Mom Of ‘Perfect’ Kids Can’t Lie To Cousin Saying Her Baby Is Not ‘The Ugliest’, Asks For Advice But Gets Blasted Instead
Let’s be honest, many parents see their kids as the most beautiful angels to ever exist. Even when newborns aren’t much more than tiny bundles that eat, sleep and cry on repeat, parents will swear they are the cutest and most perfect babies on the planet. Moms and dads are wired to adore their kids, and feeling loved is key to children’s overall well-being.
Yet, some people (read: entitled) greatly overvalue their kids and believe they are exceptionally special and more deserving than others. Like this mom who recently shared a ridiculous post on a parenting group. In fact, her musings were so out-of-touch with reality that Redditor WasteCan6403 knew it belonged in the ‘Mom Group Drama’ community, a place where people “judge the ‘No Judge’ culture of the internet mom groups.”
See, this mom to two “literally perfect” toddlers asked for perspective after she had no idea how to react to her cousin who has the nerve to consistently send photos of her own “ugly” baby. “That baby isn’t even 1% cute and I’m not going to lie to her,” she explained. As you can guess, the post caused quite a stir on the platform as the users jumped to share their reactions. Scroll down to read the post in full, and let us know what you think about it in the comments!
Recently, this mom of “literally perfect” kids asked the internet for advice on how to respond to photos of her cousin’s “ugly” baby
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Image credits: Engin_Ekyurt (not the actual photo)
After reading the post, the community members shared a deluge of reactions about just how entitled and out-of-touch with reality this mother seems to be. The Redditor who shared these screenshots on the platform later revealed in the comments that the woman has already deleted her post from the group. Although they did mention that the mom received some equally “brutally honest” remarks from fellow parents who came across her inquiry.
While the woman showed a lack of respect towards her cousin and the baby, she also seems to have overvalued her own children by saying they are simply the best and most gorgeous babies on the planet. Apparently, there’s a concept of parental overvaluation that’s exceptionally high in narcissistic parents. Eddie Brummelman, an Associate Professor at the University of Amsterdam, the Netherlands, wrote in an article on The Conversation about a series of studies he conducted to examine this phenomenon.
Across six studies involving over 1,700 Dutch and American parents, the researchers found there are important differences between parents in how strongly they overvalue their child and that these disparities shape parents’ thoughts and behaviors. Some of their findings include that overvaluing moms and dads overestimate their child’s knowledge, perceive them as more gifted, and want their kid to stand out from the crowd (which often includes giving them a unique name).
“Not all parents are equally inclined to overvalue,” Brummelman explained. “We found that narcissistic parents, who believe they are superior to others and who want to be admired by others, are especially inclined toward it.”
But why, you ask? One prospect is that narcissistic parents try to put themselves on a pedestal. “Because parents often see their child as part of themselves, admiring their child may also be an indirect way of admiring themselves. Another possibility is that narcissistic parents simply believe that the child has inherited their ‘wonderful qualities’.”
As Emily Zitek, a professor at Cornell University’s School of Industrial and Labor Relations, explained in a previous interview with Bored Panda, “having a high status in society” and being told you “possessed a rare skill” could also lead to feeling more privileged. So if the woman’s kids always receive compliments, they may start to believe they deserve more than others. “It seems that one reason that people may become more entitled is that they have received a message … that there is something special, valuable, or worthy about them,” the professor said.
Zitek found that entitled individuals “are more selfish, follow instructions less often, are more likely to think things that are unpleasant for them are unfair, get angry about bad luck, and are less likely to comply with the health guidelines of the pandemic.” And this makes interacting with them very challenging. Have you ever encountered an entitled parent? Do you have any thoughts you would like to share with us after reading the woman’s posts? Then be sure to leave your reactions right below in the comments, we’d love to hear them.
After reading the post, Redditors didn’t hold back with their reactions
"I am brutally honest" = I am an insensitive a*****e with no social skills
I HATE when people say 'I'm brutally honest'. There's being honest and there's being a person who just blatantly does not care about other people and finds themselves to be hot s**t. Disgusting
Load More Replies...That's a lot of words for "I am an a*hole for basing people's worth solely on looks, let alone small children's"
My mother in law prides herself on "telling it like it is", which is basically just an excuse to be a rude a*****e. Which is what this woman is doing.
And I bet she gets all butt-hurt and miffed if people dare to criticize her, am I right?
Load More Replies..."I am brutally honest" = I am an insensitive a*****e with no social skills
I HATE when people say 'I'm brutally honest'. There's being honest and there's being a person who just blatantly does not care about other people and finds themselves to be hot s**t. Disgusting
Load More Replies...That's a lot of words for "I am an a*hole for basing people's worth solely on looks, let alone small children's"
My mother in law prides herself on "telling it like it is", which is basically just an excuse to be a rude a*****e. Which is what this woman is doing.
And I bet she gets all butt-hurt and miffed if people dare to criticize her, am I right?
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