wish you luck.

Jake is an addict. Even 3-4 hrs of gaming a day is a lot, but addiction is not really about how much or how often. Cross addiction is incredibly common, he may have had a different addiction (like alcohol, smoking or sex) before the baby and he crossed over to gaming. Addicts rarely seek help before getting hit with some kind of reality check. OP needs to lean into her support. Stop lying to cover up Jake's addiction. She's not responsible for what other adults do with that information. Unfortunately she also needs to get help for herself. Even if this relationship ends, without help she will most likely marry another addict. That means therapy or some kind of 12 step program. There is a program for family members of gaming addicts, it's apparently called "Gamer-Anon". If she figures out that other addictions were going on prior, or one or both of her parents are an addict themselves (incredibly likely), she can find help in "Anon" programs for those addictions as well.

I hate to say it but it sounds like he is one of those guys who wants a mother. And a guy who got married because that's what his mama told him you do in life. You get married and have children. My father did this. He had 4 children. Blew money and cheated on my mom. I was around 12 when he stopped seing us at all. They divorced when I was 4 or 5. The second wife forced him to see us once a year for her birthdays we would spend the weekend at their house. After he blew all the money and cheated on her multiple times and lost every job he got. Which is exactly what he did to my mom. They divorced. Then we didn't hear from him again for many many years. One day my brother accidentally found where he was. So we sort of started talking again. He had remarried again and been divorced by that woman but was back with her again. He had married her and completely denied ever having any children. She still thinks that it was partially us kids fault. We were teenagers and younger. Wow.

Bye, Jake.

I didn't see "leave" as on option in the poll. That's what she should do. Let him fix his issues on his time, not their daughter's. OP is already alone. I know this from experience.

This post has made me so angry. Towards the beginning he said he couldn't help because he had "an important game." As a new father, the *only* way that game is important is if you are a professional gamer, and winning that game would bring some money in. BE A FATHER, you absolute deadbeat piece of s**t.

I could not imagine a man just ignoring his newborn baby kike this. My daughter had a baby a year ago, and her husband, well fiance at the time, did everything and anything for her. If he could have he would have breast fed that baby, and I think he really wanted to lol. Iam just so grateful that he hs a wonderful husband to my daughter and an absolytly amazing dad to my grandson

The title says "New Mom Decides To Leave Husband". I see no evidence of that.

This guy is a First Class narcissist. It's " all about ME ". P**s him off and have a great life.

i also spend most of my days on the computer, usually gaming, but the difference is that if i have things i NEED to do, i do them (while taking into account weather, how i'm feeling, what time it is, if i need help, etc). this guy is a grade A douchebag, i hope she gets out and squeezes everything she can get out of his sorry a*s.

Sounds like dad hasn't been adjusting well to the stress and responsibilities of a new baby and turned to hiding in his video games to escape his new life. Which isn't ideal, but such adjustments don't happen by magic. As for her, I don't have much sympathy for someone who melodramatically "cries into her pillow" while enduring breastfeeding when formula exists. She should have switched to formula weeks ago and given him ownership over specific baby duties from the start. The poster who recommended having him be in charge of the baby for a full day had it right, I think.

Leaving a relationship is the most dangerous time for a woman. Keep all details of leaving private and away from him. Many women get murdered for daring to leave a relationship. The danger doesn't end because the divorce is final. Always keep an eye on what's behind you.

Sounds like yet another guy who wants to pass on his genes but not be a father

Straight people will literally get married knowing someone a little over a year? Like you already had a child and you hadn't been together even 3 years? You don't know each other. You got married when you should have barely been moving in together. You hadn't tested your relationship at all or even set up expectations for your relationship before having a child together. You have a husband who doesn't even share the load of housework with you and you thought he would suddenly step up because he has a kid now? He's obviously not mature enough to be an equal partner and a good father.

Yes, your husband is being a complete jerk. But given that this is entirely new behavior I wonder if he is going through some kind of emotional/mental health crisis that scares him. His new behavior could be a sign that he doesn't know how to cope. So do what you need to do to take care of yourself and baby, and if you can, tell him he needs some counseling.

Make sure to rinse using warm water and allow breasts to air dry. As often as possible. This will help strengthen your raw breast tissue and decrease mastitis. Since you're home, it's doable as often as you can. Eventually the breast tissue will become more resilient and immune to many new bacterias that were recently introduced. The cracking and chaffing will subside. Also try cleaning baby's gums with water to reduce mouth bacteria. Warm compresses help a ton too. Use a large towel damp it up. Also, change your deodorant for something natural, they don't work as well but trust me the other kind clogs pours in your armpits where milk ducts are also located. That makes it worse. I breastfed 8 kids. And knowing all this helps. I thought it was normal for men to just leave and not lift a finger but I did it all alone and gave myself credit when I tossed my dead weight to the curve. It's not easy. I believe as a woman you, got this. Many of us learn our might this way.

Been there, done that. Love, please 🙏 listen to me. I had a very painful, similar situation. My little brother 💙 flew from Philadelphia to Chicago, rented a u-haul, packed me, my daughter and 2 cats up and drove me back to Pennsylvania. He rented a house for us, paid the rent, bought us food, paid the utilities and my bills for me until I healed and got back on my feet. Family is everything. Trust them because they love you and Emma. They only want the very best for you and thier granddaughter. Don't be afraid to tell them the truth, believe me, they will stand by you and Emma through thick and thin. Start a new, better and beautiful life for you and Emma. You CAN DO IT!!!!! Most of all, place your trust and love ❤️ in God. He provided for me and my daughter, he'll love ❤️ and provide for you and Emma. In closing, my daughter is now 48 and I'm a proud grandma of 2. Prayers 🙏 🙏, love and family will get you through. Much love ❤️

I don't have children, but I know what's it like to be chronically tired (due to anemia × 3 years) and have pain. It's of no help to you atm, but maybe your husband has post natal depression (it's a fact). You and your baby go to family for a while, get a rest. You've tried breast feeding & it's not a success, maybe baby is tongue tied, please get that checked out. Breast feeding isn't for every mother/baby. Your baby has got colostrum, so try formula. I had nieces who tried to beast feed & baby was tongued. I hope both you & your husband get help.❤️❤️❤️.

YTA for marrying a man like that, and for enduring his behavior and still asking what's wrong with yourself instead of comprehending he is the problem. Leave him or quit crying on the internet about him.