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In most relationships, at a certain point it just becomes common sense to move in together. More time shared, lower rent and a sure sign that the relationship is being taken to the next level. However, as many women have learned, often this can mean becoming a truly surrogate mother for a partner who suddenly doesn’t know how to do basic tasks.

We’ve gathered some of the most egregious examples of “weaponized incompetence” shared by women across the world. So get comfortable as you scroll through, prepare to roll your eyes, upvote your favorites and be sure to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.

#1

Just Done My Business. *someone* Left This. And Yes, I’m Using This Sub Of 4 Million Users To Personally Call Out My Boyfriend

Just Done My Business. *someone* Left This. And Yes, I’m Using This Sub Of 4 Million Users To Personally Call Out My Boyfriend

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This Is How My Boyfriend Leaves The Sink After He Shaves

This Is How My Boyfriend Leaves The Sink After He Shaves

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Thanos'Fingers
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22 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My college roommate did this once. In our shared sink. I didn't waste time letting him know that if I ever crossed a single hair again I would be s******g under his pillow. Then he had the audacity to call ME gross.

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HTakeover
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate this, but it's not an example of weaponized incompetence so much as WTF?! man behavior. I guarantee he'd do it living alone too.

Huddo's sister
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I lived with my brother this really annoyed me, though it wasn't this bad.

Zdena
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19 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Must be in UK. I never understood the unpractical 2 faucets. How do you mix water of different temperature??? And they still sell them in UK

Mr.Li
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a jerkazoid. Bet he doesnt even flush after using the toilet.

Jac Carr
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3 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Considering he's probably been asked multiple times not to do this, this is more than weaponised incompetence; this is a choice and it's part control and part zero respect for his partner

LynzCatastrophe
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6 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex-husband is like this. "But I cleaned up the sink." Yeah, and then I'd point to everywhere he missed. He basically would only run water and whatever hairs would be caught in the current would go down the drain. No effort. The ones that ended up behind the faucet bugged me the most since there's barely half an inch of space between faucet and wall.

Still Going
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11 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband does this too, though to a lesser extent. That's when I remind him of my favorite marital haiku: Your whiskers are black Our porcelain sink is white Are you fu**ing blind? Jokes aside, he was in the hospital for a few weeks following a fall (broke his hip), and I missed cleaning out the sink while he was gone...

connie scanlan
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12 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Boys do this because their mothers clean up for them. You are not his mother

UpupaEpops
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13 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is where you ask if he was like this before getting together with you or are you being seen as the live-in maid.

Anna Drever
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14 hours ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m torn between saying leave it like this until he cleans up after himself, and collecting them and dumping them on his pillow or something like that.

Kerry Fletcher
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15 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about the long hair all over the apartment or in the shower drain that you never clean

MotherofGuineaPigs
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23 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I made mine clean the whole bathroom when he did this. it took a while, but he caught on eventually

Ladedah
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23 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband does this and it drives me nuts. I even bought a bathroom faucet with a sprayer and he still doesn't f*****g bother with it. Sprayer does still help one of us though 🙄. BTW, I feel like more people should know about this type of faucet... life changing. https://www.amazon.com/Faucet-Broadmoor-Bathroom-Widespread-35765LF-BLPD/dp/B0C54CHVRS/ref=mp_s_a_1_9?adgrpid=80524152634&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.UtG4sXV9fvfbcrLpFOcgLa3n_Ucfw7cUNR_RdHdY4ofgwX7xoYVPX2_bRTCvDP2yxf_Xz03n2I3JTpyZgG1SJBz6SMyfhEXB-nSLUA-4Ibp1sI6QXa2OtzGE_xnLBZgcY05LLo-MXMks0k7l-EG-fMHllnUwGVmz2PNHgJtra7u7ZQNg5CTHakcsRszdaA5IMu9Zr9PIlQyDufXWQa8p3A.VshwLi_5RdQ1LwfGO59UEzkJzLVzL0SjLyp6ehc6xJA&dib_tag=se&hvadid=634019277495&hvdev=m&hvlocphy=9209861&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=b&hvrand=6169876303254412331&hvtargid=kwd-355468065727&hydadcr=20124_13411446&keywords=delta+faucets+for+bathroom&qid=1732116849&sr=8-9

Remi (He/Him)
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's so easy to prevent with a piece of any unnecessary advert paper in the sink 🤦🏽

James016
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

FFS, at least line the sink with toilet paper. I only shave once a month and make sure that I clear up every hair.

George Costanza
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's not shaving. That's beard trimming with a clipper. And yes, it's ridiculous.

Lexi
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sh!tty ex used to do this in the bath and refuse to wash it out so I could get a clean bath after him. As stated he is my ex.

BSellen
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Shaves his beard with an electric razor. Mine looks like that to. That is when I put a mirror in the shower. Problem solved.

Penny Hernandez
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd take a sponge and bathroom cleaner and show him ONCE how to clean the sink. If he does it again I'd shave my legs/underarms over the sink just before he goes to shave his face. If he does it again after that, I'd send him home to his mother.

Tim Mitchinson
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dry it and sprinkle it in his underwear. This is what itching powder is made of - finely chopped hair🤣🤣

xolitaire
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And I can imagine the very same man goes hysteric if he finds a single long hair in the shower

DowntownStevieB
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sisters used to do something similar with their hair from the brush and make-up.

Bored Sailor
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a man with a thick beard that grows fast, THIS IS A MAJOR RED FLAG

Steve Sharpe
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one is making the veins on the side of my head pop out. The only way to remedy this would be to take thirty of the finest and best young men - regardless which one did it - hand picked from the top 0.1%, and with great theatrics spend a couple of hours convincing them that I am the devil incarnate and the only point of their worthless existence is to suffer. Nine months later when everyone's in the bar, when they realise that you can be an ordinary bloke as well, that yes you do know what their first name is, what problems they've had at home, how their welfare's been, the things they think they were clever and got away with but we know all about and let them off... I've gone completely off track here - OP's bf: clean your filth up you f*****g grotty little bastard.

zububonsai
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Looks like he had "loving" parents who never taught him responsibility.

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For those who are unfamiliar with the concept of weaponized incompetence, it’s rather simple. Imagine a couple, living together. Perhaps they have just moved in together. It’s time to do the laundry. The man, either lying or entirely truthfully goes "I don’t know how to do it!" So now it’s the woman’s household task.

Now this suddenly becomes her regular routine chore. She asks him to learn, but he either insists it’s impossible or, even worse, he attempts to do it and does the laundry so poorly that she feels like she should do it next time. None of this to say that all women are saints, but this flavor of poor behavior is often male.


#4

Sisters Boyfriend Lost His Wallet Before Leaving To Go To His Moms

Sisters Boyfriend Lost His Wallet Before Leaving To Go To His Moms

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#5

My Boyfriend Puts The Butter Away Like This In The Fridge Door. Fully Exposed And Touching The Fridge I Haven’t Washed In Months

My Boyfriend Puts The Butter Away Like This In The Fridge Door. Fully Exposed And Touching The Fridge I Haven’t Washed In Months

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Mäandertal
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh so now EVERYBODY cleans their fridge on the reg, every few weeks, apparently. I've seen many fridges. At least half of you are liars. Where's my "I can't remember the last time I deep cleaned my fridge' squad?

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#6

This Can Has Been Directly In Front Of My Boyfriend's Sink Side For Two Weeks And I've Chosen Not To Toss It Just To See If He Would. He Still Hasn't

This Can Has Been Directly In Front Of My Boyfriend's Sink Side For Two Weeks And I've Chosen Not To Toss It Just To See If He Would. He Still Hasn't

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Remember, asking a grown adult to do a household task is a normal thing to do. If someone can work a job, even an entry-level one, they have the necessary skills to wash a plate, mop the floor or iron some clothes. It’s ok to not be good at it at first, although it’s really never that hard, unless the plates are truly piled sky-high.

#7

My Boyfriend Lovingly Insists On Cooking Dinner On Mondays, But Ends Up Leaving All Of His Dishes And Mess Behind Because He Has To Leave For His Weekly Chess Meet Up

My Boyfriend Lovingly Insists On Cooking Dinner On Mondays, But Ends Up Leaving All Of His Dishes And Mess Behind Because He Has To Leave For His Weekly Chess Meet Up

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Susie Elle
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My boyfriend does this too. He'll make a lovely elaborate dish and transform the kitchen into a warzone in the process (which he then leaves for me to deal with, because he thinks it's 'not that bad').

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#8

Called My Boyfriend From The Supermarket To Check If I Needed To Grab More Pads, He Said ‘No There’s Loads Left’

Called My Boyfriend From The Supermarket To Check If I Needed To Grab More Pads, He Said ‘No There’s Loads Left’

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#9

Went To Get Some Ice Cream And My Boyfriend Left Me This. In Case I “Needed A Pick Me Up But Didn’t Want A Bunch Of Ice Cream.”

Went To Get Some Ice Cream And My Boyfriend Left Me This. In Case I “Needed A Pick Me Up But Didn’t Want A Bunch Of Ice Cream.”

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Unfortunately, some men seem to think that doing their share of manual labor is worse than openly admitting that they can’t figure out which end of a broom to use. This entire strategy relies on the fact that no one calls them out. After all, at some point, as the live-in partner of such a man, you will need some dishes, so you will end up cleaning them yourself.

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#11

My Boyfriend, Who Doesn’t Buy Any Of The Groceries, Decided To Use Multiple Pounds Of Chicken In A Cooler Instead Of The Bag Of Ice We Have

My Boyfriend, Who Doesn’t Buy Any Of The Groceries, Decided To Use Multiple Pounds Of Chicken In A Cooler Instead Of The Bag Of Ice We Have

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The causes are myriad, but it mostly comes down to the fact that these things simply have to be done. Most likely, growing up, these fellows had a parental figure, a maid or even a sibling who picked up the slack while they relaxed. They never mature into adults who take responsibility for the environment around them, to the detriment of their partners. Even worse, they can’t do the most simple things, like finally taking out the trash (themselves.)

#13

Instead Of Rinsing His Cup Between Drinks, My Boyfriend Will Just Refill It With Whatever Since It “Mixes In His Stomach Anyway”. Pictured Is His Glass Of “Water” After Milk And Oreos

Instead Of Rinsing His Cup Between Drinks, My Boyfriend Will Just Refill It With Whatever Since It “Mixes In His Stomach Anyway”. Pictured Is His Glass Of “Water” After Milk And Oreos

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Steve Sharpe
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When the title said "cup" I was thinking like coffee cup, like a mug or whatever, and didn't see what the fuss was - if I finish my coffee and decide to have another one straight away I just slosh it out under the tap and reuse it. I was not quite prepared for what the photo shows, and now feel slightly unwell.

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My Boyfriend’s Solution To Me Being Mad That He Finishes Everything In The House Without Buying A Replacement

My Boyfriend’s Solution To Me Being Mad That He Finishes Everything In The House Without Buying A Replacement

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#15

Boyfriend Keeps A Graveyard Of Shower Gel With One Half-Squirt Left

Boyfriend Keeps A Graveyard Of Shower Gel With One Half-Squirt Left

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CK
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everyone knows you get the last bit out by diluting it with a little water.

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When My Boyfriend Leaves Empty Packages In The Fridge

When My Boyfriend Leaves Empty Packages In The Fridge

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Skip62
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And when he asks for something, does she say there's a package in the fridge and let him come up with the empty package?

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#18

Stayed The Night At My Boyfriend’s, Didn’t Bring Breakfast Because He Said I Can Cook There. Morning Comes, He Proceeds To Pull Out These Two Things. Out Of The Dishwasher No Less

Stayed The Night At My Boyfriend’s, Didn’t Bring Breakfast Because He Said I Can Cook There. Morning Comes, He Proceeds To Pull Out These Two Things. Out Of The Dishwasher No Less

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#19

My Boyfriend "Tastes Tests" All The Chocolates One By One Whenever I Buy Us A Box Of Chocolates To Share

My Boyfriend "Tastes Tests" All The Chocolates One By One Whenever I Buy Us A Box Of Chocolates To Share

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Why Is My Boyfriend Doing This? ) ‘ :

Why Is My Boyfriend Doing This? ) ‘ :

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Jane Jayne Jain Jeign Jein
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whenever I see those signs in public restrooms reminding people to only flush toilet paper, I wonder who could possibly still need to be told this? Now I know.

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#21

My Boyfriend's Job Title Is Actually "Solutions Engineer." This Was His Solution

My Boyfriend's Job Title Is Actually "Solutions Engineer." This Was His Solution

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Superb Owl
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well it _is_ a solution. Is it a good solution? No. Is it an annoying solution? Yes – but it is a solution.

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How My Boyfriend Leaves His Coffee Cup Every Morning

How My Boyfriend Leaves His Coffee Cup Every Morning

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HTakeover
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1 day ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't worry, the bottles of (edit: wine, not vodka) under it will catch it.

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#23

The Amount Of Tea My Boyfriend Left In The Pitcher

The Amount Of Tea My Boyfriend Left In The Pitcher

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Dragon mama
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg my son does this to avoid making more. Drives me nuts! At least he has the excuse of being a literal child but I've been putting my foot down so he doesn't become a grown man who does this b.s.

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Are These Really Still Ok? My Boyfriend Thinks That These Shoes Are Fine. Wears Them To Work, Around Town. “50% Of People Wear Their Shoes To This Point”

Are These Really Still Ok? My Boyfriend Thinks That These Shoes Are Fine. Wears Them To Work, Around Town. “50% Of People Wear Their Shoes To This Point”

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#27

This Is How Much Ice Cream My Boyfriend Left In My Pint Of Ben & Jerry's 🙃

This Is How Much Ice Cream My Boyfriend Left In My Pint Of Ben & Jerry's 🙃

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#29

Came Home To A Smokey Apartment And A Boyfriend Asleep On The Couch. Not Even Sure What These Were

Came Home To A Smokey Apartment And A Boyfriend Asleep On The Couch. Not Even Sure What These Were

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My Boyfriends Food Cupboard 😳 I Think He Must Upend His Shopping Bags Direct In The Cupboard Rather Than Unpack

My Boyfriends Food Cupboard 😳 I Think He Must Upend His Shopping Bags Direct In The Cupboard Rather Than Unpack

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#33

My Boyfriend Insists On Storing Leftovers In Ziplock Bags Even Though We Have Plenty Of Tupperware. His Reasoning Is It “Saves A Dish”, Even Though They Have To Be Transferred To A Dish Later Anyway. In Reality He Just Makes A Huge Mess And Wastes A Bag

My Boyfriend Insists On Storing Leftovers In Ziplock Bags Even Though We Have Plenty Of Tupperware. His Reasoning Is It “Saves A Dish”, Even Though They Have To Be Transferred To A Dish Later Anyway. In Reality He Just Makes A Huge Mess And Wastes A Bag

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xolitaire
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In many cases ziplock bags work better than tupperware. And it saves space in the freezer. Not everyone has a freezer the size of a pony

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#34

Good Morning. Found My Boyfriends Glass Bottles In The Freezer. He’s At Work

Good Morning. Found My Boyfriends Glass Bottles In The Freezer. He’s At Work

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My Boyfriend’s Toilet Paper Graveyard

My Boyfriend’s Toilet Paper Graveyard

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Kerry
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thoughtful really...he knows not to leave the empty roll for you! 😇😉

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#36

Asking My Boyfriend To Not Empty The Entire Can Of Pringles (My Fav Flavor)

Asking My Boyfriend To Not Empty The Entire Can Of Pringles (My Fav Flavor)

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Shannon Donnelly
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I learned when I was married to my ex-husband that if there was a specific snack that I wanted to actually last, I kept it in my car (or hidden in the basement by the washing machine during the summer), otherwise it would be gone before I even got a bite of it. I still have a tendency to stash little snacks in hiding places around my house, which is actually fun when I forget about them and then suddenly find a "surprise" later on when doing chores.

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#37

How My Boyfriend Packed Up A Moving Box With Kitchen Stuff While I Was At Work

How My Boyfriend Packed Up A Moving Box With Kitchen Stuff While I Was At Work

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Pernille
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Looks like he emptied ’ The Drawer' into a box. I have done the same every time I've moved, then I just have to empty the box into a new drawer. I would however not mix in the fridge contents.

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The Container My Boyfriend Picked To Put Away Leftover Pancakes

The Container My Boyfriend Picked To Put Away Leftover Pancakes

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zububonsai
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At least he DID pick a container (remembering the exposed bit of butter in the fridge further up?)

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#40

Came To The Kitchen To Find Out That My Boyfriend Hung The Towel Like This 🤨

Came To The Kitchen To Find Out That My Boyfriend Hung The Towel Like This 🤨

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My Boyfriend 'Helpfully' Put My Expensive Indoor Plants Outside For "Fresh Air", And They Got Irreparably Sunburnt :(

My Boyfriend 'Helpfully' Put My Expensive Indoor Plants Outside For "Fresh Air", And They Got Irreparably Sunburnt :(

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#43

Recently Moved In With My Boyfriend Who Has A Habit Of Leaving His Clothes On The Floor, I Asked Him To Put His Jeans Away In His Closet And This Is What I Found Later

Recently Moved In With My Boyfriend Who Has A Habit Of Leaving His Clothes On The Floor, I Asked Him To Put His Jeans Away In His Closet And This Is What I Found Later

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#44

My Boyfriend Made Croissants This Way.. Am I Dating A Serial K*ller?

My Boyfriend Made Croissants This Way.. Am I Dating A Serial K*ller?

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Mäandertal
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he's a serial killer, he will be caught soon because he doesn't seem awfully smart.

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How My Husband Leaves This

How My Husband Leaves This

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