This is f***ing insane. That is not normal teenage behaviour like WHO LIES ABOUT HAVING ABUSIVE PARENTS!! That’s an insult to people who actually have to suffer from parental abuse!

Wow, this is so close to what we are going through with my teen girl. Thankfully she hasn’t accused me of abuse… though she talks so horribly about us with her friends and even some family. It’s too devastating to go into detail about it, but the hurt and betrayal I felt when I found out.

My daughter did this to the point DFS got involved. They took her out of my home and put her in a home for teens. I let her sit there for a year and we never had any more issues after that.

Perhaps family therapy?

I would flat out tell her that her actions are hurting people that really are abused. She's lying to her friends and, when they find out, they're going to feel betrayed. When a legitimate person with a legitimate problem comes forward to get help, they may not get it because the people she lied to will think this person is lying as well. That's not fair to the person that needs help. She needs to learn there are punishments for lying. My suggestion is to have her write a letter that tells the truth. Then get that child into therapy. As bad as I was as a teen, I would have never accused my parents of abuse even though my mother was an abuser. She's got some psychological need for why she's doing this....you need to find out why before she becomes an abuser herself.

If you had abusive parents, you wouldn't be on the internet bitching about it because chances are you wouldn't have that privilege. Also, those who are abused in some way are far less likely to actually talk about it and open up, out of fear of repercussion. Or even, in worst case scenarios, an event so awful and traumatic they completely bury the memory as if it never happened, or perhaps even develop Dissociative Identity disorder. (many cases of DID relate to childhood abuse and/or assault. For me, it was an assault from people I thought were friends when I was a teenager.) :/

I think from a healthcare giver stand, that she needs some counseling. Has low self esteem, and this type if behavior is NOT normal! I would also talk to the other parents if you can find them, snd explain what the kids are doing. Then, get a family therapist to talk with all of you and see where this pattern of thinking is coming from, snd the actual harm it can do .1. DCSF COULD TAKE A COMPLAINT seriously snd actually remove her and her brothers from the home while they investigate the complaint, into a facility or foster care they could go. 2. There is now a file at DCSF, snd even if it comes to nothing, the file will remain because of the complaint. 3. The daughter will have a separate file of her own and have a report stating she is a pathological liar, abusive to her parents and a behavior problem. This will follow her until she is 18 and out of the system. But... it will also possibly follow her as an adult if some company were to dig deep for it to check her stability..

As a pathological liar, I told my friends many, MANY stories that had no basis in truth. But when it came to my parents, I never lied. Not about them or to them. They would always be by my side, helping me face whatever the world threw at me. That kind of behaviour deserves a level of respect that can't be matched. I like to think I would show that same treatment if I ever had a child, but I realise that's just not possible, and if that were my child, I'd show them some adoption services.

What are DD, DH and DS supposed to mean? Never heard that before

This girl may not even realize how serious her behavior is. She needs therapy for sure. Ironically, many actual abused children don't even realize they are being abused, and so they don't speak up. I didn't consider my mother's behavior abusive until I got into therapy for depression. I literally believed every rotten thing my mother said about me and it came as a total revelation when my therapist told me that her behavior was completely wrong.

this infuriates me on so many levels. first, i would not let go of this. not sure what avenue to take. maybe try to tape these accusations for evidence & then start at school to see if she has mentioned this to counselors/teachers. growing up, i had many friends whose home life sucked. i, on the other hand, had parents that were great. not perfect. looking back they could have been a little more involved re academics but for the most part supportive in anything i did. many friends ended spending a lot of time at my house because of them. so, hearing a child condemn their parents with lies such as this makes me so angry as they truly don't know what it is to be neglected and/or abused.

Why would anyone do this!? Not only is there no bennefits, but you lower the chanses of people who are actually abused to be believed and in many cases you'll make them doubt themselves. These are like the people who lie about mental conditions, why? Does it make you seem cool? What is the point? Also telling your kid that they don't need more sugar isn't fat shaming, it's looking after your kid who probably ate to much candy.

Invite her friends over for a teaparty or something and let then see what is actually going on. She will be too embarrassed for attention seeking and will probably learn a good life lesson about lying.

My ex girlfriend used to do exactly that, lie and make up awful things about her home life for attention. The thing was, I’d stay over at her house every weekend and anyone could see some of the things she said to our friend group at school weren’t true ( eg. she said her mum would lock her in her room for hours at a time but the room didn’t even have a lock on the door). She also said her parents were homophobic ( I’m also a girl) and tried to hurt her partners, but this was one hundred percent not true. Her parents were always lovely, in general and to me. Once, my parents had to go out of town for a family emergency and I couldn’t go with them since I’d just had major surgery so my gf’s parents let me stay with them. My gf’s mum went absolutely above and beyond to take care of me and I was so grateful. But my gf told our friend group really nasty lies about her family and expected me to back her up, even though I knew they weren’t true.

Maybe she needs to be in foster care and counseling. I would not want her living with me and the rest of the family. She is poison and would poison the other kids minds. Talk to your doctor and see who he recommends to come into this mess. This girl needs to know there are consequences to her lies that could split your family wide open. Your husband could lose his job if you and he were accused of child abuse. There are so many things that could happen and none of them good.

Who was the person saying that's normal teen behavior?! No it is NOT! She needs to potentially be psychologically evaluated, have her devices removed or cut off from internet, and have a long heart to heart talk about why she thinks she needs to lie in such a horrible way and why she thought it would be okay, and then explain and teach why it is absolutely NOT.

I’d take away everything for your brat….tell her if she feels that way mayber she should live in foster care…

What a disgusting child. Take away everything then throw her into therapy. Let her know when she's eighteen, she's out of the house and never to come back.

Bro..... Deep. That girl has no idea what actual abuse looks like, and this is kinda hurtful to me because I've seen real abuse and real neglect firsthand. She should be thankful she has what she has, and that's really disgusting

Take all internet and devices. Put locks on your own and her siblings' devices that she can't get into. Enroll her in an exhausting amount of in-person, team-based activities, and chores. So many chores. Keep this up for a year. If she doesn't get with it by the 6 month mark, then it's time for family counseling where you flat out say her lies make you not like her or want to take care of her. I also think it's time to take stock of the other kids you have. How are they doing? Has your focus on being 'career' to this one neglected them? Does their sister treat them poorly and you excuse it due to her condition? You realize her behavior is putting them at risk at being taken away, right? A more even hand may help everyone in the entire household.

I would invite those friends frequently if local to show what's going on really if they are smart they will know. If some of them have real abusive household they will know too. Anyway they also need someone to show them compassion if that's the case.

Yeah normal teenage behavior for me was saying that “my parents didn’t understand me” or that they “never listened and only paid attention to my younger siblings”. NOT me telling my friends that my mom starved me??? Or locked me up????? What in all heII

I honestly did not know this was even a thing some teenagers did. I spent most of my life acting like abuse at home did not happen to me. Some of it was so traumatic that I blocked it out.

wait so dd means daughter dh means husband and ds means son but what does the d stand for?

does anyone know what the d means? perhaps like darling or dearest idk lmao thats all i could think of cuz ig dd is ____ daughter, dh is ____ husband and ds is ____ son but i am just confused lol

Lol think that's bad I gave my daughter my old phone, she started using Instagram but it auto logged into my account. The messages she sent were very sexual in nature coming from my account. I told the whole family and had to embarrass her as no way was that being attached to me. Don't feel bad for going to these people and telling them, bring the kid with you as you need proof and they are the cause. In my case was partially my fault, though honestly I been used to just putting old phones in a drawer not stripping them down and removing stuff...so on me for just handing her a phone...I did delete the pictures lol.

I don't think this is weird or evil. I understand that Mom is furious (I would be too) - but this is roleplaying, "trying" out different personalities, pretending without the chance of anyone finding out (except her parents- obviously ;) ) - I think just discussing with your teen how this hurts your feelings or could be causing problems if it gets to the wrong person. But in gemeral, it's not worse than pretending to be an elf or something like that....