Bored Panda works better on our iPhone app
Continue in app Continue in browser

Add post form topAdd Post
Tooltip close

The Bored Panda iOS app is live! Fight boredom with iPhones and iPads here.

Man’s Response To A Toxic And Misogynistic Podcast About Women After Giving Birth Goes Viral
3.1K

Man’s Response To A Toxic And Misogynistic Podcast About Women After Giving Birth Goes Viral

Interview
ADVERTISEMENT

Seeing someone explain how much they love their partner, completely honestly and without any reservations, is a breath of fresh air. That’s exactly what Professor Chesko did in a candid and emotional TikTok video.

In it, the teary-eyed Communication Studies professor, living and working in LA, spoke about how much he loves his wife and how he doesn’t see any supposed flaws that she thinks she might have. He filmed the TikTok in response to seeing 3 men from the No Filter podcast speaking about how women’s bodies change after birth and how they supposedly ‘let themselves go.’

Professor Chesko’s video immediately went viral, getting 2.3 million likes and 10.3 million views.

Bored Panda reached out to Professor Chesko to hear more about his video. He told us just how shocked he was by how much attention the TikTok got online. “I’ve had a few other videos get a couple million views, but the reaction was nothing like this. The overwhelming positivity in comments, emails, stiches, and DM’s from people has been one of the greatest experiences of my career and just shows why it is so important to allow yourself to be vulnerable for an audience,” the professor shared his joy.

The video was completely genuine and filmed from the heart. “I just filmed one take from the heart and quickly captioned and posted it right before I had to sign into a department meeting—I think that’s one of the reasons it resonated so much with people though. If I had tried scripting something like this, it would have felt very disingenuous.”

ADVERTISEMENT

Scroll down for the rest of Bored Panda’s interview with Professor Chesko, dear Pandas.

More info: TikTok | Instagram | Twitter | YouTube

One podcast’s video caused a stir on TikTok. A lot of people didn’t agree with the misogynistic message

@nofilterpod_ Goes for the man too! Stay on point!#mensdating #podcast #foryou #fyp #nofilterpod #nofilterpodcast #youtube #instagram #redpill #goviral ♬ original sound – No Filter Pod

Professor Chesko had an epic comeback to them. In an emotional video, he explained just how much he loves his wife

ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT

The professor revealed to Bored Panda that he has been married to his wife for 11 years. He also told us a bit more about himself and his family. “I grew up with a single mom and a toxic father that wasn’t really a part of my life, so I’m kind of winging it as I go as far as this marriage thing is concerned,” he said.

“I didn’t actually ever even want to get married since I only knew it as this hurtful thing, but that changed almost immediately when I started dating her—I even started saving up for an engagement ring just a few months after we started dating and proposed just a couple weeks before our 1-year-anniversary.”

ADVERTISEMENT

The one piece of advice for a successful and happy marriage that Professor Chesko had for us is to “love your partner recklessly.”

“What I mean by that is that you need to love without reservation and concern of reciprocation and if they love you back the same way, then even all the hard stuff just seems to fade away. So even when the times are tough, and we’ve had rocky times just like any other couple, the love is still always there keeping us anchored to one another,” he said.

We were also interested to learn a bit more about the professor as a TikTok content creator. Here’s what he had to say: “My content is all over the place, but most of my videos are just my takes on life. I’m a pretty compassionate and positive guy and with all the negative energy in the world right now, I think people just enjoyed my lighthearted takes on some serious topics ranging from teaching to mental health,” he explained.

“I started creating content in January of 2021 as a way to make fun extra credit videos for my students to watch and no intention of being a ‘real’ content creator. My page just kind of took off from there though and my teaching content is just a small part of what I post about now. I still only do it as a fun side hobby, but the relationships I’ve formed with other content creators and my followers has kept me wanting to keep producing videos.”

ADVERTISEMENT

The professor’s video was seen by over 10 million people around the globe

@speechprof #stitch w/@No Filter Pod If that original video resonated with you, then I have to believe that you have never known love. #toxicmasculinity #redflags ♬ original sound – Professor Chesko (He/Him)

The podcast that Professor Chesko responded to had 3 guys talking about how they’d leave their wives if they didn’t look amazing after childbirth.

Meanwhile, the professor shared in his video that he “can’t fathom” thinking like them because each flaw that his wife has is a part of their history together. What’s more, they all remind him of the 3 children they have together. Ladies and gentlemen, this is the type of husband who will always have your back.

Professor Chesko currently has over 173.8k followers on TikTok, as well as a combined total of 6 million likes on all of his videos. That particular video that went viral accounts for over a third of his channel’s popularity.

The content creator drew attention to an important topic. Many internet users believe that the guys doing the podcast are prime examples of toxic masculinity. Earlier, psychotherapist Silva Neves went into detail with Bored Panda about toxicity and misogyny and how to put an end to them.

“Better education is definitely key, but it is also down to all of us to challenge it by not allowing toxic masculinity to keep going. It means that we all have to actively challenge misogyny and homophobia,” he said.

ADVERTISEMENT

The expert noted that men need to “do their part” and be more in tune with their emotions. Repressing them isn’t the way to go.

“We need more representations of men who embrace their emotions, talk about them and show them with crying, laughing, or hugging,” Silva told us.

“We also need to change the image of ‘male success’. So, basically, we need to change society at its core because toxic masculinity is part of a faulty system of thoughts. That will take time, but it can start with all of us doing our parts about it.”

Many social media users applauded the man for filming the teary-eyed video. Here’s what they had to say

ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Share on Facebook
Jonas Grinevičius

Jonas Grinevičius

Writer, BoredPanda staff

Read more »

Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

Read less »
Jonas Grinevičius

Jonas Grinevičius

Writer, BoredPanda staff

Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

Ilona Baliūnaitė

Ilona Baliūnaitė

Author, BoredPanda staff

Read more »

I'm a Visual Editor at Bored Panda since 2017. I've searched through a multitude of images to create over 2000 diverse posts on a wide range of topics. I love memes, funny, and cute stuff, but I'm also into social issues topics. Despite my background in communication, my heart belongs to visual media, especially photography. When I'm not at my desk, you're likely to find me in the streets with my camera, checking out cool exhibitions, watching a movie at the cinema or just chilling with a coffee in a cozy place

Read less »

Ilona Baliūnaitė

Ilona Baliūnaitė

Author, BoredPanda staff

I'm a Visual Editor at Bored Panda since 2017. I've searched through a multitude of images to create over 2000 diverse posts on a wide range of topics. I love memes, funny, and cute stuff, but I'm also into social issues topics. Despite my background in communication, my heart belongs to visual media, especially photography. When I'm not at my desk, you're likely to find me in the streets with my camera, checking out cool exhibitions, watching a movie at the cinema or just chilling with a coffee in a cozy place

What do you think ?
Add photo comments
POST
Elmie Pumpkinbush
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For a lot of men the only interesting thing in a woman is her body, and the person in this body is a nuisance they have to deal with, to get access to the body itself.

Random Panda
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stop making stupid people famous. Those three muppets with room temperature IQ don't deserve so much as the effort it takes to watch their "podcast".

Veronica Sjöberg
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's one thing not taking care of basic stuff like hygiene and it's another getting upset or no longer being attracted to your partner because their body changed due to a normal process. I have never understood how some people can think like this. Especially with pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding. If your partner risks her life and sacrifices her body to carry your genes and nourish them the very least thing you can do is to be grateful and not see her as only a body you want to f**k. So disrespectful. The same thing would apply on other natural processes that changes your appearance, like getting older. Would you really blame your partner for that?

DDmaybeandor
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, but I would go farther to say that even “basic stuff like hygiene” shouldn’t be a deal breaker. I mean, did your partner stink when you dated? If they do now , and they aren’t listening that they need to shower, it sounds like depression. Also, “Until death do us part” means diapers and bed baths too. I mean, life is a long time.

Load More Replies...
Load More Comments
Elmie Pumpkinbush
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For a lot of men the only interesting thing in a woman is her body, and the person in this body is a nuisance they have to deal with, to get access to the body itself.

Random Panda
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stop making stupid people famous. Those three muppets with room temperature IQ don't deserve so much as the effort it takes to watch their "podcast".

Veronica Sjöberg
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's one thing not taking care of basic stuff like hygiene and it's another getting upset or no longer being attracted to your partner because their body changed due to a normal process. I have never understood how some people can think like this. Especially with pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding. If your partner risks her life and sacrifices her body to carry your genes and nourish them the very least thing you can do is to be grateful and not see her as only a body you want to f**k. So disrespectful. The same thing would apply on other natural processes that changes your appearance, like getting older. Would you really blame your partner for that?

DDmaybeandor
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, but I would go farther to say that even “basic stuff like hygiene” shouldn’t be a deal breaker. I mean, did your partner stink when you dated? If they do now , and they aren’t listening that they need to shower, it sounds like depression. Also, “Until death do us part” means diapers and bed baths too. I mean, life is a long time.

Load More Replies...
Load More Comments
Related on Bored Panda
Related on Bored Panda
Trending on Bored Panda
Also on Bored Panda