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3 Y.O. Joins A Random Birthday Party In A Park, They Refuse To Give Her A Piece Of Cake, Mother Shares Her Surprise Online
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3 Y.O. Joins A Random Birthday Party In A Park, They Refuse To Give Her A Piece Of Cake, Mother Shares Her Surprise Online

Interview 3 Y.O. Joins A Random Birthday Party In A Park, They Refuse To Give Her A Piece Of Cake, Mother Shares Her Surprise Online3 Y.O. Joins Random Party In A Park, Gets Asked To Leave When The Time Comes To Eat Cake, Mom Is StunnedMom Is Shocked After Her 3 Y.O. Is Kicked Out Of A Random Kid's Birthday Party At A Public Park When It’s Time To Eat Cake3 Y.O. Goes To A Random Birthday Party At A Public Park And Nobody Gives Her A Piece Of Cake, Mom Shares Her Shock Online3 Y.O. Joins A Random Birthday Party In A Park, They Refuse To Give Her A Piece Of Cake, Mother Shares Her Surprise Online3 Y.O. Joins A Random Birthday Party In A Park, They Refuse To Give Her A Piece Of Cake, Mother Shares Her Surprise Online3 Y.O. Joins A Random Birthday Party In A Park, They Refuse To Give Her A Piece Of Cake, Mother Shares Her Surprise Online3 Y.O. Joins A Random Birthday Party In A Park, They Refuse To Give Her A Piece Of Cake, Mother Shares Her Surprise Online3 Y.O. Joins A Random Birthday Party In A Park, They Refuse To Give Her A Piece Of Cake, Mother Shares Her Surprise Online
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It’s nothing new that all parents choose how they want to raise their kids: what values they want to teach them and what example they want to set. Kids learn from their parents, especially by taking real-life examples.

Now, speaking of values, sharing is caring, right? Sharing is an essential value to learn from a young age. It helps kids to make friends and keep friends, negotiate and teach kids about fairness. It also shows that if we help or give something to others, in return we can expect to get help or something that we want too.

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    Kids tend to find friends faster than adults; however, for them to stay friends, parents have to be willing to cooperate

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    Mom shared a story of when her 3 Y.O. was denied a slice of cake at a public park after hanging out with a group of kids for a while who had a birthday party

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    “I’ve gotta mom shame”

    “Only people have ever mom shamed are myself and my own mother, but one other mom is going to be added to the list. Actually, this is a question: am I entitled or was this messed up? Two hours ago, literally right now, MK and I were at the park in my neighborhood and it was us and this birthday group, right, so literally just us and this perfect group.”

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    “These kids are having a birthday party and MK is playing with them for like, what, half an hour”

    “They’re making friends. It was nice, it was actually very cute. Time to sing Happy Birthday. MK goes over, she’s one of the group right now, right, they’re welcoming her with open arms, or so I thought. I was wrong. Time to eat cake. I see MK, I see her intention of grabbing a piece of cake.”

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    “So I like walk over to make sure it’s okay”

    “As a formality. Honestly, I was like, obviously it’s okay. It’s cake. It’s a massive cake. There’s lots of leftover pieces. The mother takes the plate away from me and gets down to her level [and] says you cannot eat this cake. Okay, this is not your birthday party. These are not your friends. Where’s your mother?”

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    Image credits: katstickler

    The woman is a social media star, best known for her hilarious and relatable comedy videos. She goes under the nickname @katstickler on both Instagram and Tiktok and has more than 11M followers on both sites. Additionally, her videos cover content regarding her divorce, co-parenting and jokes about her Hispanic mother. She has a 3-year-old kid that she calls MK, who this story is about.

    The video was posted a week ago and already got more than 10M views and more than 1.4M likes. However, users online sparked a discussion regarding this situation. “If ANYTHING I’d say let’s ask your mommy first make sure it’s ok?! But NO?! And then the ‘where’s your mother?!’ one user was shocked about the audacity of the mom in the park. “And the ‘these are not your friends…’ was that necessary?!” another agreed.

    Most folks agreed that it was rude, mean and very not necessary and felt sorry for MK. However, others had different opinions: “Me personally would have never let my kid go over there alone.” Another added: “I don’t like how that was worded at all… but we’re gonna be mad that someone we don’t know doesn’t include our kids in their event?” 

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    To draw a little conclusion from people’s comments regarding this incident, it is clear that almost nobody agreed with the way the other mom in the park spoke to the kid and the wordings could have been nicer. However, a few folks mentioned that it’s acceptable that a mother didn’t want unknown kids at her kid’s birthday party. But scrolling through all of these comments, it’s clear that more users sympathized with the author. They stated that they would have definitely included MK and shared the cake. Additionally, in their personal experiences, it’s common to share and invite all kids that are around.

    Image credits: katstickler

    Bored Panda wrote to Kiva Schuler, who is the Founder and CEO of The Jai Institute for Parenting, and the author of the ground-breaking book The Peaceful Parenting (R)evolution: Changing the World by Changing How We Parent. She kindly agreed to share her insights regarding this situation.

    “Raising children is challenging enough! Parenting other parents? That’s an exercise in futility,” she started. “Allowing our children to feel their feelings means we have to get right with the idea that they are going to have experiences in their life that feel bad. Today it’s over a piece of cake, but someday it might be about a failed friendship, breakup, or job loss. The world isn’t going to rearrange itself so that our kids won’t ever feel uncomfortable feelings.”

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    “Rather than defend or try to protect our children from these experiences, we can use them as teaching tools to illustrate the importance of the values we hold dear,” Kiva emphasized. Speaking about this exact case, she mentioned that “this could be a great opportunity to teach about generosity, kindness and inclusivity. We can get curious about our child’s feelings through questions like ‘how did that feel?’ or ‘what would we do in our family if the situation was reversed?'”

    Image credits: Pamela V White (not the actual photo)

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    Now, it’s interesting to think about why some people find it okay to share a piece of cake, while some support the other mom in the park and agree with her actions. “We can’t ever really know other people’s motivations, especially strangers. It sounds silly, but this could be someone who always had to share as a young child and has some wounding in this area. Maybe they have had experiences where they’ve been expected to care for other people’s kids, and were reacting to that resentment,” the expert speculates.

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    “Every human being on the planet sees the world through a lens of their perceptions, beliefs, past experiences and defenses. Knowing this can help us to remember compassion and that it’s not realistic that other people ‘should’ act in ways that are aligned with our worldview. Judging others is rarely useful. Teaching our kids about the world through these situations, on the other hand, is very useful,” Kiva shared.

    “I love videos like this because they create such valuable conversation, but I also ache a bit inside, because parenting is ridiculously hard and complex,” expert emphasized. “Mom judgment is real, and none of us want to be exposed publicly in our ‘not best moments.’ And as moms, we ALL have our own ‘not best moments,'” Kiva finished.

    Finally, don’t forget to check out her website, where every parent can find useful information, and her book The Peaceful Parenting (R)evolution, which is all about the personal growth work parents can do to step into leadership in raising their kids and gaining the tools of emotional intelligence and communication that guide our children to live our values.

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    Image credits: Bob B. Brown (not the actual photo)

    You can check out the whole video below:

    @katsticklerNo cake for me thanks, I’m full…of rage👹♬ original sound – Kat

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    zak
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YTA. Mainly for exploiting your child on the internet, but also for crashing a party you weren't invited to and then getting upset about it.

    Phil Vaive
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    1 year ago

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    Maybe if the parents didn't want to run the risk of the party being "crashed", they shouldn't have had it in a public park. Or they could have said something before their kid's new friend played with them for hours.

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    Andy
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    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If accurate, what the mother said to the child seems harsh, however given the attitude of this woman, I'm guessing maybe she was pissed off at her attitude, or that something else had happened too. The fact that she says she only ask if she can have cake as a "formality" because it's "obviously ok" shows clear entitlement, and the mother took a plate off of her when she asked, so clearly she had just walked up to a stranger's party, took some cake and then casually asked if that was ok. If it were my kids party, and they were playing with another child, I would have offers some cake if we had enough. However if a stranger just expected I should give their child cake I had bought, it would put my back up too (though I would aim any comments at the mother, not her unfortunate child)

    Tyke
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    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My son's party was in our local park, two random kids were clearly joining in playing with our party group. They sang happy birthday. It came to cake, I ensured all the invited children had a slice, there was tons of cake left (in my experience, you over-compensate with food at these parties). I could see the kids parents... gave them a sign for "can they have cake", they smiled and gave me a thumbs up... the kids got cake. Everyone was happy. However, yes, if the kids literally walked up at the cake moment and wanted cake, would have been a no. The kid who waltzed up and without asking rummaged in the bag we put the gifts in and tried to play with them was told to back off. He did not get cake.

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    Ace
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The whole idea seems quite bizarre. Gatecrash a party then get pissed off when you're told that you can't have free food. Who would ever think that this is OK?

    Sean Andrei Castro
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also I'm pretty sure the one that posted this exaggerated the words used to gain more sympathy she has that b***h look on her

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    zak
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YTA. Mainly for exploiting your child on the internet, but also for crashing a party you weren't invited to and then getting upset about it.

    Phil Vaive
    Community Member
    1 year ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    Maybe if the parents didn't want to run the risk of the party being "crashed", they shouldn't have had it in a public park. Or they could have said something before their kid's new friend played with them for hours.

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    Andy
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    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If accurate, what the mother said to the child seems harsh, however given the attitude of this woman, I'm guessing maybe she was pissed off at her attitude, or that something else had happened too. The fact that she says she only ask if she can have cake as a "formality" because it's "obviously ok" shows clear entitlement, and the mother took a plate off of her when she asked, so clearly she had just walked up to a stranger's party, took some cake and then casually asked if that was ok. If it were my kids party, and they were playing with another child, I would have offers some cake if we had enough. However if a stranger just expected I should give their child cake I had bought, it would put my back up too (though I would aim any comments at the mother, not her unfortunate child)

    Tyke
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My son's party was in our local park, two random kids were clearly joining in playing with our party group. They sang happy birthday. It came to cake, I ensured all the invited children had a slice, there was tons of cake left (in my experience, you over-compensate with food at these parties). I could see the kids parents... gave them a sign for "can they have cake", they smiled and gave me a thumbs up... the kids got cake. Everyone was happy. However, yes, if the kids literally walked up at the cake moment and wanted cake, would have been a no. The kid who waltzed up and without asking rummaged in the bag we put the gifts in and tried to play with them was told to back off. He did not get cake.

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    Ace
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The whole idea seems quite bizarre. Gatecrash a party then get pissed off when you're told that you can't have free food. Who would ever think that this is OK?

    Sean Andrei Castro
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also I'm pretty sure the one that posted this exaggerated the words used to gain more sympathy she has that b***h look on her

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