If your kid gained a lot of weight or even a little bit of weight the nurse was right and telling her so. Stop being so sensitive and take a look at your daughter. Take a look at your daughter and her health.

I think the question was completely normal. The kid/mom could have easily explained that she gained in height and also muscle due to sports - the nurse asked if it was junk food or a change in activity level. The nurse also asked if her period was regular. Irregular period + weight gain can point to thyroid problems for example. Unusually high weight gain can point to a whole host of problems. This was not the nurse calling the girl fat, she's looking after her health and making sure to catch possible issues on time.

The mom lost me at "She is perfect", otherwise the NP could have chosen her words better.

Is mom a professional, educated in healthcare? No! Is the NP educated in healthcare? Most certainly YES! So, mom better pay attention to the NP, as she's asking IMPORTANT questions, that could have serious consequences if answered incorrectly or avoided entirely, just for the sake of "not hurting someone's feelings".

As a nutrition graduate I can actually understand both sides of the argument here. If the picture at the top is of the girl in question, then she is of a perfectly healthy weight. Sudden growth spurts are very common at that age, and as puberty progresses women develop fat stores which prepares them for pregnancy at a later date. Bone density also increases with physical activity, as does muscle mass, which impacts weight. Sudden weight gain is not abnormal, particularly with gains in height. Health practitioners sometimes need to question weight; I've even had my own weight flagged when I gained suddenly. However, there is a sensitive way of asking appropriately, and with girls in particular (who are very susceptible and impressionable at that age) care should be taken to emphasise the fact that growth spurts are normal, and that puberty isn't about linear weight gain. That nurse could have handled it WAY better.

guys, why everyone seems to be so in favor of nurse at this particular time? i mean, yes, she was doing her job, but how about an alternative and less harmful way to do it? also, it doesn't even seem to be a question of the girl becoming obese, just gaining some weight, right? i was 11 years old when my cardiologist told me in a pretty rude way to stop eating pastries, as i was supposed to be a lot thinner, because my mom was so thin (i was not even close to being overweight, a little chubby, though). i developed severe anorexia months later, and, of course, that was not the only factor, but sure one of them, so why would people think this kind of attitude and behavior of nurse is fine, i would probably do exactly the same as that mother did..

I am ok with the NP asking but the way she did it could definitely have been done in a more positive way. I totally agree with Mom. It could have been handled better.

I actually don't mind health workers questioning their patient's weight. That said, two things pop out regarding this nurse: 1. Her wording is incredibly rude, IF that is how she phrased her question. 2. If this girl is 13 years old, she's hitting puberty. Of f*****g course she'll gain weight. The nurse sounds not just rude, but incompetent as well.

Body shaming, blah blah blah, someone freaking out on the Internet, blah blah blah, someone making their private business everyone else's business, blah blah blah. And now this girl is going to be taunted as a fatty and for having a crazy mother at school, because that's the way kids are.

I mean if my kids suddenly gaining weight or losing weight rapidly i would like to know why.. Of course if they gaining or losing weight rspidly but everything is normal than Its fine. Its not fat shaming or body shaming. Its something doctors need to know to find out is there something wrong with the body..

It's called a growth spurt and added muscle mass. Calm TF down crazy lady.

I created training for doctors to deal with pediatric obesity. I've never seen so many doctors absolutely terrified of a subject. They feel like they have to bring it up, as it is a real health concern, but that the patient and parents usually respond very poorly and that there is little they can do. I think it's odd that the mom who wrote this didn't give any more details. Did her daughter simply grow taller and the weight was in line with that? If so, then we'd all agree that there is no issue. Did her daughter remain about the same height as a year ago but add 70 pounds? Cause then there might be a much bigger issue. It could be physical, it could be signs of mental health issues, could be a sign of abuse. Most likely is it was somewhere in between. Also, does that photo go with the story or did the bored panda editor just grab it and throw it in here? Cause it's very misleading to begin this story with that photo if that isn't the girl in the story.

I hate this message that's going around: "YOU ARE PERFECT". You are NOT perfect and we need to accept that. It's a dangerous thing to say

yes mum overreacted but what's actually wrong with daughters weight, looks fine in photo

I'm kinda half-and-half on this one. It's exactly appropriate for a doctor to ask questions about weight, but she coulda worded it better.

Nowhere in this ridiculous rant does the mom say anything about the actual height/weight of her "PERFECT" daughter. If the NP sees a red flag, that is not fat-shaming. This mom is perfect example of what is WRONG with society today.

I have more of an issue with the NP glossing over the problems with school. The girl said school was hard & there was a lot of drama. NP didn't ask how she handled that stress or how she plans to address the same issues if they come up again this school year. How this girl handles stress could have a big impact on her health. The NP could have given her valuable information and tools to use to help the girl deal with stress and "drama". Tools she would need as she goes through life. The NP obviously thought the weight increase needing addressing but she could have broached the subject better. I think the NP also missed one potential cause of the weight gain- increased cortisol levels due to stress. Which can lead to other heath problems.

Doctors have all but stopped asking patients about their weight just because of idiots like this mother. I've spoken to a couple who said that the excuses are insane and so is the way people have quit caring about their health. One retired GP said that in the past, he would frequently warn people about their blood pressure and tell them they needed to lose the weight - but at the end of his practice he stopped bothering. All the patients wanted was the drugs so they could keep eating. ...///.... Thankfully both of our doctors are sensible sorts. My husband's physician told him flat out that he needed to lose 35 pounds - and he did it. So did I. We both feel MUCH better and we're both grateful for sensible physicians.

I hate that kind of questioning because it's insinuating that the daughter did something wrong when she possibly didn't. However the mother projected big time. If she was smart about it I'd be pointing out that daughter grew a foot in height and does lots of exercise, so not only did she gain weight in height, but she may also have gained in muscle. Having a jump in height can also increase your appetite for a while. The doctor should have considered many of these factors before asking that question. Still I feel like the mother decided to project all these body shaming standards onto her, while this doctor gets no opportunity to explain herself. Maybe the mother stormed out or she omitted that part out because she could have been talking to much sense.

So doctors are fat shamers now? Stupid dramatic people... get over yourself!

How stupid is the girls comment. This is why girls get anorexia. Criticism ranging from helpful to cruel will be flung at you all your life. If parents are not making there children strong enough to deal with things then what the f**k are they doing. If u remove problems from life there will be no meaning in life. Things like these and actual cruel things have been said to me as a joke. If I started taking them seriously I won't even be alive.

I think I'm glad I'm childfree

wow. women's attitudes about weight in America are terrifying. this question might have been appropriate if the girl in question was becoming obese but in the photo she is a normal teenage girl. gross how you defend the doctor. the girl is right, attitudes like this are why girls develop anorexia/bulimia. can't imagine anything like this happening in Canada.. guess our health care system here is just plain better. 😉

I think it's none of our business. And the mother is c**p for posting

She is a growing teenager, at 13, weight gain is normal. My mum was the one fat shaming me, when I weight about 48 at the age of 13 or 14, I went on strict diet and left to 42 kg, my teeth suffer, my bone suffer, my period stopped. The nurse should be able to see easily that physically this child is not fat, I am not an English native speaker. But how easy it is to rephrase the question into,”have you been eating well? Fruits and vegetables included in the diet?” I still suffered from my short period of eating disorder because of words that uttered by my mum. Yes, this nurse is out of line! Medical question should be more compassionate, not judging! How does a 13 year old child know what to say when she was asked to explain all those weight gain? If you support the nurse, you never went through what people like me went through as a teenager.

Fat is not great, it contributes to heart disease and the big one, diabetes. Gaining too much weight in too short a time is huge, especially for active kids, it could indicate a serious medical problem. Yo, Mom, lighten up, apparently your daughter has been raised with no idea how to handle her feelings, because guess what, you can't handle yours.

Hard to say what exactly happened, whether or not the mom blew it out of proportion or the NP just lacked tact. But if the child had gained a lot of weight from the previous year and did not have a corresponding gain in height, then by all means the NP should have asked about it. We do have an obesity epidemic in this country despite the fact that there is “fat shaming” going on. And far too many of our adolescents and teens are obese.

The NP probably didn't have the best bedside manner, but I think the parent overreacted which is also possibly why the teen commented that way as well.

Just another person looking for something to complain about. Noticeable weight gain with no obvious reasons could be a sign of health problems or mental problems. Sure, the doctor could have been a little more professional about it but she needs to know for YOUR DAUGHTER'S HEALTH AND SAFETY.

So, assuming the kid is the one in the picture, I don't see any weight issue. Maybe her mum overreacted, but certainly I cannot defend the doctor for asking a child the question in this fashion. That's stupid and yes, is shaming. Period.

DAMN....I hate doctors doing this!! HATE it! My doctor says a blood pressure of 170/ 110 is too high. He says a resting pulse of 115 is too high. He says a cardio-vascular recovery of 4 hours is too long. He says 75 pounds overweight is too much. What the hell does he know? I can eat 3 Big Macs in 10 minutes. Can he do that?.....I do not think so! That is performance!!! I am an athlete!!!

She's 13 you say? Why are you treating her like she is six? Let her answer the question and try "listening", you might learn something.

Maybe it would have been okay if she wasn't at the tender insecure age of thirteen.

This is b******t the girl is 13 is hormones and muscle from sports children's bodies change they get bloated and their metabolism changes with the hormones so give the girl a f*****g break she is barely a teenager and your starting on her

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