While I don't condone violence, I do condone actions having consequences. Sometimes consequences are you getting smacked in the face.

Kids taking their GCSEs - so 14-16 years old - generally know better than to punch someone as a first step in conflict resolution. The fact that OP's daughter felt she had to resort to such demonstrates that there have been multiple failures on part of the school to resolve the issue.

I was severly bullied in grammar school. Nobody helped me, in those days you were supposed to just suck it up or whatever. Until that one day one of my bullies (I had many) pulled my hair again and I'd just had enough. Turned around and punched him in the gut. He looked like an idiot because he went down in front of the entire school, punched by a girl. It did not stop all the bullying, but after that I realized that I COULD do something about it and I was not powerless. And that boy never touched me again. I am firmly against violence but sometimes it's the only way you can defend yourself.

My stepdaughter (12) was in middle school and there was a boy saying all kinds of vile sexual things to her on a daily basis. She told him to leave her alone, told her teacher, told the counselor, told the principal's office. Nothing happened. Her brothers (14, 15) went to the high school that was attached to her school and I asked why they let it happen and they just shrugged. I chewed them out for a good ten minutes about protecting their sister and the importance of family looking out for each other. A couple days later, I get a call from the school that the 14 year old beat up the kid after he called his sister names and made sexual comments about her. I said that they had been notified numerous times about the offensive behavior and took no action, so what did they expect would happen? They kind of fumbled it there and I said that had they done their job none of this would have occurred and hung up. My stepson received no punishment at school or at home.

Good for her! I hope your kid growled at the bully on a daily basis just to show dominance.

Ugh, those idiots with the, "Your daughter should not be hitting anyone ever!" bs. There comes a time when all other avenues have been tried multiple times and when the "right" thing doesn't yield any results, then it's time for a punch in the face. Sometimes it's warranted and is the proper response. Once you show a bully that you aren't as vulnerable as they think you are, they stop bullying you. Because deep down, they're all cowards.

Well done for supporting your daughter. My daughter has been bullied, verbally and physically by a child smaller than her. The school she was in at the time did not believe us. When one of her teachers didn't know how to help her through various situations in class because of her Aspergers, she was treated like she had done something wrong and told to stand at the back of the class. We raised it with the school, cited their own anti- bullying policies, got our lawyers involved and yet they still said there is no issue and no bullying. Ended up moving schools. So I really sympathise with you and frustrated that some schools just don't seem to be able/or want to help. Something to do with maintaining

In order to teach the school a lesson on proper supervision of children (I'm in the United States) the parent should sue the school for punitive damages for the verbal and emotional abuse that her daughter suffered. As well as their criminal indifference in ignoring the abuse.

A boy at my granddaughters school has been bullying her for a while now. My daughter and law and son have had numerous conversations and in person meetings with the school. My granddaughter came home from school one day saying that the boy and his mother approached her and the mother told my granddaughter to stop bullying him. Of course the school was contacted. We found out it wasnt the mother but the boys old sister who was over 18. Not only did this adult women think it was okay to approach a 9-year-old girl with no other adult around but apparently the school has not been contacting this boys parent about his behavior towards my granddaughter. At this point, the police have been called to report the incident with the boys sister, and making sure it is well documented. Sadly, you never know what an adult will do even to a child in these situations.

Had a girl in middle school that thought i rolled my eyes at her and wanted to fight. I was flaburgasted. I didnt talk to people in those days had no clue who she was. Mom was a lunch lady at the school, so i walked in there and asked what i should do. Mom was a scrapper and just told me to punch her. 13 year old me said "i dont think thats very good advice". And i wandered out of there. Luckily that girl had left by the time i got back.

My dad always told me never EVER instigate violence, but if it's unavoidable, then annihilate!

As a relentlessly bullied child and teen--well done! I only wish I'd had the bravery to pop my bullies one.

From the time I was 5 or 6 until I graduated high school, I was bullied over my weight. Much of the bullying consisted of catcalls, propositions, and being told how beautiful or sexy I was, such as done in Stephen King's Carrie. These days, it would be considered sexual harassment. Then, it was just kids playing.

Schools havn't lifted a finger to stop bullying for at least 40 years. probably more like 50+. But they ALWAYS punish the victim when they finally have had enough. Punish my family for defending themselves, you better have a dang good lawyer because I'll drag you and the entire schoolboard down.

Schools suck.

Good for her. Sometimes you have to stoop to their level to take care of issues. I'd rather have my kid suspended for sticking up for themselves than to be beaten up every day by a bully and the school not protecting her as they are required to do. Usually that's all it takes is for a bully to be stood up to and they quit because they don't expect it.

Why are the schools so afraid to at least say something to the bully? Obviously, never been bullied! Its sheer torment that the victim has to endure, usually for years! I know firsthand myself

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A parent who encourages their child to physically assault another child is seriously lacking in imagination. And now that child will think it's okay to punch people to resolve issues... which could land them in jail as they get older.