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“I Am Fed Up”: Wife Stops Cooking For Picky Husband And Son, Finds Unexpected Peace
Being an adult can get tiring. But being a working mom is exhausting. Especially if you don’t have help at home. On top of your 9-5, you’re dealing with kids, laundry, cleaning and, let’s not forget cooking. If you’re lucky, your family will eat whatever you make, and devour it with gratitude.
But that’s not always the case. One fed-up mother recently went online to share her experience of living with “the pickiest eaters on the planet”. The woman considers herself to be quite a good cook but her fussy husband and son keep turning their noses up at their plates. She’s sick and tired of food going to waste. And is considering hanging up her oven gloves for good, but isn’t sure if she should.
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Deciding what to make for dinner can be difficult, especially when you have to take everyone’s preferences into consideration
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For this woman, it’s a nightmare because her husband and son refuse to eat most of the food she cooks
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There are many benefits to having a healthy and well-balanced diet
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A healthy diet not only helps protect against malnutrition, but also serves as a defence against noncommunicable diseases (NCDs) like like diabetes, heart disease, stroke and cancer. According to the Center for Science in the Public Interest, unhealthy eating contributes to approximately 678,000 deaths in the U.S each year.
Children who don’t eat enough healthy foods are at risk of growth and developmental problems, poor academic performance, and frequent infections. If their bad eating habits are left unchecked, they could continue to choose just chicken fingers right into adulthood. Much like the exhausted mom’s husband.
And of course, if an unhealthy eater doesn’t exercise, there’s the added risk of obesity. It’s a big problem in America, and some other parts of the world. The Center for Science in the Public Interest revealed that in the last 30 years, obesity rates have doubled in adults, tripled in children, and quadrupled in adolescents.
Eating the same three meals on rotation is unlikely to give you all the nutrients you need. Although it does depend on the ingredients of those meals. According to the “Dietary Guidelines for Americans, 2020-2025“, the core elements of a healthy diet include fruits, vegetables, grains, dairy (lactose-free versions or fortified soy beverages as alternatives), protein and oils. “A healthy dietary pattern doesn’t have much room for extra added sugars, saturated fat, or sodium—or for alcoholic beverages,” reads the guideline.
Scientists say our genes play a part in how fussy we are when it comes to food
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It turns out that picky eating is a result of differences in DNA. “Food fussiness is not something that arises from parenting. It really does come down to the genetic differences between us,” said behavioral geneticist at UCL, Dr Zeynep Nas. Nas was part of a research team that looked into the reasons children refuse to eat certain foods.
The team recently compared the eating habits of identical twins and non-identical twins. Identical twins share 100% of their genes, while non-identical twins share only half. They found that fussy eating habits were more similar among identical twins than non-identical twins.
It wasn’t the first study to blame genetics for food fussiness. In 2022, an Italian research institute led a study into the genetics of food preferences. “Although flavour is the first driver of food choices, genetic differences are more likely to determine how the brain responds to them,” said lead researcher, Dr Nicola Pirastu.
Many parents will deal with picky eaters at some point in their journey
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Experts define picky eaters as those ‘who consume an inadequate variety of foods through rejection of a substantial amount of food that are familiar (as well as unfamiliar) to them’.
Psychology Today reports that picky eating affects around 20% of children in one way or another. “Navigating picky eating can be emotionally exhausting and triggers anxieties about nutritional deficiencies, growth delays, and health problems,” reads the site.
Some of the ways to combat picky eating in children are to lead by example in what you eat, to create a positive mealtime environment, to encourage mindful eating and to show your own curiosity and excitement about tasting new dishes.
Netizens shared their own similar stories and advised the mom to cook nice meals for herself
Some felt the mom was wrong for not cooking for her child
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Bowtechie 2 weeks ago (edited)
I'm totally on the side of the commenters saying she should just cook a nice meal for herself and not the others. The son seems to just be following the husband's example since he was adventurous before but now is being a typical teen and/or wanting to emulate stepdad as the (I assume) primary male figure in the house. I have a feeling if the son watches his mom enjoy things she likes for long enough the old curiosity will slowly come back and he'll want to try what she's eating as he gets more and more bored with what stepdad's eating. Of course, I may also be completely wrong on that front, but that doesn't change my opinion mom should just cook for herself and rediscover her love for it for her own benefit. Husband can lump it and get off his a*s to cook for himself.
Ivy at Eve 2 weeks ago
I agree. It may take a while but smelling the good food and seeing mom enjoying a meal, will have him want to try once again. She might be playing the long game. Regarding hubby: cook your own dinner or eat what is provided. If he chooses to go hungry on a full table, well, first world problems...
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CanadianDimes 2 weeks ago
The YTA who ordered her to learn Jamaican food is delusional if her husband and son don’t like Spanish food, they’re not going to like Jamaican food either.
Brian Droste 2 weeks ago
If I had someone to cook for me, I wouldn't complain what they cooked for me as long as it is food I liked. Even if it wasn't quite to my taste but palatable, I would eat it anyways and not complain. They went to a lot of trouble to prepare it and cook it for what, maybe 10 minutes of eating?
Sand Ers 2 weeks ago
My other half prefers to do the cooking, and the only thing I’m at all picky about is that I dislike food spiced with capsaicin (chili peppers), raw onion, or detectable amounts of pepper. In 24 years I’ve only ever been handed one thing that was inedible, and we were both in agreement on that. I wouldn’t dream of complaining even if something isn’t on my list of favorites. “Not favorite” beats “no food” every time.
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Boo 2 weeks ago
My hubs and I make our own meals (he's veggie and I'm diabetic) so it's easier on us to do our own thing. But the 13 year old son? Awww hell no! He's old enough to cook for himself. Those YTA's are insane. The kid needs to learn a basic life skill here.
Papa 2 weeks ago
I was surprised reading the reply above saying the mother should be cooking to suit her son's preferences. When our children were still living at home and my wife would be worried that she would cook something they didn't like I would tell her that we aren't operating a cafe. They could eat what she cooked (she's a good cook, by the way) or they could eat a sandwich.
Load More Replies... J. Norton 2 weeks ago
Bored Panda!! You are censoring the word v.a.g.i.n.a.??? Really? Good lord, pathetic.....🙄
Tap blast 2 weeks ago
Came here to say the same thing. Who are these censors? Do they have penises?
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Lyone Fein 2 weeks ago
Yup, she should definitely stop cooking for both of them. And make wonderful meals for herself. Her behavior is teaching her son what to expect in a relationship with another person. So I think it's important that he sees that there are consequences for treating someone the way he and his stepfather have been treating her. If the kid starts getting hungry too often, maybe it'll be a good time to start teaching him some basic cooking techniques. By 13 I was already reading The Joy of Cooking, and experimenting with making homemade jelly, cakes, etc. It can be done.
Bat cat in a hat 2 weeks ago
My mum is an extremely picky eater, she'll cook but never try anything so a few times the food would be too bland or too salty etc - but I can count on my fingers how many times that happened, and it was always salvageable. My dad would always complain "it's not like my mum made it, I hate it" even if the food was nice, so one day she said to him he'd be cooking his own meals from then on - and she never cooked for him again, not even toast. He lived on instant ramen for years until he got serious digestive issues, then suddenly even meals on wheels was delicious. He truly FAFO'ed.
Roald Vd Munt 2 weeks ago
Divorce the child and tell your son to stop acting like a spoiled twat.
Breadcrumb. 2 weeks ago
It's almost like the number one fight between couples is, what to eat, when to eat it. Eating separate meals In a relationship can be helpful, my husband and I share a meal maybe once a week. Doesn't work for everyone but it does for us.
Janissary35680 2 weeks ago
My mom to a nephew who was staying with us for a week: "You know what we call picky eaters in this house?" "No." "Hungry." He came around after the second day. The kid's mother (my aunt, mom's younger sister) later thanked mom.
Philly Bob 2 weeks ago
OP would you run away with me? LOL! I'm 66, been married twice first starting in 1979. Neither woman cooked. I make all of the food for my family and even when I was younger, I'd make dinner for my mom, dad and 2 sisters. I flippin' WISH someone would cook just one lousy meal for me! LOL! Oh, and I'm versitile as all hell! I'd eat sand if you cooked it right! (I know OP will never see this but!) Lady, use your skills to whip up some great food and go eat it yourself. I'd give them a big 'ol bag of meow mix and walk away clean!
Batwench 2 weeks ago
I am now the “picky eater” in our house as I have been diagnosed with coeliac disease. However growing up, we had two options; take it or leave it. Unless of course it actually made you vomit. Liver I am looking at you.
Tabitha 2 weeks ago
You’re not a picky eater. You have a condition requiring dietary changes, to keep you from being really sick all the time. That’s not picky, that’s survival, ffs. I’m not celiac, but I now cannot tolerate gluten any more—-and I was always someone who absolutely adored baked goods, so I know very well what I’m missing out on. But I have found some gluten-free foods and ingredients that taste so close to their gluten-filled counterparts, even my picky husband (who witnessed me getting really sick after eating gluten) will eat them and declare them delicious.
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Beth Wheeler 2 weeks ago
She needs to cook whatever she wants to cook if her kid and husband don't want any she can freeze the leftovers.
Kim Shannon 2 weeks ago
She's not their servant, and as my mother in law would say, "This ain't no restaurant!" I put up with this for years from my stepdaughter and finally said no more. Her mom and dad let her dictate everything. Every time I made dinner, she would refuse to eat, so hubby and I sat down to our meal. Right away she'd say, "Dad, I'm hungry." So he would leave the dinner table to make her a special meal. Then she started to refuse what she had requested and an hours long tantrum would ensue. Or she would cry and complain she didn't like the plates and silverware. It was ridiculous. Finally her dad stood up to her and told her to go to her room if she was that unhappy. After a few more screaming tantrums, she realized if she wanted to sit down and eat as a family, she had to act right. We didn't have problems after that anymore.
PeepPeep the duck 2 weeks ago
I had a bf who lasted 7 months because of this 😂 but his thing was not matter how amazing the food was, he would cook maggi two minute noodles (oriental flavour, which isn’t bad on its own if you’re in the mood for kid food) he would pour the two minute noodles on top of his food and eat away. The last straw was cutting chicken breast and then lettuce on the same board and with the same knife and expecting me to eat it and the way he treated wait staff was appalling (I’m an ex hospitality worker, went from kitchen hand as kid and worked up to manager so I took massive offence ). Never dated a football player again, he was so into himself in the wrong way and now I hate the rabbitos team 😂
sarcastic cat 2 weeks ago
I'm a very picky eater but OP's husband takes it to a whole different level.
Aballi 2 weeks ago
NTA. I'm laughing at the last post comment stating YTA because you should learn to cook new meals like Jamaican food. Nowhere in your description of your family did I get the message they might like and eat new meals, Jamaican or not!! Anyway. You should cook what you want and enjoy it! Also I feel bad for your husband and son. My mom was a wonderful cook. I loved eating her food. She passed away unexpectedly a few years ago and I'm so grateful I didn't skip any of her meals. <3
Broadredpanda 2 weeks ago
NTA!!! But you're being harsh on yourself. I would cook food you like, but make enough for everyone (the husband probably won't eat it though) because children like different kinds of food. I wouldn't allow the children to eat with your husband, simply because if they look up to him they'll copy him as you are seeing that happening. He's teaching them bad eating habits and he's a big baby. The fact that he doesn't cook even now is a huge red flag. This surely isn't good for your marriage/relationship? Something has gotta give and it's on him. Take your child to a restaurant (bonding time) let them pick which restaurant first and you pick the next one. I think someone else said this. I'd lay money on it that he enjoys something different. But, no matter what, cook what you love because you deserve to eat something that you find delicious and make extra without forcing any of it on anyone else. Good luck OP!!!!
Broadredpanda 2 weeks ago
Sorry! I meant to say that I'd make something as simple as a stir fry without really strong tasting ingredients and pop them in a tortilla wrap. I don't know many kids that don't like this. You can add other ingredients every time you make them. Just an idea.
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Tiger 2 weeks ago
Stuff like this makes me feel so blessed to have a boyfriend who expressed interest in cooking years ago (when he wanted to help me in the kitchen) and now he’s so good that he cooks dinner for his family 3-4 nights a week. (He lives with his parents and brother because rent is atrocious here). He’s actually really good too, I love his food ☺️
Petra Peitsch 2 weeks ago
Order pizza for those two, and cook for yourself, what you like. You are a partner, together with your husband a family. Ypu are not a personal chef. If he is "special needs", what he thinks, you can get them ... the solution is very easy. Make your f.cking dish for your own, if you don!t like mine, I!m not your slave! And if you are influencing our son too ... No problem! You can also make his dishes too! Any other reaction will make the OP a slave, not a partner!
Jessica SpeLangm 1 day ago
OP should ensure that any meals she makes for herself are kept safe from being pitched in the garbage. We all know they'll try to sabotage her good meals so that she will have to make their meals.
The Cool Grandma 4 days ago
NTA .. at 13, her son can cook mac and cheese and scrambled eggs, make sandwiches too. I think she should cook what ever she wants. She can freeze leftovers for when she doesn't feel like cooking or for her work lunches. She can stock up on chicken nuggets/tenders and tatter tots for hubby to cook for him and son. Maybe some ramen, and sandwich fixings. Boom done. I have these in my home for days I don't feel like cooking or grandkids don't like what I cooked. They can fix and eat when they get hungry.
Vicki Mathison 1 week ago
Had this same convo with my SO. My vjj. Doesn't help me cook or clean and you pp do not stop you.
Red Skye 2 weeks ago
NTA, genitals and reproductive organs don't do housework, cook, etc. Just cook what YOU want, in a meal prep and freeze kind of way, make it smell great, enticing as hell, to YOU, and store things in the freezr, and reheat when its time for YOUR dinner, and just you wait, your teenage son, will slowly but surely stop considering his moronic father's extreme pickiness limiting him to three ridiculous at that meal ideas, is just that moronic, and the only one he's punishing is himself. In time he will raid the freezer to 'borrow' one of your meals. when he does, ask did he like it, and IF he says yes, say fine, next time I do meal prep I'll teach you how to make it for YOURSELF, your son that is.
Fellfromthemoon 2 weeks ago
I got flashbacks. My grandmother believed to be a good cook and she always told me that I was a picky eater. Later I tasted many dishes that she used to cook - but properly prepared. What a difference!
KatSaidWhat 2 weeks ago
It's always easy to spot the YTA who didn't read the whole thing, and particularly the part where she was cooking for the son but he wouldn't eat it.
P.L. Packer 2 weeks ago
My kids learned at an early age to take two bites of everything. I don't cook separate meals, I don't do take out or frozen dinners. They eat what's put before them or go to bed hungry. I have no sympathy for spoiled adults or children over the age of 10. I live about an hour away from any restaurant/take out so it's not feasible. I am a good cook, I am asked to prepare meals and cater events so I know I'm not feeding anyone bad food. My ex would sit at the table EVERY SINGLE NIGHT, look at his plate and say "What's this s**t?" One night I'd had enough.....he said it and I picked up his filled plate and chucked it in the garbage.
Mad McQueen 2 weeks ago
Eat out before going home. Cook for yourself only. Or just order uber. Any way they know where the groceries are. Maybe leave some Italian American cookbooks around and see if they find them. Other than that they both are rude and sexist for thinking it's your job to feed them...even when they don't eat it and waste the food.
notlikeyou1971 2 weeks ago
We were a weird family anyway because we didn't eat at the same table in a kitchen when it was offered to us but the thing was that if a meal was offered and we didn't like it,we made what we wanted ourselves. There were other options and there was a microwave,a fridge,and other food. It's not like we would starve. You shouldn't have to go out of your way to make 3 different things for the family just because there's picky eaters in the house. I don't think that is right. You don't have to be stuck eating cheese and crackers because they don't like a meal. They are just lazy. Eat what you want. They will eat when they are hungry. You are not hurting anyone. I was fine making my own food and eating in the living room in front of the tv or as a teen,in my room. They have arms and legs and can do it themselves. Quit feeling guilty and depriving yourself. They caused this. They can deal with the consequences.
LilliVB 2 weeks ago
What troubles me is not the husband but the kid. It's dangerous, health wise, being a picky eater. More times than not, you don't get all the necessary nutrients if your diet is not varied enough. And while an adult is responsible for their own health, a kid should be followed and properly taught about it. I know that a teenager has still time to grow out of such a bad habit, but in OP shoes I would be angry to my husband to possibly endanger my kid with such a bad example.
Learner Panda 2 weeks ago
Cook whatever you fancy and eat it in front of them. Buy a children's cook book and present it to them both. Then leave them to fend for themselves.
Traveling Lady Railfan 2 weeks ago
People saying "oh good, just make dinners for yourself..."it's really not that easy though. Listen to what op is saying...she's making herself crackers and cheese for dinner. and that's fine, but not every single dinner forever. It's really hard to cook for one person. Not in terms of deciding what it is you want to eat ( in that way it's much easier) but the motivation to shop and prep and cook just for yourself when you say "oh heck with it I'll just have a bowl of cereal, crackers and cheese, half a bag of pretzels..." I'm glad op doesn't have to cook for man-child anymore, he sounds insufferable. I hope the teenager goes back to the way he was so that she has two people to cook for. She'll find that to be much more rewarding.
Auntriarch 2 weeks ago
I agree she should still give the lad the option to eat her food, and I understand her being so tired of everything. Batch and freeze is probably her friend here.
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Apatheist Account2 2 weeks ago
*palate (I know she's not English, just correcting before it propagates).
Bowtechie 2 weeks ago (edited)
I'm totally on the side of the commenters saying she should just cook a nice meal for herself and not the others. The son seems to just be following the husband's example since he was adventurous before but now is being a typical teen and/or wanting to emulate stepdad as the (I assume) primary male figure in the house. I have a feeling if the son watches his mom enjoy things she likes for long enough the old curiosity will slowly come back and he'll want to try what she's eating as he gets more and more bored with what stepdad's eating. Of course, I may also be completely wrong on that front, but that doesn't change my opinion mom should just cook for herself and rediscover her love for it for her own benefit. Husband can lump it and get off his a*s to cook for himself.
Ivy at Eve 2 weeks ago
I agree. It may take a while but smelling the good food and seeing mom enjoying a meal, will have him want to try once again. She might be playing the long game. Regarding hubby: cook your own dinner or eat what is provided. If he chooses to go hungry on a full table, well, first world problems...
Load More Replies... CanadianDimes 2 weeks ago
The YTA who ordered her to learn Jamaican food is delusional if her husband and son don’t like Spanish food, they’re not going to like Jamaican food either.
Brian Droste 2 weeks ago
If I had someone to cook for me, I wouldn't complain what they cooked for me as long as it is food I liked. Even if it wasn't quite to my taste but palatable, I would eat it anyways and not complain. They went to a lot of trouble to prepare it and cook it for what, maybe 10 minutes of eating?
Sand Ers 2 weeks ago
My other half prefers to do the cooking, and the only thing I’m at all picky about is that I dislike food spiced with capsaicin (chili peppers), raw onion, or detectable amounts of pepper. In 24 years I’ve only ever been handed one thing that was inedible, and we were both in agreement on that. I wouldn’t dream of complaining even if something isn’t on my list of favorites. “Not favorite” beats “no food” every time.
Load More Replies... Boo 2 weeks ago
My hubs and I make our own meals (he's veggie and I'm diabetic) so it's easier on us to do our own thing. But the 13 year old son? Awww hell no! He's old enough to cook for himself. Those YTA's are insane. The kid needs to learn a basic life skill here.
Papa 2 weeks ago
I was surprised reading the reply above saying the mother should be cooking to suit her son's preferences. When our children were still living at home and my wife would be worried that she would cook something they didn't like I would tell her that we aren't operating a cafe. They could eat what she cooked (she's a good cook, by the way) or they could eat a sandwich.
Load More Replies... J. Norton 2 weeks ago
Bored Panda!! You are censoring the word v.a.g.i.n.a.??? Really? Good lord, pathetic.....🙄
Tap blast 2 weeks ago
Came here to say the same thing. Who are these censors? Do they have penises?
Load More Replies... Lyone Fein 2 weeks ago
Yup, she should definitely stop cooking for both of them. And make wonderful meals for herself. Her behavior is teaching her son what to expect in a relationship with another person. So I think it's important that he sees that there are consequences for treating someone the way he and his stepfather have been treating her. If the kid starts getting hungry too often, maybe it'll be a good time to start teaching him some basic cooking techniques. By 13 I was already reading The Joy of Cooking, and experimenting with making homemade jelly, cakes, etc. It can be done.
Bat cat in a hat 2 weeks ago
My mum is an extremely picky eater, she'll cook but never try anything so a few times the food would be too bland or too salty etc - but I can count on my fingers how many times that happened, and it was always salvageable. My dad would always complain "it's not like my mum made it, I hate it" even if the food was nice, so one day she said to him he'd be cooking his own meals from then on - and she never cooked for him again, not even toast. He lived on instant ramen for years until he got serious digestive issues, then suddenly even meals on wheels was delicious. He truly FAFO'ed.
Roald Vd Munt 2 weeks ago
Divorce the child and tell your son to stop acting like a spoiled twat.
Breadcrumb. 2 weeks ago
It's almost like the number one fight between couples is, what to eat, when to eat it. Eating separate meals In a relationship can be helpful, my husband and I share a meal maybe once a week. Doesn't work for everyone but it does for us.
Janissary35680 2 weeks ago
My mom to a nephew who was staying with us for a week: "You know what we call picky eaters in this house?" "No." "Hungry." He came around after the second day. The kid's mother (my aunt, mom's younger sister) later thanked mom.
Philly Bob 2 weeks ago
OP would you run away with me? LOL! I'm 66, been married twice first starting in 1979. Neither woman cooked. I make all of the food for my family and even when I was younger, I'd make dinner for my mom, dad and 2 sisters. I flippin' WISH someone would cook just one lousy meal for me! LOL! Oh, and I'm versitile as all hell! I'd eat sand if you cooked it right! (I know OP will never see this but!) Lady, use your skills to whip up some great food and go eat it yourself. I'd give them a big 'ol bag of meow mix and walk away clean!
Batwench 2 weeks ago
I am now the “picky eater” in our house as I have been diagnosed with coeliac disease. However growing up, we had two options; take it or leave it. Unless of course it actually made you vomit. Liver I am looking at you.
Tabitha 2 weeks ago
You’re not a picky eater. You have a condition requiring dietary changes, to keep you from being really sick all the time. That’s not picky, that’s survival, ffs. I’m not celiac, but I now cannot tolerate gluten any more—-and I was always someone who absolutely adored baked goods, so I know very well what I’m missing out on. But I have found some gluten-free foods and ingredients that taste so close to their gluten-filled counterparts, even my picky husband (who witnessed me getting really sick after eating gluten) will eat them and declare them delicious.
Load More Replies... Beth Wheeler 2 weeks ago
She needs to cook whatever she wants to cook if her kid and husband don't want any she can freeze the leftovers.
Kim Shannon 2 weeks ago
She's not their servant, and as my mother in law would say, "This ain't no restaurant!" I put up with this for years from my stepdaughter and finally said no more. Her mom and dad let her dictate everything. Every time I made dinner, she would refuse to eat, so hubby and I sat down to our meal. Right away she'd say, "Dad, I'm hungry." So he would leave the dinner table to make her a special meal. Then she started to refuse what she had requested and an hours long tantrum would ensue. Or she would cry and complain she didn't like the plates and silverware. It was ridiculous. Finally her dad stood up to her and told her to go to her room if she was that unhappy. After a few more screaming tantrums, she realized if she wanted to sit down and eat as a family, she had to act right. We didn't have problems after that anymore.
PeepPeep the duck 2 weeks ago
I had a bf who lasted 7 months because of this 😂 but his thing was not matter how amazing the food was, he would cook maggi two minute noodles (oriental flavour, which isn’t bad on its own if you’re in the mood for kid food) he would pour the two minute noodles on top of his food and eat away. The last straw was cutting chicken breast and then lettuce on the same board and with the same knife and expecting me to eat it and the way he treated wait staff was appalling (I’m an ex hospitality worker, went from kitchen hand as kid and worked up to manager so I took massive offence ). Never dated a football player again, he was so into himself in the wrong way and now I hate the rabbitos team 😂
sarcastic cat 2 weeks ago
I'm a very picky eater but OP's husband takes it to a whole different level.
Aballi 2 weeks ago
NTA. I'm laughing at the last post comment stating YTA because you should learn to cook new meals like Jamaican food. Nowhere in your description of your family did I get the message they might like and eat new meals, Jamaican or not!! Anyway. You should cook what you want and enjoy it! Also I feel bad for your husband and son. My mom was a wonderful cook. I loved eating her food. She passed away unexpectedly a few years ago and I'm so grateful I didn't skip any of her meals. <3
Broadredpanda 2 weeks ago
NTA!!! But you're being harsh on yourself. I would cook food you like, but make enough for everyone (the husband probably won't eat it though) because children like different kinds of food. I wouldn't allow the children to eat with your husband, simply because if they look up to him they'll copy him as you are seeing that happening. He's teaching them bad eating habits and he's a big baby. The fact that he doesn't cook even now is a huge red flag. This surely isn't good for your marriage/relationship? Something has gotta give and it's on him. Take your child to a restaurant (bonding time) let them pick which restaurant first and you pick the next one. I think someone else said this. I'd lay money on it that he enjoys something different. But, no matter what, cook what you love because you deserve to eat something that you find delicious and make extra without forcing any of it on anyone else. Good luck OP!!!!
Broadredpanda 2 weeks ago
Sorry! I meant to say that I'd make something as simple as a stir fry without really strong tasting ingredients and pop them in a tortilla wrap. I don't know many kids that don't like this. You can add other ingredients every time you make them. Just an idea.
Load More Replies... Tiger 2 weeks ago
Stuff like this makes me feel so blessed to have a boyfriend who expressed interest in cooking years ago (when he wanted to help me in the kitchen) and now he’s so good that he cooks dinner for his family 3-4 nights a week. (He lives with his parents and brother because rent is atrocious here). He’s actually really good too, I love his food ☺️
Petra Peitsch 2 weeks ago
Order pizza for those two, and cook for yourself, what you like. You are a partner, together with your husband a family. Ypu are not a personal chef. If he is "special needs", what he thinks, you can get them ... the solution is very easy. Make your f.cking dish for your own, if you don!t like mine, I!m not your slave! And if you are influencing our son too ... No problem! You can also make his dishes too! Any other reaction will make the OP a slave, not a partner!
Jessica SpeLangm 1 day ago
OP should ensure that any meals she makes for herself are kept safe from being pitched in the garbage. We all know they'll try to sabotage her good meals so that she will have to make their meals.
The Cool Grandma 4 days ago
NTA .. at 13, her son can cook mac and cheese and scrambled eggs, make sandwiches too. I think she should cook what ever she wants. She can freeze leftovers for when she doesn't feel like cooking or for her work lunches. She can stock up on chicken nuggets/tenders and tatter tots for hubby to cook for him and son. Maybe some ramen, and sandwich fixings. Boom done. I have these in my home for days I don't feel like cooking or grandkids don't like what I cooked. They can fix and eat when they get hungry.
Vicki Mathison 1 week ago
Had this same convo with my SO. My vjj. Doesn't help me cook or clean and you pp do not stop you.
Red Skye 2 weeks ago
NTA, genitals and reproductive organs don't do housework, cook, etc. Just cook what YOU want, in a meal prep and freeze kind of way, make it smell great, enticing as hell, to YOU, and store things in the freezr, and reheat when its time for YOUR dinner, and just you wait, your teenage son, will slowly but surely stop considering his moronic father's extreme pickiness limiting him to three ridiculous at that meal ideas, is just that moronic, and the only one he's punishing is himself. In time he will raid the freezer to 'borrow' one of your meals. when he does, ask did he like it, and IF he says yes, say fine, next time I do meal prep I'll teach you how to make it for YOURSELF, your son that is.
Fellfromthemoon 2 weeks ago
I got flashbacks. My grandmother believed to be a good cook and she always told me that I was a picky eater. Later I tasted many dishes that she used to cook - but properly prepared. What a difference!
KatSaidWhat 2 weeks ago
It's always easy to spot the YTA who didn't read the whole thing, and particularly the part where she was cooking for the son but he wouldn't eat it.
P.L. Packer 2 weeks ago
My kids learned at an early age to take two bites of everything. I don't cook separate meals, I don't do take out or frozen dinners. They eat what's put before them or go to bed hungry. I have no sympathy for spoiled adults or children over the age of 10. I live about an hour away from any restaurant/take out so it's not feasible. I am a good cook, I am asked to prepare meals and cater events so I know I'm not feeding anyone bad food. My ex would sit at the table EVERY SINGLE NIGHT, look at his plate and say "What's this s**t?" One night I'd had enough.....he said it and I picked up his filled plate and chucked it in the garbage.
Mad McQueen 2 weeks ago
Eat out before going home. Cook for yourself only. Or just order uber. Any way they know where the groceries are. Maybe leave some Italian American cookbooks around and see if they find them. Other than that they both are rude and sexist for thinking it's your job to feed them...even when they don't eat it and waste the food.
notlikeyou1971 2 weeks ago
We were a weird family anyway because we didn't eat at the same table in a kitchen when it was offered to us but the thing was that if a meal was offered and we didn't like it,we made what we wanted ourselves. There were other options and there was a microwave,a fridge,and other food. It's not like we would starve. You shouldn't have to go out of your way to make 3 different things for the family just because there's picky eaters in the house. I don't think that is right. You don't have to be stuck eating cheese and crackers because they don't like a meal. They are just lazy. Eat what you want. They will eat when they are hungry. You are not hurting anyone. I was fine making my own food and eating in the living room in front of the tv or as a teen,in my room. They have arms and legs and can do it themselves. Quit feeling guilty and depriving yourself. They caused this. They can deal with the consequences.
LilliVB 2 weeks ago
What troubles me is not the husband but the kid. It's dangerous, health wise, being a picky eater. More times than not, you don't get all the necessary nutrients if your diet is not varied enough. And while an adult is responsible for their own health, a kid should be followed and properly taught about it. I know that a teenager has still time to grow out of such a bad habit, but in OP shoes I would be angry to my husband to possibly endanger my kid with such a bad example.
Learner Panda 2 weeks ago
Cook whatever you fancy and eat it in front of them. Buy a children's cook book and present it to them both. Then leave them to fend for themselves.
Traveling Lady Railfan 2 weeks ago
People saying "oh good, just make dinners for yourself..."it's really not that easy though. Listen to what op is saying...she's making herself crackers and cheese for dinner. and that's fine, but not every single dinner forever. It's really hard to cook for one person. Not in terms of deciding what it is you want to eat ( in that way it's much easier) but the motivation to shop and prep and cook just for yourself when you say "oh heck with it I'll just have a bowl of cereal, crackers and cheese, half a bag of pretzels..." I'm glad op doesn't have to cook for man-child anymore, he sounds insufferable. I hope the teenager goes back to the way he was so that she has two people to cook for. She'll find that to be much more rewarding.
Auntriarch 2 weeks ago
I agree she should still give the lad the option to eat her food, and I understand her being so tired of everything. Batch and freeze is probably her friend here.
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*palate (I know she's not English, just correcting before it propagates).
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