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“He Turned Red, He Spit, He Coughed”: Entitled Son Learns The Hard Way Not To Cross Mom
Young people are moving back with their parents in greater numbers than ever before. The stigma that once surrounded such living situations has lifted, and more adults are returning home to cut costs, pay off debt, or save toward their goals. However, for many, this transition feels like a big step backward, which can make getting along with parents more difficult.
This family had a hard time getting used to their 27-year-old son moving back home too, as he couldn’t stop criticizing his mom’s cooking. Luckily, they found a solution, which led to him packing his bags again.
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In this family, the cause of the issue was the son, who couldn’t stop criticizing mom’s cooking
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26 million Americans between the ages of 18 and 29 live with one or both parents
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More than 26 million Americans between the ages of 18 and 29 reported living with one or both parents in 2022. This is happening mainly due to the economy and the pandemic, which made it harder for young people to establish their careers, gain independence and live on their own.
However, it’s not something that young adults should be ashamed or embarrassed of. A person’s 20s is the time to find footing in the world and if it takes a little bit longer, it’s no big deal. Returning to live with parents can help save money, which can be used to pay off student debts or put some finances aside for a house downpayment. It also relieves some worries about accommodation if a person is between jobs. Not to mention, the family gets the opportunity to spend some quality time together that shouldn’t be taken for granted.
Despite all the positives, the new dynamic might take some time getting used to, which means that disagreements about boundaries and house rules may become more frequent. Indeed, losing privacy and a sense of freedom can be frustrating. However, these emotions shouldn’t translate into family conflicts.
Living at home might also hinder adult’s motivation levels, as having fewer responsibilities that are now also shared can make them too comfortable if they’re not careful. This additionally may discourage them from finding a job or moving out when the time is right.
Both parties should be tolerant and respect each other’s boundaries so they can enjoy living together
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So to make this arrangement work, it’s important to keep in mind that this time around everyone is now an adult. What this means is that children shouldn’t fall back to their childhood ways and expect parents to do most things for them. Instead, they should help out with cooking and other household chores and offer to pay for groceries and utility bills.
All of this, of course, should be discussed prior to a child moving in, along with some other boundaries that would make living together easier for both parties. This will vary from situation to situation, but for instance, the family could talk about when guests visits are welcome, if knocking on the door before entering is required and when is quiet time for resting.
For children specifically, it could also be beneficial to have a financial plan and a date for moving out. They should try to figure out what they’ll do with the money they saved and when they should start living on their own again. It will give structure and something to look forward to people who may feel guilty or embarrassed to return home.
Additionally, they shouldn’t forget to take care of themselves and their mental health by getting outside, meeting friends, moving in the gym or going on dates. Living with parents doesn’t mean that a person needs to lock themselves in their home. Besides, parents too want some free time so try to give them their space to live the way they want or are used to.
Moving back with parents can be a real financial saver if a person has a meticulous plan and sticks to it. In the meantime, both parties should be tolerant and respect each other’s boundaries so they can enjoy living together and avoid any frustrations or arguments.
Readers were questioning how the parents ever allowed such son’s behavior
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Ace 11 months ago
Not really, TBH. Needed more suspense, more drama. An AI would probably have done it better than this.
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Thanos'Fingers 10 months ago
I find it absolutely hilarious that the dude these guys hold up as the epitome of masculinity is some annoying British nerd who was raised by a chess champion... He's the sort of dude I flick my gum into the open back windows of his car at stop lights because he's blasting dubstep and wearing sunglasses at 9pm. He's the sort of dude you want to run up and kick in the shin from across the mall, even as a small child. He's the sort of dude who walks into a gas station and the tenant has to yell "you know it's illegal to buy beer for minors, right?!" He's a loser, with a band of losers.
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Libstak 10 months ago (edited)
Where is the poll option of completely unreasonable? Come on, that is more than an "overreaction"...it is utterly uncalled for. His go to is to move to his brothers rather than cook his own meals, is his brother married or in a relationship? They need to be warned and not let him in.
Mike F 11 months ago
This should win some kind of award. They got what they raised. My brother and I were incredibly picky eaters as kids. My mom's line was, well that's what I fixed for dinner, eat it or do without.
Binky Melnik 11 months ago
“My brother and I were incredibly picky eaters as kids”: I’ll bet you’re not now, are you? I, too, was crazy-picky; I didn’t even TRY the fresh mushrooms, asparagus, or other fresh things I picked for my family. I hate myself now. (Fresh mushrooms?! I COULDA HAD FRESH MUSHROOMS!!!) Thank cow most of us grow out of it. (I never tried my mom’s cheesecake, either! I heard “cheese” and imagined Kraft singles. First time I had cheesecake, I was 36. I kicked my a*s around the block for not having eaten hers. What little 🫏🕳️s we can be when we’re young, huh?)
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Binky Melnik 11 months ago
I once saw my best friend’s brother tell his mom to shut up. Emboldened (definitely not the right word), I meekly told my mom to shut up. After I got up off the floor and iced my cheek, I never thought about saying it again, or any other inappropriate words. In my wildest dreams, it NEVER crossed my mind to say anything REMOTELY like this limpdick did!
Jemima Bauer 11 months ago
If I ever said that to my mother, she’d tell me to eat what she cooked or make my own dinner. Dude needs to learn to cook for himself if he’s going to be picky, or rely on ladies who know where to buy Carolina reapers.
Depressy spaghetti 11 months ago
If i said that to my mother id be eating through a tube.
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Paul C. 10 months ago
My wife and I took her sister and BIL out for a curry at our local Indian restaurant. He was all, bring on the heat, as hot as you can. The waiter who knew us well looked at me and I just nodded my head. They gave him a Phall, Jeez, just looking at it made me sweat! The rest of us had beautiful top rated Indian cuisine, while he slowly incinerated in the corner, it was great.
Ginger ninja 10 months ago
Why the hell did OP and her husband let his entitled a*s treat them like s**t for so long it got to this stage?
Upstaged75 10 months ago
If I ever spoke to my mom like that I wouldn't have teeth anymore. Not that I ever would, because I'm not a massively entitled twat.
Jude Laskowski 10 months ago
I'm older, so I don't get the "red pill" thing. When my generation (boomer) started working part time jobs in high school, we were all expected to give our parents a percentage, usually half, of our wages to our parents to pay for room & board. By the time I started community college, I was working 25 hours/week and only came home to sleep, but I still had to pay rent to my parents. I don't understand why this practice stopped. I wonder if this brat was allowed to treat his parents this way before. I would have thrown his clothes out the window and changed the locks.
Phae Thompson 3 months ago
I would have put Carolina Reaper pepper oil in it 1, 500,000-2, 500,00 Scoville units).
Laura A Ivett 10 months ago
Good for her, but the first time he screamed that nonsense at me he would have found his s**t out on the lawn with the doors shut behind him and the locks changed.. how rude and disrespectful
SkippityBoppityBoo 10 months ago
Sorry to say but self entitled jerks like this guy do exist. It's not "creative writing" as much as I wish it was. I will cook and take into accommodation your food preferences, allergies. What I won't do is be a 'cook on demand'. Noone should ever be. You're a grown adult. You are perfectly capable of using a cooker and if you're that incompetent that you can't? Google how to cook or starve... Or order in a microwave meal... I had an ex who was like this, not this extreme, but like this. I am not your maid, I am not your personal chef.
dandylilah 10 months ago
People actually let their grown adult child talk to them like this? Weird.
Angie Falzarano 4 months ago (edited)
Im a great cook even considered going to culinary school. But my ex grew up with a mom who was a terrible cook. So everytime I cooked all he would say dont make that again. Every single meal. My ex had read that you put spices in a dish at the end of cooking. No matter how many ti.es I told him that was fresh herbs and spices only not dry. He thought he made fantastic spaghetti sauce (BTW I'm italian) so he'd put tomato sauce in pan and heat it and put the dried herbs in it at the end and then immediately poured it over the noodles. Worst thing I've ever eaten. It was basically noodles with a can of tomato sauce poured over it. No salt no pepper no Italian seasoning. It wasnt even canned or jarred spaghetti sauce just plain tomato sauce. But he thought it was the greatest thing in the world. One of many reasons hes an ex
LJ Robinson 4 months ago
Newbie here. Why would you put up with even a seconds worth of a raised hostile voice? What in the hell would keep you there?
Crystalwitch60 9 months ago
I’m a mother in the uk I’m 60 n my 23-20 yr old kids still live at home ! Both have worked from 16 all thru college to !and I can safely say if they ever spoke to me like your son did they would have felt my wrath ! wtf did he learn while he was at home like I’d be like who re you n wtf did you do with my son ! My father tried speaking to my step mother like that while I was visiting at 14 n I was already a very good cook by then grandmother bought me up n taught me so the next night I made a curry 😂same effect hehehe NEVER ABUSE THE PERSON WHOS COOKING YOUR FOOD , it never ever ends well EVER ,
Beth Wheeler 10 months ago
I'm 5'4 and my son's are 6' and 6'7". They both know that if they ever pulled that s**t with me I would slap the hell out of them and they would be out of here. The oldest is married and lives about 3 hours away. The younger one still lives with me. Neither of them would talk to me or treat me like that doesn't matter they they're in their 30's if their Daddy heard about it he would also kick their asses. This lady's son has been drinking some spiked Kool aid.
Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 10 months ago
If I talked to Grandma like this I'd be starving in the streets, if I make it out of her house alive
Ruth Watry 10 months ago
I would have laughed when he asked to have his laundry done, taken three showers a day, and refused to cook him anything but macaroni and cheese.
UpupaEpops 10 months ago
I half wonder if this was written by my stepmother. His precious boy has taken it upon himself to be the man of the house. I just about had to scrape my jaw off the floor when he *informed* his mother how she was going to raise our younger sister. Unfortunately his mother doesn't have half the backbone of this lady and our father just never bothered to begin with. So we are stuck with Budget Andrew Tate. And he actually used to be a cool little tyke. I'm trying to hold on to hope that one day he'll snap out of it. But I just don't know anymore.
Li Morrisette 10 months ago
If this is real it's off the rails. No one talks to me like that in my house that I pay for. I don't care who you are. It's very hard to beleive anyone would tolerate that. One, not letting you in my house and two if you were allowed and acted like that all your c**p would be at the end of the driveway until garbage pick up and the locks would be changed.
WonderWoman 10 months ago
BULL!!! This is just another troll post and BP can't or won't recognize them for that they are.
Show thyself 10 months ago
O.o if DB or I would act out like that, especially in a situation where we need our parents... we would've get _1_ warning and an earfull. After that - at the next offense - we'd been thrown out of the front door. Quite literally.
Surly Scot 10 months ago (edited)
OP needs to address how badly she raised that son that he's now behaving that way, also that she even tolerated him speaking to her like that without telling him "you have 5mins to pack your sh*t and GTFO my house or i'm getting my baseball bat. I created your face, i'll smash it the f*ck in too". Now some other women out there are going to have to deal with dating this a-hole of a son and being treated like the mother was. Long, slow, pathetic clap for OP.
Ace 11 months ago
Not really, TBH. Needed more suspense, more drama. An AI would probably have done it better than this.
Load More Replies... Thanos'Fingers 10 months ago
I find it absolutely hilarious that the dude these guys hold up as the epitome of masculinity is some annoying British nerd who was raised by a chess champion... He's the sort of dude I flick my gum into the open back windows of his car at stop lights because he's blasting dubstep and wearing sunglasses at 9pm. He's the sort of dude you want to run up and kick in the shin from across the mall, even as a small child. He's the sort of dude who walks into a gas station and the tenant has to yell "you know it's illegal to buy beer for minors, right?!" He's a loser, with a band of losers.
Load More Replies... Libstak 10 months ago (edited)
Where is the poll option of completely unreasonable? Come on, that is more than an "overreaction"...it is utterly uncalled for. His go to is to move to his brothers rather than cook his own meals, is his brother married or in a relationship? They need to be warned and not let him in.
Mike F 11 months ago
This should win some kind of award. They got what they raised. My brother and I were incredibly picky eaters as kids. My mom's line was, well that's what I fixed for dinner, eat it or do without.
Binky Melnik 11 months ago
“My brother and I were incredibly picky eaters as kids”: I’ll bet you’re not now, are you? I, too, was crazy-picky; I didn’t even TRY the fresh mushrooms, asparagus, or other fresh things I picked for my family. I hate myself now. (Fresh mushrooms?! I COULDA HAD FRESH MUSHROOMS!!!) Thank cow most of us grow out of it. (I never tried my mom’s cheesecake, either! I heard “cheese” and imagined Kraft singles. First time I had cheesecake, I was 36. I kicked my a*s around the block for not having eaten hers. What little 🫏🕳️s we can be when we’re young, huh?)
Load More Replies... Binky Melnik 11 months ago
I once saw my best friend’s brother tell his mom to shut up. Emboldened (definitely not the right word), I meekly told my mom to shut up. After I got up off the floor and iced my cheek, I never thought about saying it again, or any other inappropriate words. In my wildest dreams, it NEVER crossed my mind to say anything REMOTELY like this limpdick did!
Jemima Bauer 11 months ago
If I ever said that to my mother, she’d tell me to eat what she cooked or make my own dinner. Dude needs to learn to cook for himself if he’s going to be picky, or rely on ladies who know where to buy Carolina reapers.
Depressy spaghetti 11 months ago
If i said that to my mother id be eating through a tube.
Load More Replies... Paul C. 10 months ago
My wife and I took her sister and BIL out for a curry at our local Indian restaurant. He was all, bring on the heat, as hot as you can. The waiter who knew us well looked at me and I just nodded my head. They gave him a Phall, Jeez, just looking at it made me sweat! The rest of us had beautiful top rated Indian cuisine, while he slowly incinerated in the corner, it was great.
Ginger ninja 10 months ago
Why the hell did OP and her husband let his entitled a*s treat them like s**t for so long it got to this stage?
Upstaged75 10 months ago
If I ever spoke to my mom like that I wouldn't have teeth anymore. Not that I ever would, because I'm not a massively entitled twat.
Jude Laskowski 10 months ago
I'm older, so I don't get the "red pill" thing. When my generation (boomer) started working part time jobs in high school, we were all expected to give our parents a percentage, usually half, of our wages to our parents to pay for room & board. By the time I started community college, I was working 25 hours/week and only came home to sleep, but I still had to pay rent to my parents. I don't understand why this practice stopped. I wonder if this brat was allowed to treat his parents this way before. I would have thrown his clothes out the window and changed the locks.
Phae Thompson 3 months ago
I would have put Carolina Reaper pepper oil in it 1, 500,000-2, 500,00 Scoville units).
Laura A Ivett 10 months ago
Good for her, but the first time he screamed that nonsense at me he would have found his s**t out on the lawn with the doors shut behind him and the locks changed.. how rude and disrespectful
SkippityBoppityBoo 10 months ago
Sorry to say but self entitled jerks like this guy do exist. It's not "creative writing" as much as I wish it was. I will cook and take into accommodation your food preferences, allergies. What I won't do is be a 'cook on demand'. Noone should ever be. You're a grown adult. You are perfectly capable of using a cooker and if you're that incompetent that you can't? Google how to cook or starve... Or order in a microwave meal... I had an ex who was like this, not this extreme, but like this. I am not your maid, I am not your personal chef.
dandylilah 10 months ago
People actually let their grown adult child talk to them like this? Weird.
Angie Falzarano 4 months ago (edited)
Im a great cook even considered going to culinary school. But my ex grew up with a mom who was a terrible cook. So everytime I cooked all he would say dont make that again. Every single meal. My ex had read that you put spices in a dish at the end of cooking. No matter how many ti.es I told him that was fresh herbs and spices only not dry. He thought he made fantastic spaghetti sauce (BTW I'm italian) so he'd put tomato sauce in pan and heat it and put the dried herbs in it at the end and then immediately poured it over the noodles. Worst thing I've ever eaten. It was basically noodles with a can of tomato sauce poured over it. No salt no pepper no Italian seasoning. It wasnt even canned or jarred spaghetti sauce just plain tomato sauce. But he thought it was the greatest thing in the world. One of many reasons hes an ex
LJ Robinson 4 months ago
Newbie here. Why would you put up with even a seconds worth of a raised hostile voice? What in the hell would keep you there?
Crystalwitch60 9 months ago
I’m a mother in the uk I’m 60 n my 23-20 yr old kids still live at home ! Both have worked from 16 all thru college to !and I can safely say if they ever spoke to me like your son did they would have felt my wrath ! wtf did he learn while he was at home like I’d be like who re you n wtf did you do with my son ! My father tried speaking to my step mother like that while I was visiting at 14 n I was already a very good cook by then grandmother bought me up n taught me so the next night I made a curry 😂same effect hehehe NEVER ABUSE THE PERSON WHOS COOKING YOUR FOOD , it never ever ends well EVER ,
Beth Wheeler 10 months ago
I'm 5'4 and my son's are 6' and 6'7". They both know that if they ever pulled that s**t with me I would slap the hell out of them and they would be out of here. The oldest is married and lives about 3 hours away. The younger one still lives with me. Neither of them would talk to me or treat me like that doesn't matter they they're in their 30's if their Daddy heard about it he would also kick their asses. This lady's son has been drinking some spiked Kool aid.
Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 10 months ago
If I talked to Grandma like this I'd be starving in the streets, if I make it out of her house alive
Ruth Watry 10 months ago
I would have laughed when he asked to have his laundry done, taken three showers a day, and refused to cook him anything but macaroni and cheese.
UpupaEpops 10 months ago
I half wonder if this was written by my stepmother. His precious boy has taken it upon himself to be the man of the house. I just about had to scrape my jaw off the floor when he *informed* his mother how she was going to raise our younger sister. Unfortunately his mother doesn't have half the backbone of this lady and our father just never bothered to begin with. So we are stuck with Budget Andrew Tate. And he actually used to be a cool little tyke. I'm trying to hold on to hope that one day he'll snap out of it. But I just don't know anymore.
Li Morrisette 10 months ago
If this is real it's off the rails. No one talks to me like that in my house that I pay for. I don't care who you are. It's very hard to beleive anyone would tolerate that. One, not letting you in my house and two if you were allowed and acted like that all your c**p would be at the end of the driveway until garbage pick up and the locks would be changed.
WonderWoman 10 months ago
BULL!!! This is just another troll post and BP can't or won't recognize them for that they are.
Show thyself 10 months ago
O.o if DB or I would act out like that, especially in a situation where we need our parents... we would've get _1_ warning and an earfull. After that - at the next offense - we'd been thrown out of the front door. Quite literally.
Surly Scot 10 months ago (edited)
OP needs to address how badly she raised that son that he's now behaving that way, also that she even tolerated him speaking to her like that without telling him "you have 5mins to pack your sh*t and GTFO my house or i'm getting my baseball bat. I created your face, i'll smash it the f*ck in too". Now some other women out there are going to have to deal with dating this a-hole of a son and being treated like the mother was. Long, slow, pathetic clap for OP.
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